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  • How to Treat you enemy.

    How to Treat you enemy.

    A large number of prayers are being devoted to killing enemies in African churches and you could wonder as to how much resources we earmarked for the destruction of another human being.

    Before we proceed, let established four points.

    1. You don’t have a human enemy.

    Devil is your enemy, influencing unregenerated human beings to hate you. I said unregenerated because you can’t be a Christian and hate someone. Therefore, leave your fellow human beings alone and face Satan.

    Are you going to pray for Satan to die? No! Doing so is wasting precious time and saliva because Satan is a spirit (and spirit doesn’t die). What you should do to Satan is to resist him. After resisting him, stand firm.

    So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you.
    James 4:7
     Therefore put on God's complete armor, that you may be able to resist and stand your ground on the evil day [of danger], and, having done all [the crisis demands], to stand [firmly in your place].
    Ephesians 6:13.

    2. You will have an enemy.

    There is no how, all the people will like you because you are not ice cream. Even if you are ice cream, some people will just hate you for no reason. Some will hate you for a reason. Even God have enemies and who are the enemies of God, if not the wicked?

    Infact, some people can become your enemy because you are looking for their uplifting and betterment? Human hearts are so deceptive.

    3. Do not be somebody’s enemy.

    People will hate you but you don’t have to pay hate with hate.

    I bet it with you that some people want you to hate them consciously and unconsciously, in words and in deeds. Still don’t hate them.

    Why shouldn’t you hate? One, there is no hatred with God. Even when some people rejected His eternal plan of salvation, still He loves them. Two, since you are God’s ambassador here, it is demanded of you to behave like Him.

    4. God expect you to treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and in the manners He treated His own enemies.

    How then do you treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and how did God treat His enemies? Thanks to God for not leaving us unguided about dealing with enemies.

    Deal with your enemy thus:

    1. Love for your enemy.

    This command is directly from our Lord Jesus Christ

    You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy; But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
    Matthew 5:43 - 44.

    2. Pray for your enemy.

    You don’t only love him/her, you are also expected to love. One God is love and you are His image and Bible enjoins us to bless and curse not.

    3. Feed your enemy.

    Give the person that hates you food, give him clothes and find a way for your hater to sleep (not under the same roof though).

    God feed His own enemies by providing food, sunlight and rain for them and doing so mean you are aiming for God’s reward and be GODLY.

     If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For in doing so, you will heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord will reward you.

    Proverbs 25:21
     

    To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes the rain fall upon the upright and the wrongdoers [alike]. For he causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that?
    Matthew 5:45 - 47.

    4. Don’t allow his/her property to ruin if you have the power to prevent the decline.

    If you meet your enemy's ox or his donkey going astray, you shall surely bring it back to him again. If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying [helpless] under his load, you shall refrain from leaving the man to cope with it alone; you shall help him to release the animal. 
    Exodus 23:4 - 5.

    What the passages mean is that

    • If you see a link that can benefit haters, share it.
    • If your enemy’s child comes for your help, render it.
    • If you see danger ahead, notify him/her .
    • Etc.

    This is an instruction, not a suggestion.

    5. Rejoice not about enemy’s downfall

    Why? Because Yahweh hates it.

     Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles or is overthrown, lest the Lord see it and it be evil in His eyes and displease Him, and He turn away His wrath from him [to expend it upon you, the worse offender].  Proverbs 24:18 - 19.

    Will it be easy doing all these un-human acts (un-human because a natural man is revenge-certified)? It won’t but doing so means obeying God and that comes with a whole loads of benefits.

    Why should you do it? Do it because in the God’s kingdom, we repay good with evils, bless and don’t curse.

    May God gives us the strength to do as He does in Jesus mighty name.

  • HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    It is becoming ever-increasingly difficult nowadays to live a sexually pure life in this sexually crazed and saturated world. A world that has sexualized everything from music to a common 100 naira soap.

    Even the church of God is not spared. Nowadays, we now use barely clad ladies as ushers to welcome visitors.

    Watch out for this book to celebrate the world sexual purity day.

    We are being bombarded daily with sexual scenes and near-sexual scenes on our streets, social media, television, workplaces and pathetically in fellowships but the word of God still stands that we must be pure in our sexual lives before and after marriage.

    First, we should know that to stay pure in this generation is possible. It is possible to marry as a virgin if you are determined to be. It is possible to remain untouched – no kissing, smoothing, no masturbation and no foreplay before the wedding if you will rely on the grace of God to hold you. Why? Because God will never lack those who are willing and ready to sacrificially serve Him in all generations.

    He can’t lack Josephs who are willing to say, ‘ how can I do this thing and sin against God,’ and are ready to abandon their ‘clothes’ to flee.

    He can’t lack the Joshuas who have determined to serve God even if He and his family are the only and affirmatively He won’t lack the 7000 men who have never kissed or bowed down to Baal in every generation.

    Do you care to join the leagues of Josephs, Joshuas and the 7000 men, are you?

    Now, how can you tread this path joyfully? One, TRUST GOD and His judgments, laws and guidelines that they are for your benefit. God did not hate you when He bade you that you should flee fornication. It was because He loves you.

    You got to trust the Almighty because He as Omniscient knows far more than you know. He knows that illegal sex can reduce someone life to a mere loaf of bread. He knows that sex can be weaponised to harm. Therefore, trust that God has you completely in His heart. Oh! What a loving father!

    Secondly, TRUST THE PROCESS that you won’t regret ever staying sexually pure in this corrupt world. The journey, the decision and the determination will eventually pay you.

    The world may look otherwise but you won’t regret opting out of the friendship that is pressurizing you for premarital sex.

    Trusting the process also signifies that you are the wise one even though the worldly system may regard you as a fool and the odd one out but remember what is highly esteemed by man is an abomination in the sight of the Lord.

    The injunction will save you from avoidable heartbreaks, unwanted pregnancy, unmet expectations, shame, a litany of exes and many avoidable damages to your body, spirit and soul.

    You can’t regret standing for and with God.

    Thirdly, DON’T TRUST YOURSELF because the power of your arm will fail because by flesh shall no man prevail, the opportunities to sin will always be present and it was your Spirit that got born again, your body, its hormones and your soul do not follow suit.

    Don’t trust yourself that you can sleep in the same room with the opposite sex and nothing will happen.

    Don’t trust yourself that just because you speak in tongues, you can watch porn and nothing will happen.

    Don’t really on your strength that because you are the winner of best choir member of the year, you can’t fall into the sin of immoralities.

    Don’t trust that immoralities won’t hurt you because God has been using you. Remember David, Solomon and Samson.

    If Judas Iscariot can fall away after performing many miracles, preached to many and received directly from Jesus, then who are you?

    Lastly, remember that this battle against immoralities is a battle again imagination, thoughts and actions as preached by unsaved celebrities, wokist, cancel culturists, Bible twisters and haters that raised themselves against the knowledge of God and we all know our weapons are not carnal.

  • Causes of Marital delays in Nigeria.

    This article was my contribution to Causes of delays to marriage by Christ’s mind tech

    I quite agreed with all what the contributors have said but I will like to add to the cause of marital delays among singles in Nigeria;

    1. Finances: most of those that are ready and willing to marry do not have the financial capacity to do so especially the guys owning to the poor state of our economy. This delayed me for 2 years till I took the bull by the horn this year with an understanding wife.
    2. Assumption: some brothers/sisters may assume that I will get whom to marry after my undergraduate, after NYSC, after I clock 28, etc, not knowing most times it may not be so because most times by the time the general society is also assuming that they have a partner.
      Hardly, will someone believed that a graduate lady of 28 is singular single whereas they exist.
    3. Confusion: about what is the WILL OF GOD and PURPOSES.
      Most youths are confused about what is the will of God even though they truly want to marry a will of God. They thought will of God (direction of God, His laws and command, His antecedents and precedents) is only about marriage not knowing that ‘God would surely direct you the same way He would direct you on matters of your life and destiny like during business decisions.’ Now if you abandon Him for a long period, do you think He will answer you when you want to use Him to butter your bread? Even if He speaks, can you recognize His Divine voice? Do you even know His dos and donts concerning Marriage as started in the Bible?
      Most will just get whatever they wanted and go MIA for God and return when things go south, to go AWOOL when the problem is solved. Do you know some ladies believe God’s will must be a pitiable, ugly poor brother? So when a handsome, rich and educated somebody propose to them, they may reject it. As per purpose, purpose discovery will help someone to know first, who not to marry before who to marry. This will delete the trial and error method of choosing which invariably reduce waiting time. The only solution to this is knowing and doing the will of God and discovering and fulfilling purpose is having a closed and consistent relationship with Yahweh.
    4. Spiritual: this can be from God or Satan.
      It is God, not satan that shut the womb of Hannah. Why He did that in the first instance, we can not fathom but we do know that at the appropriate and glorious time, God give Hannah, a glorious son who is a national prophet and a kingmaker. For those who are in God’s waiting room, rest and relax, God is probably working on you, your spouse, both of you or some circumstances that will benefit both of you.
      Spiritual delay can also be caused by Satan using His lies. For those who perceive that they are under Satan siege concerning their Marriage, prayer is the only solution.
    5. Limiting choice: If what you meant by marrying within the organization is marrying within the denomination, I don’t believe that. Christians everywhere belong to one organization – The Church.
      Many brothers and sisters have limits where (physicalities) they can find Christian spouse to church and choir within their church, denomination, town, profession, etc., only. This can cause a delay if God in his infinite mercy will not allow your permissive will.
      Let it be known a Christian spouse can be found in your DM, comment section of your timeline or others’ timelines, in the neighbourhood, matchmaker’s cubicle, pew, office, seminars, etc., within or without your church, town, profession and denomination. God knows the best spouse for you and where best to meet him/her.
    6. Culture: Nigeria for instance, an average Hausa guy or lady, irrespective of religion, is not planning to marry late. Starting from 18 upwards, they are preparing for marriage (not talking about forced/child Marriages here) whereas an average Igbo guy usually tends to marry late because he knows the amount of bride price he has to pay on his wife. Most Yorubas will go for the mid-20s for ladies and early 30s for guys.

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  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 6).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 6).

    A Letter to Goat without a yam and Yam without a goat.

    Dear Goat with a yam and Dear Yam without a goat,

    With upmost joy, I am writing this short epistle to you and I am happy because you are one of the luckiest category on Earth and well as those with goats and yams. Singleness is blissfulness. Enjoy it.

    Now, I will advise you

    • To stay on the farm. It is still the safest place to live and get a goat or yam and even after getting your goat or yam, stay there.
    • Look for your goat/yam on the farm. You will definitely see your specs on the farm.
    • While waiting for the yam, engage in profitable foraging and while waiting for the goat do make yam omelette, porridge, òjòjò†, etc with your life.
    • Continue doing what your Farmer-owner asks of you to do and
    • Let His decision overwrites yours. He alone knows what is fitting and suitable for you.

    If you can do all these, I can confidently say that your singleness will be blissfulness and your engagement will be heavenly.

    Signed

    A former goat without a yam for 8 straight years now with the sweetest yam on this side of heaven.

    † òjòjò is a cake made from grating yam and mixing with condiment and then fry with either palm oil or vegetable oil.

  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 5).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 5).

    The Characters of The Farmer-owner.

    It was said in Ancient parchment that the association between the farmer, the goat and the yam is not easily broken and as such each got its uniqueness to differentiate the other from other farmers, goats and yam. Now let’s see the characters of the much talked about Farmer-owner who is both the rearer of the goat and planter of the yam.

    First of all, let me tell you that there are many wannabe farmers out there. Infact, their master is one short ugly guy who was a former labourer in the farm. The Farmer-owner gave him so much power until he thought it in his heart to have a more grander farm than his employer using the Master’s resources.

    He even co-opted lesser labourers into his rebellion.

    This former labourer and his minions do stole from goats, yams, vegetables, flowers, water, etc from the original Farmer-owner’s farm, changed their DNA to RNA – Rebel Now Acting, can even taught them language of the heavenly farm and released them to come and fellowship with the fellow goats and yams. So beware, not all bleating goats and fine yams you came about speaking the language of the farm are actually from the farm.

    Now, the characters of the Farmer-owner are:

    1. The Farmer-owner is ancient. Therefore, He has sure banker experiences on cultivation of goats and yams. You can trust Him to give you the best from his barn and pen.
    2. He has brought many goats to yams and vice versa through diverse means. He even promised in His ancient manual that no goat will lack a yam and vice versa. Rest assured, yours is being prepared.
    3. Furthermore, this Ancient Farmer has a farming manual which he called ancient parchment. In there, you know his dos and donts on how to find a goat, a yam, be a caterer, engage in productive foraging, made yam sauce, relate with other goats and yams and many more things He want to tell you. If you don’t read this parchment, your life may be trial and error.
    4. Also know this and know peace, your Farmer-owner is not a giver of the following to any products from his farm:
    • A goat/yam disturbing you for frying.
    • A goat/yam overuser. A goat that only know how to benefit from yam without being a benefit to yam and vice versa.
    • A hitter and an abuser of grace, gifts, body and words.
    • Community goats and yams.
    • Or any goat/yam behaving contrary to what was written in the Ancient parchment.

    If you supposed goat/yam has those behaviors, then know for sure that it is either s/he is probably drifting from the farm or s/he is originally from former labourer’s farm.

    Don’t mind that he/she joins other goats and yams to jollificate weekly and probably speak the language therein. The stealer of their souls has done that before to falsely accused a real GOAT.

    1. In addition, this Farmer-owner is firstly concerned about finding forages for goats, fertile soils for his yams, bringing goats to yams and yams to goats. So if you are not of his farm, go and meet you father, he too has your specific specs in barn and pen.
    2. Moreover, this awesome Farmer-Owner is not just a farmer. He is a vet doctor, a soil scientist, a rain maker, the rain Himself, a fertilizer, an insecticide, an herbicide and many more things. With you in his farm, your daily nutrients is guaranteed.
    3. Whereas, this Father-farmer will not force any goat or yam on you. He brings the goat or yam that is suitable for you, you do the talking.
    4. Lastly, this Farmer is expecting all his products back after declaring the harvest of his vineyard.
  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 4).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 4).

    THE SWEETNESS OF A YAM.

    Goggle image

    As the Worth of the goat is not in the ability to fry so also the sweetness of the yam is not in being fried. If that’s all there to you, you may probably had started spoiling.

    Now, a good yam is not idly waiting for the goat to make an egg omelette with her. She is also making yam pottage with herself with expecting the real goat.

    Then, a responsible yam knows she is not for any goat. There is a specific goat for her specific yam from their Farmer-owner’s farm.

    Moreover, it is only bitter and rotten yams that peel themselves on soso media for likes. A real and worthy yam don’t and won’t.

    In addition, a sweet yam is also o not swayed by sweet bleating from various goats, their pockets or gyms bit she is only interested in who the Father-farmer said is hers.

    Now, ask yourself are you a sweet or rotten yam?

  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 3).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 3).

    THE WORTH OF A GOAT.

    Goggle image.

    As far as football is concern, CR7 is my GOAT but I hope you know that CR7 is not all about football, there is philanthropy, business, husband and father’s side to this football GOAT of mine.

    The real worth of a goat is not in the ability to fry yam. If that is all you are planning to do then your goatness has dysentery but the Worth and joy of a goat lies in righteousness, peace and joy of the Holy Spirit.

    A real/potential GOAT doesn’t sleep off during morning devotion as a result of hangover from yesternight UEFA matches. A real goat is a priest of his pen

    Furthermore, the worthiness of a goat is also reflected in this fact that he is not after every yam he sees. He is okay with his given yam because he knows that the insulating material must be kept clean. A real GOAT is a defender of purity.

    …but a GOAT had a Farmer-owner…

    In addition, the joy of being a goat also shows in that while other ewu gambias are playing and kicking their yams about, he is most concerned about how to wash, clean, beautify and make egg sauce with his yam and yam products now or later. A GOAT is a caterer.

    A goat is not on social media arguing on why Bubu is taller than Ashi rather he is actively engaging in one productive foraging in order to prepare a barn for his yam. A real goat is a provider.

    Lastly, I wish to tell you that the goat may or may not have six packs, beard or deep pocket but a GOAT had a Farmer-owner because he is not a lone ranger and he is traceable to a pen.

    May the heavenly Farmer made us a GOAT indeed.

    • 7 types of people marriage is not for.
      Not everyone is ready for marriage. Some people will only hurt themselves and their spouse if they rush in unprepared. This post calls out the seven types of people who should stay single until they are willing to grow, forgive, and take responsibility. Marriage is sacred, but it is also hard — and only those ready to face themselves should enter it.
    • WHAT YOU STAND TO GAIN AS A FULL HOUSEWIFE
      Dear Lady, marriage is blissful and nature has equipped you to be a homemaker, family nutritionist and many other roles you hold in the house. That is more than going out and earning money or contributing financially to the house. Isn’t that man’s job? But you will gain nothing in… Read more: WHAT YOU STAND TO GAIN AS A FULL HOUSEWIFE
    • 15 Places To meet Your Future Spouse in 2026
      1. Religious gatherings or events, such as church or temple services, retreats, or conferences. 2. Online dating sites or apps, which can connect you with people who share your interests and values. 3. Social clubs or groups, such as sports teams, book clubs, or hobby groups. 4. Volunteering or charity… Read more: 15 Places To meet Your Future Spouse in 2026
  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 2).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 2).

    Image from Goggle.

    For Christian Sisters Only.

    Christian sisters should be sweet yams. Yes, they should. God is the planter and that brother that used to tell you, ‘ you are my honey,’ every blessed morning is the goat and you got to help him to become a G.O.A.T.

    But how? You should know that, although Farmer-Owner which is Yahweh God has brought you to you goat or you have brought you goat to your owner, you must know that you can’t be peel, toasted, roasted, touched anyhow or boiled.

    You can’t. It’s not yet time.

    And I want you to also know that the desire to be eaten, boiled, peel, roasted, grated or even fried is legitimate and God-given but it is not yet an appropriate time. What should be touching you is now word of God, your pillows and or a cup of tea.

    Also, forget not that though the coming G.O.A.T is a Christian, he is also with a God-given instincts to boil and fry. He may speak the languages of angels but he has godly desires in him.

    Furthermore, be aware that not all goats are domesticated goats. Some are mountain goats (wild one), some are wannabes (infact baby antelope looks like goat) while some are ewu gambias* and not all goats have potential to become G.O.A.T. Only the Capra hiscus can survive all weathers and you should know that you own goat many not be in your locale.

    Therefore, you must help him by not seductively peel yourself, park yourself into his barn, for the habit of sleeping in his barn, touch him inappropriately (Yes, you can’t touch him too!) or arouse the goatness in him till appropriate time.

    If you want to be boiled, peel, grated, roasted, touched or even turn to yam cake (òjòjò)* , tell him to come and see the yam caterers to do the required and you too should go and see goat caterers to do the neccesary.

    But a potential GOAT should have self-control? Yes, of course, so a potential Y.A.M should self-control too. Not be any of your efforts, but by the grace of thy Farmer who art in heaven.

    If you can do this, you will be able to Y.A.M i.e. Yes! Am Married and be able to YAHM (Yes! Am Holly Married) before thy Father-Farmer.

    Stay tuned for chapter 3.

  • A trial will convince you.

    A trial will convince you.

  • Appreciation post.

    Appreciation post.

    Recently I crossed 1k views here courtesy of you, my followers, visitors and readers from all over the world.

    Official recognition from WordPress Inc.

    You make it possible. You made it real and I thank you for being part of this move.

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  • YOUR VIRGINITY IS MORE THAN ENOUGH.

    YOUR VIRGINITY IS MORE THAN ENOUGH.

    Dear virgins, if virginity is all you have, you have a lot.

    “If virginity is all you have to give, get out and all the bla bla bla,” they roar. Even those who are not virgin and also senseless are attacking people that did many things they can’t do.
    Dear virgins, if virginity is all you have, you have a lot. The demeaning words of people against you shouldn’t move you.
    First and foremost, it is not easy to be a virgin especially in a world like ours. A world where immorality is dominating. A world where the church is not even free from it.

    Image source: Goggle.


    For you to be a virgin, it shows you are decisive in nature. You took a firm decision and you’ve kept it. This is a decision Bible study teachers find difficult to keep. This is a decision tongue speaking champions and those attacking you can’t keep. Do you know many who cried that I should help them overcome? Do you know someone following me up when I joined a fellowship was telling me to help him escape? Do you know many of your fathers in the church and home have destroyed teens?
    Many have advised you wrong, tried to entice you, to have you but you refused. That’s a very high level of decision. Keep it up. Decision is a trait that many lack and it shows you’re not only a virgin but a decisive human.


    To be a virgin shows you’re disciplined – sexual control cum self-control are rare characters in our generation. Even those who condemn your stance are as free as water, drinking water from every well.
    You have a higher tendency of doing exploits in life when you can control sexual desires and pressure, so, you’ve something to offer.
    Don’t allow the hate from people on your stand to wait till marriage affect you.
    Dear stupid counselor and influencers, if you’ve nothing to say or write, keep your mouth shut and stop expressing your ignorance.
    If they have sense, they’d have known this and rather than bash them, they’d have encouraged you and asked you to tell them how you did it.
    If you are able to control your zip in life, you’re able to achieve many things in life.
    C. N. Ebere.

    You have a higher tendency of doing exploits in life when you can control sexual desires and pressure, so, you’ve something to offer.

    Written wholly by

    Chima Nnaemeka Eberechukwu. Click here for link to original post

    C. N. Ebere – A freelancer and sexual purity advocate.
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