By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
Meet And Marry+
500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace
I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.
Since the day, I read an online article titled, Why Christian Sisters Doesn’t Date Church Brothers and one of reasons being that Christian Courtship is boring. I have been restless.
Christian Courtship is not boring, that I can attest to over and over again, hence the new release, Love In Colour to add fun to your courtship.
The second query was, how do we not sin and we don’t want boredom. There are thousands and one activities for you and LOML without even nearing sinning.
One of them is Colouring and here is Love In Colour – A 31-Day Colouring and Devotional for Christian Singles.
A chapter, a day, a principle that can help you prepare for the glorious journey you guys are preparing for and a laugh to brighten your day
Now get $3 and a pack of colouring material out of your pocket. Let’s colour your love.
Release date: Easter Monday.
Platform: Selar and Amazon.
Like I always say, I am rooting for your marital success.
In the bustling city of Lagos, there lived a young woman named Morayo. Known for her grace and humility, Morayo was a beacon of modesty in a world often blinded by ostentation.
Ade, a close friend, observed Morayo’s distinctive approach to life. While many around them chased after the latest trends and flaunted their possessions, Morayo remained unswayed, radiating an inner elegance that surpassed the superficial.
Reflecting on Morayo’s character, Ade was reminded of a lesson ingrained in their Yoruba heritage—a lesson echoed in the teachings of modesty. In the heart of their vibrant community, the Yoruba people cherished values that celebrated humility and simplicity.
“Ẹ̀dá là ńlá”, Ade’s grandmother used to say, emphasizing that true greatness lies in character rather than external grandeur.
Ade saw the embodiment of this wisdom in Morayo, who, like a rare gem, shone brightest through her deeds and the kindness she shared. Inspired by Morayo’s example, Ade delved into the essence of modesty—a timeless virtue celebrated not just in Yoruba traditions but also echoed in the universal wisdom of scriptures.
Thus, the story of Ade and Morayo unfolds, a testament to the enduring beauty found in modesty, where names bear the weight of tradition, and character stands tall amidst the noise of a modern world.Decency and Modesty: Beyond Unkempt Appearances
In the pursuit of decency and modesty, it’s essential to dispel the misconception that one must look unkempt to embody these virtues. Modesty isn’t synonymous with neglect; rather, it’s a reflection of inner values that transcend external appearances.
Maintaining a well-groomed appearance doesn’t compromise one’s modesty. Personal hygiene, neatly kept attire, and a polished demeanor can coexist harmoniously with humility and simplicity. It’s about embracing a balanced approach that acknowledges the significance of self-care without succumbing to the allure of excess.
In fact, presenting oneself in a tidy manner can enhance the impact of modesty, demonstrating respect for oneself and others. It communicates a sense of responsibility and an understanding that the way we present ourselves matters. This nuanced perspective challenges the notion that modesty necessitates a disheveled look.
As we navigate the delicate balance between self-expression and humility, let’s remember that decency and modesty manifest in diverse forms. The key lies in cultivating an authentic and respectful demeanor that transcends outward appearances, affirming that looking decent and modest is an artistry that embraces both inner character and outward presentation.
ENGLISH -This year for me and you is a Year of inevitable turnarounds.
As we step into the new year, let’s embrace the promise of renewal and hope that comes through our faith. May God’s love guide our paths, granting us strength, peace, and grace. Let’s reflect on His blessings, cherishing the opportunity for spiritual growth in the coming year. Happy New Year!
Welcome to fortune 2024.
FRENCH – Cette année, pour vous et moi, est une année de changements inévitables.
En entrant dans la nouvelle année, embrassons la promesse de renouveau et d’espoir qui découle de notre foi. Que l’amour de Dieu guide nos chemins, nous accordant force, paix et grâce. Réfléchissons à Ses bénédictions, chérissant l’occasion de croissance spirituelle pour l’année à venir. Bonne année !
Bienvenue à la fortune 2024.
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YORÙBÁ – Ọdún yi fun mi ati rẹ ni ọdun ti ìyípadà ailegbe. Bi a ṣi ṣẹ lọ nínú ọdun, jọwọ gba isọdọtun ati ìrètí tí o wàá lati inú ìgbàgbọ. Ki ìfẹ́ Olódùmarè, t’owa sónà, funwa ni ookun, alafia, ati òré ọfẹ. A jékí a ronú nípa ìbùkún Rẹ, ki a sì karamasiki idagba l’ẹmi wa. Ẹ ku ọdun tuntun!
Káàbọ̀ sí ọdún orire 2024.
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IGBO – Ọdụ a na-ebi na a gị na mụọ na-akọrọ nile.
N’otu n’otu gaa n’anya ọnwa, ka anyị gosipụtara iwu nke ọbụla na ọnọdụ dị n’ihu anyị. Ka ụbọchị nke Chineke chọrọ anyị n’ala anyị, tinye anyị n’ọkwa, ọdụ, na mmadụ. Ka anyị gosipụtara na ndọdụ nke Chineke, cheta otu-otu ndụ ya, kwesịrị ọnụ ya na-echi anyị. Ọdụ a bụ ọdụ afọ.
Nnabata anyị na ọdụ afọ 2024.
#dadkylexy
HAUSA – Shekarar nan na ce na kai da kai shekarar mai amfani.
Wakar shekarar tana hira masa tsayawa da kuma damuwa da ke dacewa game da imani. Amma mun tafi ɓangaren shekara saboda kawo mako wa duk wanda ya yabawa, Allah ya taimake masu isar da lafiya, tsakar gida, da kuma kyauta. Mu je kun kawo cewar laifin Shi, mu taya irin wannan sabuwa na samun abin mamaki a shekara mai tsarki. Barka da Shekara Mafiya!
Karibuni ga wakokin daga shekarar 2024.
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SPANISH – Este año para mí y para ti es un año de inevitables cambios.
Al adentrarnos en el nuevo año, abracemos la promesa de renovación y esperanza que proviene de nuestra fe. Que el amor de Dios guíe nuestros caminos, otorgándonos fuerza, paz y gracia. Reflexionemos sobre Sus bendiciones, valorando la oportunidad de crecimiento espiritual en el próximo año. ¡Feliz Año Nuevo!
Bienvenido a la fortuna del 2024.
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PORTUGUESE – Este ano para mim e para ti é um ano de mudanças inevitáveis.
Ao entrarmos no novo ano, abracemos a promessa de renovação e esperança que vem através da nossa fé. Que o amor de Deus guie nossos caminhos, concedendo-nos força, paz e graça. Vamos refletir sobre Suas bênçãos, valorizando a oportunidade de crescimento espiritual no próximo ano. Feliz Ano Novo!
Bem-vindo à fortuna de 2024.
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ARABIC هذه السنة بالنسبة لي ولك هي سنة لتحولات لا مفر منها.
عندما نخطو إلى العام الجديد، دعونا نحتضن وعد التجديد والأمل الذي يأتي من خلال إيماننا. ليكن حب الله هاديًا لمساراتنا، ممنحًا لنا القوة والسلام والنعمة. دعونا نتأمل في بركاته، نقدر الفرصة للنمو الروحي في العام القادم. عام جديد سعيد!
مرحبًا بكم في سنة 2024 المليئة بالتوفيق.
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HINDI – इस साल मेरे लिए और आपके लिए एक परिवर्तनों भरे वर्ष का है।
नए वर्ष में कदम बढ़ाते हैं, चलिए हम उन नए और आशीर्वादपूर्ण संवाद का स्वागत करें जो हमारे आस्था के माध्यम से आता है। भगवान का प्रेम हमारे मार्ग को मार्गदर्शन करे, हमें बल, शांति, और कृपा प्रदान करे। हमें उसके आशीर्वादों पर विचार करने दे, आने वाले वर्ष में आध्यात्मिक विकास के लिए मौका को मूल्यवान ठहराएं। नया साल मुबारक!
2024 की भाग्यशाली यात्रा का स्वागत है।
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KOREAN – 올해는 나와 당신에게 피할 수 없는 전환의 해입니다.
새해에 우리는 믿음을 통한 새로운 시작과 희망을 간직합시다. 하나님의 사랑이 우리 길을 인도하며 힘과 평화, 은혜를 주시기를 바랍니다. 그의 축복을 돌아보며 오는 해에 영적 성장의 기회를 소중히 여기죠. 새해 복 많이 받으세요!
GERMAN – Dieses Jahr ist für mich und dich ein Jahr unausweichlicher Wendepunkte.
Wenn wir ins neue Jahr eintreten, wollen wir das Versprechen der Erneuerung und Hoffnung umarmen, das durch unseren Glauben kommt. Möge Gottes Liebe unsere Wege leiten und uns Stärke, Frieden und Gnade schenken. Lasst uns Seine Segnungen reflektieren und die Gelegenheit zum spirituellen Wachstum im kommenden Jahr schätzen. Frohes Neues Jahr!
Willkommen im Glücksjahr 2024.
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SWAHILI – Mwaka huu kwangu na kwako ni Mwaka wa mabadiliko yasiyoweza kuepukika.
Tunapojitayarisha kuingia mwaka mpya, na tuukaribishe ahadi ya upya na tumaini linalotokana na imani yetu. Mapenzi ya Mungu yatufundishe njia zetu, kutupa nguvu, amani, na neema. Tuzingatie baraka zake, tukithamini fursa ya ukuaji wa kiroho katika mwaka ujao. Heri ya Mwaka Mpya!
The President of a nation on a journey to settle his subject on a good land decided to scout the land purposely to establish the veracity of the claim to his subjects.
The essence of the scouting is never about him but about his people who see before believing.
Now, to do this, he selected 12 intelligent, Harvard-trained, well travelled and educated men to go and confirm what he has said about their new homes.
Off, they went and to be kind to them, they never have it easy on their 3-months journey.
Some of the challenges they encountered on the way including; the descendants of Anakim (Giants), fortified walls, populated cities, inter-tribal wars here and there, pagans with barbaric cultures and many other difficulties too numerous to highlight.
Needless to say, the journey was not all gloomy, for they saw a land flowing with milk and honey, a supportive climate for their occupation, a land that produced in thousands agriculturally, rivers, streams and springs that produce water in and out of season and many others advantages that time will not permit mentioning.
All the words of the president were confirmed.
After 3 months, the national delegates returned to report to the whole country. It was to be a live broadcast.
10 of 12 reported that though the land is as you told us, sir, even more than you said but we met the cannibalistic giants therein, there were high walls, and the people there are powerful (they didn’t engage in any fight along the way, how they knew that those people are more powerful than them battled me sef 🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️). We were grasshoppers, those people will just trample on us like ants.
This caused a national uproar instantly, both on and offline, but the 2 remaining delegates rushed to grab the mic and reported all the advantages of the scouted land highlighting the fact all the disadvantages reported by the first 10 are actually to their advantages
They encouraged them not to forget that they have conquered better fortified wall, more numerous and tall people/nations before and that they should not forget the word and helps of their president’s Godfather who also doubled as their National Patron while singing this song, ‘ count your blessings, name them one by one and you will be surprised at what the Lord has done…’
Meanwhile, while the 2 were addressing the press, somebody tweeted ‘off the mic‘ on them and like a harmattan fire, it trended on all social media platforms #onthemic.
Those that were in the hall where the press was being addressed have picked stones for the 2.
Those online have started issuing threats to them.
Protests has filled all the major streets.
International media houses have started carrying the news.
The 2 delegates would have been lynched had it not been for the intervention of their president and his vice.
Las las, since they did not believe the word of their president as sent to them by their Patron, the Patron promised to rescind his help to them in terms of power and GPS to navigate the road untill they received sense.
He also told them none of protestors will get to the land except the 2 that believe him.
In fact, if not for plead of the President and his Vice, the patron has vowed to completely abandon them.
Finally, of all the over a million of them, only 2 entered the promised land.
Ponder on these questions:
1. Whose reports will you believe? God, human, breaking news, circumstances, etc.
2. What are seeing currently in the present situation?
3. Do you remember that the God of yesterday is the God of tomorrow?
This is the 4th article on our treatise of God’s will. In part One, I defined God’s will as God’s command, instructions, likes, dislikes, guidelines and don’ts and dos.
Then in the second part, we discussed types of God’s will, e.g., sovereign will of God, commanded will of God, expected will of God, etc., while the third part highlighted God’s will as it concerns your relationships – be it marital or filial ones.
Now, this thing called God’s will, how do I know it and how I do I do it?
The only way to know His will is by reading His word – the Bible. Everything God has to say concerning anything to human beings, He has said and documented it in Bible.
Therefore, everything you wish to know about God himself, his works, what he likes or hates, how to do relationship with parents, siblings, unbelievers, believers, masters, slaves, employers and employees, etc., you got no choice than to read your Bible.
I have treasured Your word in my heart so that I may not sin against You. Psalms 119:11 HCSB
Don’t just read, meditate the word
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Furthermore, be the doer of what you have read. You will not be justified for reading and meditating but be justified by doing what you read.
But be doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. Because if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man looking at his own face in a mirror. For he looks at himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. James 1:22-24 HCSB
What can help you do the word? Join a Bible believing Church, having a Bible believing and doing friends, read Christian books and sermons.
Additionally, if you think you can do God’s will by wishing or liking to do them, dear, you will fail. By the power of the flesh, no one will prevail. Because your body called Mr flesh that you are carrying just what to disobey God. He is anti-God. He wants to do what God forbids him to do but prayer can help you to put it under subjugation to you.
Prayers make release of grace, power and enablement to do God’s will.
Prayer will be made doing it easy for you and by praying you are simply acknowledging your deficiency for God’s sufficiency. In fact, ‘thy will be done on earth as it’s in heaven,’ is a prayer line taught by Jesus Himself.
Lastly, the greatest of Divine will is that you make it home to his feet at the end of the world. He wants you to receive the gift of salvation as bought for you by Jesus. The basis of starting to do God’s will starts with confessing Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior and ends with staying in Him till the end of the ages.
Let’s pray: Oh Lord, everlasting Rock of ages, let Your will be done in my life in Jesus name.
“Marry God’s will for your life to enjoy marriage.”
“I want to do Your Will, oh Lord!”
All these and many more are cliques and quotes in Christianity that have even made the phrase, God’s will, almost lost its import. Some have even micro-defined it to mean the right marriage.
…but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven. Matthew 7:21 HCSB
Apart from the fact that God’s will is more than marrying rightly but having a good marriage is not a sign that you did God’s will. What will tell us whether you know His wills and do them is; do you marry a Christian and now even in marriage, whose wills, laws and pleasures are ruling your family? Unless both questions are in affirmation, you haven’t done God’s will.
Now, what is God’s will and what does it mean to do God’s will? Simply, God’s will is God’s words, laws, pleasures and commands and to do them is to do what pleases God.
“I appeal to you, therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:1–2.
I repeat, to do God’s will is to do what pleases God.
Teach me to do your will, for you are my God” ( Psalm 143:10 ).
It’s to do what makes God happy.
It’s doing what God is doing. What He has done or will do.
It is liking what He likes and disliking what He dislikes.
Doing what he commanded is doing God’s will.
It also means to believe in and trust in Him completely.
Lastly, God’s ultimate will is the advancement of his kingdom (Dan 2:44), his glorification (1 Cor 10:31), and the salvation and sanctification of his children through his son, Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:9).
Last Sunday, a sesentional Nigerian Award winning Gospel Singer, Mercy Chinwo got hooked maritally to her heart desire, Pastor Blessed of Water Brook Ministry, Lagos and their wedding has trended on all Nigerian social media spaces.
What trended the wedding ceremony wasn’t the fact that the bride, Mercy Chinwo is a celebrity but the fact that everything about the wedding has Christian decency stamped on it – the official social media announcement, pre-wedding pics, court ,church and reception activities, bridal train, choice of music. No breast and cleavages show as it is common in many supposed Christians, wedding ceremonies. Not even a single item was yielded to worldliness.
While I am also joining the Church to congratulate the couples for the blessed and merciful start. I began to have this thought in me; should we be celebrating her for covering her body as it’s expected? Is she not a Christian again? Didn’t Bible said our clothes should cover our nakedness and beautify us?
Pastor and Mrs Blessed.
I think she deserves commendation because we have seen many instances where the bride/groom/their bridal train/parents completely throw cautious to the wind simply because they are getting wedded.
I have seen examples of brides who hardly used make-up pre-wedding, who was totally transmogrify into another thing on her wedding date and supposed Christian/Church weddings that are no better stripper club.
Dressing decently is still a normal Christian norms as praying and fasting.
While we are commending them for doing what God expected of them especially in this utterly corrupt world where the line has been totally blurred because what is holy and what is unholy and what is Christian norms,practices and what is not, we should know that dressing decently is a normal Christian norms as praying, studying the Bible and fasting is.
If somebody mistakenly transferred some amount of money into your account and you returned all the money, Jesus said well-done for doing what is expected of you.
If you are punctual and diligent in your workplace, Jesus said good boy for representing the kingdom values expected of an ambassador.
If you respect your husband, your heavenly father is saying thank you for doing the norm and if you love you wife, the same God is saying the same thing.
You doubt me? Here is Jesus’ word: Which of you whose servant comes in from plowing or shepherding in the field will say to him, ‘Come at once and sit down to eat’? Instead, won’t he tell him, ‘Prepare my meal and dress yourself to serve me while I eat and drink; and afterward you may eat and drink’? Does he thank the servant because he did what he was told?
And this should be your answer : ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’ ” (Luke 17:7-10, Berean Study Bible)
Lastly, faithfulness, honest, love, respect, orderliness, decency and many other godly virtues are normal Christian life.
The Ogbomosho Rehoboth Baptist Association of the Nigerian Baptist Convention organises her Annual Evangelism Outreach.
This year, we are taking the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ to the Ope-Ola village at Orire Local Government Oyo State Nigeria and it will hold from 4th – 6th November, 2022 featuring Open Air crusades, film show, medical outreach, prayer, Bible study etc.
The last one was held at Ipaasa Village, Surulere Local Government, Oyo state and we bless the name of the Lord for the souls saved.
Furthermore, as we have started last year, we planned to go with 50 free Bibles for the souls that we will be saved and we appeal to you to partner with us in donating Bible(s) towards this godly cause either in kind or in cash
Presently, a copy of Yoruba Bible goes for US$3 (NGN1300, £4, €2).*
The Lord gave the word: great was the company of those that published it. Psalm 68:11 (KJV)
If God touches your heart, you can make your donations to account details below with narration spell as 2022 Bible Donation
Bank: Zenith bank: 2021840708. Alade Joel Adetunji.
For further enquiry, contact the following via calls and WhatsApp on:
Association President: +234706 850 1910
Association Secretary: +234813 386 4849
Association Evagelism coordinator**: +2348135446603. Email: joelalade2018@gmail.com, joelalade2018@yahoo.com.
Thank you for allowing God to use you as we bring this greatest treasure, gift, compass, map, light to another person that Christ die for.
Shallom.
* As at 19/08/20** I am the Association Evagelism Coordinator.
How to Be a Huge Success is a little book of quotations and tips from a variety of well-known ‘successful’ people. The back cover asks, ‘Are you on a collision course with fame, fortune or greatness?’ This is so often how ‘success’ is perceived in our society. Perhaps because of some of its negative connotations, sometimes in the church we are a little wary of the word ‘success’. However, ‘success’ is not a dirty word in the Bible. It occurs at least five times in our Old Testament passage for today (Genesis 24:12,21,40,42,56) – each time in a very positive light. Success is a blessing from the Lord (vv.31,50). Success is a good thing. However, the ministry of Jesus and the message of the Bible redefines success.
Psalm 8:1
Praise God for the success of his creation
In our galaxy there are probably over a hundred-billion stars like our sun. Our galaxy is one of a hundred-billion galaxies. When we consider the vastness of the universe it is easy to feel small and insignificant.
David starts and ends this psalm by worshipping God for the success of his creation (vv.19).
As he stares into the night sky, David says, ‘I look up at your macro-skies, dark and enormous, your handmade sky-jewellery, Moon and stars mounted in their settings. Then I look at my micro-self and wonder, Why do you bother with us? Why take a second look our way?’ (vv.3–4, MSG).
David marvels at the fact that human beings are the pinnacle of God’s creation – a masterpiece – made in his image. Not only does God love you and care about you (v.4), but he has given you extraordinary privileges: ‘You made them a little lower than the heavenly beings and crowned them with glory and honour. You made them rulers over the works of your hands; you put everything under their feet’ (vv.5–6).
We have been put in charge of everything God has made. Knowing this, Christians should be at the forefront of the protection, preservation and care of God’s amazing creation.
Of course, God’s original plan for our dominion over creation has been distorted. However, in the New Testament, we see these verses are also applied directly to Jesus (Hebrews 2:8). In Christ, creation is restored (Ephesians 1:19–23; 2:5–6), and one day it will be complete and we will see everything under his feet (1 Corinthians 15:24–26).
Lord, I see the vastness, beauty and success of your creation and proclaim: ‘O Lord, our Lord, how majestic is your name in all the earth!’ (Psalm 8:9).
Matthew 9:35
Pursue success modelled on Jesus
Jesus redefines success. If you want to know what true success looks like, study the model of Jesus – his vision, life and teaching. It is the kind of success that is not universally recognised as such.
Jesus was both admired and hated. Success does not necessarily mean popularity. Some admired him: ‘There’s never been anything like this’ (v.33, MSG). Others hated him. The Pharisees said, ‘It’s nothing but hocus-pocus. He’s probably made a pact with the Devil’ (v.34, MSG).
As followers of Jesus, you also may be both admired and hated. For example, because of his campaign to end the slave trade, it was said of William Wilberforce that he was the most admired and the most hated man in England.
In his Gospel, Matthew sets out the success of Jesus’ ministry (ch.5–9). He summarises, ‘Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and illness’ (9:35).
In word and action Jesus ushered in the kingdom of God, bringing the reality of God’s rule and presence into the lives of those around him. This is what Jesus-style success looks like and this is what you and I are called to emulate.
To achieve Jesus-style success you, like the twelve disciples, need to model your life on Jesus and share his vision:
1. The need is urgent
Jesus saw that ‘they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd’ (v.36). Today, we see millions who don’t know Jesus and are spiritually lost. In addition, we see millions who are starving, homeless, suffering from preventable diseases and without even the most basic education.
2. The motive is love
Jesus had compassion (v.36). This is the strongest word for love in the Greek language (derived from the Greek word for ‘guts’). It is used only of Jesus. It could be translated ‘he was gutted’ – his heart broke.Jesus was unconcerned about worldly categories of importance or success. Here we see him helping two very different classes of people – an important ‘ruler’ (v.18) and a woman whose menstrual bleeding would have made her unclean and left her on the fringes of society (v.20). Yet Jesus had compassion on them both.
3. The trigger is prayer
Jesus said to his disciples, ‘Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field’ (v.38). Pray for more people to be raised up who will follow Jesus and reap the harvest.
4. The potential is vast.
Jesus said, ‘The harvest is plentiful’ (v.37). Jesus has modelled what success looks like – proclaiming the kingdom and demonstrating its in-breaking into history. Now he calls you to follow his model – to share in his mission, multiplying its reach.
Lord, there is so much need in our world yet it seems that the workers are few. I pray that you would raise up and send out more workers to go out into the harvest field and change the world.
Genesis 24:12
Pray for success in guidance.
Abraham’s servant was not embarrassed to pray for success. He prayed a prayer that we can all emulate: ‘Give me success today’ (v.12). It was not a selfish prayer. It was a prayer that God would bless someone else, ‘show kindness to my master Abraham’ (v.12). He asked to be guided by God.
This is one of the most remarkable stories of God’s guidance. On Alpha¹, we talk about five ways in which God guides us, under the heading of ‘the five CSs’. In this passage, we can see an example of all these working together and especially the fifth one, ‘Circumstantial Signs’.
Commanding Scripture
Obviously, Abraham did not have the Scriptures that we have – but he did have the commands of God that later became part of the Scriptures. God commanded his people to only marry other believers in him. Abraham told his servant he must not get a wife for his son from the Canaanites, but from his own people (vv.3–4).
Compelling Spirit
The Holy Spirit leads us as we pray. Although the words ‘Holy Spirit’ are not used in this passage, it is clear that all the participants are in a position to be guided by God, listening to him and being led by the Spirit. Abraham’s servant prayed from his heart (vv.12,45), Rebekah appeared ‘before he had finished praying’ (v.15), and when Rebekah appeared, Isaac was out in the field where he had gone to meditate (v.63).
Common Sense
The choice of Rebekah made sense. She was clearly someone who was appropriate for Isaac. It so happened that she was ‘very beautiful’ (v.16). She was also ‘a virgin; no man had ever lain with her’ (v.16). Most importantly, she was clearly generous, gracious and kind. Her immediate response to the request for water was not only to offer it, but also to say, ‘I’ll draw water for your camels too, until they have finished drinking’ (v.19).
Counsel of the Saints
One of the ways in which God guides us is through godly advice (‘saints’ is used here in the New Testament sense to describe all God’s people). Although Isaac and Rebekah’s marriage was very different from the modern western marriage, in that it involved a large element of arrangement, there was also an element of choice. Rebekah was asked, ‘“Will you go with this man?” “I will go,” she replied’ (v.57). Isaac chose to marry her and ‘loved her’ (v.67). They were following the counsel of the saints in the sense that everyone around, especially their parents, recognised, ‘This is from the Lord’ (v.50).
Circumstantial Signs
This is one of the clearest cases in the Bible of God guiding through circumstantial signs. The servant asks for a sign and was given exactly what he asked for (vv.12–26). However, as we have seen, the sign was not random. It was a test of Rebekah’s character, which she fulfilled.
As a result of being guided by God, not only was their meeting a great success, but more importantly, so was their marriage.
Lord, I pray that you would multiply this wonderful example of successful guidance amongst us. May there be more and more couples coming together and being able to say, ‘This is from the Lord’ (v.50).
Pippa Adds
Genesis 24
I have always loved this story. It is very romantic. Isaac was heir to great wealth, but he was possibly rather lonely. His half-brother had been sent away. His mother had died. But God provides this brave woman. She leaves her family. She marries someone miles from home whom she has never met. But God answers very specific prayers to guide them to this decision. Isaac goes to a lot of trouble to find a woman who shares his faith, which is so important in marriage. And I love the fact that Isaac loved her at first sight.
This is a chapter from my incoming new Ebook titled Sexual Purity in A Sexually Crazed World. Enjoy and download for reading when it comes out hopefully by June.
We live in a sex crazy world. Almost everything now has been sexualized as if human beings cannot survive without sex.
Sex is between a biologically male human being and a biological female human being who are married.
Whereas, it could have been better, if the world encourages marital heterosexual sex but lo and behold, our campaigns, billboards, soaps, protests, etc., focus on same-sex, premarital sex, unbridled and casual sex, abortions, bestiality and all sorts of immoralities.
But in all these, God in the Scripture commanded us to abstain from all forms of sexual immoralities as the only form of sex He approved of is sex between a biologically male human being and a biological female human being who are married.
So God created man in his own image; he created him in the image of God; he created them male and female… The man was intimate with his wife Eve, and she conceived and gave birth to Cain. She said, “I have had a male child with the Lord’s help.”
Genesis 1:27, 4:1
But before we discussed how to abstain, let us understand these four facts.
Four facts about No Sex till Marriage Relationship.
1. We abstain from Premarital sex not because one’s partner says so, we don’t want pregnancy or are afraid of venerable diseases but because we want to GLORIFY AND WORSHIP GOD.
2. It is 100% possible to do No Sex till Marriage relationship in this sex-crazed world. I repeat, it’s highly possible. My significant other and I did it and didn’t regret doing it.
‘For nothing will be impossible with God.’
Luke 1:37
3. Forget social media noise, many people are abstaining – you won’t be the first to do it and neither will you be the last. Many more will do it.
4. You lose nothing by abstaining from Premarital sex and gain many things by abstaining.
Now, to our discussion.
How to have No Sex till Marriage Relationship.
1. Praying:
we live in a world that is in so much loved with sex. You see sex and it’s related stuff everywhere, even the church is not spared but prayers can help safeguard you from all temptations.
“Therefore, you should pray like this: Our Father in heaven, your name be honored as holy.
And do not bring us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
Matthew 6:9,13
2.Have fear of God:
That He meant well when He told you to abstain and that He has your best interest at heart for giving the command.
No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Hebrews 12:11
3. Guard what you see, hear and read:
Unless, you want to deceive yourself, you can’t be listening to shedibalabala,touch my bum bum, lemme touch your bress music, videos and articles up and down and expect to keep yourself. How then do you guard yourself? Start away from any sex inducing acts, blogs, environment, situations, etc., Any appreance of evils should be done with.
Guard your heart above all else, for it is the source of life.
Proverbs 4:23
4. Replace negativity with positivity:
As you are shunning negativity, make you replace it positive habits like Bible reading, reading edifying books, watching motivational videos and blogs, being busy, attending church services, volunteering, etc.
All these activities will naturally make you think less of sex.
Let the thief no longer steal. Instead, he is to do honest work with his own hands, so that he has something to share with anyone in need.
Ephesians 4:28
5.Be busy:
As a normal human being, you will fell horny but productive busyiness can de-stress horniness. Once you notice that you body is beginning to act as a human being, take a walk around the neighborhood, mop the floor, write your thoughts, take a book and read, visit your friends and family, go to church, go on evagelism, pray, sing, etc.
6.Don’t tempt Satan:
Lead us not into temptations is better than deliver us from evils. Most of us are deceiving ourselves.
You said you want to do abstainance but you pack to your boyfriend’s house, Is he wood?
Uncle, shebi na you tell us say you wan keep yourself, why the kissing and plate licking?
Tempting Satan is sleeping overnight in your fiance’s abode and saying that nothing will happen, many things will happen.
Tempting Satan is always staying indoors with opposite sex .
Tempting Satan is doing foreplays like passionate kissing, smooching, licking, carousing, blowjob and thinking sex won’t happen, you will be highly playing with fire. You can mock God, what a man sow, he will reap.
Don’t be deceived: God is not mocked. For whatever a person sows he will also reap.
Galatians 6:7
7. Be determined like Lion:
That come what may this No Sex before Marriage will be done by me through the help of Holy Spirit.
The wicked flee when no one is pursuing them, but the righteous are as bold as a lion.
Proverbs 28:1
8. Double date:
Don’t be surprised that I say you should double date. Before you castigate me, check the meaning of double Dating first.
Having two partners simultaneously is not double Dating, it’s called unfaithfulness. Double dating means going on a date with other courting couples.
This double Dating (or even triple dating) of a thing will serve as a charepon for you and your intending spouse. The caveat here, double date with couples who are also No sex before marriage practitioners.
With all these steps, I believe a child of God can escape the sexual filthiness of the world.
Thanks for reading and staying sexually pure.
Unless otherwise stated, all Scripture quotes from Christian Standard Bible (CSB).
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