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  • Three Things You Must have before Marriage

    Three Things You Must have before Marriage

    Before I got serious with my wife, I make sure I had written approval from her two sisters and of course, her mum.

    Once they have suspicion about you concerning marriage to their child. Deaden the throught of that marital relationship with him/her else you will want to use productive day of your early marriage hoping for indoor frenemies to love you.
    The worst part of it, ọta ẹni kì odù ọya, meaning, even if you kill an elephant with a whisper, your enemy will say, nothing special in that.

    ‘ but the heart of the king is in God’s hand…’ I know but there are better things to pray about.

    Think about this.

    To be continued tomorrow

  • You Are Never Alone

    You Are Never Alone

    When we have our marriage within 3 months, the happenings during pregnancy, the signing at the hospital, the disagreements, the thrills and dramas, and many other paths, Mum Kyle-XY and I have passed through in our close to 3 years worthy marital journey, I thought ours was unique.

    As in nobody has taken this path before I read many have taken or are taking similar paths as us and I am very sure that some people are going to trek the same paths – of course, with plus and minus differences here and there.

    There are two lessons from this story, one is that there is no marital issue you have that someone has not had there is someone who has trod that path you are in now that God has helped to triumph.

    Think of any marital challenges. Is it in-laws wahala, courtship, purity challenge in Courtship, delayed birth, sickness, financial distress, death, etc., God has helped many couples to come out gloriously so stop gloating about your problem, and seek help.

    Two, if God has helped you in one marital department or the other, document and share your experiences.

    God bless you.

  • 13 WAYS A CHRISTIAN SISTER CAN ATTRACT CHRISTIAN BROTHER.

    13 WAYS A CHRISTIAN SISTER CAN ATTRACT CHRISTIAN BROTHER.


    Three things are beyong me… And the way of a man with a young woman. Proverbs 30:18 -19.


    – Do you want a GODLY, DECENT AND RESPONSIBLE man? You, yourself be godly, decent, responsible. Like attracts like and ant will go only where honey is. ( Matthew 6:2, Numbers 27:1-7).


    – Pray against time-wasters. Pray for anointing for godly attraction – some brothers did not need you, they may just want to add you to their list of ex’s. (Exodus 31: 6).


    – Dress decently, if you dress seductively, brothers may take you as prostitute and just anybody can ‘ask’ you out.


    – Be friendly to all, that brother is finding about you.
    – Know the WILL OF GOD personally. All sort of brothers will approaches you – matured and baby brothers alike. ( 1 Thessalonians 4:13a).


    – Don’t be swipe off your feet with ‘thou saith the Lord’, ‘the Lord says that you must be my wife’,’in my dream …’, money, speech eloquence. ( 1 Corinthians 2:1).


    – If you receive him first, and he seems slow in coming. First, send green signals like special respect than the brothers in the fellowship, support him etc, since men are attracted by sight and sometimes by sound.


    If he still don’t get, approach him and bare your mind. Some guys are extremely timid.



    – If he has not come, wait… maybe God is removing lies, bragging, fornication, drunkness from him or your man is preparing for your arrival.


    – Wooing/toasting is not a sin, if a brother comes. Thank him, don’t disrespect him. Say NO politely like ‘thank you for what you have said, but it is not possible because of so-so-so reasons and can we be friend. After that DEFINE AND SET LIMITS TO FRIENDSHIP.


    – Only give one of these answers YES or NO. Don’t sit on the fence because it belongs to the devil – mark cahill. (Matthew 5:37).


    – If you know that he is the favoured one (after prayerfully thinking about his manifesto). Please don’t delay your YES unnecessary. Give it between 3 days and a month.


    – Be, act, talk, cry, walk, eat infact do everything as a woman. (Genesis 2:23d).


    – Be beautiful, if you are not as beautiful as Racheal, be fine as Leah. Serah, Zipporah, Mary, Elizabeth were all beautiful and godly. ( Genesis 29 vs 17).

    Thanks for reading.

  • 9 DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEX IN MARRIAGE!!!!!

    9 DIFFERENT TYPES OF SEX IN MARRIAGE!!!!!

    If you single and not planning to marry soon. This post is not for you but if you are married or you are about to, then read on

    Sexual pleasures was designed by God to bond and cement the covenant relationship of marriage and here are various types of sex you can have in your marriage.



    1. RECONCILIATION SEX:- Sex is a most potent weapon for diluting and difusing misunderstanding in Marriage. If you don’t use SEX to settle some stubborn crisis, then you are missing out and not maximising it. In addition when you both settle a misunderstanding, the person at fault could initiate sex as a way to make up to the other who was on the receiving side of the conflict.



    2. HEALING SEX:- There are some sicknesses and diseases that are cured by good sex I mean very good sex. Healing sex is gentle, it is full of grace and elegance. You don’t rush it. You do it softly and it hits the bull’s eye. Please Husbands, don’t throw your weight on her if it’s for healing, let the bed carry your weight 100%.



    3. PUNISHMENT SEX:- When I counsel couples, at times I hear spouses say “Since he did that, I decided to punish him by depriving him of sex”, or “since she refused me, I decided not to touch her again”. That is as senseless as saying “since my child failed a Test, I punished him by withdrew him from school”. It’s foolishness. The wise thing to do is to give your spouse more sex as punishment rather than depriving him or her. When your husband or wife misbehaves, correct them using sex. That is the best punishment. Not slapping or fighting or public disgrace. Punishment sex is very hot. 😷



    4. MEMORABLE SEX:- This is a very special kind of sex that you organise and plan for. Every couple must be doing this once in a while. Honeymoons should be organised at least once in a quarter (once in 3 months). If you have means, do it once a month. You book a hotel for say 3-7 days and retreat to help build your marriage. A kind of Intimacy Retreat. You mustn’t go to hotel if you can’t afford it. Just send the kids somewhere and make it memorable. Light Candles around and on the blue or green bulb. Use good perfume and the Angels will bear you witness.



    5. QUICK SURPRISED SEX:- This is a sex that married couples should do often to build their love life. One “Quickie” is stronger than 100 Love Charms from India or oshogbo. A Quickie is that very fast sex that a couple does in ODD places or in ODD position. Usually one spouse surprises the other with it. You don’t take formal permission quickies. You just start it just like that. MARRIAGES WITHOUT QUICKIES HAVE QUICK PROBLEMS AND BREAK QUICK. Spouses who don’t believe in surprise sex are analogue and expired. Quickies can be done in the car. Drive her to a corner and pretend as if the car didn’t start. It can take place on kitchen sink or at the balcony or inside the swimming pool or in the garden.

    6. EXERCISE SEX:- This type should happen frequently especially in the mornings. God did it that the male organ wakes up in the morning erect to greet it’s Owner – the Wife. So as much as humanly possible, let every wife answer the morning greeting. God’s mercies are New Every Morning. Great is His Faithfulness. Mercy and Faithfulness are co-joined twins.



    7. ENCOURAGEMENT SEX:- You use this type of Sex to encourage your Spouse to do something or Not to do something. There are times he wants to do something that you think is not the best of decision, just come in the most seductive way and delay him. When he is exhausted after you have drilled him, speak softly and he will say “I didn’t know that was what you were saying before, now I understand you”.



    8. REWARD SEX:- This is the type that you reward your spouse for achieving something unique or for exceeding expectations. Reward Sex is not just one round but extended over a period of time. Reward Sex is an open check to do whatever he or she loves. It’s extra ordinary.



    9. PROCREATION SEX:- This is sex you do purely for pregnancy. When you need child, the best style is the one that gives the husband maximum penetration. Support your wife with pillow if you aren’t a longman. But you must make sure it is as wet as wetness can be. Sperm needs wetness to swim inside the womb. When he releases he must remain inside there for a few minutes. Don’t pull fast.

    I think I have helped some marriages by writing this.

    Copyright Acknowledgements: the list and explanations were by Mr. Daniel Dan.

  • Guiding Newlywed Siblings-In-Law (Husband’s Family): 5 Tips for a Prosperous Relationship

    Guiding Newlywed Siblings-In-Law (Husband’s Family): 5 Tips for a Prosperous Relationship

    One of the best things that could happen to a married individual is good in-laws and one of the worst, long-lasting, bitter wars are with in-laws but how can you as a sister or brother-in-law whose brother newly wed his heartthrob cultivate a prosperous, happy relationship with your sister-in-law? I have 5 guiding tips for you:

    1. Respect Your Sister-in-law: your brother’s wife is a human being like you and has likes and dislikes which must be respected.

    As the madam of her husband’s house, respects the laws of her new house. Even if you have been living in that house before her, now that she has become the wife of your brother, the mantle shifts to her biblically and legally.

    Respect her boundaries.

    If you are Yorùbá, never call your sister-in-law by her first name (unless she told you so), even if you are age mates. There are beautiful pet names you can call her until she had her firstborn

    2. Don’t visit them now: Couples at the very start of their marital journey need time to bond. They are two separate entities wanting to be one, therefore, visiting them in the first 6 months of the marriage is unreasonable.

    Call, chat, video call, or FaceTime them, if you want to hear their voice but don’t go and camp in the house of new couples

    Go that recommend one year the honeymoon is wise. It is for couples to bond.

    3. Don’t Ever Visit Impromptu: of course, your brother is not going to turn back but to show that you are a responsible sister/brother-in-law, whenever you want to visit, notify them of your intention.d

    Inform them, it’s for your own benefit.

    What if they are not around? Or you don’t want to be entertained properly?

    And two, don’t overstay your welcome.

    4. Don’t ask Intimate Questions: their sex life is not your concern. Why pregnancy has not materialized should never be asked.

    Do not asked questions about their private affairs except they jointly sought your opinion or advice on it.

    5. Don’t lie again and don’t gossip about your sister-in-law to your brother

    6. Offer Support: Be a source of support for your sister-in-law during both joyful and challenging times. Show genuine interest in their lives, celebrate their achievements, and lend a listening ear when needed.

    By implementing these tips, you can contribute to the growth and well-being of your extended family, creating a supportive and loving environment for everyone involved.

  • What is your middle name? Does it carry any special meaning/significance?

    ADÉTÚNJÍ

    My middle name is Adétúnjí. It’s a Yoruba name meaning, ‘the crown resurrects,’ and the significance is that it connotes ROYALTY.

    It carries the solfa tonic; Re, Mi, Mi, Mi .

    Thanks.

  • I pray for you

    Nabal was described as harsh and evil in his dealings while his wife Abigael was known as intelligent and beautiful.

    How the two ended up as husband and wife, Bible didn’t tell us.

    There are fervent Christians who crossed all the t’s and dotted all the i’s during courtship but one way or the other, thier marriages is just not working.

    To those in this category, I bring you this assurance; God will wade into your matter into your matter.

  • The day I was hit by a car.

    The day I was hit by a car.

    Throwback to that Thursday, two decades ago, when I was hit by a taxi, the same taxi that carried me, going for a prayer meeting.

    The incident occurred right in front of our church.

    The driver aghast and fearing that he had killed someone exclaimed when calmed down that this was a result of his wife’s utterance earlier on.

    They have fought and the wife swears that he won’t be able to account for that day’s earnings.

    The fulfillment of that found ‘fulfillment’ in me. However, I don’t think he was made to pay any treatment money.

    Mere coincidence? Maybe or maybe not but here is what I want you to derive from the incident; if you know you won’t marry right, don’t marry at all because the result of your decision to marry is not for you alone.

    Those who are not there when you are making the decision will partake of the consequences of that decision.

    Not only the wife you cheated on will bear the result, but your action may make people disdain marriage, your kids may become traumatized and they will be released into society, and emenity may start.

    Hitler was a product of a man and woman’s private decision, today the result is history. That decision killed millions, destroyed families, and is a national mourning moment for a country.

    Therefore think prayerfully about it and prayerfully select your spouse.

    Ire oooooooo.

  • Red Flags

    Red Flags

    Those red flags don’t come knocking on your door, they become a very red billboards living with you, eating with you, co-parenting with us, eating food with you, having sex with you, etc.



    Now ask yourself, can you live with the red flags for 30+ years and more?

    That is why you should let go of him/her if that behaviour of him/her very much irritates you now.

    The goal is not to marry a perfect spouse, the goal is to marry a red flag that is manageable, nor abusive and non life-threatening.

    May God helps you to discern well in Jesus name.

  • Inspire Inclusion

    Inspire Inclusion




    Dear friends and followers,



    On this International Women’s Day 2024, we come together to honor the remarkable women who shape our world, challenge norms, and lead with grace.

    Fiancé/Girlfriend/Wife: or whatsoever nomenclature you bears, you are fully appreciated for the love and the sacrifices.

    Women of God: thank you for answering the call of God

    Artists and Content Creators: Your palates echo stories of resilience, passion, and strength. Today, your artistry and pen which is your voices are acknowledged. 🎨

    Farmers and Growers: From tilling the soil to nurturing life, you cultivate more than crops. You sow seeds of hope, nourishment, and sustainability. 🌾

    Healthcare Heroines: To our nurses, doctors, and caregivers, your compassion heals hearts and mends bodies. Your dedication knows no bounds. Thank you for being the pillars of care and empathy. 💙

    Mothers: whether you are working mum or a stay-at-home mom, you are raising the next generation. God bless you.

    Leaders and Innovators: Whether in boardrooms or classrooms, you break barriers and shatter glass ceilings. Your brilliance shapes policies, industries, and minds. Keep leading, keep inspiring. 💡



    🌟 Call to Action🌟

    1. Amplify Voices: Share stories of women who inspire you. Tag them, celebrate their achievements, and let their light shine brighter.

    2. Educate and Elevate: give your girl child the best of education. Not because she is a woman but because she is a human.

    3. Support Women-Owned Businesses: From local artisans to entrepreneurs, let’s uplift women-led ventures. Shop consciously and invest in their dreams.

    4. Advocate for Inclusivity: Gender equity benefits everyone. Let’s challenge stereotypes, biases, and outdated norms.

    5. Donate and Volunteer: Support organizations working for women’s rights, education, and well-being. Every contribution matters.

    Remember, WOMEN ARE NOT AFTERTHOUGHT. Together, we create a world where every woman’s voice matters, where dreams know no bounds, and where love and respect prevail.

    Happy International Women’s Day! 🌟💜

  • 5 Tips When Visiting A New Parents.

    5 Tips When Visiting A New Parents.



    I have been wanting to get this off my chest two months ago, so let’s have it today.

    One, don’t ask them whether it is through CS or vaginal.

    It’s none of your business and what matters most is the mother and baby’s health.

    2. If you are not a grandparent, sibling, or (someone the family thinks is important), stay in the sitting room and offer your congratulations.

    Furthermore, don’t dare a comment on who the child looks like (if you are opportune to see the new baby). Who he/she resembles is none of your business. That should be left to the parents of the baby.

    Abi, how does who a baby resemble better your lot?

    In addition to that, don’t also comment on his/her physical look – beautiful, ugly, fat, or thin.

    Again, it’s not your headache.

    Number 5, don’t visit new parents empty-handed. Go with a gift.

    A baby clothes, ₦200 worth of detergent, ₦500 cash, stockfish, a cup of crayfish, etc.

    Sha go with something.

    Tip 6, if you are not asked, don’t offer any maternal advice.

    You are there to felicitate with them not to offer unsolicited advice.

    And lastly, call the new baby, by the name his/her parents gave him.


  • If You know You won’t Marry right, please don’t marry at all.

    If You know You won’t Marry right, please don’t marry at all.

    Today I want to beg and I am serious with this.

    ‭‭Brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you that of you won’t consult God for guidance on whom to marry, don’t marry.

    If you know you ain’t going to marry correct, leave marry alone. You have sin.

    Because as much as Marriage is a private decision but the results of that your single decision of whom to pray and how to do the marriage is very public and have effects on all of us.

    Your decision can bring generation blessings for many.

    It can lead to curses.

    Because of your decision, some may live and it can lead to premature death for some.

    Your decision affects the community, church, school and the country at large.

    Jails are being filled with kids from dysfunctional homes.

    Mental houses are filling up because we have people from unhappy homes.

    I urge you again, if you are not going to do Marriage the God’s way, leave it alone.

    And God bless you as you comply.

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