The other time, my wife bought and brought an apple in.
She took her bite and offered me the remaining apple.
You know what, I don’t even bother knowing the source of the fruit, I just ate and my eyes were ‘opened’ straight to Adam eating the forbidden fruit as offered by his wife, Eve. Both of us didn’t question the source.
You will say I trusted her. Yes, I do.
But my point exactly is that if you haven’t found yourself in a particular situation, you may not understand what those that have been or passing through the situations are feeling.
Take for example, you can have all the laws, the 7 dos, and donts, and principles, wu wu not take it in courtship (as it should be) but to prepare your mind, 80% of those plans though good but may be unworkable in your marriage.
Why? Because marriage is more than two people calling themselves husband and wife. It involves in-laws, finances, ageing, childbirth, death, relocation, etc, and most times, life is unscripted.
Should you not have plans and principles? For a fact, having one is better than not having any but always pray for the grace to triumph in all situations.
May the grace of God teaches us how to navigate different stages of our life in Jesus’ name.
Category: Relationship
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How my wife gave me, poisoned apple?
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How to make him/her misses you.
He breaks you heart?
She served you breakfast (in Nigerian heartbreak jargon)
Don’t let him/her go Scot free when you can actually make him/her to pay.
Watch how.
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How to create a good Marriage for your Children.
Day 20. Day glory. Day of appreciation. 5 more days to go.
Once again, you are welcome to another episode of The Love of Christ 2022 Blogmas.
Now, let me tell a brief story
Thank God it’s a good resemblance.
I remembered my dad waking up early with his old stereo radio as early as 5 am. I swear that I will never do so when I am out of his roof.
Well, I’m out of his roof but guess, Boomplay said no, I resembled him (see pic 1) 😀😀😀 and not just on time just preferred genre. 🤩🤩
My Boomplayer 2022 Recap. 🤩🤩🤩 We thank God it was a good thing.
Now, I will divide the lessons in this short story into two;
To the singles: know this and know peace, you can’t divorce your future partner from his/her family background. He/she is coming from nowhere. That person that makes your heart beats gbim gbim is coming from a family, a principle, a belief, a culture, and a system.
The famed Emeka Nobis is talking about never using abusive and body-shaming words, e.g., big head, fish leg, etc though jokingly in his house. I bet his kids will grow up banning such words in their vicinity.
Therefore, ask, research, check and pray if she/he is properly loved from where LOML is coming from.
Ask, research, and check if the system, the principle, family, and culture the man is coming from, allow his wife to be another Ngozi Ikonjo oweala.
Research if the system, the principle, the family, and the culture she is coming from allows a man to be God’s creation or beast of burden.
And perhaps, you notice a trendy, principle or belief you noticed in your family, and seek both spiritual and therapeutic solutions.
While I was waking up to play music, I don’t ever remember my dad but unconsciously I was inching towards how he too behaves.
Now, to the parents; please, by all means, create a godly family, a godly principle, godly belief, and a godly culture in your home. A family and a system that your future son/daughter-in-law can thrive, develop and grow in, effortlessly, and called you blessed.
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15 Good Places to Meet Potential Spouse during Christmas
You want to marry? You are looking for a Christian partner to marry as it’s supposed to be? And this is Christmas time?
Welcome to day 12 of 2022 Blogmas themed LOVE OF CHRIST. It has been 12th day of talking about Christ and His birth and how to have a godly fun-filled Christmas celebration.

Now, to today’s episode. 15 godly places to check for a suitable partner during this Christmas:
1. Your DM: Sister, go and reply all your online messages. Maybe he is there.
Brother, send that DM today and express your intent to be her future husband. Worse thing that can happen is no.
2. Family Gatherings and Meetings: during this festive period, most families will have their sojourning members at home for Celebration. You or your parents, friend or siblings may got invited to one and who knows what may happen after.
3. Youth fellowship programs: Mama has been disturbing you for grandkid. But how do give her grandkid when you are not even marry? Now, let me tell you a secret, many youth fellowships will organise end of the year programs creating a great opportunity for singles to meet potential spouse.
5. Through your parents: Yes! You read me well! You can actually meet your LOML through your parents, mentors or any spiritual authority over you. Why not go on and ask for their recommendations? Maybe by this time next year, you are happily married.
6. School Reunions: if you are lucky that your alma mater organizes their reunion during this period, why not take some times to attend. You may find your wife or husband there.
7. Ceremonies: I can’t count how many person have met their future spouses by attending ceremonies especially wedding ceremonies. Because many family members will come home for Christmas celebration, most families usually fix their kids’ weddings in December, therefore, there will be plenty wedding invites. Make sure you attend as many as possible and be observant.
8. Sunday School Class/group: yes! That normal Sunday school that you attend weekly. The same one.
That your worded, tongue speaking, gentle cute male Sunday school teacher.
That your sonorous beautiful angelic female Sunday school teacher that tick all your boxes.
Think about this; why is it that sister always sit beside you or have something to say after your brief contribution to the lesson?
9. Your friend: I know you know him from diapers but if you don’t marry your friend who are you trying to marry? Your enemy?
Now, beam your searchlight to that single friend of yours and you will see that everything you have been looking for in sòkòtò is inside the pocket of your sókótó.
Caveat; dear men, God helps you if she says no because that you are gonna lose both her and her friendship but who cares, you said. Men die once.
10. Gym: hit the gym, dude. You may meet him/her there.
You can meet your future partner here or start a friendship with fellow gymnasts which can lead to meeting your partner.
What if I don’t get a spouse? Well, you will get a great body by exercising
11. December retreats: Most congregations organized special Christmas programs in form of conventions, meetings, camping, and retreats, which normally concern all ages and gender cadres.
Winners chapel just finished the Shiloh program.
RCCG just concluded Holy Ghost Congress with let-go-a-fishing coming up on Christmas day.
Deeper Life Bible Church also has one week December retreat.
Nigerian Baptist Convention will be having Baptist Night of Wonders this Friday.
Apart from potentially praying for divine guidance concerning life and choice of spouse, someone’s daughter or son may collect your number and who knows?12. You may be curious as to where I met my wife. I met her under a mango tree at a particular prayer ground through a particular elder in the Lord.
I want you to add places 13, 14, and 15 in the comment section.
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20 Best and Inspiring Gifts for Pastors.
Welcome to another day of Blogmas themed LOVE OF CHRIST. Like always, I say; thank you for being here and engaging.

Today, I want us to talk about the most neglected set of people in the church – the pastors. Nobody seems to care about their welfare, their families, or their health because we guess they are superheroes. But they are not, Pastors are human like us with struggles, aspirations, yearnings and desires and they are worthy to be celebrated and appreciated.
Why should I appreciate my pastor? After all, his/her salaries are being paid? You should celebrate him/her because God said so. Why? See below:
Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially those who labour in the word and doctrine. For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox while it treads out the grain,” and, “The labourer is worthy of his wages.”
I Timothy 5:17-18 NKJVWho are the elders in your congregation? The first elder is your pastor(s). Why did God commanded it? Because they laboured over us in words and doctrine. The first honour is the salary, to double the honour, a gift won’t be a bad idea.
Another Bible verse to affirm God’s Word concerning your MoG.
If we have sown spiritual things for you, is it a great thing if we reap your material things? Even so the Lord has commanded that those who preach the gospel should live from the gospel.
I Corinthians 9:11, 14 NKJVCan you tell me how best and thoughtful to spread the love of Christ if not through gifts to our servants of God?
Having been cleared about gifts for our men of God, listed below are the best, inspiring, thoughtful, perfect, unique and gorgeous gifts for your pastors:
- Raw Food materials e.g., yam, rice, beans, garri, banana, plantain, etc
- Food basket to be delivered on Christmas day.
- A small envelope containing a small amount of money.
- Pay for pastorium cable TV for this Christmas time.
- Live chicken
- Six yards of Ankara
- A leather journal/jotter
- Bluetooth speaker
- Journal Bible
- Books
- Video presentation (Get creative with a video presentation. Record yourself and others saying thank you and offering words of encouragement)
- A box of Kulikuli (DM 08135446603 for Praise Curative Kulikuli)
- Headphones
- Personalized tie
- Customized t-shirt
- Smartwatch/ wristwatches
- Power bank
- Planners
- Travel bag
- Photo frame of the family
- Handwritten appreciation letter (typed one won’t be bad also)
These and many other fantastic gifts are what you can get for your pastor, kids or spouse for the love of Christ.
Finally, thank you for being here. I love you.

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Happy Thanksgiving Day.
I am using this moment to wish all my American friends and followers, a Happy Thanksgiving day.

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What is God’s will for your relationships.
We have been discussing God’s will since two Sunday ago. We defined God’s will as God’s law, mind, intentions, command and delight and doing God’s will means doing what pleases God.
In the second part, I discussed types of God’s will and said you can’t disobey nor obey God’s sovereignty will, the ones you can disobey are commanded wills and others but not without consequences.
Now, let’s talk about God’s intent and delight about your relationships. Be it friendships, marriage, courtship or whatsoever nomenclature you give it.
Firstly, God’s will is that you should enjoy your relationship. He doesn’t want you to endure it.
Dear friend, I pray that you may prosper in every way and be in good health physically just as you are spiritually.
3 John 1:2 HCSBLet your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth.
Proverbs 5:18 HCSBEnjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life, which has been given to you under the sun, all your fleeting days. For that is your portion in life and in your struggle under the sun.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSBFor more read Proverb 18:24, 17:17, 27:10
As he want you prosper physically. He wants you prosper relationally.
Secondly, God’s pleasure is that most of whom you relate to are Christians. Most especially in marriage.
…not staying away from our worship meetings, as some habitually do, but encouraging each other, and all the more as you see the day drawing near.
Hebrews 10:25 HCSBDo not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14 HCSBDo not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 HCSBFurthermore, He hates abusive relationships.
“If he hates and divorces his wife, ” says the Lord God of Israel, “he covers his garment with injustice,” says the Lord of Hosts. Therefore, watch yourselves carefully, and do not act treacherously.
Malachi 2:16 HCSBIn addition, God’s delight is that your relationships is a holy ones.
How happy is the man who does not follow the advice of the wicked or take the path of sinners or join a group of mockers!
Psalms 1:1 HCSBConclusively, this is not an exhaustive list but these pretty much cover all. I will like your voice in comment as to how to know and do God’s will.
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Types of God’s will.
I started this series with the definition of God’s will and what it means to do it. Click here to read it.
Now, today’s series is about types of God’s will and how we can key into it for both our spiritual and physical edification. Shall we proceed?
1. Sovereign Will of God.
This is God’s plan that is predestined or decreed in His eternal wisdom. This consists of what the Almighty has decided in His mind to do by His omnipotent power. No creature, whether man or angel can disobey, delay, or thwart this plan. Consciously or unconsciously, we are all playing a part in this plan.
For example, everything about Jesus Christ and the salvation of mankind was decreed before the creation of the earth and everyone – Mary, Joseph, Apostles, Judas, Romans, Herod, Pontus Pilate, etc involved in the play was playing his/her part.
What if Judas refused to betray Jesus? Seriously, if it’s not him, one of the 12 will. Why? It has been written.
Other examples are God’s choice and selection of the nation of Israel (Romans 11:1-2) and most of what was written in the books of Daniel and Revelations fall in this category.
To shock you, the ongoing Russian-Ukraine war, America’s moral decline, the COVID-19 pandemic, breathtaking scientific breakthroughs, etc., are all fulfilling a part in the sovereign will of God concerning the end time.
We can also put the natural laws like gravity, Earth’s rotation, and revolution, and the galaxies into this category for they all work according to the dictate of Almighty God.
Lastly about this, sometimes, God reveals some parts of his sovereign will to us. However, frequently, it remains a secret. God reveals to us only what he wants us to know.
2. Commanded Will of God.
This is also known as the moral will of God. This includes His laws and commandments like the ten commandments (Exodus 20) and many such divine guidelines where Yahweh told us how He wants us to act or not to act.
You can choose to obey or disobey this but there are consequences for any of the actions. (Deuteronomy 28, Isaiah 1:19-20).
3. The preferential will of God.
This is knowing the mind of God on something that is not explicitly stated as a sin. That is wanting to discern what ultimately pleases Him and of His utmost delight.
It means being on God’s perfect side or choosing Yahweh’s stand and as His children, our desire should be to do that which pleases God
For instance, God doesn’t want sinners to perish. It is His utmost delight that all come to repentance. Therefore, doing God’s will towards the sinner will be not to cancel such an individual as someone beyond the grace of God.
God loves the poor and wants them taken care of. Doing God’s will towards the poor will be taking care of them.
This is also called God’s will of disposition. For more on this, read the following verses; Romans 12:1; Colossians 1:10; 2 Corinthians 5:9; Ephesians 5:10, Matthew 18:14; 1 Timothy 2:3-4; 2 Peter 3:9; Ezekiel 18:32; 33:11.
4. The directive will of God.
This refers to the Holy Spirit’s personal and direct guidance in our lives through a dream, vision, prophecy, pastoral utterances, word of wisdom, or other means.
God may want you to do a particular job, married a specific person or not, go somewhere or not, etc and it does not violate any of the “wills” above or Scripture (in fact its validity must be subjected to scripture to prove whether it is the will of God or not).
For example, if you have a dream where you married a second wife as a married man, that is not God’s will because it negates His plan for marriage as explicitly stated in the Holy Bible. The “Macedonian call” (Acts 16:6-10), the guidance of Philip (Acts 8:26), and of Peter and Ananias (Acts 10:1-23) are examples.
5. The discerned will of God.
This is the type of will, we get by application of two or more Bible passages, especially on issues not specifically touched in the Bible.
The decision of who to marry, what city to live, what career to pursue, how many children to have, which school to attend, what kind of car to get, what kind of food, shoes, and clothes, and how much money to give to charity and more are not written in the Bible. We use Biblical principles to discern God’s will on it.
The first example is there is nowhere in the Bible where the name of your spouse is written down as in Mr. A of No 2, Oregon street TX USA must marry Miss. B from No 26, African way, Nigeria but if we applied various biblical instructions about Christian marriages and spouse selection, we can deduce whether they can marry themselves.
5. Expected will of God.
These are sets of laws of what God expects us as Christians to do for our benefit and safety.
God expects us to pray, fast, pay our tithes and offerings, be faithful to one spouse, be diligent and be hardworking plus many other good things
Conclusively let’s pray; Teach me to do your will, for you are my God” ( Psalm 143:10 ).
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What is God’s will and How to know and do it.
“May Your will be done.”
“Marry God’s will for your life to enjoy marriage.”
“I want to do Your Will, oh Lord!”
All these and many more are cliques and quotes in Christianity that have even made the phrase, God’s will, almost lost its import. Some have even micro-defined it to mean the right marriage.
…but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven.
Matthew 7:21 HCSBApart from the fact that God’s will is more than marrying rightly but having a good marriage is not a sign that you did God’s will. What will tell us whether you know His wills and do them is; do you marry a Christian and now even in marriage, whose wills, laws and pleasures are ruling your family? Unless both questions are in affirmation, you haven’t done God’s will.
Now, what is God’s will and what does it mean to do God’s will? Simply, God’s will is God’s words, laws, pleasures and commands and to do them is to do what pleases God.
“I appeal to you, therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:1–2.
I repeat, to do God’s will is to do what pleases God.
Teach me to do your will, for you are my God” ( Psalm 143:10 ).
It’s to do what makes God happy.
It’s doing what God is doing. What He has done or will do.
It is liking what He likes and disliking what He dislikes.
Doing what he commanded is doing God’s will.
It also means to believe in and trust in Him completely.
Lastly, God’s ultimate will is the advancement of his kingdom (Dan 2:44), his glorification (1 Cor 10:31), and the salvation and sanctification of his children through his son, Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:9).

