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Author: Alade Joel

  • Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?

    Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?

    I speak 2 languages fluently – English and Yoruba languages.

    English language because that is my country official language and Yoruba language, though also an official language, but also my native language.

    But I will not be writing about human language here rather I will ask which languages do you and your spouse speak and how is it impacting marital life?

    What language are you speaking concerning your spouse, the kids, the in-laws, neighbours, etc.?

    Is your language edifying, season with grace and salt or they are bad languages?

    Is your words as husband and wife promoting peace, harmony and joy?

    Or it is full of complaints, murmur and nags?

    Check your language and adjust where needed

  • Happy Father’s Day

  • Setting Healthy Boundaries

    Setting Healthy Boundaries

    Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

    We are human, aren’t we? And because we are human being, we tend to over do things or step out of lines even with our loved ones.

    But it’s doesn’t have to be like that, we got to be a rail in place to safeguard our beautiful memories, apply break in a spillery ways and draw a line that every member of the relationship must not cross.

    What is boundary in a relationship? A Boundary in a relationship is the line drawn by parties in a relationship which should not be crossed by the other partner.

    It is a clearly defined limit agreed upon by both partners that sets what is acceptable and what is not in their interaction. It helps protect mutual respect, trust, and emotional well-being by ensuring each person’s needs, values, and personal space are honoured.

    Even the Bible said, ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ (Proverbs 4:23 (NIV).

    As Christians, we are not just setting boundaries, we are setting HEALTHY BOUNDARIES therefore the set boundaries must be biblical.

    For example, you can set the boundary of no sex in marriage. That boundary is for singleness

    Benefits of Setting Healthy Boundaries

    1. Setting Healthy Boundaries protects the relationship from junkies, assumptions, suspicion, backbiting and other relationship-destroying vices since your partner is already aware what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.
    2. Resources are saved. The time, money, and resources that will be used to argue back and forth over what is accepted or not will be channelled into  more profitable discussions.
    3. Setting Healthy Boundaries promotes mutual respect and admiration for our partner because nobody wants to intentionally hurt the loves of their lives. Remember, the Bible says, ‘in humility value others above yourselves.’
    4. It builds trust and security
      because partners feel safer and more secure in the relationship.
    5. It encourages Self-Control and Purity. It helps singles to avoid situations that may lead to temptation or sin.
    6. It improves Communication. Discussing and respecting boundaries fosters honesty, understanding, and healthy conflict resolution.
    7. Prevents Manipulation and Abuse. Healthy boundaries establish limits that protect both partners from controlling, disrespectful, or harmful behaviour.
      Healthy Boundaries strengthen individual identity in order for the person to maintain their God-given purpose, convictions, and individuality while growing together.

    HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN A RELATIONSHIP.

    1. Communicate: Talk about your dos and donts, your likes and dislikes, how far is too far for you, what is acceptable or not around you, how you want to be treated, etc. If you don’t talk, your partner may cross the red line unintentionally. I believe you won’t want to make them uncomfortable.
    2. Make the lines clear as crystal. That is, set easily recognisable boundaries. No foggy ones. No dilly dally. No in-between. Set limits that everyone is clear about. For example, you can set a boundary of no sex till marriage (as it should be for all single Christians) and still play around french kissing.
    3. Be firm about it. Enforce it. Be known for it. Don’t give an excuse for you to be disrespected. Once you are triggered, take action.
    4. Set healthy Boundaries. A Boundary that does not infringe on the rights, and boundaries of others. As it is healthy for you, make it healthy for your partner. Your boundary should never degrade the personhood of your partner
    5. Learn to say, mean, and stand for NO. Say No. Stand by your decision. Mean it. Shoulder the result of your decision and be ready for a no from others too
    6. Be graceful. Be merciful. Here and there, your partner is going to step out of line with you. Forgive them but
    7. If he won’t listen, cut him off. You are not a home training centre for a disrespectful kid. You deserve to be treated as a human being.

    What is your view? I want to hear from you in the comment box.

  • What are God’s Expectations as a Grandparent

    What are God’s Expectations as a Grandparent

    Dear, Empty Nesters,

    God has a work for you

    Grandparenting is a sacred season in life, often marked by reflection, wisdom, and a deeper awareness of generational responsibility. In God’s design, grandparents are not merely retired parents; they are spiritual anchors within the family system. God expects grandparents to function as custodians of faith, memory, and moral direction, ensuring that the values of righteousness are not lost between generations. Their presence is meant to stabilise the family tree, offering guidance that is seasoned, calm, and rooted in experience.

    One of God’s primary expectations from grandparents is spiritual mentorship. At this stage of life, there is a unique opportunity to reinforce faith within the family by living consistently as examples of devotion, prayer, and reverence for God. Rather than withdrawing into passivity, grandparents are called to remain spiritually active—teaching younger generations through both words and lifestyle. Their influence often carries a weight that parents alone may not be able to provide, especially in moments where wisdom is needed more than instruction.

    God also expects grandparents to be intentional transmitters of values. This includes moral instruction, family identity, and cultural or spiritual heritage that aligns with godly principles. In many ways, they serve as the memory of the family, reminding younger members of where they come from and what they stand for. When properly embraced, this role helps prevent moral drift and strengthens continuity in righteousness across generations. Their counsel, when given with humility and love, becomes a guiding light for children and grandchildren navigating a complex world.

    Another divine expectation is emotional and relational support within the family structure. Grandparents are often positioned to provide balance where tension exists, offering reconciliation, patience, and encouragement. Their maturity enables them to respond with understanding rather than reaction, making them instruments of peace in family dynamics. God values this peacemaking role because it reflects His nature within the home, where love is preserved and unity is protected.

    Furthermore, grandparents are called to be intercessors for their lineage. Prayer is not a secondary responsibility but a powerful assignment at this stage of life. Standing in the gap for children, grandchildren, and even future generations aligns the family with divine protection and direction. Many breakthroughs in families are sustained through the quiet but consistent prayers of grandparents who refuse to give up on their bloodline.

    If you are a grandparent, embrace your season with intentionality and spiritual awareness. Do not see yourself as inactive or irrelevant, but as strategically positioned by God to shape the future of your family. Invest in prayer, speak wisdom, correct in love, and preserve godly values. Commit to being a living bridge between generations, ensuring that faith, love, and righteousness are not only taught but deeply rooted in your family line.

  • For those in captivity, At home and those not yet born, I marched

    For those in captivity, At home and those not yet born, I marched

    Remember this post 👇👇👇

    Pray  for abducted teachers and students

    Today, the organized unions – teachers, labour, students, etc staged a solidarity walk cum protest to demand for the return of our colleagues and students ALIVE.

    And I walked with my colleagues to demand the release of our colleagues and students in captivity ALIVE.

    At the King’s palace

    I marched to demand that government should use every means in their power to bring back Christianah, Salami  Kuburat and co alive.

    I marched to ask that Mrs. Alamu, Mrs. Temitope and co be brought back home alive.

    I marched to demand a safe school for my son – Kyle XY and co.
    I marched to refuse to teach in fear.

    We refuse to teach in fear

    I marched to demand a safe school for Pedro, my unborn daughter.

    I marched for the present and future generations of learners and teachers.

    Bring back our students and teachers back alive

    May my march not be in vain.

    #BringBackOurTeachersAlive
    #BringBackOurStudentsAlive

  • Pray 😭for the😭 Abducted 😭Teachers😭 and 😭Children 😭

    Pray 😭for the😭 Abducted 😭Teachers😭 and 😭Children 😭

    Dear Readers and followers,

    About 11 days ago, tragedy struck in my hometown – Ogbomoso at Orire Local Government area of Oyo State.

    Terrorists struck at 3 villages, killing two person – one teacher and one okada rider, beheaded a teacher and kidnapped 7 teachers and 37 school children 😭😭😭😭

    The youngest pupil kidnapped is aged 2 and the oldest 12. Now all of them plus other are with kidnappers inside a bush been beaten by rain, mosquito, hunger, anxiety, fear, and harm.

    Pray for the family of the departed for the forties to bear the loss.

    Pray for those still in captivity that God will stall the hands of these murderers from furthering harming them as He prevented Abimelek from harming Sarah.

    Pray that they will be ready very soon unhurt and unharmed

    Pray that God should strengthen the arm of our security forces for their deliverance

    Pray that God will give our government the wisdom to do the right thing that will lead to the deliverance of our people in terrorists’ quarters

    Please repost this to all and sundry.

  • Arsenal’s Long-Awaited EPL Triumph: 30 Thoughtful Congratulatory Gift Ideas for a Football Fan Husband

    When a football club finally breaks a decades-long wait for a league title, it doesn’t just stay on the pitch, it enters homes, conversations, and relationships. For Arsenal supporters, a Premier League title after 22 years would be more than a sporting achievement; it would be an emotional release, a moment of vindication, and for many families, a season of celebration that spills into everyday life.

    In many households, especially where football passion runs deep, spouses often share in the highs and lows of the game, sometimes willingly, sometimes by proximity. So when victory finally arrives, it becomes an opportunity not just for fans to celebrate, but for partners to express love in simple, thoughtful ways.

    If your husband is an Arsenal fan, here are 30 affordable and meaningful congratulatory gift ideas (with many under $10 equivalent / budget-friendly in most local markets). These are designed to be practical, symbolic, and emotionally engaging rather than expensive.



    🎁 30 Congratulatory Gift Ideas for an Arsenal Fan Husband



    Simple & Personal Gifts


    1. Red-themed mug (Arsenal colour inspired)

    2. Custom handwritten congratulatory note

    3. “Champions at last” printed card

    4. Small framed celebration message

    5. Arsenal-inspired phone wallpaper print

    6. Red key holder

    7. Simple red T-shirt

    8. Red wristband or bracelet

    9. Personalised appreciation letter

    10. Fridge magnet with “Champions” theme



    Fun & Lighthearted Gifts



    11. “No more banter allowed” funny certificate

    12. Mini cardboard or plastic trophy

    13. Arsenal-themed sticker pack

    14. Celebration photo collage

    15. WhatsApp display picture design print

    16. Red boxers (humorous celebratory gift)

    17. “Finally champions” badge or pin

    18. Funny football quote poster

    19. Small celebration balloon set (red/white)

    20. Joke award plaque (“Best Survivor of 22 Years”)


    Practical Everyday Items


    21. Red face cap

    22. Red slippers or flip-flops

    23. Red pillowcase

    24. Small perfume roll-on

    25. Coaster set in red theme

    26. Simple snack hamper (biscuits and drinks)

    27. Small earphone pouch with red accents

    28. Basic phone case in red tone

    29. Lightweight red scarf

    30. Simple wall poster or print celebrating the win


    ❤️ Why These Gifts Matter


    Football is more than entertainment for many fans. It is identity, loyalty, and emotional investment. After years of anticipation, a league victory becomes a shared emotional milestone. Thoughtful gifts, even simple ones, acknowledge that journey and create moments of connection within relationships.

    Importantly, these ideas are not about financial value but intentionality. A handwritten note or a small symbolic item can carry more meaning than expensive merchandise, especially when it reflects an understanding of your partner’s passion.

    In moments like this, football becomes a bridge between celebration and relationship bonding. Whether you are a fan yourself or simply supporting your partner’s joy, small gestures can turn a sporting victory into a memory shared at home.

    Because sometimes, love is as simple as saying: “I see what this means to you, and I’m celebrating with you.”

  • 20 Memorable Pictures of 2022.

    20 Memorable Pictures of 2022.

    How are you?

    How is your day?

    Today is another day in our 2022 Blogmas. Here is my 2022 pictures taken over the year. Here enjoy, like, comment but don’t share it outside this site

    Night out 1
    Date night
    Harmattan
    I love you, dear.
    Dance of victory
    I am a winner
    New year… New vision
    Photo of the year
    Laughing…
    Worship through service
    Pounding iyan
    Show me your 32!

    Drop yours in the comment section.

  • How to make Nigerian Suya

    How to make Nigerian Suya


    Suya is a famous Nigerian street food enjoyed across the nation, especially in the evenings, known for its bold spices and social, roadside appeal.



    Ingredients:

    • 500g beef (thinly sliced)
    • 3 tablespoons suya spice (yaji)
    • 2 tablespoons ground peanuts (optional but traditional)
    • 1 tablespoon vegetable oil
    • 1 teaspoon paprika
    • ½ teaspoon cayenne pepper (optional)
    • Salt to taste
    • Skewers (for grilling)
    Image from http://www.chefolakitchen.com



    Preparation Steps



    1. Slice the beef into thin, flat strips.


    2. In a bowl, mix suya spice, ground peanuts, paprika, cayenne, salt, and oil.


    3. Coat the beef slices thoroughly with the spice mixture.


    4. Thread the meat onto skewers.


    5. Grill over open flame, charcoal, or oven grill, turning regularly.


    6. Cook until well done with slightly crispy edges.


    7. Remove and allow to rest briefly before serving.


    For authentic flavour, grill over charcoal; this gives suya its signature smoky taste.



    Serving Suggestions


    Served with sliced onions, tomatoes, and cabbage, paired with extra yaji spice on the side or eaten alone or with bread.

  • How My wife and I settled our disagreement.

    How My wife and I settled our disagreement.

    I love my wife and I am doubly sure she love me in returns. If not much.

    But despite that we still had moments of disagreement, conflicts and vexation simply because we are human beings.

    We keep malice in-house 😀😀😀, stop talking for some hours, changed countenances, and what have you but one way or the other, we developed the following strategies to settle our vexations with one another:

    Rule of Engagement : Before we eventually end up marrying, we outlined how to end any argument, draw boundaries not to cross, and who to report to if case, the matter is not mattering between us. So that by the time of our marriage, conflict resolution is a goal

    No insult: Part of our ways to resolving our differences is that whenever there is consult, we will be honorable and graceful to one another in our words. You are allowed to shout, rant, and or yell but you are not permitted to curse, cuss or insult.

    24-hour ultimatum: If you think I have wronged you or I am of the opinion that you vexed me, each of us have 24 hours to inform the person that was wronged. 24 hours for him/her to know her offences.

    By 12am, the clock resets. No carryover of grudges.

    I am sorry is not an option: We say sorry to one another. We just don’t say sorry, we changed to reflect the said sorry

    Because saying sorry without actually planning to amend your way is not emotional manipulation and gaslighting of the aggrieved party.

    What I have highlighted are some of the methods employed in our home, what are yours?

  • Trust in the Lord: Your Ultimate Guide to Unshakeable Faith!

    Learn how to deepen your spiritual connection and find peace amidst life’s challenges. This devotional explores the power of prayer and divine guidance. Discover biblical wisdom for everyday living. 🙏

    House of J&V



    Ever felt lost or uncertain? This short video offers practical steps to cultivate unwavering trust in God’s plan. We’ll explore key verses and timeless truths that strengthen your resolve. Perfect for anyone seeking spiritual growth and comfort.

    What’s your favorite Bible verse about trust? Share in the comments below!

    #Shorts #Bi

  • Discussing Financial Responsibility in Marriage.

    Discussing Financial Responsibility in Marriage.

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