Senior G.As and Lydias! R.As! New wife gang! Youth fellowships! Ladies and gentlemen!
How many things did I call you guys?
Na one time each. No come give me bobo, my dear.
You, guys need to fix up.
You need to act up.
You need to do better!
The Bible you received at the completion of your G.A steps, where you did you keep it?
I command yo to bring it out in Jesus name for our Evangelism Outreach.
Aunty Lydia, the purple merchant, I need your Completion of Step Bible. Oya release it in Jesus name.
Iyawo, ‘yawo 😍😍, happy married life but I know you have a Bible before you married, the new ones presented during intro and Bible, give us one pleaseeeee!
Even if it that Gideon Bible, we go will gladly accept it!
My bestie, my bestie! Iro lasan, bestie level… Besties that can’t jointly donate Bible toward advancement of God’s Kingdom, is that one a bestie?
Youth fellowships, the President of the association needs a Bible from you.
Ambassadors should not think I will exempt them, use this month allowance that you use to give your girlfriend to buy us a Bible. If not, she will leave you.
I’m in my room, you can’t beat me.
If you are led, whether in cash or kind, please WhatsApp/call/palmpay Alade Joel on 08135446603
Forget my opening lines, I just use them to catch your attention. I am vex oooo.
Scene 1: After two months of marriage, these new couples are filing for divorce. No fight. No new bad discovery. No irreconcilable difference but genotype incompatibility.
Something that ₦2500 worth of test can prevent.
If you probed further, they courted for 3 years and above.
Scene 2: I met my wife for the first time ever on 7th May, asked her out and got Yes same day. Picked wedding date 24 hours after, and got married 3 months minus 3 days after.
By the end of week 1 of our courtship, all major discussion has been settled. Today, We are in blissful marriage by the grace of God to His glory alone.
Dear, I will never advised you to do as I do but I can assure you that there’s nothing you want to know in a potential partner that you can’t know between 3 – 6 months or at max, 1 year.
In fact, dear sister, a man know if you are wife worthy to him from the first day of meeting you.
Instead of wasting your time, doing, ‘have you eaten,’ ‘how was your day,’ everyday, ask intentional questions.
First hour of asking out, genotype issue should be already a settled affair.
By week 4, belief system of each partner should be known so that edgy areas can be smoothened on time. Make e no shock you that, though your husband is a Baptist, he doesn’t believe in tithing first month in marriage.
By third month of your relationship, issues like numbers of kid, where to live after wedding, in-laws, etc., should be agreed on already.
No dey think because you grow up in the same area, denomination, you go dey think alike for marriage.
Short or long courtship ❌❌
Intentional Courtship ✅✅
6 – 20 months of intentional Courtship is okay.
Advantage is that no one time and resources are wasted and premarital sex can be avoided.
Now, away from that, Our Evangelism Outreach Pastor is Pastor K. Adegoke. He is a passionate MoG who love God’s people differently and He is happily and intentionally married.
Pray for the fresh infilling of Holy Spirit on him and pray along with him for outpouring of miracles and power during the program.
I hope to eat your wedding jollof rice before the year ends.
Today make it 4 years, 4 months, 3 days, 5 hours, 10 minutes and 2 seconds, you last received I love you message, since Bro Dare served you premium breakfast the following month.
You are not a tree, ma.
You deserved the best, love can offer you.
You are advised to spread the love Christ has for you.
Open your heart to receive love.
Moreover, since you are assured of God’s love, why don’t you join us to spread it during our Annual Evangelism Outreach holding at Olooyo from Nov., 1st – 3rd, 2024.
Maybe you may meet bro. David during the program by partnering with us and who knows what can happen?
Quite some times. I am so sorry for being irregular here this year. I had been so caught up in the ordinary daily business in life, but I think the coast is getting clear.
Recently, couples trended on FacebookNG for divorcing after two months of marriage. Reason; genotypic incompatibility.
My first question to them was, what were they discussing when they were courting?
Now, let’s talk about 5 issues, questions and clarification that should be a forgone conclusion by the end of your first week being in a romantic relationship leading to marriage.
I hope you are not thinking, ‘Are you a Christian?’ as one of them. Nada! Because as a Christian, you are only permitted to choose, date, court and marry a fellow believer.
That should be a foregone conclusion, a settled affair before even contemplating the relationship.
Now, here are 5 things you should considered a settled case before the end of your 1st weekniversary:
GENOTYPE
If you are not African, you may not fully grasp the reason for this.
You see there is what we called sickle cell patients here and it is an inherited sickness as a result of either parents being a carrier of type S or C in their genotypes – AS, AC or SS.
Marriage between these groups have higher probability of producing a sickle cell children.
Children who will become regular customer at hospital and suffer through childhood and adolescence.
Only few of them make it to their adulthood and it will be in great pain.
But the pain and suffering on innocent child can be avoided if intending parents know their genotype at the tip of their fingers so that they can make informed decision.
I will even say once someone is asking you out for a defined relationship, before even perhaps pray, ask him or her, what is your genotype. So that you can know, if the offer is what can be considered or not.
This should be a settled case by the end of your first week in relationship, so that you will not invest your time, resources and energy in to something that may result to loss on all fronts and likely bring pain and suffering to the unborn babies.
DENOMINATION AND DOCTRINE
We are all Christian but we worship differently and have minor doctrinal differences*. (Infact, I used to advise that you marry someone who, you agreed, at least 95% doctrinally. It won’t be funny if one believed in tithing and sowing while other partner don’t.
By the end of the first week, you should know where he worships and what they believe there, in order for you to decide whether this is where I can worship or I can do marriage with someone with someone believing with or that doctrinally.
It is better done early that arguing one week to walk the aisle, about Mariology or tithes, worship mode.
BASIC BIO-DATA
Another dating partners also trended on TwitterNG because the guy dumped the girl after learning that she is from a particular tribe. 7 years of dating in-between.
Though, it is wrong of him to break someone’s heart on account of tribal sentiments but the question begs for answer; how can you be dating someone for 7 years without knowing something as basic as where he or she is from?
Who does that except Gen-X and -Z?
Don’t be surprised, there is a guy and a girl now in relationship who doesn’t know each other’s official name saved each other social media handles.
My friend, ask her, her government approved names and by the end of the first week of lovey dovey, you should be able to put a face to a particular address and location.
This will boost your confidence and make you a serious
WHAT DID HE/SHE WANT
As Christians, we date because we want to marry but not all of us think likewise.
Some just want to use you to pepper their ex.
Some just want to catch cruise.
Some just your friendship with no strings attached.
Some are just pure time wasters.
Ask so that you will not shed premium tears after 4 years of courting when you hear, ‘ We are just like a sister to me.’
GENDER ROLES BELIEF.
We are some believers who still hold on to traditional gender roles – the husband provides, and the wife keeps and cleans the house. Some have reversed versions of the traditional while some have modified versions – whoever has the means and power to provide, cook, or clean should do – be it husband or wife.
None of these models is bad as long as it was agreed on by both partners but it becomes problematic if this isn’t talked through.
To avoid, needless arguments in marriage, settle this very early in the courtship.
Summarily, the reason for all these early questions is to prevent waste of time, resources, and affections.
Between my first and my last relationship between Marriage is a period of 8 years, majorly my 20s.
During that time though alone but I was never lonely and I can say it emphatically that I enjoyed my singlehood and I am enjoying my marriagehood.
Who says you too can’t?
That’s why I have put pen to paper to write you a new book that highlight ways and manners of enjoying your Singlehood without necessarily being in a relationship.
Two, the book prepares you for marriage but while at it, enjoy your singleness.
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To begin with, what’s a date? A date is an appointment to meet someone or go out with them, especially someone with whom you are having, or may soon have, a romantic relationship.
As a Christian, it should be clear enough to you that you should be having, or may soon have a romantic relationship with only a Christian.
Two, since a romantic date is usually male-initiated, this write-up may be focused majorly on ladies but the tips are still much applicable for guys.
Now these are the tips:
Let your date venue be open, non-solitary and well-lighted. The chosen place should be a place that is comfortable for both of you and temptation-free.
A date is for discussion and dinning. The former before the latter.
Dress smartly and not seductively.
That moment is not a moment to relay your date with what ex you did, house rent, family problems, work-related issues, etc. All those can wait.
A date is between two adults. Therefore, don’t go with a friend.
On the date table, avoid controversial topics like politics except you both mutually agreed to.
Keep your phone in your purse/pocket. Let your date have your whole attention for that moment.
I believe the initiator of the date should be the one to finance it. However, you are an adult, please add your widow’s mite.
You too [as a lady] can initiate a date.
Note that a date invite is not a moment to act like a hungry, ferocious lion. Therefore, eat from home, if you always fell hungry.
Don’t pressure your partner. Rather make him/her comfortable
If it is someone you are already in Courtship with, please do it periodically. It is a good avenue to create and strengthen friendliness.
After the date, send a thank-you message expressing your appreciation for their company.
In conclusion, buy my new book, SINGLE BUT NOT SEARCHING FOR LOVE, here to determine whether you are mature enough to have a date, court that person and remember following these tips can help ensure your date goes smoothly and leaves a positive impression.
Courtship, much like a soccer match, requires strategy, teamwork, and perseverance. The image of a dramatic moment on the soccer field offers a rich metaphor for the dynamics involved in courtship and dating, especially from a Christian perspective. Here are a few lessons we can draw from this picture to guide us in our relationships:
1. TEAMWORK AND SUPPORT
In the image, we see players working together to defend their goal. This is akin to the collaborative effort required in courtship. Both partners need to support each other, communicate effectively, and work towards common goals. Just as soccer players rely on their teammates, individuals in a relationship should rely on their partners for emotional and spiritual support.
2. RESILIENCE IN ADVERSITY
The goalkeeper and defenders are clearly in a high-pressure situation, trying to prevent a goal. This mirrors the challenges and trials that couples face in courtship. There will be moments of difficulty and setbacks, but resilience and determination are crucial. Like the players on the field, couples must stay focused and work through obstacles together, trusting in God’s plan and timing.
3. HONEST COMMUNICATION
Effective communication is essential in both soccer and courtship. The players must communicate to coordinate their defense. Similarly, in a relationship, honest and open communication helps to build trust and understanding. Sharing past experiences and expectations with transparency can strengthen the bond between partners and ensure they are on the same page.
4. PATIENCE AND TIMING
Just as players wait for the right moment to make a move, patience is vital in courtship. Rushing into decisions or forcing progress can lead to mistakes and misunderstandings. It’s important to wait for God’s timing and allow the relationship to develop naturally. Patience allows for deeper connection and understanding, leading to a more solid foundation for the future.
5. ACKNOWLEDGING HUMAN IMPERFECTIONS
In the heat of the game, mistakes are inevitable. The image captures players in a moment of action, possibly making errors. In courtship, it’s essential to recognize that both partners are human and will have flaws and imperfections. Embracing these imperfections with grace and forgiveness fosters a healthy and realistic relationship.
CONCLUSION
Courtship, like a soccer match, is filled with dynamic moments that require cooperation, resilience, communication, patience, and acceptance of human flaws. By applying these principles, couples can navigate the complexities of relationships with faith and confidence, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling partnership.
In the olden day, when an old man died in Yoruba and not quite long after, his son gave birth to a boy, such boy will be called Babatunde, meaning father has come back again.
That’s by the way, three months after birth, we can’t place who Kyle-XY resembles but after, all of a sudden, he started resembling my younger brother, especially hair-wise.
But recently, as he is nearing a milestone, I discovered a keen striking resemblance with my paternal grandfather (his great-grandpa) who has been dead for more than 50 years now.
Also, there is no behaviour, my darling son has displayed that I can’t trace to my nuclear family, particularly my younger brother.
What I am saying, look at your current partner ( and his family) or even you, that is how your son/daughter will look like because Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Like mother like daughter.
Now, ask yourself, if my son takes after me, I mine complete or completely finished.
When Grey and Tacha were courting. As a lover-in-arm, they used to imagine many beautiful things and scenarios.
A perfect, never annoying partner!
Breakfast in bed!
Cute kids!
Annual vacation in Hawaii!
24/7 romance, catch-up, love SMSes
Infact, their courtship is one of it kind and the love, the care and the attention, are both mutual and obvious, to all and sundry.
Theirs was a perfect man and woman planning, strategizing, praying and hoping for a perfect ‘happily lived after’ experiences in marriage.
Who wouldn’t want a good thing? But their imagination soon turned into realities two weeks in marriage when Grey shouted at Tacha.
Pardon me for a little digress but most singles nowadays is majoring and planning on things that aren’t needed for a happy and bliss home.
Permit me to say, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT SPOUSE TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME. Number one, we are all faulty. By nature, no one is perfect. Therefore, your search will be long and 99.99% fruitless but perhaps, you mistakenly find one, trust me you don’t need to marry such one for you to have a blissful union and you won’t ever have one with him/her.
Your sure ticket to a godly home is still with an imperfect human being.
Caveat; imperfection doesn’t mean you should roll up with the ungodly and unbelievers.
Two, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT WEEDING.
Elaborate wedding parties, floral flower girls, exquisite men in suit, live music band, ambient lighting and hall, etc are all good but with or without all of these, your marriage can still be great, funny and Godly.
Furthermore, THEREIS NO PERFECT TIME TO MARRY. You will always have one excuse or the other not to marry.
Gas prices will always go up. Mortgage will not down. Cost of living will always appreciate and people in capitol don’t allow bothered.
Time will never be prim and proper for you to marry but once the timing is right and the necessary things have fallen into the right places. Go and marry*
And lastly, YOU DON’T NEED STRONG PENIS AND TIGHT VAGINA for a happy home.
Many aspiring couples think sexual enjoyment in marriage is by how long the instruments for it is. What you need for a joyous sexual experiences in marriage is someone with a healthy and faithful private parts.
An active penis or a tight vagina without the fear of God attached to it, will make you cry, if it didn’t give you STDs.
Love In Colour was supposed to launch in Easter Monday but right on Resurrection Sunday, I was hospitalized hence the postponement.
Right beside the bed wherein I was lied is a married man attended to, by his elder daughter (probably gotten two daughters).
This daughter stays with her father while her mother runs errands.
If you see the ways and manners both the daughter and wife were taking care of this man, you will love good marriage.
Because it’s very obvious the man was a good jolly, family-oriented man.
None is been forced to do anything.
With them, you will love good marriage.
Brother, if you see happy home, you will feel it.
You will be desirous of one.
You will pray for it and you will work for it.
That is why Love In Action- 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond was written to provide you with practical principles for wholesome courtship experiences, seasoned and garnished with time-tested principles, that will make your courtship fun-filled and godly while preparing you for the happy beyond – Marriage.
By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
Meet And Marry+
500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace
I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.
Courtship Forum 