Dear sister, come around.
When my parents gave birth to me, I automatically became their son, likewise my brothers and sisters. None of us did anything to prove sonship or daughtership.
No test was administered to me to determine whether I will be a good son or not and none will be ever administered.
How does this concern you, one of the signs that you are not welcome in that family is by testing you.
Once you perceive that you are being asked to prove your daughters-in-law, slow down and tell the butterflies in your tummy to calm down.
Once you are being subjected to some inhumane traditions to prove wife materialness without even being married to their ward, calm down first.
For if you prove yourself now, you will have to be proving yourself to them as a worthy sister-in-law, mother of the grandkids, family member, and so on.
For how long, are you going to do that?
Two, they are questioning their child’s decision-making process.
In conclusion, this doesn’t mean the right questions won’t be asked about you, which you must answer.
No parent asks his son/daughter to prove his/her sonship/daughter.
Have a nice week ahead.
Category: COURTSHIP
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You are not a laboratory Rat.
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I won’t marry my wife if…
This is the second part of 3 Things You must have before Marriage and I’m starting with a funny story.
My wife asked me, ‘if I can’t cook, can you marry me.’
I replied confidently, ‘we will never meet talk less of marriage.’
‘but you can teach her now’
So that when you are teaching your own wife, Amazon KDP, Ebook Creation, Cryto, Content Creation, I am in the kitchen telling her, turn it like this, turn am like that Abi?
Moral: Cooking is a basic survival skill that should be gotten pre-marriage so is money making, irrespective of gender.
Why? There are many better and productive things to teach ourselves in marriage than how many kg of salt will I add to 2 cups of rice?Share this:
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Three Things You Must have before Marriage
Before I got serious with my wife, I make sure I had written approval from her two sisters and of course, her mum.
Once they have suspicion about you concerning marriage to their child. Deaden the throught of that marital relationship with him/her else you will want to use productive day of your early marriage hoping for indoor frenemies to love you.
The worst part of it, ọta ẹni kì odù ọya, meaning, even if you kill an elephant with a whisper, your enemy will say, nothing special in that.
‘ but the heart of the king is in God’s hand…’ I know but there are better things to pray about.
Think about this.To be continued tomorrow
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13 WAYS A CHRISTIAN SISTER CAN ATTRACT CHRISTIAN BROTHER.
Three things are beyong me… And the way of a man with a young woman. Proverbs 30:18 -19.
– Do you want a GODLY, DECENT AND RESPONSIBLE man? You, yourself be godly, decent, responsible. Like attracts like and ant will go only where honey is. ( Matthew 6:2, Numbers 27:1-7).
– Pray against time-wasters. Pray for anointing for godly attraction – some brothers did not need you, they may just want to add you to their list of ex’s. (Exodus 31: 6).
– Dress decently, if you dress seductively, brothers may take you as prostitute and just anybody can ‘ask’ you out.
– Be friendly to all, that brother is finding about you.
– Know the WILL OF GOD personally. All sort of brothers will approaches you – matured and baby brothers alike. ( 1 Thessalonians 4:13a).
– Don’t be swipe off your feet with ‘thou saith the Lord’, ‘the Lord says that you must be my wife’,’in my dream …’, money, speech eloquence. ( 1 Corinthians 2:1).
– If you receive him first, and he seems slow in coming. First, send green signals like special respect than the brothers in the fellowship, support him etc, since men are attracted by sight and sometimes by sound.
If he still don’t get, approach him and bare your mind. Some guys are extremely timid.
– If he has not come, wait… maybe God is removing lies, bragging, fornication, drunkness from him or your man is preparing for your arrival.
– Wooing/toasting is not a sin, if a brother comes. Thank him, don’t disrespect him. Say NO politely like ‘thank you for what you have said, but it is not possible because of so-so-so reasons and can we be friend. After that DEFINE AND SET LIMITS TO FRIENDSHIP.
– Only give one of these answers YES or NO. Don’t sit on the fence because it belongs to the devil – mark cahill. (Matthew 5:37).
– If you know that he is the favoured one (after prayerfully thinking about his manifesto). Please don’t delay your YES unnecessary. Give it between 3 days and a month.
– Be, act, talk, cry, walk, eat infact do everything as a woman. (Genesis 2:23d).
– Be beautiful, if you are not as beautiful as Racheal, be fine as Leah. Serah, Zipporah, Mary, Elizabeth were all beautiful and godly. ( Genesis 29 vs 17).Thanks for reading.
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The day I was hit by a car.
Throwback to that Thursday, two decades ago, when I was hit by a taxi, the same taxi that carried me, going for a prayer meeting.
The incident occurred right in front of our church.
The driver aghast and fearing that he had killed someone exclaimed when calmed down that this was a result of his wife’s utterance earlier on.
They have fought and the wife swears that he won’t be able to account for that day’s earnings.
The fulfillment of that found ‘fulfillment’ in me. However, I don’t think he was made to pay any treatment money.
Mere coincidence? Maybe or maybe not but here is what I want you to derive from the incident; if you know you won’t marry right, don’t marry at all because the result of your decision to marry is not for you alone.
Those who are not there when you are making the decision will partake of the consequences of that decision.
Not only the wife you cheated on will bear the result, but your action may make people disdain marriage, your kids may become traumatized and they will be released into society, and emenity may start.
Hitler was a product of a man and woman’s private decision, today the result is history. That decision killed millions, destroyed families, and is a national mourning moment for a country.
Therefore think prayerfully about it and prayerfully select your spouse.
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Red Flags
Those red flags don’t come knocking on your door, they become a very red billboards living with you, eating with you, co-parenting with us, eating food with you, having sex with you, etc.
Now ask yourself, can you live with the red flags for 30+ years and more?That is why you should let go of him/her if that behaviour of him/her very much irritates you now.
The goal is not to marry a perfect spouse, the goal is to marry a red flag that is manageable, nor abusive and non life-threatening.
May God helps you to discern well in Jesus name.
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Inspire Inclusion
Dear friends and followers,
On this International Women’s Day 2024, we come together to honor the remarkable women who shape our world, challenge norms, and lead with grace.Fiancé/Girlfriend/Wife: or whatsoever nomenclature you bears, you are fully appreciated for the love and the sacrifices.
Women of God: thank you for answering the call of God
Artists and Content Creators: Your palates echo stories of resilience, passion, and strength. Today, your artistry and pen which is your voices are acknowledged. 🎨
Farmers and Growers: From tilling the soil to nurturing life, you cultivate more than crops. You sow seeds of hope, nourishment, and sustainability. 🌾
Healthcare Heroines: To our nurses, doctors, and caregivers, your compassion heals hearts and mends bodies. Your dedication knows no bounds. Thank you for being the pillars of care and empathy. 💙
Mothers: whether you are working mum or a stay-at-home mom, you are raising the next generation. God bless you.
Leaders and Innovators: Whether in boardrooms or classrooms, you break barriers and shatter glass ceilings. Your brilliance shapes policies, industries, and minds. Keep leading, keep inspiring. 💡
🌟 Call to Action🌟
1. Amplify Voices: Share stories of women who inspire you. Tag them, celebrate their achievements, and let their light shine brighter.
2. Educate and Elevate: give your girl child the best of education. Not because she is a woman but because she is a human.
3. Support Women-Owned Businesses: From local artisans to entrepreneurs, let’s uplift women-led ventures. Shop consciously and invest in their dreams.
4. Advocate for Inclusivity: Gender equity benefits everyone. Let’s challenge stereotypes, biases, and outdated norms.
5. Donate and Volunteer: Support organizations working for women’s rights, education, and well-being. Every contribution matters.
Remember, WOMEN ARE NOT AFTERTHOUGHT. Together, we create a world where every woman’s voice matters, where dreams know no bounds, and where love and respect prevail.
Happy International Women’s Day! 🌟💜Share this:
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If You know You won’t Marry right, please don’t marry at all.
Today I want to beg and I am serious with this.
Brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you that of you won’t consult God for guidance on whom to marry, don’t marry.
If you know you ain’t going to marry correct, leave marry alone. You have sin.
Because as much as Marriage is a private decision but the results of that your single decision of whom to pray and how to do the marriage is very public and have effects on all of us.
Your decision can bring generation blessings for many.
It can lead to curses.
Because of your decision, some may live and it can lead to premature death for some.
Your decision affects the community, church, school and the country at large.
Jails are being filled with kids from dysfunctional homes.
Mental houses are filling up because we have people from unhappy homes.
I urge you again, if you are not going to do Marriage the God’s way, leave it alone.
And God bless you as you comply.
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I Am Sorry for saying this
Sorry that this quoted bible verses is not Marriage-centric but let’s derive something teachable.
Open your Bible with me to Acts 13:1-3
‘…Commission Barnabas and Saul for the mission I have called them to complete.’
That’s God calling Paul and Barnabas!
But
Here is Acts 15:39
“The disagreement escalated, until Paul and Barnabas went their separate ways. Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus,”
Hmmmm, same Paul and Barnabas!
The lesson here is that, that it’s God doesn’t mean there won’t be disagreement during our courting days or even in marriage.
In Courtship, at times, each of you will have to go your separate ways for the greater good of all.
It doesn’t mean God is not involved at the inception but you know we are still in our fallen state as human beings.
And because that happens doesn’t mean we must become enemies.
No! Paul and Barnabas were never enemies despite their ministerial disagreement.
In fact, the same Mark that cause the split was commended in one of Paul’s letters.
May God helps you to gain understanding into this mystery.
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God is Not at Fault.
Trust me for what you are about to read.
Courtship, Wedding and Marriage, according to the word of God are simple, light and very easy to do. We are the one that add complexities to it via our cultures, traditions, prejudices, experiences and whatnots.
Courtship is simply interviewing the man/woman for ‘job’ he/she is gunning for. Who add premarital sex to it? Who added talking stage? Public proposal nkọ?
Wedding is simply a public declaration that so so so and so should start living together as husband and wife with the full knowledge of their parents.
Who added various donts and does to it? Who added debts? Who added competitions to it?
Marriage is simply husband loves your wife as Christ loves the church… wives likewise should submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.
Only God knows layers upon layers of humanly chocking complexities we have added to those simple requirements.
Lastly, for your Courtship, go to the Bible, you will find in it how to do it without sinning or wasting your time and someone’s pikin’s time.
Go to the Bible for your wedding and let the Word of God be the ultimate manual and guide for your marriage.
I can bet it with you doing so will benefit your relationship and take it from the realm of human opinions.
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You are on the right course!
One of the popular biblical verses concerning relationships is found in Malachi 3:3
‘Can two walk except they agreed’
And that is how it should be. Your spouse should agree with you in most matters of life, especially in these three areas
- Parenting
- Doctrinal beliefs and
- Money matters
But since who you are going to marry is a full human being who grows up in a completely different environment from your minor disagreement, especially on things temporal is allowed and is not an indicator of incompatibility.
For example, I am a football/soccer fan, precisely a Chelsea supporter, whereas my wife is completely indifferent to football.
A Republican and a Democrat.
A fashionista lady and merry-go-round guy
Etc.
Your spouse is allowed to have his/her personal opinions and preferences and you should thank Providence for giving you another human being as a partner and not a robot.
Isn’t that amazing that you will be going live with another fearful and wonderful creature like you?
If yes, share this!
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Brothers, you will learn but I hope you didn’t learn the hard way
Dear brothers, ask any married guy out there if any of these things you are about to read are lies.
I can take a chance with you that two years into Marriage, you will be less concerned about whether your wife is plus or minus size.
Height won’t even trickle you when she is in labour.
A doctor’s report on hand, the shape of her backside you won’t relate to
Whether she is most beautiful woman or not, will be of no real importance to me.
So many things you think count now do not even weigh a nanogram in the grand scheme of marriage.
None of them can even pay a kobo of the many bills in the house.
That’s why you should go for character.
Go for partnership.
Go for someone who can truly meet your help.
I call factually tell you that physical specs are not a sin but never put them above godliness.
May God help you to choose right in Jesus’ name
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