Courtship Forum

Category: Relationship

  • Relationship Mindshift 1 – GOD LOVES DIVORCE.(For those in an abusive or serial cheating Marriage).

    Every Day, it’s either insult, abuse, mistrust, or beating.

    The person has tried every possible means for the spouse to change. The Family has intervened. Church also but instead of abating, the partner seems to be increasing in cruelty.

    To preserve her/his sanity, the abused seeks divorce.

    This partner can’t count the number of fastings and prayers plus mountain climbing she has done to separate, her husband and his numerous side chicks, yet she treats STDs every month.

    When she could no longer take it, she legally end the marriage.

    Are we saying, the two divorce-seeking partners are going to hell?

    Let us not deceive ourselves, as long as it’s two imperfect human beings are getting married every Saturday, we can never rule divorce out.

    Nobody plans for it.

    Nobody prays for it.

    Nobody likes it.

    Nobody should celebrate it.

    But shit happened. Mistakes happened. Some students read for the exams and still fail.

    Some Abigails married Nabals.

    Two, divorce is a failure of the married (not a Marriage institution), a sin though but not an unforgivable sin.

    Three, Bible granted those who marry unbelievers and the unbeliever asks for it, to take it. So He loves divorce that will preserve the salvation of your spirit.

    In addition, if God committed a great purpose into your hands and perhaps, you find yourself in an untoward marriage that threatened your life, sanity, and salvation, seek help and seek out, if the help doesn’t work. You need a sane mind, a sound body, and a saved spirit to obey God.

    He understands that you made a mistake and He can forgive that mistake. He is not happy that your marriage crashed, nevertheless, he still loves you.

    Lastly, church, let’s go and completely read and start quoting Malachi 2:16 in different versions because God said he hates divorce and also said he hates injustice [violence] to one’s spouse in the same verse.

    May God keeps our marriage in Jesus’ Name

    Afterthought: I believe divorce should be the last thing a troubled marriage should considered after all the possible means like prayers, professional and spiritual helps, family intervention, etc have failed.

  • How this new couples vexed me off.

    How this new couples vexed me off.

    I was pissed off. Very pissed off because of how this new couples (Like 3/4 months old) in my church behaved last Sunday.

    Now, it happened that every first Sunday of the year in my church is Anointing and Holy Communion Service (this year was strictly anointing service). While we are filling out to receive the touch, and it reached my turn to join the line, the wife was in front with a gap in between them and I said let me step into the gap. If you see how the husband dragged me out of the space, you will pity me.

    As if not receiving the oil immediately after his wife will reduce the power.

    I was terribly vex. I told mine and while we are laughing over it, I commented that, it’s initial gra gra.

    He will soon calm down like me when life happens. I pray life happens goodly to them.

    Dear Mr life Coach at 22, calm down oooo. Life really do happen oooooooo. And it happens unexpectedly.

    Dear single marriage counselor, double down a little. Marriage is not a science practical where everything can be controlled to get predetermined results. You can’t control the happenings.

    Dear undergrad, your senior brothers and sisters are not stupid or unintelligent. You see, Nigeria happens to majority of us.

    Lastly, as you are calming down, k’Olorun wa pelu ĆØmĆ­ re (may God be with your spirit).

  • How the Marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Rhoda AdĆ©soorĆ­re almost crashed after five years.

    How the Marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Rhoda AdĆ©soorĆ­re almost crashed after five years.

    You don’t love me anymore.

    Samuel AdƩsoorƭre and Rhoda Adesola were lovebirds in school. Samuel was the school fellowship president while her fiance was the sister coordinator even though both of them are not from that denomination.

    Talk about grace, depth, leadership acumens and what have you.

    Their Relationship continues after schooling and this will end in a happy Christian home. In Christian slang, a kingdom Courtship moving to it permanent site of kingdom Marriage and their Relationship is godly – no sex and no yhdvdkccf šŸ™„šŸ™„

    Click here to download God doesn’t want you to be a virgin Ebook free of charge so that you too can be like them.

    The other reason being that the love is mutual and the submission is top-notch. Each can’t do without the other. Infact people in the neighborhood have started using them as example of what a godly courtship and marriage should be.

    You thought they are angels? Of course not for during their courtship stage, they have their shares of intending couples’ fights, malice, misunderstanding, battles yet all were weathered maturely.

    After NYSC, they decided to get marry owning to go-ahead from both parents, mentors and their pockets (both got where they are being paid what can afford them comfortability) and their wedding was lite.

    Everything done that was done as how a Christian couples and families ought to.

    Click here to see how a Christian weddings should go

    Five years after wedding, they are contemplating divorce but before they proceeded, as they have agreed before marriage that should chicken comes to roost, we will consult our pastor before the next action. šŸ¤·šŸ¤·šŸ¤·šŸ™„

    Now, let’s see what transpired in the pastor’s office šŸ‘‰šŸ‘‰šŸ‘‰

    ‘But why are you getting divorce. Bro Samuel, sister Rhoda, your marriage is an example to many in this church. What could have happened?’

    None answered.

    ‘Is there cases of adultery, domestic abuse, financial irresponsibility, undisclosed matters, inlaws problems or any?’

    Both nodded in negative.

    ‘Then what is happening, can somebody please tell me something’

    ‘He doesn’t love me anymore,’ said Rhoda. šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­

    ‘How can say that I don’t love you anymore.’ šŸ™„

    ‘Everybody knows that I do.’šŸ˜°šŸ˜°

    ‘I don’t love you but I just bought you car this last month.’ šŸ¤”šŸ¤”

    ‘I don’t love you but I stay in the kitchen with you.’ šŸ˜ šŸ˜ 

    ‘I don’t love you but I called you 3 times daily during working hours,’ he interrupted.šŸ˜”šŸ˜”šŸ˜”

    ‘Daddy, please ask him when last did he said I love you to me.’ šŸ˜¢šŸ˜¢

    ‘When last did he write a poem for me (like he used to do during our dating period).’šŸ˜¢šŸ˜¢

    ‘He has even stopped calling me romantic names since I gave birth to Junior,’ she fired back. šŸ™„šŸ˜°šŸ™„

    ‘But but…’ he retorted.šŸ™„šŸ™„

    And pastor bust into laughter šŸ¤£šŸ¤£

    ‘Sir, I have my own to say oooi.’

    ‘Since the birth of our first kid, iya Junior has used him to replace me.’

    ‘Sex is non existent owning it up to some ministerial burden.’

    ‘Food is anyhow (and she knew I don’t eat outside) and he doesn’t even attend to my family properly,’ he accused.

    (Meanwhile, during this back and forth, pastor was listening with rapt attention).

    ‘Hmmm!’ pastor heaved a relief sigh and and said, ‘my brother and sister, I appreciate you for honouring me as your shepherd. First, you have minor issue but big misunderstanding about love and submission.

    ‘My brother, it is a known fact that you truly love your wife but Love means different stuff to different women. E.g., if you are observant you could have noticed that the finest and the largest part of our house was the kitchen. I purposely designed it so because my wife loves cooking and that most times, we don’t wear asoebi because she is non-PDA’

    ‘So my brother, love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’

    ‘As for you, my sister, I know you are a submissive wife and you too know, for a fact, that your husband loves you but be it known unto you today that a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected. I repeated, 8/10 mens are jealous, want sex, food and his family cater for and it is only through those avenue that he felt that you loved him.’

    I hope you understand me, brother and sister.

    Both nodded in affirmation, called their lawyer to back off, prayed together in pastor’s office and live happily after.

    1. …love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’

    2. a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected.

  • How I Wedded With $34.

    To A ready man. Hear my true life story.

    If you are a man with a stable job (you go out and come home daily with an assurance of money whether daily, weekly, or monthly), a faithful fiancee with an equally stable job and desire by both to marry but you are afraid, hear my story.

    Two days, after saying yes to me, my wife suggested that we should married in 3 months time, which coincidentally is our birth month and some days shy of our birth dates.

    I laughed. Because as of then, I don’t think I have a thousand naira in savings and the only tangible property I got was my techno pop 4. So where I am going to get money for a wedding talk less of marriage? My fear was not even the wedding because I can’t clothe, feed and house my wife and kids with I love you. I can’t.

    But something dropped in my mind – here is a lady who is ready to combine resources, doesn’t want to waste my time, and is a spec, why delay when God has prospered my way?

    I obliged with my fiancee now wife and by the grace of God and the help of our parents, siblings, mentors, and friends, we were legally wedded on the purposed and proposed date. Hallelujah.

    Have I gotten more money since then? Not yet a millionaire but all my fears then were non-existent. It is not as bad as I anticipated. We are not there yet but at least we are not where we are then.

    In this small journey, we have recorded many successes.

    OlĆ²run nbo Ć sĆ­rĆ­ effortlessly.

    The two of us have never been broke together. I still blame myself for marrying ‘late’ šŸ˜„šŸ˜„

    Therefore be inspired by my story and the stories of many other married men out there, go and plan your wedding. Just make sure you no do pass yourself. I believed strongly you won’t regret it.

    Because even if you gather all the monies this year, inflation still dey next year.

    Thanks for attending my Ted talk and I look forward to seeing your IV.

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  • New book Alert – Meet and Marry.

    New book Alert – Meet and Marry.

    I met and marry my wife within 3 months and 3 days. No pressure. No desperation and why the delay when the feelings are mutual.



    This book Meet and Marry – making your dream marriage a reality from this day forward was written to direct you to



    1. How you can attract OQP – Only Quality Person for Courtship.



    2. Where can meet a loveable person for Courtship and eventual marriage



    3. How to do a TEARLESS COURTSHIP without wasting time. We dated for 7 years is not a testimony and



    4. How to be legally married in the shortest possible time without desperation or pressure.

    This book is loaded with my experience in doing so and I am sure it will bless you as you read.

    You can pre-order your copy here

    God bless you

  • How These Two books Saved My Relationship and Destiny.

    How These Two books Saved My Relationship and Destiny.

    Thank God for the blessings of godly teachings by His servants and the gifts of powerful Christian writers through books, I can realistically say, nothing caught me unaware in my marital experiences.

    My expectations weren’t dashed because they have been pruned through the experience and knowledge of Christian authors who write on marriage and relationships.

    Dear, reading books on marriage will save you and your marriage before it even begins as you won’t be able to learn everything about marriage during premarital counseling.

    But get this right from the start; it’s not by reading books but by applying the principles therein

    Now, let me recommend 12 of such fantastic books:

    1. Bible

    The best book you should read in preparation for marriage is your Bible.

    In this Greatest Book of All Time, God, the creator of the beautiful union called Marriage has already told you everything He has to tell you and everything you ought to know about marriage, parenting, sex, romance, and life generally.

    Matter of fact, any other books you want to read about marriage should be about the explanation of what the Word of God said about a specific subject matter. No addition or subtraction.

    Furthermore, I urged you to try to read it through, i.e., Genesis to Revelation, at least, once before you settle down to having a family because you might not have the opportunity later.

    How can you achieve that? If you read 3 chapters per day, you will cover all the chapters in a year, and if you need a Bible Reading Plan for A Year, my friend, Oladele Damilare got you covered here.


    2. How To Choose a Life Partner – 156 Questions to ask –  Bimbo Odukoya.

    I read this book over a decade ago and it still ring a bell in me.

    This book listed 156 questions you ought to ask in courtship and the likely answers.

    3. No More Two; God’s Principles for Marriage – Gbile Akanni.

    This godly book by a world renowned pastor and brother talks about how to create a one-plus-one equal-to-one kind of matrimony. Very powerful book.

    4. Single without Singe – Segun Ariyo

    An insightful book on courtship, sexual purity, dating, and wedding. You can’t read this masterpiece and still be interested in pleasing the crowd during your wedding ceremony.

    5. The Tearless Courtship – Alade Joel.

    This one was powerfully written to prevent you from constant heartbreak. It takes it up from what is the definition of Christian courtship, the stages of courtship, 50 plays, 50 questions, and ends with the 7 rules of courtship for singles. Read on Amazon here

    Read on Amazon here

    6. God doesn’t want you to be a virgin – Alade Joel


    God’s will and plan for His children about sex is more than being a virgin. Infact it’s not his sole purpose for you to be one rather He demanded more from you.

    This book highlights what is God will and purpose for you as a Christian single in this over-sexualized world concerning sex before and after Marriage. Discover here

    7. Things I Wish Iā€™d Known Before We Got Married – Gary Chapman.

    You have probably heard about 5 love languages by Gary Chapman but to me, though that is his most popular book but Things I Wish Iā€™d Known Before We Got Married is the bomb.

    The number one thing you should know now is that like Mother, like Daughter is not a fluke. It is a reality.

    This is the book that saved my relationship as it helps pruned all the nonsensical beliefs I had prior having any defined romantic relationship.

    8. The 4 Seasons of Marriage; Secrets to a Lasting Marriage – Gary Chapman.

    This masterpiece from Dr. Gary literally walk you through all the four seasons of marriage namely Autumn, Spring, Winter, and Summer.

    Get it. Read and Apply it.

    9. The 5 Love Languages. The Secrets to love that lasts – Gary Chapman.

    You have heard about this bestseller that teaches you to speak to your spouse in a love language he or she understands.

    A must-read for intending couple

    Read and apply diligently.


    8. Maintaining Sexual Purity – Sam and Folashade Oloyede.

    Not only have I been under the ministration of these authors several time but they are also our family mentor and this point outlined in this book was a guiding light during my days weaknesses.

    Among Christians, sexual purity is the norm, the standard and the code but how do you cope when it seems everyone is doing it. Get this amazing book and read it via a DM (08135446693).

    10. His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage – Willard Harry Jr.

    Prevention, they say is better than cure. I just read this and it really bless my understanding.
    This classic lists 5 things each for a man and woman’s need to prevent your partner from cheating on you.

    11. Saving Your Marriage Before it starts – Les and Leslie Parrot.


    Do you want to have a happy and fulfilling marriage? If yes, then this book is the right one for you. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is a wonderful book that shows you how your actions today will affect your future marriage.

    This book will help you uncover the different myths in marriage, learn how to communicate properly with your spouse, discover the effective way to solve conflicts, manage your finances, and have a great sex life!

    12. The Sacred Marriage – What if God Designed Marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy – Gary Thomas.

    The idea that marriage is meant primarily to sanctify us has changed my entire view of marriage. God redeems the hard parts of our lives to make us more like Him, and thatā€™s a beautiful way to approach those hardships we all experience in marriage.

    Other worthy reads:

    13. The power of a praying wife – Stormie Ormatian (for ladies).

    14. The Fatherhood Principles – Myles Munroe (for men).

    Reflection: Except Saving Your Marriage Before It Begins, (which I promise to read before the end of May), I have read all the aforementioned titles. Now, recommend a book for me and two, how many have your read from this list?

  • Fruits of the Spirit VS Gifts of the Spirit.

    This scene happened in #Enoch – a biopic of Pastor E. A. Adeboye when she went to tell her dad about the young man asking her out

    Daddy Folu: why do you want to marry this guy?

    Folu: he is humble and has a sense of duty.

    That Folu’s statement is that of someone with purpose, clarity, and picking character over charisma. She didn’t even mention intelligence.

    Now, ask many sisters and brothers in our churches today how a godly man/woman fitting for marriage should look and behave, see them listing the attributes of an ungodly celeb.

    Dear, a kindhearted individual is far better than a tongue-blasting one.

    Why? Because you will need the uses of the fruits of the Spirit than his gifts.

    You will need the use of love, tolerance, understanding, kindheartedness, industriousness, etc than you will need the use of raising the dead, speaking in tongues, casting demons out, etc., in your marriage.

    I repeat, when shopping for a potential partner, pick the fruit over the gift.

    My dear, If she can’t sing, speak in tongue, or preach but she is a real Christian with the fruits, marry her.

    Even if you can pinpoint a single gift of the Spirit in him, but you are sure of his salvation experience, he is marriable.

    May we not mismarry in Jesus name.

  • 20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    One of the things I don’t joke with as a single (with or without partner) is prayer and one of such prayer is that, God Almighty, wherever my wife is , make it difficult for her to make a future-damaging mistake.

    Believe me dear, that prayer was marvelously answered because God actually prevented her from many errors as He prevented me too from future-damaging mistakes.

    Why all these stories? The moral is; Your marriage can be protected, preserved, prevented and saved from destiny destroyers, home breakers, potential outlaws that may want to disguise as in-laws, side chicks, sickness and what-have-you before you even have a fiance or fiancee.

    You kids can be put under the shadow of the Almighty before you even know who their father or mother will be.

    You can settle your partner’s friends, work, your neighbor when married, now before you know them.

    You can declare peace, joy, and righteousness into your family now and to shock you you can prevent your partner from making life shattering mistake now like I did for mine.

    Here about 20 prayer points from my incoming ebook SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS (A PRAYER GUIDE):

    • Thank you Jesus for a glorious home, you will give me.
    • Thank you for my spouse and my in-laws. I glorify Your Name because we will be friends.
    • Over my children and every stage of their lives, hallowed be thy Name in Jesus Name.
    • Dear Heavenly Father, I ask in Your might Name that every potential partner that will be coming my way will be a godly man/woman
    • Mighty Jehovah, in the name of Jesus, go into every stage, period and season of my marriage and take preeminence control before my arrival.
    • I pronounce my marriage yours in Jesus Name.
    • I pronounce my partner Yours in Jesus Name.
    • I declared my children Yours in Jesus Name.
    • Every resource that I needed to be a responsible spouse, I received it in Jesus Name.
    • I prayed that my marriage will be a springboard for the spread of the Gospel.
    • Precious Father, strengthen and guard my marriage against the evil one, his schemes and systems in Jesus Name.
    • Everybody that will be connected to me through marriage will praised You for the union.

    Pre-order your own copy through the scanning of the QR code below:

    • Oh Lord, let Your visits be a constant in my family
    • I proclaim peace into my marriage.
    • My spouse’s siblings will know the Lord in Jesus Name.
    • Give me/us Your Spirit of wisdom and understanding in Jesus Name.
    • I cancel every generational debts and curse in Jesus Name.
    • I demolish every evil family pattern from my marriage in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You for You shall make my family a double harvest of answered prayers in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You that everything that has to do with my marriage has been settled in Jesus Name
    • Thank You for the salvation of spouse and kids
    • All glory, honour, adoration and blessings be unto Your Precious Name in Jesus Name.

    To preorder your own copy of SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS, click here

  • Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Tell me one reason why God won’t punish my ex.
    She betrayed me. She trampled on my trust. She served me a hot breakfast. After all, I’ve done for her šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­

    What causes the issue? Our problem started with the pic below

    After wishing her a pleasurable birthday and affirming me as her love.
    Then a message inbox, followed by a painful but necessary breakfast a year after.
    Was it painful? It was ooo. So unbearable I have to doubt my value of generosity and trust in a romantic relationship (my wife kuku part-pay in the sin she didn’t commit but that’s a story for another day).
    So painful I have to converse with someone on Facebook.

    Now tell me why someone who broke the heart of His dear son won’t suffer.

    My dear if this is your reasoning about your ex, you are dead wrong because God will not punish your ex because he breaks your heart.

    God won’t make her marry wrongly because she left you.

    Why? for the following reasons:

    God won’t punish your ex because, for some of us, that split must happen so that you can have sense.

    Secondly, perhaps, your ex is indirectly working for God because God knows that your union will be a disaster for His kingdom.

    Three, God is a just God. He doesn’t think like us. He forgives sin.

    Four, where is your Christianity if you wish evil on fellow human being, sometimes a fellow Christian?

    Fifthly, my dear stop cursing, cussing, and whining about your ex, the Almighty won’t kill the person because you want him or her dead. He alone is sovereign.

    And lastly, what gain will your ex’s misfortune give you? Assuredly, it won’t give your car, a happy home, house, promotion, career progression, long life, and prosperity.

    Your ex’s misfortune won’t give any good thing of life save bitterness, evil thought, and envy to your being.

    What is the next thing to do? To prevent further breakfast, go and download A Tearless Courtship from selar.co by clicking this

    Then go and curse no more in Jesus’ name.

    Breakfast in Nigerian relationship dictionary means heartbreak.

  • How I dated ‘Satan’ for 2 years.

    She said to me, ‘since we are going to marry, let’s do it.’

    I said no. Number one we are not married. Two, it’s ungodly.

    ‘Hmmm, what about kissing, or do you want to say that one too is a sin.’

    ‘It’s not but it can lead us to where we don’t know,’ I replied.

    She brought up the subject of pornography.

    I replied watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts because it places you and your spouse in fantasy – unrealistic expectations; a world created by video directors, videographers, video editors, and actors.

    Your marital sexual life will be utterly destroyed because you can’t attain a world that doesn’t exist.

    Two, watching porn is promoting sin and encouraging sinners not to repent.

    By downloading porn materials, you are encouraging them to put out more ungodly content.

    By visiting their site, you are telling them that more sinful materials are needed.

    Watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts

    Liking and viewing their pages only mean one thing; more money from the motinesation of their idea which in turn you are contributing monetarily to Satan’s kingdom.

    I refused to do adverts for Satan in my life.

    God forbids I am unwilling tools for the propagation of evil and its agenda.

    Lastly, this evil will open doors for other evils like the objectification of the opposite sex, insanity, sodomy, etc.

    It may look harmless but the repercussions are far fetch.

    May the grace of God be with us.

    Disclaimer: the story at the beginning of this write-up is fictional.

  • Building a healthy relationship with your father-in-law.

    Let’s start with this fact; my wife is a good daughter-in-law to my father and I am to his father to.

    Now to the business at hand, we have written, talked, podcasted and blogged so much about mothers-daughters-in-law relationships but hardly have we beam our searchlight on fathers-in-law, either father-son-in-law relationship or father-daughter-in-law’s.

    Also for a fact, before this relationship got neglected, 99% of it are cool and freeze.

    The father don’t care and either the SIL or DIL don’t give a damn.

    Now, let’s see some avenues to build quality relationship with your FIL.

    1. Take care of his child.

    The joy of every parent is to see and know that his/her child is going well in all areas of life. Fathers inclusive.

    So make sure his pikin is well taken care of.

    2. Don’t neglect him

    Fathers got neglected alot. Even good fathers.

    Don’t let your FIL be neglected.

    Call him constantly.

    Visit him regularly.

    Celebrate him often.

    Men are emotional too.

    3. Buy him gift

    Men love gifts. Men love gifts. Men loves gift.

    Thank God, today’s Valentine.

    Click here to see

    4. Don’t disrespect your father-in-law.

    If you really desired a good relationship, don’t disrespect your Mother-in-law, his wife.

    She is his bone of the his bone. The flesh of his flesh. So don’t do something ridiculous to her

    Don’t disrespect him too.

    May God gives us deep understanding.

  • The Blessings of Father-in-law.

    I don’t have Father-in-law but I have capable father figure-in-law.

    Over the years, I have noticed that 99% of father-son-in-law are very cool and deep freeze.

    It is more like the Father-in-law saying, ‘stay on your lane of being my daughter’s husband and I will stay on my lane of being my daughter’s father’ and the son-in-law replying, ‘no problem.’ šŸ¤·šŸ¤·šŸ¤·.

    It is Hi! Hello! Kind of communication. Nothing more. Nothing less.

    But where there is correct Father-in-law (and if you are lucky to have one), there are a lot of blessings that can be gotten from it. Jethro and Moses is our examples.

    Let start with the first blessing; the blessing of establishment of deep worship of YHWN will be established.

    Now Jethro, the priest of Midian and father-in-law of Moses, heard of everything God had done for Moses and for his people Israel, and how the Lord had brought Israel out of Egypt…Moses told his father-in-law about everything the Lord had done to Pharaoh and the Egyptians for Israelā€™s sake and about all the hardships they had met along the way and how the Lord had saved them. Jethro was delighted to hear about all the good things the Lord had done for Israel in rescuing them from the hand of the Egyptians. He said, ā€œPraise be to the Lord, who rescued you from the hand of the Egyptians and of Pharaoh, and who rescued the people from the hand of the Egyptians. Now I know that the Lord is greater than all other gods, for he did this to those who had treated Israel arrogantly.ā€ Then Jethro, Mosesā€™ father-in-law, brought a burnt offering and other sacrifices to God, and Aaron came with all the elders of Israel to eat a meal with Mosesā€™ father-in-law in the presence of God. (Exodus 18: 1ff).

    We can see from all the bolded part of the passage that Moses and Jethro’ father/son-in-law relationship bring testimony of the awesomeness of Yahweh, confirmation of the power of God and worship of God.

    Ours can also produce such where both FIL and SIL are Jehovah worshipers.

    In addition, the second blessing is blessing of restoration.

    Moses has been separated from his wife and two young sons en route to answering God’s call in Exodus 4 but here in chapter 18, God is using his FIL to restore his family

    Jethro, Mosesā€™ father-in-law, together with Mosesā€™ sons and wife, came to him in the wilderness, where he was camped near the mountain of God. Jethro had sent word to him, ā€œI, your father-in-law Jethro, am coming to you with your wife and her two sons.ā€ (vs 5).

    Furthermore, the blessing of FIL is honour and respect, both ways.


    7 So Moses went out to meet his father-in-law and bowed down and kissed him. They greeted each other and then went into the tent.

    Now, tell me who wouldn’t thrive in an atmosphere of mutual respect?

    The fourth blessing is the blessing of divine guidance.

    Moses wouldn’t have lived to 120 years, had he not listened to the advice of his FIL.

    He would have died from over-burdenness, frustration, heart attack, weariness and what-have-you but his wife’s father advised him thus:

     When his father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, ā€œWhat is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?ā€

    Moses answered him, ā€œBecause the people come to me to seek Godā€™s will. Whenever they have a dispute, it is brought to me, and I decide between the parties and inform them of Godā€™s decrees and instructions.ā€

    Mosesā€™ father-in-law replied, ā€œWhat you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Listen now to me and I will give you some advice, and may God be with you. You must be the peopleā€™s representative before God and bring their disputes to him. Teach them his decrees and instructions, and show them the way they are to live and how they are to behave. But select capable men from all the peopleā€”men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gainā€”and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. Have them serve as judges for the people at all times, but have them bring every difficult case to you; the simple cases they can decide themselves. That will make your load lighter, because they will share it with you. If you do this and God so commands, you will be able to stand the strain, and all these people will go home satisfied.ā€Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said.

    Your FIL is probably older than you and he come with loads of experiences which can be of benefit to you.

    These are the benefits of a Christian father-in-law. If you have one, cherish him while he is still with you.

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