Throwback to that Thursday, two decades ago, when I was hit by a taxi, the same taxi that carried me, going for a prayer meeting.
The incident occurred right in front of our church.
The driver aghast and fearing that he had killed someone exclaimed when calmed down that this was a result of his wife’s utterance earlier on.
They have fought and the wife swears that he won’t be able to account for that day’s earnings.
The fulfillment of that found ‘fulfillment’ in me. However, I don’t think he was made to pay any treatment money.
Mere coincidence? Maybe or maybe not but here is what I want you to derive from the incident; if you know you won’t marry right, don’t marry at all because the result of your decision to marry is not for you alone.
Those who are not there when you are making the decision will partake of the consequences of that decision.
Not only the wife you cheated on will bear the result, but your action may make people disdain marriage, your kids may become traumatized and they will be released into society, and emenity may start.
Hitler was a product of a man and woman’s private decision, today the result is history. That decision killed millions, destroyed families, and is a national mourning moment for a country.
Therefore think prayerfully about it and prayerfully select your spouse.
Ire oooooooo.
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The day I was hit by a car.
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Red Flags
Those red flags don’t come knocking on your door, they become a very red billboards living with you, eating with you, co-parenting with us, eating food with you, having sex with you, etc.
Now ask yourself, can you live with the red flags for 30+ years and more?That is why you should let go of him/her if that behaviour of him/her very much irritates you now.
The goal is not to marry a perfect spouse, the goal is to marry a red flag that is manageable, nor abusive and non life-threatening.
May God helps you to discern well in Jesus name.
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Inspire Inclusion
Dear friends and followers,
On this International Women’s Day 2024, we come together to honor the remarkable women who shape our world, challenge norms, and lead with grace.FiancΓ©/Girlfriend/Wife: or whatsoever nomenclature you bears, you are fully appreciated for the love and the sacrifices.
Women of God: thank you for answering the call of God
Artists and Content Creators: Your palates echo stories of resilience, passion, and strength. Today, your artistry and pen which is your voices are acknowledged. π¨
Farmers and Growers: From tilling the soil to nurturing life, you cultivate more than crops. You sow seeds of hope, nourishment, and sustainability. πΎ
Healthcare Heroines: To our nurses, doctors, and caregivers, your compassion heals hearts and mends bodies. Your dedication knows no bounds. Thank you for being the pillars of care and empathy. π
Mothers: whether you are working mum or a stay-at-home mom, you are raising the next generation. God bless you.
Leaders and Innovators: Whether in boardrooms or classrooms, you break barriers and shatter glass ceilings. Your brilliance shapes policies, industries, and minds. Keep leading, keep inspiring. π‘
π Call to Actionπ
1. Amplify Voices: Share stories of women who inspire you. Tag them, celebrate their achievements, and let their light shine brighter.
2. Educate and Elevate: give your girl child the best of education. Not because she is a woman but because she is a human.
3. Support Women-Owned Businesses: From local artisans to entrepreneurs, let’s uplift women-led ventures. Shop consciously and invest in their dreams.
4. Advocate for Inclusivity: Gender equity benefits everyone. Let’s challenge stereotypes, biases, and outdated norms.
5. Donate and Volunteer: Support organizations working for women’s rights, education, and well-being. Every contribution matters.
Remember, WOMEN ARE NOT AFTERTHOUGHT. Together, we create a world where every woman’s voice matters, where dreams know no bounds, and where love and respect prevail.
Happy International Women’s Day! ππShare this:
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5 Tips When Visiting A New Parents.
I have been wanting to get this off my chest two months ago, so let’s have it today.
One, don’t ask them whether it is through CS or vaginal.
It’s none of your business and what matters most is the mother and baby’s health.
2. If you are not a grandparent, sibling, or (someone the family thinks is important), stay in the sitting room and offer your congratulations.
Furthermore, don’t dare a comment on who the child looks like (if you are opportune to see the new baby). Who he/she resembles is none of your business. That should be left to the parents of the baby.
Abi, how does who a baby resemble better your lot?
In addition to that, don’t also comment on his/her physical look – beautiful, ugly, fat, or thin.
Again, it’s not your headache.
Number 5, don’t visit new parents empty-handed. Go with a gift.
A baby clothes, β¦200 worth of detergent, β¦500 cash, stockfish, a cup of crayfish, etc.
Sha go with something.
Tip 6, if you are not asked, don’t offer any maternal advice.
You are there to felicitate with them not to offer unsolicited advice.
And lastly, call the new baby, by the name his/her parents gave him.Share this:
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If You know You won’t Marry right, please don’t marry at all.
Today I want to beg and I am serious with this.
ββBrothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you that of you won’t consult God for guidance on whom to marry, don’t marry.
If you know you ain’t going to marry correct, leave marry alone. You have sin.
Because as much as Marriage is a private decision but the results of that your single decision of whom to pray and how to do the marriage is very public and have effects on all of us.
Your decision can bring generation blessings for many.
It can lead to curses.
Because of your decision, some may live and it can lead to premature death for some.
Your decision affects the community, church, school and the country at large.
Jails are being filled with kids from dysfunctional homes.
Mental houses are filling up because we have people from unhappy homes.
I urge you again, if you are not going to do Marriage the God’s way, leave it alone.
And God bless you as you comply.
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I Am Sorry for saying this
Sorry that this quoted bible verses is not Marriage-centric but let’s derive something teachable.
Open your Bible with me to Acts 13:1-3
‘…Commission Barnabas and Saul for the mission I have called them to complete.’
That’s God calling Paul and Barnabas!
But
Here is Acts 15:39
“The disagreement escalated, until Paul and Barnabas went their separate ways. Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus,”
Hmmmm, same Paul and Barnabas!
The lesson here is that, that it’s God doesn’t mean there won’t be disagreement during our courting days or even in marriage.
In Courtship, at times, each of you will have to go your separate ways for the greater good of all.
It doesn’t mean God is not involved at the inception but you know we are still in our fallen state as human beings.
And because that happens doesn’t mean we must become enemies.
No! Paul and Barnabas were never enemies despite their ministerial disagreement.
In fact, the same Mark that cause the split was commended in one of Paul’s letters.
May God helps you to gain understanding into this mystery.
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God is Not at Fault.
Trust me for what you are about to read.
Courtship, Wedding and Marriage, according to the word of God are simple, light and very easy to do. We are the one that add complexities to it via our cultures, traditions, prejudices, experiences and whatnots.
Courtship is simply interviewing the man/woman for ‘job’ he/she is gunning for. Who add premarital sex to it? Who added talking stage? Public proposal nkα»?
Wedding is simply a public declaration that so so so and so should start living together as husband and wife with the full knowledge of their parents.
Who added various donts and does to it? Who added debts? Who added competitions to it?
Marriage is simply husband loves your wife as Christ loves the church… wives likewise should submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.
Only God knows layers upon layers of humanly chocking complexities we have added to those simple requirements.
Lastly, for your Courtship, go to the Bible, you will find in it how to do it without sinning or wasting your time and someone’s pikin’s time.
Go to the Bible for your wedding and let the Word of God be the ultimate manual and guide for your marriage.
I can bet it with you doing so will benefit your relationship and take it from the realm of human opinions.
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You are on the right course!
One of the popular biblical verses concerning relationships is found in Malachi 3:3
‘Can two walk except they agreed’
And that is how it should be. Your spouse should agree with you in most matters of life, especially in these three areas
- Parenting
- Doctrinal beliefs and
- Money matters
But since who you are going to marry is a full human being who grows up in a completely different environment from your minor disagreement, especially on things temporal is allowed and is not an indicator of incompatibility.
For example, I am a football/soccer fan, precisely a Chelsea supporter, whereas my wife is completely indifferent to football.
A Republican and a Democrat.
A fashionista lady and merry-go-round guy
Etc.
Your spouse is allowed to have his/her personal opinions and preferences and you should thank Providence for giving you another human being as a partner and not a robot.
Isn’t that amazing that you will be going live with another fearful and wonderful creature like you?
If yes, share this!
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Brothers, you will learn but I hope you didn’t learn the hard way
Dear brothers, ask any married guy out there if any of these things you are about to read are lies.
I can take a chance with you that two years into Marriage, you will be less concerned about whether your wife is plus or minus size.
Height won’t even trickle you when she is in labour.
A doctor’s report on hand, the shape of her backside you won’t relate to
Whether she is most beautiful woman or not, will be of no real importance to me.
So many things you think count now do not even weigh a nanogram in the grand scheme of marriage.
None of them can even pay a kobo of the many bills in the house.
That’s why you should go for character.
Go for partnership.
Go for someone who can truly meet your help.
I call factually tell you that physical specs are not a sin but never put them above godliness.
May God help you to choose right in Jesus’ name
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What advice would you give to your teenage about Marriage 2
Yesterday, I said I will give tennage to read about marriage now even though the union is the next 5, 10 or 15 years for many.
I am not leaving them in the loop. The link below πππ takes you to where you can download free ebooks that will benefit your live for many to come.
You can get such titles like, The Tearless Courtship, God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin, Meet and Marry and many more.
Also stay tuned to this site for many Christian contents on Courtship that’s both fun and purely normal for Christians.
Remember to download for your teen kids, students, cousins and friends.
I love you!!!
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What advice would you give to your teenage about Marriage
Number one, there are people who are keeping the sexual purity ideal up in this 21st century. Don’t let sinners’ voice mislead you contrawise.
Number two, God’s commands is still No sex before Marriage and I am 100% saying this, you can’t regret ever keeping yourself till you are rightfully married.
Furthermore, start praying now. Don’t wait until you are about to settle down before praying about your future home.
Pray for your future spouse, kids, in-laws, friends, neighbours, anything and everything that have to do with marriage.
Fourthly, believe that Godly, lovely and enjoyable Marriage is very much around and you can have one.
Lastly, invest in Godly books, conferences, seminars to prepare yourself for the actual day.
Until then, keep enjoying your teenage with love.
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Dear Sister, Brothers don’t know and don’t care about how you look
Dear sisters, let’s have a tete-a-tete.
You see, if you ask any brother, his spec in a future wife, if he will not cloth his answer in the garb of spirituality, will go like this;
‘ I love my wife to wear wigs’
‘I will always admire my wife in adimola, adiehin, koloba, weaving, etc’
And many more fantastic things like that.
But the first trust, 95% don’t even know the difference between wigs nor do we even care about any names of many native hairstyles.
Two, if they are probed further, you will discover that most just want to marry a godly sister. In the long run, the sizes of a bum, breasts, shapes, wigs, and hairstyles don’t matter.
Therefore, invest more in what amounts to something than what will not count much in marriage.
Invest more in Christian books, seminars, and conferences than wigs.
Invest in developing a godly character rather than having a big backside
Invest more in being truly a helpmeet to the one than being the most endowed.
The latters are profitable but they profiteth little but the formers profiteth much in marriage.
To your blissful Marriage, cheerπ₯π₯π₯
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