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  • Dear Christian Brother, abeg!!!

    Dear Christian Brother, abeg!!!

    Choosing with Conviction: A Christian Brother’s Honest Reflection on Courtship Standards

    Category: Christian Living / Courtship & Marriage / Faith & Values

    In today’s Christian circles, especially within African communities, relationship expectations have become a mix of conviction, culture, and confusion. Too often, men enter relationships with women they secretly hope to change, instead of choosing partners who already align with their values.

    This personal reflection highlights the need for clarity, honesty, and conviction in choosing a life partner—particularly for Christian brothers navigating courtship.

    A Personal Journey of Conviction

    When I wanted to marry, I determined in my heart that the woman for me would be from Ogbomoso, a Baptist who uses make-up (though my wife hardly uses it herself) and doesn’t see trousers as a mortal sin.

    And that was what I went for aside from other qualities.

    Now I didn’t see a non-Ogbomoso, non-Baptist, who doesn’t use make-up or wear trousers and asked her for marriage and asked her to be all that.

    Is my wife the only one who must meet those criteria? How can it be the only one, when there are thousands of ladies like that?

    This shows a key truth: there’s no need to compromise personal values or try to convert someone to fit your picture of an ideal spouse when there are plenty who already do.

    A Word to Christian Brothers

    I believe it is time for us, Christian brothers, to stop all this childish behaviour.

    You saw her wearing trousers.
    You know she uses make-up.
    You are very much informed that she wears jewellery.
    Abi you knew she doesn’t wear all these things.

    You are aware that her church permitted those things that your church called sin (things which are not sin but a matter of choice).

    You knew all these, despite a lot of ladies in your domain who fit your agenda, yet you went for a trouser and jewellery wearing sister, and you are pressuring and gaslighting an innocent sister.

    Some of you, are even using submission 😀😀 to gaslighting an innocent sister?

    Submission in marriage was never meant to be a tool for manipulation or spiritual abuse. We must move away from this unchristlike tendency.

    Choose from Conviction, Not Control

    There are always one or two things to compromise but let it be from the place of personal conviction.

    So, brother, wrap it up, there are plenty of ladies out there who fit your description of a wife.

    The time you will be using to discuss those things will be better used discussing better things.

    I hope you understand me. If you do share, like and comment your opinion on this?

    Bible References for Reflection

    • Amos 3:3 (KJV) – “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
    • Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) – “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
    • 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) – “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way…”
    • Romans 14:5 (NLT) – “Let each be fully convinced in their own mind.”
    • Colossians 3:19 (NIV) – “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

    Conclusion: Let Wisdom Lead

    This honest piece is a call to maturity, sincerity, and intentionality. It reminds us that relationships should not be mission fields, but unions of agreement and shared conviction. Christian brothers, if you desire certain values in a spouse, seek those values genuinely—don’t demand transformation from someone who never agreed to change.

    What are your thoughts on this? Share them in the comments below. Let’s grow in wisdom and love together.

  • God is Pro-life

    God is Pro-life

    Today is another day set aside to celebrate children.

    Guess what, as my father will say, we are all children. If you doubt me, ain’t you a child of God.

    And God is very delighted about His children both the ones adopted in this Kingdom through the blood of Jesus Christ and those He has given to us as caretaker, guidance, role model, light and as parents.

    He doesn’t want anyone to perish and as the sons and daughters of this court, we ought to also preserve the lives of the unborn, pre-terms, physically challenged, hyperactive, genius and the so-called dullards.

    We should stop killing them with our knives and brains in the abortion clinics.

    We should start killing them by affirming their gender confusion.

    We should stop killing them with our embarrassing policies.

    Let’s stop experimenting with their bodies.

    We should stop dashing their holes courtesy of our actions and inactions.

    Because Their God desires that they live so that they can fulfill their destinies.

    God is pro-life and I wish you happy children day to all of us.

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  • 7 Signs That Should Make You Pray That Your Courtship Should Not Lead to Marriage.

    7 Signs That Should Make You Pray That Your Courtship Should Not Lead to Marriage.

    Courtship is the dress rehearsal for your marriage, and how you do it will tell a lot about how your marital experiences will look.

    But the signs are always obvious right from courtship, and here are 7 of them;



    1. You spent time discussing submission in marriage. There is no week in your relationship that you don’t have that conversation.



    2. Over communication: any person who is ready to talk to you for 24 hours is a jobless and purposeless entity.



    Dear sister, don’t let any jobless man convince you that a man needs 24 hours of speaking and talking to prove love.



    3. Under communication: if all that you talked about in about two years of courtship is, ‘how are you’, ‘have you eaten’, ‘what is your favourite colour’, ‘who is your favourite musician, bla bla bla, every eke market. My brother, you have not started ooooo. You are still playing.



    4. If you have to prove it. If you have to pass a test. If you have to show the workings that you are the one, after she/he has agreed to be with you. Brethren, if e didn’t dey, e didn’t dey nani and two, true love will not whyne you.

    If you pass the test now, how many more are you going to do to qualify as a spouse, as a parent, as a daughter/son-in-law or even as a human being?



    5. You argue about anything and everything. You have never agreed on anything in your courtship life except an agreement to marry one another.

    If you disagree on anything and everything, how then do you plan to walk and work?



    6. The person is unattractive to you. Granted, everything created by God is good, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we shouldn’t choose by sight, but my dear,  marriage is so long and so personal to be doing it with someone that is repulsive to you.

    How do you plan on marrying someone whose physicality has never elicit a positive response from you saved hiss and dejection?

    If he is repulsive to you. Leaver her, there is a someone who thinks she/he has found his/her own Miss or Mr. World.

    7. If her/his  people hate you. Marriage is long, stressful and delicate than be doing it with unavoidable enemies, hatred, and suspicion.

    If they hate you, leave their son and daughter for them.

    May God deliver you from problematic courtship in Jesus name

  • What sacrifices have you made in life?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    Hmmmm!

    Three months to my wedding, I got a job far away from home. In fact, about 8 hours from home. Ogbomoso, Oyo State to Benin Edo State.

    Well, the job pays more than what I currently had then. Actually 3× of the then salary.

    If I stay in my current job, my then fiance turned wife now, monthly income is 3× mine and I have to man up.

    The problem has never been my wife earning more than I did but rather closing the income gap between us. So I took the job

    The job is a farm manager position in a remote village in Benin, Edo State. No network, no light, no road. So bad that if I have to communicate effectively with my fiance, without interruption, I will have to spend ₦1000 as transport fare to where there is good network. After the day work on farm that runs from 8am till 4pm.

    Besides, almost all the guys there smoke indian hemp.

    The first question I ask myself is; carrer-wise, did this make sense? How will I know of emerging trends in the market?

    Two, is this the type of environment, I want to raise my children? A community of Indian hemp smokers and unkempt hairs?

    Three, let’s say my fiance resigned from her job, what job have I secure for her or what money did I have to give her to start a business?

    If I said my wife should be at home, and I will be visiting monthly, it still doesn’t make economic sense. Why? Because, I will have to travel on Friday evening, all things being equal, I should get home by 11pm. By Saturday, I will sure visit my friends and parents and by Sunday afternoon, I am on way back in order to resume on month. The transport fee will cost me about ₦10,000 to and fro .

    I will have to drop home maintenance fee for my wife and will also eat at my workplace. After everything, what will be left will be ₦5000. Why this stress?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    After all these introspection, I discovered that the cons far outweigh the pros, a month to my wedding, I resigned and return to my former workplace which this saying in mind, let the worse that want to happen happened, God is on the throne.

    Praise God, the bad did not happen talk less of the worst and I joined my wife and both of us combined our little resources together and live happily after.

    Now, tell me what sacrifices have you made in your life?

  • 5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Nudes on Your Phone.

    5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Nudes on Your Phone.

    To start with, a reasonable person will never have his/her nudes or any other person’s, on their devices, let alone sending them to someone. Let alone that such a reasonable person is a Christian.

    Number one, no man who loves you will ask for nudes.


    Call him any names – husband, boyfriend, teacher, pastor, et cetera. No man who claims he loves you will demand such.

    If he wants to see your nakedness, let him go and pay your bride price and then come home to behold the real thing.

    Secondly, nothing is safe on your phone. It could be hacked, stolen, lost, or found in the hands of despicable ones. Imagine you, a so-called Queen or King, dancing nakedly in the market square. God forbids.

    Thirdly, some sins and mistakes have the potential to permanently destroy your destiny and God’s plan for your life. One of such is the subject matter. See, if you are NFA (No future ambition), you can register on OnlyFans and blow away your destiny, but if you know for sure you have something to offer your generation, don’t dare.

    Another reason is that the internet never forgets. The Internet never forgives. Why create shame and reproach for your generation?

    And lastly, Christians don’t have nudes on their phones.

    Christians don’t request nudes.

    Christians don’t send nudes.

    For we have been redeemed at a price,  so we have to glorify our bodies with Christ.

    Thanks for reading, and make sure you share, comment and like this.

  • Happy Resumption

    Happy Resumption

    Most States in Nigeria resumed academic work for Primary and Secondary Schools today, kick-starting the last lap of the 2024/25 academic session.

    This term is crucial because out of many things, this is the term will highest numbers of holidays, end of the session party, and the determinant of whether a student will move from the present class to the next higher one.

    With that in mind, I am enjoying all dear parents being supportive as always, not slothful in providing for your wards’ academic welfare

    Also not to make them angry so that they will not be psychologically disturbed.

    Lastly, I pray the kids are protected in Jesus’ name.

    No evils will befall them in Jesus name and knowledge, wisdom and understanding will be their portion in Jesus’ name.

    Once again, happy Resumption.

  • Witness 5: The Genealogies of Jesus

    My family tree goes like this, Samuel Adéyemí, the son of Joel Adetunji, the son of Samuel Adetutu, the son of David Adeleke, the son of Awodiwin…the son of Adam, the son of God. Between Adam and me, there are 11,150,372,599,265,311,570,767,859,136,324,180,752,990,207 fathers spanning 142 generations (I knew you didn’t read the numbers 😀😀😀).

    However, the Christmas story is filled with awe-inspiring moments, from angelic announcements to shepherds worshiping under starlit skies. But hidden within the pages of Scripture is a witness often overlooked: the genealogies of Jesus (Matthew 1:1-17; Luke 3:23-38).

    These lists of names might seem mundane at first glance, but they reveal God’s masterful plan woven through generations. The list isn’t just a showcase of saints; it includes flawed individuals like Rahab, a former prostitute, and King David, who sinned yet repented. Each name is a testament to God’s grace and His ability to use imperfect people for His perfect purpose. You are not  damaged beyond God using you.

    Matthew begins with these words: “The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham” (Matthew 1:1). This genealogy highlights Jesus’ connection to God’s covenant with Israel, showing how God kept His promise to bless all nations through Abraham’s lineage (Genesis 12:3). God’s promise is sacrosanct.

    Luke’s genealogy takes a broader view: “…the son of Enos, the son of Seth, the son of Adam, the son of God” (Luke 3:38). By tracing Jesus back to Adam, Luke emphasizes His role as the Savior of all humanity, reminding us that His mission extends beyond cultural and national boundaries. This is a proof whether on earth here on the heavens above, Jesus is Lord and Saviour.

    These genealogies serve as a profound witness to God’s faithfulness. Through centuries of waiting, wars, and exile, God’s promise remained unbroken. They also remind us that Christmas is about more than a single moment; it’s the culmination of a story that began long before Bethlehem.

    This yuletide, let’s pause to reflect on the rich heritage behind the manger. Jesus’ family tree is a story of redemption, hope, and divine promise—an eternal witness to the greatest story ever told.

    See you tomorrow

  • Witness 4 – The Creation.

    Welcome to day 5 of Annual Blogmas. The yearly hype for Christmas.

    The theme of the year is Witnesses of Christmas.

    Today’s witnesses are the creations namely the animals (donkeys and sheep) and the stars.

    …and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn. Luke 2:7 (NIV)

    The above statement was said by the angels to the shepherds in field tending their sheep and they are led to Jesus’ maternity ward – a manger – donkey resting place; what a befitting maternity ward for a prince!

    But the lesson for us there is one, we are without excuse. We can’t deny  hearing about the birth of Jesus. If we want, the sheep will testify against us.

    Two, we must humble ourselves under the mighty hand of Yahweh and in due He will lift us up. 

    The second creation that witness Jesus’ birth are the stars.

    …and asked, “Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star in the east and have come to worship him.” Mat 2:2 (NIV)

    The maggi followed the star to get to Jesus where they worshipped and give him gifts.

    The star surrounded itself to be PR for Christmas.

    Where the bleating and neighing of sheep and donkey can’t reached, the ray of star can.

    Are you available for Master’s uses?

    How many have you directed to Christ by your conducts, speech, dressing, and personal dealings with individual?

    See you tomorrow

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  • Witness 3 – Moses

    Witness 3 – Moses


    Moses, the greatest prophet of The Old Testament, not only led the Israelites through the Exodus but also, unknowingly, foretold the coming of Jesus Christ through the help of the Holy Spirit. In today’s post, we delve into the prophetic words of Moses and extract valuable lessons for our understanding of Christ’s birth.


    Hidden within the pages of the Pentateuch, Moses’ prophecy in Deuteronomy 18:15 sheds light on the arrival of a future Prophet: “The Lord your God will raise up for you a prophet like me from among you, from your brothers—it is to him you shall listen.”


    Furthermore, this prophecy takes on a profound meaning when we consider the parallels between Moses and Jesus. Both were chosen leaders, mediators of covenants, and brought messages from God. Moses foreshadowed the ultimate Prophet, Jesus Christ, whose birth fulfilled the promise of a divine Messenger

    Now these are some lessons:
    1. Divine Continuity:
    Moses’ prophecy underscores the continuity of God’s plan throughout history. That which God has started with you, He will not stop with but continue with your offsprings

    2. Promise Fulfilled in Christ:
    The fulfillment of Moses’ prophecy in the birth of Jesus emphasizes God’s faithfulness to His promises. It teaches us to trust in God’s timing and to recognize His hand working across generations.

    3. Jesus as the Ultimate Mediator:
    Both Moses and Jesus served as mediators between God and His people. Moses mediated the Old Covenant, while Jesus established the New Covenant through His birth, life, and sacrificial death.

    4. Listening to the Divine Message:
    Moses instructed the Israelites to listen to the future Prophet. As Christians, we are called to heed the teachings of Jesus, recognizing Him as the ultimate authority in matters of faith and salvation.

    5. Prophetic Harmony in Scripture:
    Moses’ prophecy highlights the harmonious nature of God’s revelation in the Bible. Exploring connections between Old Testament prophecies and their New Testament fulfillment deepens our understanding of God’s redemptive plan. That’s God can be wholly trusted to fulfill His words

    Finally as, Moses, a humble leader chosen by God, unknowingly unveiled a prophetic glimpse into the birth of Jesus Christ. We should remember that God did not forget you. At the right time, what He has promised, He will fulfill it.

    Thanks for reading, sharing, and commenting.

  • Witness 2 – Holy Spirit

    Witness 2 – Holy Spirit

    The story of the birth of Jesus Christ is a cornerstone of Christian faith, intricately woven with the divine presence of the Holy Spirit. As we reflect on this sacred event, there are profound lessons for Christians to draw inspiration from.

    1. Divine Intervention:

    The conception of Jesus was not a result of human endeavor alone, but a miraculous intervention by the Holy Spirit. This emphasizes the importance of surrendering to divine guidance in our lives, trusting that God’s plans surpass our understanding.

    Bible Verse: “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God.” – Luke 1:35

    2. Humility and Obedience:

    Mary’s humble acceptance of the angel Gabriel’s message showcases the virtue of humility and obedience. As Christians, we are called to emulate this spirit of submission to God’s will, even when it might seem beyond our comprehension.

    Bible Verse: “And Mary said, ‘Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.’” – Luke 1:38

    3. Embracing the Unexpected:

    Mary and Joseph faced unexpected circumstances, yet they embraced their roles in God’s plan. This teaches Christians to remain open to unexpected turns in life, trusting that God can use even the most challenging situations for His purpose.

    Bible Verse: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.” – Isaiah 55:8

    4. Guidance in Times of Uncertainty:

    The Holy Spirit guided Joseph in a dream, providing clarity in a time of uncertainty. This serves as a reminder for Christians to seek spiritual discernment and trust the guidance of the Holy Spirit during challenging moments in our own lives.

    Bible Verse: “But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, ‘Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.’” – Matthew 1:20

    5. Joyful Witness:

    The arrival of Jesus brought joy to the world. Christians are called to be witnesses of this joy, sharing the transformative power of Christ’s love with others and radiating positivity in a world that often yearns for hope.

    Bible Verse: “And the angel said to them, ‘Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.’” – Luke 2:10

    6. God With Us:

    The name “Emmanuel,” meaning “God with us,” encapsulates the essence of Christ’s birth. This truth remains a source of comfort for Christians, reminding us that God is present in every aspect of our lives, offering solace in times of joy and trials.

    Bible Verse: “Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel (which means, God with us).” – Matthew 1:23

    In conclusion, the story of the Holy Spirit’s role in the birth of Jesus Christ is a testament to the divine plan of redemption. As Christians, let us draw inspiration from the humility, obedience, and trust exemplified by Mary and Joseph, while keeping in mind the comforting words of scripture that guide our faith journey. May the lessons from this sacred narrative deepen our relationship with the Holy Spirit and inspire us to live out the teachings of Christ in our daily lives.

  • Witness 1 – YHWN.

    Witness 1 – YHWN.

    Good day. Welcome to the 2nd day of 2024 Blogmas. Come along with me for the next 24 days to see various persons and personalities who bear witness to the trueness of Christmas.

    The first witness is God Himself. The Yahweh ( YHWN). The I Am. The Holy One of Israel.

    Shortly after, Adam and Eve partook in the tree of knowledge of good and evil, and God is a just God pronounced His judgment on all disobedient parties, He declared that there will be Christmas later in the history of the world that will foreshadow the victory of mankind over the old serpent by saying:

    I will put hostility between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed. He will strike your head, and you will strike his heel.
    Genesis 3:15 HCSB

    Moreover, the testimony of the Almighty did not end there. He nonetheless declare later in the course of history that Christmas will happen by declaring openly that ‘…The virgin will conceive, have a son, and name him Immanuel.’
    (Isaiah 7:14 HCSB)

    Furthermore, Yahweh didn’t just promise Christmas. He fulfilled His promise in the pages of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Hallelujah!

    The lesson for us: even though you fumbled, fall into sin severally after multiple prayers of forgiveness or think you have over-sin beyond the mercy of God, the first Witness declares, you have no since beyond My grace to save, forgive, transform, rescue and declare holy.

    Secondly, none of God’s promise will go unfulfilled. None. He promises Christmas and He delivers. Whatsoever, Yahweh promises you and me, be rest assured that He will make it come to fruition.

    Put your trust in Him. He delivers.

    See you tomorrow for witness 2.

  • 2024 Blogmas ideas – The Witnesses of Christmas

    Welcome to another season of happiness and another hour of Blogmas.

    For those, who are just joining us, Blogmas is a word gotten from an abbreviation of two words; Blog and Christmas. It is a 25-days non-stop impactful article and video highlighting the importance of Christmas and how to do it responsibly as Christians.

    Moreover, this edition is the fourth. The first edition was titled Miracle So Extraordinary, The Love of Christ is the theme for the second edition, while the third edition was The Essence of Christmas.

    This fourth edition is titled The Witnesses of Christmas and it’s a special edition because it is Blogmas and Vlogmas edition.

    Thank you for staying tuned for day 1.

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