Remember this post of mine https://joelalade.home.blog/2026/05/26/pray-%f0%9f%98%adfor-the%f0%9f%98%ad-abducted-%f0%9f%98%adteachers%f0%9f%98%ad-and-%f0%9f%98%adchildren-%f0%9f%98%ad/
Thank God, all the children and 5 teachers are back about a month ago, unharmed.
Sadly, two teachers were killed in captivity.
May God be with their families
In-laws relationships are a vital but often delicate part of marriage, yet in God’s design, they are not meant to be sources of conflict or division. Instead, they are meant to function within the broader framework of family unity, respect, and peace. God expects in-laws to understand that when two people are joined in marriage, a new primary family unit is formed, and every other relationship must align in a way that protects that union rather than competing with it.
One key expectation from God is respect for boundaries. In-laws are called to honour the marriage covenant by not interfering in ways that weaken the bond between husband and wife. This does not mean isolation or rejection, but it does mean wisdom in involvement. Advice should be given with humility, not control; support should be offered without manipulation. When boundaries are respected, peace is preserved and unnecessary tension is avoided within the extended family system.
God also expects in-laws to operate in love and acceptance rather than suspicion or rivalry. Too often, conflicts arise from assumptions, comparisons, or unresolved expectations. However, Christian doctrine encourages families to embrace one another with grace, recognising that marriage is not a competition between families but a joining of two lineages under one covenant. When love governs interactions, misunderstandings reduce, and relationships become healthier and more stable.
Another divine expectation is peacemaking. In-laws have the capacity to either escalate conflict or promote reconciliation. God desires that they become instruments of peace, especially in moments of misunderstanding between couples. Instead of fueling division, in-laws are expected to encourage forgiveness, maturity, and restoration. This requires emotional discipline and spiritual sensitivity, ensuring that words and actions build rather than destroy.
Furthermore, God expects in-laws to provide wise and constructive support when needed. Support can come in many forms; emotional encouragement, godly counsel, or practical assistance but it must always be offered with the goal of strengthening the marriage, not controlling it. When in-laws function as supporters rather than supervisors, they contribute positively to the stability of the home.
Ultimately, the relationship between in-laws should reflect the broader Christian principle of love, honour, and humility. Every family connection should be shaped by the understanding that peace is more valuable than pride, and unity is more important than personal preference. When this mindset is embraced, in-laws become a blessing rather than a burden, and families grow stronger together under God’s order.
As an in-law, examine your role and influence in the marriages connected to your family. Choose restraint where interference may cause harm, and choose encouragement where criticism could destroy peace. Commit to being a source of wisdom, love, and stability. Build relationships that honour God’s design for marriage, and become someone whose presence strengthens families rather than strains them.
Whether you are new parents, expecting parents, empty nesters, or someone looking forward to being a parent one day, this is for you.
Parenting is a task God have given us if He has provided children and thanks to His benevolence, He hasn’t left us without what He is expecting us to achieve with the kids he has given us.
Dear Parents, God wants you to train your children in the ways of the Lord. He literally wants you to indoctrinate them into His ways [ sorry, I don’t know a lesser word to use]. That is why He told you to tell your kids about His laws when you are on your way to farm [workplaces], sitting down, playing, etc.
He wants you to talk about Him every time you have a conversation with the kids because He knows if you don’t, ungodly TV models and policymakers will do
God wants to be a direct models of His law. He wants you as the father and mother to be an example of godliness, orderliness and goodness.
He doesn’t want you merely to talk about godly virtues, God expects you to be a living examples of them.
Also, God wants to warn you not to provoke your children to anger. They are human beings with diverse emotions.
Click Here to know what God expect from you as a husband towards your wife
Don’t provoke them rather guide them gently to the way of the Lord.
As much as God does not want you to provoke them to anger, He wants you to correct them when they err [which they will do]. He wants you to correct them in love. He wants us to correct them with boldness and clarity
In addition, God is expecting you to discover the gifts, talents and calls of God on their lives
God is expecting you to be a model of Christian marriage.
The first married person they knew is you guys, and Almighty God is hoping that you will be a perfect example of what a Christian husband and wife in a Christian home should be.
God also want you to provide for all their needs. Their physical, spiritual, mental and psychological needs.
Lastly, God want you to pray for your kids.
God bless you
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Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?
I speak 2 languages fluently – English and Yoruba languages.
English language because that is my country official language and Yoruba language, though also an official language, but also my native language.
But I will not be writing about human language here rather I will ask which languages do you and your spouse speak and how is it impacting marital life?
What language are you speaking concerning your spouse, the kids, the in-laws, neighbours, etc.?
Is your language edifying, season with grace and salt or they are bad languages?
Is your words as husband and wife promoting peace, harmony and joy?
Or it is full of complaints, murmur and nags?
Check your language and adjust where needed
Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
We are human, aren’t we? And because we are human being, we tend to over do things or step out of lines even with our loved ones.
But it’s doesn’t have to be like that, we got to be a rail in place to safeguard our beautiful memories, apply break in a spillery ways and draw a line that every member of the relationship must not cross.
What is boundary in a relationship? A Boundary in a relationship is the line drawn by parties in a relationship which should not be crossed by the other partner.
It is a clearly defined limit agreed upon by both partners that sets what is acceptable and what is not in their interaction. It helps protect mutual respect, trust, and emotional well-being by ensuring each person’s needs, values, and personal space are honoured.
Even the Bible said, ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ (Proverbs 4:23 (NIV).
As Christians, we are not just setting boundaries, we are setting HEALTHY BOUNDARIES therefore the set boundaries must be biblical.
For example, you can set the boundary of no sex in marriage. That boundary is for singleness
Benefits of Setting Healthy Boundaries
HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN A RELATIONSHIP.
What is your view? I want to hear from you in the comment box.
Dear, Empty Nesters,
God has a work for you
Grandparenting is a sacred season in life, often marked by reflection, wisdom, and a deeper awareness of generational responsibility. In God’s design, grandparents are not merely retired parents; they are spiritual anchors within the family system. God expects grandparents to function as custodians of faith, memory, and moral direction, ensuring that the values of righteousness are not lost between generations. Their presence is meant to stabilise the family tree, offering guidance that is seasoned, calm, and rooted in experience.
One of God’s primary expectations from grandparents is spiritual mentorship. At this stage of life, there is a unique opportunity to reinforce faith within the family by living consistently as examples of devotion, prayer, and reverence for God. Rather than withdrawing into passivity, grandparents are called to remain spiritually active—teaching younger generations through both words and lifestyle. Their influence often carries a weight that parents alone may not be able to provide, especially in moments where wisdom is needed more than instruction.
God also expects grandparents to be intentional transmitters of values. This includes moral instruction, family identity, and cultural or spiritual heritage that aligns with godly principles. In many ways, they serve as the memory of the family, reminding younger members of where they come from and what they stand for. When properly embraced, this role helps prevent moral drift and strengthens continuity in righteousness across generations. Their counsel, when given with humility and love, becomes a guiding light for children and grandchildren navigating a complex world.
Another divine expectation is emotional and relational support within the family structure. Grandparents are often positioned to provide balance where tension exists, offering reconciliation, patience, and encouragement. Their maturity enables them to respond with understanding rather than reaction, making them instruments of peace in family dynamics. God values this peacemaking role because it reflects His nature within the home, where love is preserved and unity is protected.
Furthermore, grandparents are called to be intercessors for their lineage. Prayer is not a secondary responsibility but a powerful assignment at this stage of life. Standing in the gap for children, grandchildren, and even future generations aligns the family with divine protection and direction. Many breakthroughs in families are sustained through the quiet but consistent prayers of grandparents who refuse to give up on their bloodline.
If you are a grandparent, embrace your season with intentionality and spiritual awareness. Do not see yourself as inactive or irrelevant, but as strategically positioned by God to shape the future of your family. Invest in prayer, speak wisdom, correct in love, and preserve godly values. Commit to being a living bridge between generations, ensuring that faith, love, and righteousness are not only taught but deeply rooted in your family line.
Dear Readers and followers,
About 11 days ago, tragedy struck in my hometown – Ogbomoso at Orire Local Government area of Oyo State.
Terrorists struck at 3 villages, killing two person – one teacher and one okada rider, beheaded a teacher and kidnapped 7 teachers and 37 school children 😭😭😭😭
The youngest pupil kidnapped is aged 2 and the oldest 12. Now all of them plus other are with kidnappers inside a bush been beaten by rain, mosquito, hunger, anxiety, fear, and harm.
Pray for the family of the departed for the forties to bear the loss.
Pray for those still in captivity that God will stall the hands of these murderers from furthering harming them as He prevented Abimelek from harming Sarah.
Pray that they will be ready very soon unhurt and unharmed
Pray that God should strengthen the arm of our security forces for their deliverance
Pray that God will give our government the wisdom to do the right thing that will lead to the deliverance of our people in terrorists’ quarters
Please repost this to all and sundry.
I love my wife and I am doubly sure she love me in returns. If not much.
But despite that we still had moments of disagreement, conflicts and vexation simply because we are human beings.
We keep malice in-house 😀😀😀, stop talking for some hours, changed countenances, and what have you but one way or the other, we developed the following strategies to settle our vexations with one another:
Rule of Engagement : Before we eventually end up marrying, we outlined how to end any argument, draw boundaries not to cross, and who to report to if case, the matter is not mattering between us. So that by the time of our marriage, conflict resolution is a goal
No insult: Part of our ways to resolving our differences is that whenever there is consult, we will be honorable and graceful to one another in our words. You are allowed to shout, rant, and or yell but you are not permitted to curse, cuss or insult.
24-hour ultimatum: If you think I have wronged you or I am of the opinion that you vexed me, each of us have 24 hours to inform the person that was wronged. 24 hours for him/her to know her offences.
By 12am, the clock resets. No carryover of grudges.
I am sorry is not an option: We say sorry to one another. We just don’t say sorry, we changed to reflect the said sorry
Because saying sorry without actually planning to amend your way is not emotional manipulation and gaslighting of the aggrieved party.
What I have highlighted are some of the methods employed in our home, what are yours?
I was invited by a Christian WhatsApp Group to speak about the title subject. Here is what I shared with them
Communication is key in every human relationship. We communicate about everything – food, houses, politics, marriage and of course, sex in marriage. Sex intimacy thrives when both partners communicate openly, honestly and lovingly.
Now ask yourself, can I fully and freely talk to my spouse or my spouse-to-be about my sexual desires?
If you want to have a fantastic communication concerning your sexual life. Note the following points:
Everything start from your mind, posture and heart.
This is very important for all men to note; if you want bed to shake at night, start talking lovingly to your wife from the morning.That communication can be buying a small chops, spanking her bum bum, helping around the house, telling her I love you via email, WhatsApp, SMS, calls.
The talk should also include your expectations on the bed.
Moreover, prayer is also a form of pre-sexual communication. There is nothing bad if you move from the heavenly realm to the bedroom realm.
Talk about your desires, expectations and godly fantasies and respond too.
Dear married woman, ask your husbands for sex today.
Ask for your right. Tell your hubby, where to touch, lick or insert to. You know your body more than your hubby does.
Tell your wife, which new style you want to check out. Add voice to it. You and the man can devise a code that is unintelligible to outsiders and kids.
Lastly, on this point. Talk. Don’t assume. Your husband doesn’t know you are tired, say it and show it but don’t be tired every day.
Avoid bringing up external issues. The moment for husband and wife to enjoy themselves in sexual bliss is not the time to ask about Dave’s school fee. Love-making time is not the time to talk about your mother or your struggling business.
It’s not to talk about unfulfilled promises, how to fill the annual tax return, what Donald Trump is doing or not doing, ICE raids, etc. Rather it the time to enjoy company of one another. You can use the remaining hours to talk about Dave, parents, struggling business, unfulfilled promises, bla, nla, bla…
Question 1 – ‘But some women do use that time to ask their men any type of request because they know the men have no choice then. What about that?’
Answer – That is called manipulation and that is why points 1 and 6 are points 1 and 6. Sex should starts before the actual love making and unresolved issue should be resolved before you get to the field of play.
Husbands, love-making time is to tell your madam what she should do, hold, grab, smother, and caress.
Wivey, that moment is to ask your LOMLs to do it like this or like that, insert it here, grab this part of the breasts, climb this part, lick this, etc.
Let the time of conjugal blissfulness really be time for conjugal blissfulness.
Question 2 – Is communication really necessary when it comes to the frequency of sexual engagement? Some others planned the number of days for sex as a couple. What’s your take on these sir? For me, unplanned sex is sweeter.
Answer – Sex can be planned, or unplanned and both can be sweeter, and fulfilling and yes, it is important for the other partner to be adequately informed about how frequent you want it.
One, so that other can also prepare his or her mind and body for the sweet adventure. For example, women are not like we men. Men is kick and start when it comes to sex, while woman need time and stimulation to be aroused. Two, so that we can also look forward to it. A good marriage should contain both the planned and unplanned ones.
Your desires, fantasy, where you want it, when you want it, how you want it, how much you want it.
Please, sex is not something you should in marriage is nothing to be shy of
And lastly point 5.
To have an effectual sexual encounter is this; what will make the sex great and productive is that the other communication points in the house are on point and effective.
If you are still keeping malice about what your mama-in-law did during your wedding party, how do you intend to freely express yourself?
As the bed activities are great, the marital fidelity should be great too. A toxic environment even if the sex is great is not an ideal Christian home.
Bonus!!!
After a good sex, appreciate your partner
Let’s start with a story.
I met my wife on the 7th of May 2021 through a senior brother and we got married on 4th and 5th of September, 2021.
As at when I married, I was earning 16,000 Naira per month as a private school teacher and she was earning 40,000 Naira working for a financial institution.
Today, concerning jobs, may all power and adoration belong to God. Amen
Those that will build happy home must be willing to work together.
Marriage is not a 50-50 or any percentage saved 100-100, that’s all of you into it.
Two, those who want to have a happy home should not be afraid of starting from humble beginnings. Because if you wait for perfect time, you will not sow.
Furthermore, those that will build a happy home much be those that believe. Those that believe that everything will work out for good.
Good things will come out of the union and that all will turn out fine. Just believe in God.
Lastly, Happy Valentine.
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