Courtship Forum

Category: Marriage

Welcome to House of J&V — Our New Beginning!
Dear friends, family, and beloved readers,

I am beyond excited to introduce to you my latest God-inspired journey — House of J&V!

Join Victoria and I, every week on our YouTube channel as we shared our marital journey via House of J&V

Why House of J&V?
Because we believe that marriage is blissful — when Christ is at the center.

We’ve cried. We’ve laughed. We’ve prayed. We have fought. We have won. And now, we’re creating a space to share it all — not just the polished moments, but the real, raw, and redemptive ones.

House of J&V is our online family where faith meets fun, where biblical truth meets real talk, and where singles, young couples like us, parents, and the soon-to-wed can find love, encouragement, and hope.

House of J&V want to tell you that you are not the only one passing through the relationship challenges. You are neither the first nor the last

🎥 What You Can Expect

We’ll be sharing content across:

📖 Devotionals & family prayers

💍 Marriage & relationship insights

👶 Faith-based parenting tips

🙌 Testimonies, stories, and laughter

❌❌ Our mistakes and errors

🎥 On YouTube and TikTok, with occasional drops on our Facebook pages
We are building a digital home that blesses hearts and strengthens homes.

📌 Join Us!

Subscribe to our YouTube channel: House of J&V

Follow us on TikTok: @HouseOfJandV

Together, let’s prove that with Christ, love still works. Marriage still stands. Homes still thrive.

Welcome to the House of J&V 🏡
We’re so glad you’re here.
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Jul 20, 2025
What sacrifices have you made in life?
Hmmmm!

Three months to my wedding, I got a job far away from home. In fact, about 8 hours from home. Ogbomoso, Oyo State to Benin Edo State.

Well, the job pays more than what I currently had then. Actually 3× of the then salary.

If I stay in my current job, my then fiance turned wife now, monthly income is 3× mine and I have to man up.

The problem has never been my wife earning more than I did but rather closing the income gap between us. So I took the job

The job is a farm manager position in a remote village in Benin, Edo State. No network, no light, no road. So bad that if I have to communicate effectively with my fiance, without interruption, I will have to spend ₦1000 as transport fare to where there is good network. After the day work on farm that runs from 8am till 4pm.

Besides, almost all the guys there smoke indian hemp.

The first question I ask myself is; carrer-wise, did this make sense? How will I know of emerging trends in the market?

Two, is this the type of environment, I want to raise my children? A community of Indian hemp smokers and unkempt hairs?

Three, let’s say my fiance resigned from her job, what job have I secure for her or what money did I have to give her to start a business?

If I said my wife should be at home, and I will be visiting monthly, it still doesn’t make economic sense. Why? Because, I will have to travel on Friday evening, all things being equal, I should get home by 11pm. By Saturday, I will sure visit my friends and parents and by Sunday afternoon, I am on way back in order to resume on month. The transport fee will cost me about ₦10,000 to and fro .

I will have to drop home maintenance fee for my wife and will also eat at my workplace. After everything, what will be left will be ₦5000. Why this stress?

What sacrifices have you made in life?

After all these introspection, I discovered that the cons far outweigh the pros, a month to my wedding, I resigned and return to my former workplace which this saying in mind, let the worse that want to happen happened, God is on the throne.

Praise God, the bad did not happen talk less of the worst and I joined my wife and both of us combined our little resources together and live happily after.

Now, tell me what sacrifices have you made in your life?
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May 17, 2025
Dear Sister Rosemary,
Today make it 4 years, 4 months, 3 days, 5 hours, 10 minutes and 2 seconds, you last received I love you message, since Bro Dare served you premium breakfast the following month.

You are not a tree, ma.

You deserved the best, love can offer you.

You are advised to spread the love Christ has for you.

Open your heart to receive love.

Moreover, since you are assured of God’s love, why don’t you join us to spread it during our Annual Evangelism Outreach holding at Olooyo from Nov., 1st – 3rd, 2024.

Maybe you may meet bro. David during the program by partnering with us and who knows what can happen?

Like. Share. Invite

#OgbomoshoRehobothBaptistAssociation

#EvagelismOutreach

#Olooyo24

#TheGreatDecision
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Oct 24, 2024
New Release – Single But Not Searching For Love
Between my first and my last relationship between Marriage is a period of 8 years, majorly my 20s.

During that time though alone but I was never lonely and I can say it emphatically that I enjoyed my singlehood and I am enjoying my marriagehood.

Who says you too can’t?

That’s why I have put pen to paper to write you a new book that highlight ways and manners of enjoying your Singlehood without necessarily being in a relationship.

Two, the book prepares you for marriage but while at it, enjoy your singleness.

To buy your copy of Single But Not Searching For Love, click down

Or here

Thanks.
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Jul 22, 2024
Découvrez L’AMOUR EN ACTION – 31 PRINCIPES POUR LA COURTOISIE ET AU-DELÀ
Êtes-vous prêt à transformer votre approche de la courtoisie et à construire une relation qui résiste à l’épreuve du temps ? “L’AMOUR EN ACTION – 31 PRINCIPES POUR LA COURTOISIE ET AU-DELÀ” est votre guide essentiel pour naviguer avec sagesse et grâce dans les complexités de la courtoisie chrétienne.

Dans ce livre, vous découvrirez :

Honnêteté dans les Relations : Apprenez à partager votre passé en toute transparence et à bâtir une base de confiance avec votre partenaire.

Abandon des Attentes : Adoptez la liberté qui vient avec le lâcher-prise des attentes irréalistes et laissez le plan de Dieu se dérouler dans votre relation.

Acceptation des Imperfections : Comprenez que votre partenaire est humain, avec des défauts et des imperfections, et découvrez la beauté de l’aimer tel qu’il est.Chacun des 31 principes de “L’AMOUR EN ACTION” offre des idées pratiques et des étapes concrètes pour vous aider à cultiver une relation qui honore Dieu et apporte une joie durable. Que vous commenciez juste votre parcours de courtoisie ou cherchiez à approfondir une relation existante, ce livre est une ressource précieuse pour quiconque cherche un amour qui perdure.

Disponible dès maintenant sur Amazon KDP !

Ne manquez pas cette opportunité d’enrichir votre approche de la courtoisie et au-delà. Cliquez sur le lien ci-dessous pour acheter votre exemplaire dès aujourd’hui !
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Jul 18, 2024
Why Your Mother-in-law hates you
One of the intense battle I will always advised Singles to avoid by all means, is in-laws battle and hatred and my advice had always been, ‘if they don’t like you, don’t marry their son/daughter.’

I know you can prayed them for a change of heart but I date you to say, free your time to pray on better things in marriage.

But what could really be the problem, you mother-in-law hates you?

You may have incurred your mother-in-law hatred because of the following:

You have what she didn’t have when you married. You see, human beings generally hate the good things they don’t have.

The amount of love, care and affection their son is giving you which she didn’t receive from your father-in-law when she too was your age, and marital status may be reason she didn’t vibe to you.

She may be demonically possession especially if she is an unbeliever and you are a believer. Believe it or not, demonic possession is real and unbelievers are devil and minions, abode.

You being a Christian and with the virtues attached will naturally repel an unbeliever’s way of life and thinking.

You didn’t hate them but according to what Peter said in his epistle that, they are amazed that you didn’t join them in their ungodly behaviours, now instead of them to praise you, they slander you.

Thirdly, you are the cause. We are in the era where intending spouse have already hated their mother-in-law, when they have even have a suitor yet. More like an in-built hate.

Some of you were shown love, care and respect when you meet her but because of what popular media have told you about in-laws or because of what your own mom experienced with hers. You locked up from receiving love.
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May 22, 2024
4 Things That Are Not Needed For A Happy Home.
When Grey and Tacha were courting. As a lover-in-arm, they used to imagine many beautiful things and scenarios.

A perfect, never annoying partner!

Breakfast in bed!

Cute kids!

Annual vacation in Hawaii!

24/7 romance, catch-up, love SMSes

Infact, their courtship is one of it kind and the love, the care and the attention, are both mutual and obvious, to all and sundry.

Theirs was a perfect man and woman planning, strategizing, praying and hoping for a perfect ‘happily lived after’ experiences in marriage.

Who wouldn’t want a good thing? But their imagination soon turned into realities two weeks in marriage when Grey shouted at Tacha.

Pardon me for a little digress but most singles nowadays is majoring and planning on things that aren’t needed for a happy and bliss home.

Permit me to say, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT SPOUSE TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME. Number one, we are all faulty. By nature, no one is perfect. Therefore, your search will be long and 99.99% fruitless but perhaps, you mistakenly find one, trust me you don’t need to marry such one for you to have a blissful union and you won’t ever have one with him/her.

Your sure ticket to a godly home is still with an imperfect human being.

Caveat; imperfection doesn’t mean you should roll up with the ungodly and unbelievers.

Two, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT WEEDING.

Elaborate wedding parties, floral flower girls, exquisite men in suit, live music band, ambient lighting and hall, etc are all good but with or without all of these, your marriage can still be great, funny and Godly.

Therefore, prepare for marriage than for wedding and LOVE IN ACTION – 31 PRINCIPLES FOR COURTSHIP AND BEYOND and THE TEARLESS COURTSHIP were written to prepare you for a glorious, easy and happy marital journey, post wedding.

Furthermore, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME TO MARRY. You will always have one excuse or the other not to marry.

Gas prices will always go up. Mortgage will not down. Cost of living will always appreciate and people in capitol don’t allow bothered.

Time will never be prim and proper for you to marry but once the timing is right and the necessary things have fallen into the right places. Go and marry*

And lastly, YOU DON’T NEED STRONG PENIS AND TIGHT VAGINA for a happy home.

Many aspiring couples think sexual enjoyment in marriage is by how long the instruments for it is. What you need for a joyous sexual experiences in marriage is someone with a healthy and faithful private parts.

An active penis or a tight vagina without the fear of God attached to it, will make you cry, if it didn’t give you STDs.

Thank you for reading. Comment, share and like.

*I’m a staunch supporter of early marriage
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May 16, 2024
What I learned At the Hospital During Easter
Love In Colour was supposed to launch in Easter Monday but right on Resurrection Sunday, I was hospitalized hence the postponement.

Right beside the bed wherein I was lied is a married man attended to, by his elder daughter (probably gotten two daughters).

This daughter stays with her father while her mother runs errands.

If you see the ways and manners both the daughter and wife were taking care of this man, you will love good marriage.

Because it’s very obvious the man was a good jolly, family-oriented man.

None is been forced to do anything.

With them, you will love good marriage.

Brother, if you see happy home, you will feel it.

You will be desirous of one.

You will pray for it and you will work for it.

That is why Love In Action- 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond was written to provide you with practical principles for wholesome courtship experiences, seasoned and garnished with time-tested principles, that will make your courtship fun-filled and godly while preparing you for the happy beyond – Marriage.

The book is available for download on Selar and Amazon marketplace
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May 12, 2024
My eBooks
By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
- The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
- God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
- Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
- Meet And Marry+
- 500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
- A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace

I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.

Thanks.

*free ebook. +available on pre-order
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May 11, 2024
Help, Marriage is under attack!
Sir Samuel O. Ajayi Ajayi wrote:

This may rankle some people, but I don’t care.

But the way some of us ‘celebrate’ single motherhood and/or fatherhood, in about 20-25 years time, the coming generation will think you don’t have to get married to have kids.

Many of the present generation even married; which did not work out. The coming one will not even bother to waste their time getting married.

Just open up for one dude, get pregnant and give birth. A couple of years after, go back to same dude (OR ANOTHER GUY) open up for him, have another child and then lock up.

And in the case of the guy, get one or two pregnant, confirm responsibility for the pregnancies but don’t marry them.

As the kids grow, be doing part-time responsibility like paying school fees and then leave the rest to the mother.

Any other stuff like feeding, clothing, medical attention and above all, FATHERLY PARENTAL GUIDANCE are none of your business.

Now, we are raising a generation who believe that is normal rather than the abberation that it is…
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May 9, 2024
How do you use social media?
Social media is such an interesting place for information dissemination, educative contents and entertainment.

It could be a good place and I used my space for sharing the good news about Christian Courtship and happy homes.

You can follow me on my social media handles via

Facebook: Alade Joel

YouTube: Christian Courtship TV

Tik-tok: Christian Courtship TV

Selar ( for downloading and buying of Christian Courtship/relationship eBooks): Alade Joel

Make sure you follow, like and subscribe on all platforms.

I love you all.
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Apr 21, 2024
Something About You Should Screened Them out
This is a very short one and I want you to take it seriously concerning your marital choice.

Dear sister, if you have many suitors, that means your value system is so cheap and porous.

There should be something about you that should naturally screened out many brothers.

Brother, the only reason why every sister is dateable is because you have no value, no purpose and you are of easy virtue.

Because if you have one, only a few sister will even catch your fancy and only a very few will be dateable talk less of marriage-able.

My sister, I am saying this to you, if unbelievers find you marriage-worthy, then your spiritual life needs a check-up.

And as a brother if unbeliever look marriage-able to you, you should check whether you have been truly born again.

There must be something about you, your Christianity and approach to relationships that should naturally and effortlessly mark out unbelievers.

In conclusion, are you born again? Do you have a strong value system? Are you a person of integrity? Think about this.
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Apr 11, 2024

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