About 11 days ago, tragedy struck in my hometown – Ogbomoso at Orire Local Government area of Oyo State.
Terrorists struck at 3 villages, killing two person – one teacher and one okada rider, beheaded a teacher and kidnapped 7 teachers and 37 school children 😭😭😭😭
The youngest pupil kidnapped is aged 2 and the oldest 12. Now all of them plus other are with kidnappers inside a bush been beaten by rain, mosquito, hunger, anxiety, fear, and harm.
Pray for the family of the departed for the forties to bear the loss.
Pray for those still in captivity that God will stall the hands of these murderers from furthering harming them as He prevented Abimelek from harming Sarah.
Pray that they will be ready very soon unhurt and unharmed
Pray that God should strengthen the arm of our security forces for their deliverance
Pray that God will give our government the wisdom to do the right thing that will lead to the deliverance of our people in terrorists’ quarters
By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
Meet And Marry+
500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace
I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.
Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
We are human, aren’t we? And because we are human being, we tend to over do things or step out of lines even with our loved ones.
But it’s doesn’t have to be like that, we got to be a rail in place to safeguard our beautiful memories, apply break in a spillery ways and draw a line that every member of the relationship must not cross.
What is boundary in a relationship? A Boundary in a relationship is the line drawn by parties in a relationship which should not be crossed by the other partner.
It is a clearly defined limit agreed upon by both partners that sets what is acceptable and what is not in their interaction. It helps protect mutual respect, trust, and emotional well-being by ensuring each person’s needs, values, and personal space are honoured.
Even the Bible said, ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ (Proverbs 4:23 (NIV).
As Christians, we are not just setting boundaries, we are setting HEALTHY BOUNDARIES therefore the set boundaries must be biblical.
For example, you can set the boundary of no sex in marriage. That boundary is for singleness
Benefits of Setting Healthy Boundaries
Setting Healthy Boundaries protects the relationship from junkies, assumptions, suspicion, backbiting and other relationship-destroying vices since your partner is already aware what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.
Resources are saved. The time, money, and resources that will be used to argue back and forth over what is accepted or not will be channelled into more profitable discussions.
Setting Healthy Boundaries promotes mutual respect and admiration for our partner because nobody wants to intentionally hurt the loves of their lives. Remember, the Bible says, ‘in humility value others above yourselves.’
It builds trust and security because partners feel safer and more secure in the relationship.
It encourages Self-Control and Purity. It helps singles to avoid situations that may lead to temptation or sin.
It improves Communication. Discussing and respecting boundaries fosters honesty, understanding, and healthy conflict resolution.
Prevents Manipulation and Abuse. Healthy boundaries establish limits that protect both partners from controlling, disrespectful, or harmful behaviour. Healthy Boundaries strengthen individual identity in order for the person to maintain their God-given purpose, convictions, and individuality while growing together.
HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN A RELATIONSHIP.
Communicate: Talk about your dos and donts, your likes and dislikes, how far is too far for you, what is acceptable or not around you, how you want to be treated, etc. If you don’t talk, your partner may cross the red line unintentionally. I believe you won’t want to make them uncomfortable.
Make the lines clear as crystal. That is, set easily recognisable boundaries. No foggy ones. No dilly dally. No in-between. Set limits that everyone is clear about. For example, you can set a boundary of no sex till marriage (as it should be for all single Christians) and still play around french kissing.
Be firm about it. Enforce it. Be known for it. Don’t give an excuse for you to be disrespected. Once you are triggered, take action.
Set healthy Boundaries. A Boundary that does not infringe on the rights, and boundaries of others. As it is healthy for you, make it healthy for your partner. Your boundary should never degrade the personhood of your partner
Learn to say, mean, and stand for NO. Say No. Stand by your decision. Mean it. Shoulder the result of your decision and be ready for a no from others too
Be graceful. Be merciful. Here and there, your partner is going to step out of line with you. Forgive them but
If he won’t listen, cut him off. You are not a home training centre for a disrespectful kid. You deserve to be treated as a human being.
What is your view? I want to hear from you in the comment box.
Grandparenting is a sacred season in life, often marked by reflection, wisdom, and a deeper awareness of generational responsibility. In God’s design, grandparents are not merely retired parents; they are spiritual anchors within the family system. God expects grandparents to function as custodians of faith, memory, and moral direction, ensuring that the values of righteousness are not lost between generations. Their presence is meant to stabilise the family tree, offering guidance that is seasoned, calm, and rooted in experience.
One of God’s primary expectations from grandparents is spiritual mentorship. At this stage of life, there is a unique opportunity to reinforce faith within the family by living consistently as examples of devotion, prayer, and reverence for God. Rather than withdrawing into passivity, grandparents are called to remain spiritually active—teaching younger generations through both words and lifestyle. Their influence often carries a weight that parents alone may not be able to provide, especially in moments where wisdom is needed more than instruction.
God also expects grandparents to be intentional transmitters of values. This includes moral instruction, family identity, and cultural or spiritual heritage that aligns with godly principles. In many ways, they serve as the memory of the family, reminding younger members of where they come from and what they stand for. When properly embraced, this role helps prevent moral drift and strengthens continuity in righteousness across generations. Their counsel, when given with humility and love, becomes a guiding light for children and grandchildren navigating a complex world.
Another divine expectation is emotional and relational support within the family structure. Grandparents are often positioned to provide balance where tension exists, offering reconciliation, patience, and encouragement. Their maturity enables them to respond with understanding rather than reaction, making them instruments of peace in family dynamics. God values this peacemaking role because it reflects His nature within the home, where love is preserved and unity is protected.
Furthermore, grandparents are called to be intercessors for their lineage. Prayer is not a secondary responsibility but a powerful assignment at this stage of life. Standing in the gap for children, grandchildren, and even future generations aligns the family with divine protection and direction. Many breakthroughs in families are sustained through the quiet but consistent prayers of grandparents who refuse to give up on their bloodline.
If you are a grandparent, embrace your season with intentionality and spiritual awareness. Do not see yourself as inactive or irrelevant, but as strategically positioned by God to shape the future of your family. Invest in prayer, speak wisdom, correct in love, and preserve godly values. Commit to being a living bridge between generations, ensuring that faith, love, and righteousness are not only taught but deeply rooted in your family line.
Today, the organized unions – teachers, labour, students, etc staged a solidarity walk cum protest to demand for the return of our colleagues and students ALIVE.
And I walked with my colleagues to demand the release of our colleagues and students in captivity ALIVE.
When a football club finally breaks a decades-long wait for a league title, it doesn’t just stay on the pitch, it enters homes, conversations, and relationships. For Arsenal supporters, a Premier League title after 22 years would be more than a sporting achievement; it would be an emotional release, a moment of vindication, and for many families, a season of celebration that spills into everyday life.
In many households, especially where football passion runs deep, spouses often share in the highs and lows of the game, sometimes willingly, sometimes by proximity. So when victory finally arrives, it becomes an opportunity not just for fans to celebrate, but for partners to express love in simple, thoughtful ways.
If your husband is an Arsenal fan, here are 30 affordable and meaningful congratulatory gift ideas (with many under $10 equivalent / budget-friendly in most local markets). These are designed to be practical, symbolic, and emotionally engaging rather than expensive.
🎁 30 Congratulatory Gift Ideas for an Arsenal Fan Husband
Simple & Personal Gifts
1. Red-themed mug (Arsenal colour inspired)
2. Custom handwritten congratulatory note
3. “Champions at last” printed card
4. Small framed celebration message
5. Arsenal-inspired phone wallpaper print
6. Red key holder
7. Simple red T-shirt
8. Red wristband or bracelet
9. Personalised appreciation letter
10. Fridge magnet with “Champions” theme
Fun & Lighthearted Gifts
11. “No more banter allowed” funny certificate
12. Mini cardboard or plastic trophy
13. Arsenal-themed sticker pack
14. Celebration photo collage
15. WhatsApp display picture design print
16. Red boxers (humorous celebratory gift)
17. “Finally champions” badge or pin
18. Funny football quote poster
19. Small celebration balloon set (red/white)
20. Joke award plaque (“Best Survivor of 22 Years”)
Practical Everyday Items
21. Red face cap
22. Red slippers or flip-flops
23. Red pillowcase
24. Small perfume roll-on
25. Coaster set in red theme
26. Simple snack hamper (biscuits and drinks)
27. Small earphone pouch with red accents
28. Basic phone case in red tone
29. Lightweight red scarf
30. Simple wall poster or print celebrating the win
❤️ Why These Gifts Matter
Football is more than entertainment for many fans. It is identity, loyalty, and emotional investment. After years of anticipation, a league victory becomes a shared emotional milestone. Thoughtful gifts, even simple ones, acknowledge that journey and create moments of connection within relationships.
Importantly, these ideas are not about financial value but intentionality. A handwritten note or a small symbolic item can carry more meaning than expensive merchandise, especially when it reflects an understanding of your partner’s passion.
In moments like this, football becomes a bridge between celebration and relationship bonding. Whether you are a fan yourself or simply supporting your partner’s joy, small gestures can turn a sporting victory into a memory shared at home.
Because sometimes, love is as simple as saying: “I see what this means to you, and I’m celebrating with you.”
Today is another day in our 2022 Blogmas. Here is my 2022 pictures taken over the year. Here enjoy, like, comment but don’t share it outside this site
Night out 1Date nightHarmattanI love you, dear.Dance of victoryI am a winnerNew year… New visionPhoto of the yearLaughing…Worship through servicePounding iyanShow me your 32!
I love my wife and I am doubly sure she love me in returns. If not much.
But despite that we still had moments of disagreement, conflicts and vexation simply because we are human beings.
We keep malice in-house 😀😀😀, stop talking for some hours, changed countenances, and what have you but one way or the other, we developed the following strategies to settle our vexations with one another:
Rule of Engagement : Before we eventually end up marrying, we outlined how to end any argument, draw boundaries not to cross, and who to report to if case, the matter is not mattering between us. So that by the time of our marriage, conflict resolution is a goal
No insult: Part of our ways to resolving our differences is that whenever there is consult, we will be honorable and graceful to one another in our words. You are allowed to shout, rant, and or yell but you are not permitted to curse, cuss or insult.
24-hour ultimatum: If you think I have wronged you or I am of the opinion that you vexed me, each of us have 24 hours to inform the person that was wronged. 24 hours for him/her to know her offences.
By 12am, the clock resets. No carryover of grudges.
I am sorry is not an option: We say sorry to one another. We just don’t say sorry, we changed to reflect the said sorry
Because saying sorry without actually planning to amend your way is not emotional manipulation and gaslighting of the aggrieved party.
What I have highlighted are some of the methods employed in our home, what are yours?
Learn how to deepen your spiritual connection and find peace amidst life’s challenges. This devotional explores the power of prayer and divine guidance. Discover biblical wisdom for everyday living. 🙏
House of J&V
Ever felt lost or uncertain? This short video offers practical steps to cultivate unwavering trust in God’s plan. We’ll explore key verses and timeless truths that strengthen your resolve. Perfect for anyone seeking spiritual growth and comfort.
What’s your favorite Bible verse about trust? Share in the comments below!
I was invited by a Christian WhatsApp Group to speak about the title subject. Here is what I shared with them
In the Beginning
Communication is key in every human relationship. We communicate about everything – food, houses, politics, marriage and of course, sex in marriage. Sex intimacy thrives when both partners communicate openly, honestly and lovingly.
Now ask yourself, can I fully and freely talk to my spouse or my spouse-to-be about my sexual desires?
If you want to have a fantastic communication concerning your sexual life. Note the following points:
#1 – Sexual Communication starts before the act.
Everything start from your mind, posture and heart.
This is very important for all men to note; if you want bed to shake at night, start talking lovingly to your wife from the morning.That communication can be buying a small chops, spanking her bum bum, helping around the house, telling her I love you via email, WhatsApp, SMS, calls.
The talk should also include your expectations on the bed.
Moreover, prayer is also a form of pre-sexual communication. There is nothing bad if you move from the heavenly realm to the bedroom realm.
#2 – Communication is two-way thing. Ask for what you want on bed.
Talk about your desires, expectations and godly fantasies and respond too.
Dear married woman, ask your husbands for sex today.
Ask for your right. Tell your hubby, where to touch, lick or insert to. You know your body more than your hubby does.
Tell your wife, which new style you want to check out. Add voice to it. You and the man can devise a code that is unintelligible to outsiders and kids. Lastly, on this point. Talk. Don’t assume. Your husband doesn’t know you are tired, say it and show it but don’t be tired every day.
#3 – Let all non-sexual communication be left behind.
Avoid bringing up external issues. The moment for husband and wife to enjoy themselves in sexual bliss is not the time to ask about Dave’s school fee. Love-making time is not the time to talk about your mother or your struggling business.
It’s not to talk about unfulfilled promises, how to fill the annual tax return, what Donald Trump is doing or not doing, ICE raids, etc. Rather it the time to enjoy company of one another. You can use the remaining hours to talk about Dave, parents, struggling business, unfulfilled promises, bla, nla, bla…
Question 1 – ‘But some women do use that time to ask their men any type of request because they know the men have no choice then. What about that?’
Answer – That is called manipulation and that is why points 1 and 6 are points 1 and 6. Sex should starts before the actual love making and unresolved issue should be resolved before you get to the field of play.
Husbands, love-making time is to tell your madam what she should do, hold, grab, smother, and caress. Wivey, that moment is to ask your LOMLs to do it like this or like that, insert it here, grab this part of the breasts, climb this part, lick this, etc.
Let the time of conjugal blissfulness really be time for conjugal blissfulness.
Question 2 – Is communication really necessary when it comes to the frequency of sexual engagement? Some others planned the number of days for sex as a couple. What’s your take on these sir? For me, unplanned sex is sweeter.
Answer – Sex can be planned, or unplanned and both can be sweeter, and fulfilling and yes, it is important for the other partner to be adequately informed about how frequent you want it. One, so that other can also prepare his or her mind and body for the sweet adventure. For example, women are not like we men. Men is kick and start when it comes to sex, while woman need time and stimulation to be aroused. Two, so that we can also look forward to it. A good marriage should contain both the planned and unplanned ones.
#4 – Talk abouteverything.
Your desires, fantasy, where you want it, when you want it, how you want it, how much you want it. Please, sex is not something you should in marriage is nothing to be shy of
And lastly point 5.
#5 – Let other communication points in the house be on point.
To have an effectual sexual encounter is this; what will make the sex great and productive is that the other communication points in the house are on point and effective.
If you are still keeping malice about what your mama-in-law did during your wedding party, how do you intend to freely express yourself?
As the bed activities are great, the marital fidelity should be great too. A toxic environment even if the sex is great is not an ideal Christian home.
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