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  • 11 KEYS FOR A GREAT DATE.

    11 KEYS FOR A GREAT DATE.

    To begin with, what’s a date? A date is an appointment to meet someone or go out with them, especially someone with whom you are having, or may soon have, a romantic relationship.

    As a Christian, it should be clear enough to you that you should be having, or may soon have a romantic relationship with only a Christian.

    Two, since a romantic date is usually male-initiated, this write-up may be focused majorly on ladies but the tips are still much applicable for guys.

    Now these are the tips:

    • Let your date venue be open, non-solitary and well-lighted. The chosen place should be a place that is comfortable for both of you and temptation-free.
    • A date is for discussion and dinning. The former before the latter.
    • Dress smartly and not seductively.
    • That moment is not a moment to relay your date with what ex you did, house rent, family problems, work-related issues, etc. All those can wait.
    • A date is between two adults. Therefore, don’t go with a friend.
    • On the date table, avoid controversial topics like politics except you both mutually agreed to.
    • Keep your phone in your purse/pocket. Let your date have your whole attention for that moment.
    • I believe the initiator of the date should be the one to finance it. However, you are an adult, please add your widow’s mite.
    • You too [as a lady] can initiate a date.
    • Note that a date invite is not a moment to act like a hungry, ferocious lion. Therefore, eat from home, if you always fell hungry.
    • Don’t pressure your partner. Rather make him/her comfortable
    • If it is someone you are already in Courtship with, please do it periodically. It is a good avenue to create and strengthen friendliness.
    • After the date, send a thank-you message expressing your appreciation for their company.

    In conclusion, buy my new book, SINGLE BUT NOT SEARCHING FOR LOVE, here to determine whether you are mature enough to have a date, court that person and remember following these tips can help ensure your date goes smoothly and leaves a positive impression.

    Enjoy your time together!

  • NAVIGATING COURTSHIP: Lessons from a Soccer Match

    NAVIGATING COURTSHIP: Lessons from a Soccer Match


    Courtship, much like a soccer match, requires strategy, teamwork, and perseverance. The image of a dramatic moment on the soccer field offers a rich metaphor for the dynamics involved in courtship and dating, especially from a Christian perspective. Here are a few lessons we can draw from this picture to guide us in our relationships:



    1. TEAMWORK AND SUPPORT

    In the image, we see players working together to defend their goal. This is akin to the collaborative effort required in courtship. Both partners need to support each other, communicate effectively, and work towards common goals. Just as soccer players rely on their teammates, individuals in a relationship should rely on their partners for emotional and spiritual support.

    2. RESILIENCE IN ADVERSITY

    The goalkeeper and defenders are clearly in a high-pressure situation, trying to prevent a goal. This mirrors the challenges and trials that couples face in courtship. There will be moments of difficulty and setbacks, but resilience and determination are crucial. Like the players on the field, couples must stay focused and work through obstacles together, trusting in God’s plan and timing.

    3. HONEST COMMUNICATION

    Effective communication is essential in both soccer and courtship. The players must communicate to coordinate their defense. Similarly, in a relationship, honest and open communication helps to build trust and understanding. Sharing past experiences and expectations with transparency can strengthen the bond between partners and ensure they are on the same page.



    4. PATIENCE AND TIMING

    Just as players wait for the right moment to make a move, patience is vital in courtship. Rushing into decisions or forcing progress can lead to mistakes and misunderstandings. It’s important to wait for God’s timing and allow the relationship to develop naturally. Patience allows for deeper connection and understanding, leading to a more solid foundation for the future.



    5. ACKNOWLEDGING HUMAN IMPERFECTIONS

    In the heat of the game, mistakes are inevitable. The image captures players in a moment of action, possibly making errors. In courtship, it’s essential to recognize that both partners are human and will have flaws and imperfections. Embracing these imperfections with grace and forgiveness fosters a healthy and realistic relationship.



    CONCLUSION

    Courtship, like a soccer match, is filled with dynamic moments that require cooperation, resilience, communication, patience, and acceptance of human flaws. By applying these principles, couples can navigate the complexities of relationships with faith and confidence, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling partnership.

  • MAYBE BABATUNDE IS REAL!!!

    MAYBE BABATUNDE IS REAL!!!

    In the olden day, when an old man died in Yoruba and not quite long after, his son gave birth to a boy, such boy will be called Babatunde, meaning father has come back again.

    That’s by the way, three months after birth, we can’t place who Kyle-XY resembles but after, all of a sudden, he started resembling my younger brother, especially hair-wise.

    But recently, as he is nearing a milestone, I discovered a keen striking resemblance with my paternal grandfather (his great-grandpa) who has been dead for more than 50 years now.

    Also, there is no behaviour, my darling son has displayed that I can’t trace to my nuclear family, particularly my younger brother.

    What I am saying, look at your current partner ( and his family) or even you, that is how your son/daughter will look like because Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Like mother like daughter.

    Now, ask yourself, if my son takes after me, I mine complete or completely finished.

    Think on this.

  • So loooong a time! Embracing the Journey Together Once More


    Dear Beloved Readers,

    It’s been a while since I last shared with you on this beautiful journey of Christian courtship, and I’ve missed you all dearly.

    Life has a way of taking us on unexpected detours, and during this time found myself in a season of reflection, growth, and renewal. Today, I return to you with a heart brimming with gratitude, longing, and a renewed commitment to our shared path.

    These past months have been a time of deep soul-searching and prayer. I felt the weight of silence and the pang of distance from this community that meant a bunch to me. Each day away made me more aware of the importance of the bonds we’ve formed here, and the encouragement and inspiration we draw from one another. I’ve missed our conversations, your insights, and the unique ways we interact with each other in our pursuit of God-centered relationships.

    In this period of quiet, there were moments of doubt and weariness, but also times of profound clarity and peace. Through it all, I’ve been reminded of the beauty of our shared journey – a journey that is not just about finding the right person, but about becoming the person God has called us to be.

    I return now, eager to reconnect and dive deeper into the topics that matter most to us. Together, we will explore the joys and challenges of courtship, the wisdom of Scripture, and the testimonies of those who have walked this path before us. I believe that God has placed a renewed purpose in my heart to share.

    Thanks for always sharing, liking and subscribing.

  • Why Your Mother-in-law hates you

    Why Your Mother-in-law hates you

    One of the intense battle I will always advised Singles to avoid by all means, is in-laws battle and hatred and my advice had always been, ‘if they don’t like you, don’t marry their son/daughter.’

    I know you can prayed them for a change of heart but I date you to say, free your time to pray on better things in marriage.

    But what could really be the problem, you mother-in-law hates you?

    You may have incurred your mother-in-law hatred because of the following:

    You have what she didn’t have when you married. You see, human beings generally hate the good things they don’t have.

    The amount of love, care and affection their son is giving you which she didn’t receive from your father-in-law when she too was your age, and marital status may be reason she didn’t vibe to you.

    She may be demonically possession especially if she is an unbeliever and you are a believer. Believe it or not, demonic possession is real and unbelievers are devil and minions, abode.

    You being a Christian and with the virtues attached will naturally repel an unbeliever’s way of life and thinking.

    You didn’t hate them but according to what Peter said in his epistle that, they are amazed that you didn’t join them in their ungodly behaviours, now instead of them to praise you, they slander you.

    Thirdly, you are the cause. We are in the era where intending spouse have already hated their mother-in-law, when they have even have a suitor yet. More like an in-built hate.

    Some of you were shown love, care and respect when you meet her but because of what popular media have told you about in-laws or because of what your own mom experienced with hers. You locked up from receiving love.

  • 4 Things That Are Not Needed For A Happy Home.

    4 Things That Are Not Needed For A Happy Home.

    When Grey and Tacha were courting. As a lover-in-arm, they used to imagine many beautiful things and scenarios.

    A perfect, never annoying partner!

    Breakfast in bed!

    Cute kids!

    Annual vacation in Hawaii!

    24/7 romance, catch-up, love SMSes

    Infact, their courtship is one of it kind and the love, the care and the attention, are both mutual and obvious, to all and sundry.

    Theirs was a perfect man and woman planning, strategizing, praying and hoping for a perfect ‘happily lived after’ experiences in marriage.

    Who wouldn’t want a good thing? But their imagination soon turned into realities two weeks in marriage when Grey shouted at Tacha.

    Pardon me for a little digress but most singles nowadays is majoring and planning on things that aren’t needed for a happy and bliss home.

    Permit me to say, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT SPOUSE TO HAVE A HAPPY HOME. Number one, we are all faulty. By nature, no one is perfect. Therefore, your search will be long and 99.99% fruitless but perhaps, you mistakenly find one, trust me you don’t need to marry such one for you to have a blissful union and you won’t ever have one with him/her.

    Your sure ticket to a godly home is still with an imperfect human being.

    Caveat; imperfection doesn’t mean you should roll up with the ungodly and unbelievers.

    Two, YOU DON’T NEED A PERFECT WEEDING.

    Elaborate wedding parties, floral flower girls, exquisite men in suit, live music band, ambient lighting and hall, etc are all good but with or without all of these, your marriage can still be great, funny and Godly.

    Therefore, prepare for marriage than for wedding and LOVE IN ACTION – 31 PRINCIPLES FOR COURTSHIP AND BEYOND and THE TEARLESS COURTSHIP were written to prepare you for a glorious, easy and happy marital journey, post wedding.

    Furthermore, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME TO MARRY. You will always have one excuse or the other not to marry.

    Gas prices will always go up. Mortgage will not down. Cost of living will always appreciate and people in capitol don’t allow bothered.

    Time will never be prim and proper for you to marry but once the timing is right and the necessary things have fallen into the right places. Go and marry*

    And lastly, YOU DON’T NEED STRONG PENIS AND TIGHT VAGINA for a happy home.

    Many aspiring couples think sexual enjoyment in marriage is by how long the instruments for it is. What you need for a joyous sexual experiences in marriage is someone with a healthy and faithful private parts.

    An active penis or a tight vagina without the fear of God attached to it, will make you cry, if it didn’t give you STDs.

    Thank you for reading. Comment, share and like.

    *I’m a staunch supporter of early marriage

  • Good Courting Should be a norm.

    During the cashless wahala in Nigeria, everyone was opening Opay, Palmpay, etc., left and right.

    Yours dearly didn’t even open one. I just keep faith with my GTB and Zenith Banks and their radarada services.

    I was enduring them, believing that they would change.

    Hoping that they will change.

    Believing that those online banks are good because they don’t have customers like the traditional ones. How deceived I was!

    But I got fed up one day after the cashless crunch had subsided and registered with one of these online banks.

    See me now enjoying seamless transfers without hidden charges with a very easy-to-use app.

    So this is what I have missing since

    And that is the reason some ladies find peaceful and loving Courtship boring.

    Because they have been so used to fighting, cheating, side-chicking, and unfaithfulness in relationships peaceful and loving ones seem strange and impossible in their eyes.

    At times, some of them will leave those giving them positive vibes because their thinking has been so bastardized and manipulated to only process, accept, and believe that a godly relationship is impossible.

    They have grown up with ‘all men cheat,’ that when they ‘mistakenly’ date a faithful man, such one looks like an angel.

    They are so used to beating and shouting that a fiance who doesn’t engage in such vice is fake

    If you are one of those ladies, you are deliver and set free in Jesus’ name.

    #dadkylexy #christiancourtshipisnotboring

  • What I learned At the Hospital During Easter

    What I learned At the Hospital During Easter

    Love In Colour was supposed to launch in Easter Monday but right on Resurrection Sunday, I was hospitalized hence the postponement.

    Right beside the bed wherein I was lied is a married man attended to, by his elder daughter (probably gotten two daughters).

    This daughter stays with her father while her mother runs errands.

    If you see  the ways and manners both the daughter and wife were taking care of this man, you will love good marriage.

    Because it’s very obvious the man was a good jolly, family-oriented man.

    None is been forced to do anything.

    With them, you will love good marriage.

    Brother, if you see happy home, you will feel it.

    You will be desirous of one.

    You will pray for it and you will work for it.

    That is why Love In Action- 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond was written to provide you with practical principles for wholesome courtship experiences, seasoned and garnished with time-tested principles, that will make your courtship fun-filled and godly while preparing you for the happy beyond – Marriage.

    The book is available for download on Selar and Amazon marketplace

  • My eBooks

    My eBooks

    By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.

    • The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
    • God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
    • Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
    • Meet And Marry+
    • 500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
    • A-Z of Content Creation*

    You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace

    I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.

    Thanks.

    *free ebook. +available on pre-order

  • Help, Marriage is under attack!

    Help, Marriage is under attack!

    Sir Samuel O. Ajayi Ajayi wrote:

    This may rankle some people, but I don’t care.

    But the way some of  us ‘celebrate’ single motherhood and/or fatherhood, in about 20-25 years time, the coming generation will think you don’t have to get married to have kids.

    Many of the present generation even married; which did not work out. The coming one will not even bother to waste their time getting married.

    Just open up for one dude, get pregnant and give birth. A couple of years after, go back to same dude (OR ANOTHER GUY) open up for him, have another child and then lock up.

    And in the case of the guy, get one or two pregnant, confirm responsibility for the pregnancies but don’t marry them.

    As the kids grow, be doing part-time responsibility like paying school fees and then leave the rest to the mother.

    Any other stuff like feeding, clothing, medical attention and above all, FATHERLY PARENTAL GUIDANCE are none of your business.

    Now, we are raising a generation who believe that is normal rather than the abberation that it is…

  • How do you use social media?

    How do you use social media?

    Social media is such an interesting place for information dissemination, educative contents and entertainment.

    It could be a good place and I used my space for sharing the good news about Christian Courtship and happy homes.

    You can follow me on my social media handles via

    Facebook: Alade Joel

    YouTube: Christian Courtship TV

    Tik-tok:  Christian Courtship TV

    Selar ( for downloading and buying of Christian Courtship/relationship eBooks): Alade Joel

    Make sure you follow, like and subscribe on all platforms.

    I love you all.

  • Something About You Should Screened Them out

    Something About You Should Screened Them out

    This is a very short one and I want you to take it seriously concerning your marital choice.

    Dear sister, if you have many suitors, that means your value system is so cheap and porous.

    There should be something about you that should naturally screened out many brothers.

    Brother, the only reason why every sister is dateable is because you have no value, no purpose and you are of easy virtue.

    Because if you have one,  only a few sister will even catch your fancy and only a very few will be dateable talk less of marriage-able.

    My sister, I am saying this to you, if unbelievers find you marriage-worthy, then your spiritual life needs a check-up.

    And as a brother if unbeliever look marriage-able to you, you should check whether you have been truly born again.

    There must be something about you, your Christianity and approach to relationships that should naturally and effortlessly mark out unbelievers.

    In conclusion, are you born again? Do you have a strong value system? Are you a person of integrity? Think about this.

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