Psalm of the Day | 100 Psalms in a Year by House of J&V | Video 1 dropped today
This video is part of our 100 Psalms in a Year journey, where we read and reflect on selected Psalms throughout the year to strengthen our faith, build godly homes, and draw closer to God.
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Second, expect more books from me as I sought God for a word for our relationship and live. But in the meantime, you can check my Amazon store to buy existing ebooks.
By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
Meet And Marry+
500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace
I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.
I love my wife and I am doubly sure she love me in returns. If not much.
But despite that we still had moments of disagreement, conflicts and vexation simply because we are human beings.
We keep malice in-house 😀😀😀, stop talking for some hours, changed countenances, and what have you but one way or the other, we developed the following strategies to settle our vexations with one another:
Rule of Engagement : Before we eventually end up marrying, we outlined how to end any argument, draw boundaries not to cross, and who to report to if case, the matter is not mattering between us. So that by the time of our marriage, conflict resolution is a goal
No insult: Part of our ways to resolving our differences is that whenever there is consult, we will be honorable and graceful to one another in our words. You are allowed to shout, rant, and or yell but you are not permitted to curse, cuss or insult.
24-hour ultimatum: If you think I have wronged you or I am of the opinion that you vexed me, each of us have 24 hours to inform the person that was wronged. 24 hours for him/her to know her offences.
By 12am, the clock resets. No carryover of grudges.
I am sorry is not an option: We say sorry to one another. We just don’t say sorry, we changed to reflect the said sorry
Because saying sorry without actually planning to amend your way is not emotional manipulation and gaslighting of the aggrieved party.
What I have highlighted are some of the methods employed in our home, what are yours?
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I was invited by a Christian WhatsApp Group to speak about the title subject. Here is what I shared with them
In the Beginning
Communication is key in every human relationship. We communicate about everything – food, houses, politics, marriage and of course, sex in marriage. Sex intimacy thrives when both partners communicate openly, honestly and lovingly.
Now ask yourself, can I fully and freely talk to my spouse or my spouse-to-be about my sexual desires?
If you want to have a fantastic communication concerning your sexual life. Note the following points:
#1 – Sexual Communication starts before the act.
Everything start from your mind, posture and heart.
This is very important for all men to note; if you want bed to shake at night, start talking lovingly to your wife from the morning.That communication can be buying a small chops, spanking her bum bum, helping around the house, telling her I love you via email, WhatsApp, SMS, calls.
The talk should also include your expectations on the bed.
Moreover, prayer is also a form of pre-sexual communication. There is nothing bad if you move from the heavenly realm to the bedroom realm.
#2 – Communication is two-way thing. Ask for what you want on bed.
Talk about your desires, expectations and godly fantasies and respond too.
Dear married woman, ask your husbands for sex today.
Ask for your right. Tell your hubby, where to touch, lick or insert to. You know your body more than your hubby does.
Tell your wife, which new style you want to check out. Add voice to it. You and the man can devise a code that is unintelligible to outsiders and kids. Lastly, on this point. Talk. Don’t assume. Your husband doesn’t know you are tired, say it and show it but don’t be tired every day.
#3 – Let all non-sexual communication be left behind.
Avoid bringing up external issues. The moment for husband and wife to enjoy themselves in sexual bliss is not the time to ask about Dave’s school fee. Love-making time is not the time to talk about your mother or your struggling business.
It’s not to talk about unfulfilled promises, how to fill the annual tax return, what Donald Trump is doing or not doing, ICE raids, etc. Rather it the time to enjoy company of one another. You can use the remaining hours to talk about Dave, parents, struggling business, unfulfilled promises, bla, nla, bla…
Question 1 – ‘But some women do use that time to ask their men any type of request because they know the men have no choice then. What about that?’
Answer – That is called manipulation and that is why points 1 and 6 are points 1 and 6. Sex should starts before the actual love making and unresolved issue should be resolved before you get to the field of play.
Husbands, love-making time is to tell your madam what she should do, hold, grab, smother, and caress. Wivey, that moment is to ask your LOMLs to do it like this or like that, insert it here, grab this part of the breasts, climb this part, lick this, etc.
Let the time of conjugal blissfulness really be time for conjugal blissfulness.
Question 2 – Is communication really necessary when it comes to the frequency of sexual engagement? Some others planned the number of days for sex as a couple. What’s your take on these sir? For me, unplanned sex is sweeter.
Answer – Sex can be planned, or unplanned and both can be sweeter, and fulfilling and yes, it is important for the other partner to be adequately informed about how frequent you want it. One, so that other can also prepare his or her mind and body for the sweet adventure. For example, women are not like we men. Men is kick and start when it comes to sex, while woman need time and stimulation to be aroused. Two, so that we can also look forward to it. A good marriage should contain both the planned and unplanned ones.
#4 – Talk abouteverything.
Your desires, fantasy, where you want it, when you want it, how you want it, how much you want it. Please, sex is not something you should in marriage is nothing to be shy of
And lastly point 5.
#5 – Let other communication points in the house be on point.
To have an effectual sexual encounter is this; what will make the sex great and productive is that the other communication points in the house are on point and effective.
If you are still keeping malice about what your mama-in-law did during your wedding party, how do you intend to freely express yourself?
As the bed activities are great, the marital fidelity should be great too. A toxic environment even if the sex is great is not an ideal Christian home.
I met my wife on the 7th of May 2021 through a senior brother and we got married on 4th and 5th of September, 2021.
As at when I married, I was earning 16,000 Naira per month as a private school teacher and she was earning 40,000 Naira working for a financial institution.
Today, concerning jobs, may all power and adoration belong to God. Amen
Those that will build happy home must be willing to work together.
Marriage is not a 50-50 or any percentage saved 100-100, that’s all of you into it.
Two, those who want to have a happy home should not be afraid of starting from humble beginnings. Because if you wait for perfect time, you will not sow.
Furthermore, those that will build a happy home much be those that believe. Those that believe that everything will work out for good.
Good things will come out of the union and that all will turn out fine. Just believe in God.
Marriage is not supposed to be hard oOoOO. Na some of this teaching dey make am hard.
One, I am not handicapped. If my wife is not around to clear the table, I should be able to do it. Even if my wife is around nkọ?
If my honour and solidity in that house are dependent on my sister-in-law packing plates or not, then there is a problem. What more should my sister-in-law do or not don’t that will affect the honour and solidity of the house?
Three, I am not married to my sister-in-law. I am married to her sister. So I have a problem with honour in the house, my first point of contact, should be my wife. I bet if she ‘honours,’ her husband, her live-in sister has no choice
Not all of us will marry. Not all of us should. In fact, some of us should run away from Marriage. It’s not necessarily because you are bad, or will be a bad spouse or parent but it’s just that marital union isn’t meant for someone like you.
If you belong to any of these groups, don’t think of marriage:
1. Hate Accountability
You are someone who hates to be accountable for anything. You don’t want anyone to know about you, finances (income and expenses), movements, who you vibe with and move with, what you do and what you don’t. You don’t want anybody asking you why, how, when, or who, marriage is not for you.
Your spouse is the remnant of your life, a partner, a co-parent and helper, so you’ve got to let him/her into your life. You just have to share it with the person you call husband or wife, even before they ask.
If you are sharing bodies, you must share details.
If you can’t deal, marriage is not for you.
2. Lazy:
In whatsoever forms – physical, Spiritual, mental. Marriage is work and you are gonna put a lot of things, systems, prayers, energy into it for it to work as God intended it to work.
If you are not ready to put your 100% into this thing called marriage, don’t think of it.
3. Hate sex:
Sex is good. Sex is God-ordained for the married. It is the second reason for marriage and you will (or must) have loads of it in marriage. If sex irritates you due to:
Trauma
Fear
Medical or hormonal issues
Emotional wounds
Those things can often be treated or worked through with medical care, counselling, and patience. However, if you are unwilling to seek help, communicate, or grow in this area, marriage which includes intimacy will be deeply challenging.
4. One Sexual or Reproductive Health Challenges or the other.
Some people struggle with: Erectile dysfunction
Pain during sex
Hormonal imbalance
Irregular menstruation
Congenital or acquired conditions
These are medical issues, not moral failures and many are treatable or manageable. Marriage is not forbidden for people with health challenges. But refusing diagnosis, treatment, or honest conversation with a potential spouse is unfair and harmful. The Bible clearly recommends celibacy for you.
5. Unforgiver:
If you find it hard to forgive, don’t bother to marry because it will be hard for you in it.
You see, marriage is a union of two forgivers. We can’t just do with sinning against one another, but we can have a happy home if we find it easy to forgive quickly, even when the offender is yet to realize his/her offences.
6. Not responsible
Marriage is not a hobby, a social status, or a playground. It demands:
Sacrifice
Commitment
Hard work
Love in action, not just words If you want benefits without responsibility, marriage will eat you alive.
All these defects can be worked on if you are ready, but if you can’t, please stay out of marriage. It’s not for someone like you.
Which set of people do you think marriage is not for?
Meet me in the comment section for the seventh one.
1. Religious gatherings or events, such as church or temple services, retreats, or conferences.
2. Online dating sites or apps, which can connect you with people who share your interests and values.
3. Social clubs or groups, such as sports teams, book clubs, or hobby groups.
4. Volunteering or charity events, where you can meet people who are passionate about giving back to their community.
5. Meetup groups, which bring people together based on shared interests and activities.
6. Classes or workshops, such as cooking classes, language lessons, or art classes.
7. Networking events, which can be a great opportunity to meet new people who work in your industry or share your professional interests.
8. Speed dating events, which can be a fun and efficient way to meet a lot of potential partners in a short amount of time.
9. Weddings or other celebrations, where you may be introduced to friends or family members of the couple.
10. Coffee shops or cafes, which can be a casual and low-pressure environment to strike up a conversation with someone new.
11. Museums or art galleries, which can provide a great opportunity to meet someone with similar interests in the arts.
12. The gym or fitness classes, where you can meet someone who shares your passion for exercise and staying healthy.
13. Local festivals or fairs, which can be a fun and festive way to meet new people in your community.
14. Dog parks or pet stores, which can be a great way to meet fellow animal lovers and potentially connect with someone who shares your love for pets.
15. Alumni events or reunions, which can provide an opportunity to reconnect with old classmates and potentially meet someone new who went to your school.
Online businesses offer flexibility, low startup costs, and the opportunity for couples to grow together financially and emotionally. Here are realistic side hustles husband and wife can do together in Nigeria:
Bloggingand Content Creation
Family contents are becoming popular these days. Couples can run or start a family YouTube, TikTok or Facebook focused on faith, marriage, parenting, lifestyle, devotional or finance. With time, they can be monetize.
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Social Media Management
Many small businesses need help managing Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok pages. One spouse can create content while the other handles scheduling, analytics, and client communication.
Online Coaching or Counselling
Couples skilled in marriage counseling, parenting, fitness, academics, or faith-based mentoring can offer paid sessions via Zoom or WhatsApp.
Freelancing Services
If either spouse has skills like writing, graphic design, web design, data analysis, or video editing, freelancing platforms can be a gold-mine. Together, you can deliver faster and better.
Online Courses and Digital Products
Couples can create and sell ebooks, devotionals, online classes, or templates for sale on selar or Amazon KDP. This is especially powerful for teachers, ministers, and professionals.
Online Tutoring
Couples who are Teachers can start an online tutorial classes. Many Nigerians who are abroad already need extra classes for their wards.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour. Ecclesiastes 4:9
Online Event Hosting
Couples can host webinars, marriage classes, Bible studies, or business trainings online and monetise through registration fees or sponsorships.
Faith-Based Media Ministry
For Christian couples, running a digital ministry, podcasts, devotionals, prayer rooms, or family content can combine purpose with income through donations, ads, and partnerships.
Online businesses allow couples to work as partners, not competitors. However, success requires clear roles, trust, communication, and patience. When done right, working together can strengthen both your finances and your marriage.
Which of these online businesses do you and your spouse feel drawn to? Start the conversation today. Choose one idea, pray about it, assign roles, and take the first small step. If this article blessed you, share it with another couple and leave a comment and don’t forget to follow me.
Psalm 4:8 | Psalm of the Day Today’s Psalm is a gentle reminder that true peace and safety come from the Lord alone. In a world full of noise and uncertainty, God invites us to lie down and rest in Him. May this verse bring calm to your heart and peace to your home today. 🙏 So, let’s pray here
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