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  • 7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.

    7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.


    To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.

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    I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.


    In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.


    Now deal with heartbreak like these:


    1.CRY.

    Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.


    2. THANK GOD.

    It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.

    Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’


    3. FORGIVE AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP OF RECONCILIATION.

    Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.

    Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.


    You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.


    4. GO OUT.

    After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.

    Stop pity party.

    Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.

    Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.


    5. LOVE AGAIN.

    There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’ 

    It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.


    6. DON’T PUNISH OTHERS.

    It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.

    It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.


    You were swindled by one man not all.

    So let’s be guided.

    7. GUARD YOUR HEART. 

    Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.

    MAY YOU HEAL.

  • 6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    Valentine is in few days!

    A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.

    Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:

    1. Take yourself to a nice place

    Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.

    You might even meet your future val during your outings.

    2. Log out of all social media apps.

    Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩‍❤️‍👩👩‍❤️‍👩

    Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.

    3. Go out with your single friends

    You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.

    There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.

    4. Exchange gifts with someone who meant something for you.

    Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.

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    Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.

    And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?

    5. Pretend like it is just like every other day.

    July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.

    Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.

    Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.

    February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.

    6. Get yourself a partner.

    Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.

    But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.

    It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.

    7. Prepare.

    I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.

    From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.

    During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:

    • A – Z of Content Creation ( to celebrate 3 years of blogging).
    • A Tearless Courtship.
    • Paths to Sexual purity.

    Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.

    Happy Val in advance. I love you.

  • How to fight for your Marriage.

    This article is from YouVersion 7 secrets to an awesome Marriage plan, day 9 under the title No Coasting.

    The apostle Paul hits the nail on the head for us as we wrap up this nine day study. He says in Galatians 6:9, “Let us not weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” In lay terms, hang in there, never give up, and your marriage will thrive. Look at it this way.

    Let’s compare marriage to a long distance race. The truth is that most of us did not prepare well for the race. We just jumped in and someone said go and we went. We did not train. We did not change our habits or behaviors. We just ran. So it is not surprising that not too far into the race some of us were ready to bail out. Others seemed to be hanging in, but they were really struggling. It comes down to this.

    Everyone in the race needs hope. Hope that they can make it the distance. Hope that there are a whole lot of water stations along the route that refresh and energize them. Hope that their spouse is running side by side with them. Hope that their spouse is in it with them to the end. Hope in the truth that they are not running the race alone – God runs with them.

    My prayer for you is that you have an Awesome Marriage. I often say that marriage is not rocket science. The 7 “Secrets” are not difficult. It is living them out day after day that can be difficult. I encourage you to persevere, because one day you will say it was worth it. One day as you look back you can see how far God brought you.

    I wish I could tell you that Nancy and I have always had an Awesome Marriage, but I can’t. We have had some really rough times, and once were at the edge of divorce. In many ways, I am thankful that our marriage took the turns that it did, because otherwise I do not think we would have learned all that God wanted us to learn. Today our marriage is awesome. Here is your final takeaway: No matter where your marriage is today, God can make it awesome. All you have to do is turn it over to Him and walk faithfully each day in the path He sets before you. Take these 7 “Secrets” and let Him change them into steps that will build a marriage that you both will cherish and the world will look at and say, “What is their secret. They have such an awesome marriage.”� Then you can tell them all that God has done.

    Prayer:  Ask God to encourage and guide you as you work with Him to turn the “secrets” into steps.

    Resource: Are you ready to really LEVEL UP your marriage? Get marriage inspiration from me every week that is easy to digest and impactful to your marriage. When you sign up for Marriage Multiplier each week you’ll receive an email from me that will include 4 simple things: 1 Idea from me, 1 Marriage Challenge for you to complete that week, 1 Marriage Resource to highlight, 1 Marriage Question to strengthen your marriage. You can learn more and sign up here. Also be sure to follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. I would love to connect with you!

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