‘Honour your father and mother that it may go well for you, ‘ is a biblical instruction.
Fathers’ day is a week to come and honouring fathers is a good idea, be it biological or spiritual or even fathers-in-law. They are our first examples, guardians, caretakers, correctors and husbands of our mummies. So therefore, they deserve a gift from us.
Now, let’s establish this fact; most times, your dad isn’t expecting anything from you because he can afford it but you and I owned them everything we can afford now that we are ‘working’ and when they can’t work again. Why? Because they deserve it and two, ain’t they not human being like us again? Haven’t your dad sacrifice for you? Can we now share our little with them?
Furthermore, you can get any of these for your dad:
1. Obedience. You are still his child.
2. Visitations
3. Perfumes/ Body sprays.
4. Rechargeable torchlight.
5. Ties.
6. A couple of Cufflinks.
7. Wines
8. Polo shirts/ shorts/ sewn clothes.
9. Wristwatches.
10. Shaving kits
11. Beloved club jersey.
12. Favorite Artiste’s CDs ( maybe old albums that you knew he does enjoy while you are growing up).
13. Writing materials.
14. Travel kits.
15. Finance a night out with long time buddies.
16. Recharge cards.
17. Recreations kits.
18. MP3 player.
19. Cinema outings.
20. Sponsor honeymoon that includes his wife.
These and many more befitting gifts is meriting of your dad and any other man you called dad. Recollect that most of these dads can afford those stuff comfortably but you are giving it because you love your dad.
To make it a waoh moment, plan it with your sibling and his wife.
The emphasis is non-partnered singleness i.e no boyfriend/ girlfriend.
I was for 8 good years.
Singleness is a time of waiting and praying not rusting and being non-partnered single has a lot of advantages, the chief being total freedom and two, who told you those with a partner are happy being with one? Listed below are 21 activities doable while waiting for the dream guy/bae:
Achieve purpose.
Earn money.
Your the world.
Begin a blog
Write a book.
Make new friends.
Network up and down.
Give/collect phone numbers of many to boost WhatsApp status views.
Begin the desired trade.
Acquire a new skill.
Further your education.
Consume good food.
Volunteer.
Organize a Facebook group.
Start a podcast.
Join new department in church.
join a new group.
Earn plenty of money.
Fulfil purpose
Be happy.
If any bae/boo is unserious with his/her good boo/bae, snatch it.
Caveat: My parents’ marriage is not a perfect one, if perfect marriage exists.
My parents will be celebrating their 37th wedding anniversary comes 15th of July and this writeup is about 7 great lessons from their marriage which has inspired me and which should inspire you to desire a responsible marital relationship.
My parents – Mr and Mrs. Alade.
Marriage is still honorable : God declared marriage to be honorable and that loneliness is not good. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Abby Alade’ marriage modelled that biblical saying as duo cannot do without one another and none will take a step without another person’ s consent. This should inspire us and gear us to know that social media, its influencers, celebrities and or anyone’s experiences have not eroded the sacredness, honour and blessedness of marriage.
Furthermore, there is a wide gap between big wedding and happy marriage as my parents had what was called a parlour wedding then ( just payment of bride price and blessing by parents). It was indeed a small wedding that produced a big marriage. God created marriage, human beings created wedding but it needs not be flamboyant, expensive or debt-achieved before we can have a big marriage. My parents did theirs simply and live bigly. Doesn’t that mean if you have the means for big wedding, you shouldn’t do it? Or does expensive wedding automatically means bad marriage? Not at all, the glamorousness of a wedding doesn’t determine longevity and ‘happyability’ of a marriage (in fact a family friend who shared the same wedding date, month and year with them had a big wedding and theirs also is working till date) but the lesson is that we should prepare for marriage than for wedding.
In addition, happy marriage and godly marriage is not the same thing because you can be happily married like Ahab and Jezebel and not be godly married like them. My parents’ marriage is a godly one and because it is godly, happiness is guaranteed because a house inhabitated by Jesus is a happy home and two, a godly home produces a godly offsprings.
Fourthly, what worked for A might not work for B. All those marriage teachings on couples wearing the same clothes, sleeping in the same room and bed, having joint account, sharing house chores has never worked in my family (maybe in the future but for now, not working). Are all these wrong? No, they are not bad in fact they are highly encouraged but it won’t work for all of us. So everyone of us has got to decide what will work for them asthere is not copy and paste marriage because each marriage comes with its unique differences, challenges and uniqueness. My parents don’t sleep in the same room, don’t have joint account and don’t wear same clothes though they have few together, shared housechores and it is working for them for the past 37 years. Design your own happiness.
Sequel to number 4, for a great marriage to occur, like my parents’ only things matter and are needed; LOVE AND SUBMISSION. My dad loves my mum and my mum is a submitted woman. Anything you don’t anybody to hear, don’t tell my dad because he will tell his wife. Contrary to popular opinion, love is unconditional and submission is never slavery.
Divorce is not the solution to every marital problem is the fifth lesson to insipe us. My parents faced a lot of challenges that many secular marriage and relationship experts will have advised calling it quit. The challenges they faced ranges from financial, spiritual, health, in laws problems not excluding abuse of power but they didn’t quit nor give up on one another. They held on prayerfully for their marriage though God’s intervention and godly extended family’ persuasion and today the rest is a good testimony. There are still challenges in the marriage though.
In conclusion, there are still happily married couples on this planet Earth. Forget about society what is saying, happy couples still exist, godly marriage is still possible and happy marriages still abound just that some of those couples are not on Facebook like my parents, don’t have their stories on FP of newspapers and don’t ever talk. Apart from my parents, I knew many of them. You too, can be happily married. Stay blessed and 37 cheers to my parents.
My sister. A farmer, inspirational speaker and an author
Is it a sin to blast in tongue, sing, prophesy or display any spiritual fruit? not! Displaying one or two spiritual gifts is good but the best is displaying spiritual fruits as listed in Galatians 5:22-23.
…display of gift without accompanying display of fruits is showmanship at its best.
That a potential partner display a particular gift doesn’t automatically translate him/her into a good hubby or a good wife because the display of a gift without an accompanying display of fruits is showmanship at its best.
Don’t fall for showmanship because inside the present church is a demon-filled sister who prophesies, fornicating brothers who see sisters as sexual conquest medals who teach, born-against pastor, corrupt men and women in the choir, men and women with questionable salvation experiences in high positions in the church, so be careful.
That he/she displays the gift does not mean he/she will be a profitable partner in marriage, the question is is he/she bearing the fruit?
GOD want you to marry but He doesn’t want you to be miserable in it.
7. God understand that we are in the 21st century
Yes, God knows we are in the 21st century and He also knows if we will live to the 22nd century but He doesn’t understand teachings, doings, actions, and postulation associated with this century that are not consistent with His word.
He doesn’t understand the reason for premarital sex even though that is the norm now.
He doesn’t understand why you want to submit to unholy sexual invites because Joseph had shown him that it is possible to control one’s urge.
He doesn’t understand why you become arrogant now because you are now an undergraduate Daniel, and his friends have proven to him that it is possible to be humble, good-looking, and intelligent and still be Christian.
He doesn’t understand why you want to trade the body for material gains because Mary had shown him that beauty is not a hindrance to godliness.
God doesn’t understand irresponsibility because Joseph and Timothy have demonstrated to Him that you can be youthful and useful to the church and society.
What God understands is that His word stands for all ages, cultures and centuries and that if you have transgressed there is a space for you for repentance.
GOD can’t disown His word for anybody for any reason at any time…God cannot and will not tell you to go and marry an unbeliever even if there are no believing brothers again...
8. God told me to marry an unbeliever
God cannot say one thing in the bible and told you to discard his written word. His word is binding on Him. GOD can’t disown His word for anybody for any reason at any time.
God cannot and will not tell you to go and marry an unbeliever even if there are no believing brothers again ( and He has promised to be your husband self) because He has said ‘do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever and two, nobody becomes a Christian simply because he/she marries a Christian or by going to church. An unbelieving partner is like one aching teeth in your mouth which will eventually cause a bad ache to the entire mouth later if not treated (treatment for an unbeliever is a dose of acceptalin Jesus Christ).
The only message God has for you to unbelievers is the message of salvation not of marriage.
9. There is only one man/woman for me
GOD has indeed destined one particular woman/man as your wife/husband but your marital life is not tied to that particular person because for every Saul and Judas that is fumbling there is always a better David and Mattias to replace them.
If truly you are led by God to go and met Joke and she said no, report back to GOD for the next line of actions which may be; wait for that person or go to another person. Just report back to GOD and don’t make any move without His binding to do so.
What if the person dies? Does that mean you are doomed?
Your marital life is not tied to a single man/woman but to GOD – the originator and sustainer of marriage.
Absolutely NO! because for every dead and faithful Samuel, there are faithful Nathan, Isaiah, Ezekiel, and Joel still living who will be equally faithful and for every Elijah caught up in the whirlwind, there is Elisha who will do double of his work and 50 sons of prophets still living.
Your marital life is not tied to a single man/woman but to GOD – the originator and sustainer of marriage.
10. God’s will is only in marriage
Pure lie. God’s will is not only in marriage it cut across all areas of our life. Be it any type of relationship, business, marriage, social life, finances, speech, etc, there is God’s standard required therein as stated in the bible but the problem is that many of us often relegated God to one corner in most areas of human endeavours and few of us remember him when we want to marry with resultant dullness in our spiritual sensitivity to how He speaks.
There is God’s will you must try to know about that university you intend to go to, a particular course you will, who you can be friends with, places you can go and cannot go, what you can eat, wear, read, how you speak, etc. Try to know His mind in other areas of your life too to experience an all-around successful life.
Remember that knowing and doing God’s will is not only in marriage but in all areas of life.
I, Alade Joel Adetunji Aladeinternational plus other well meaning Nigerians wish to comdemn the attack on Muslim faithfuls at ChristChurch, New Zealand as barbaric and unchristian behavior by a terrorist and commiserate with all those that lost thier loved ones in the attack and ask that the Lord God our Comforter will comfort the town, the families and the nation at large.
Welcome to 21st century where everything Godly and moral is questioned whereas everything ungodly and immoral is celebrated.
We live in a world where morality has been casted aside to embrace immorality.
This is the endtime where many have heaped teachers for themselves to tell them what they wanted to hear and not what God had said.
This is the century where God’s standard on sex, marriage, food, relationship, money and all other facets of life have been set aside for what Hollywood, society, politician and Linda Ikejis of this world are saying but no matter what God standard is sure having this seal that whosoever call on God, should shun all forms of unrighteousness.
WHAT IS IT ABOUT GOD’S STANDARD?
God’s standard teaches us three things:
1. God will never bring anyone into your life to sin with.
He had never, He will never and He can never bring a partner-in-sining. So know for a fact that that man/woman you are fornicating with, stealing with or sinning with it,is not brought by God rather he/she was brought into your life by your fleshy desires not God.
2. God’s standard is our banner.
Jesus is our role model so any role model who can’t be found in Christ and His word is a devil agent masquerading as agent of light.
That role model may be popular.
He may be role model to millions.
She may have millions followers on Facebook and Twitter.
They may be getting awards and endorsements from corporate organisations but once what they are preaching is against what Bible taught such celebrity or entity is not a role model.
3. God’s standard is settled both on earth and in heaven.
God has said what He knows that’s right and what He expects from you.
It is left for you and I to choose once again like Adam and Eve between the Tree of life and Tree of knowledge of good and evil but you must know that if you choose Tree of life you will automatically forfeit access to Tree of knowledge of good and evil and vice-versa.
Society can’t change His will.
Celebrities can’t rewrite His word.
Politicians can’t shift His standard because He is the Self-Existing One.
A Yes for Jesus means a no for Satan and a No for Jesus means automatic Yes to Satan.
WHY YOU SHOULD CHOOSE TO LIVE ON GOD’S STANDARD?
1. God is God
No matter who is the president of your country. No matter who are the policymakers in your country and no matter what society wants. Your president will change or die, policymakers and their policies will be replaced one day and society occupiers is dynamic but God is ever powerful, All-might, Self-sustaining and All-wise, He never sleep nor slumber and there is no shadow of turning with Him.
2. His ways have always been proven to be the best way to go.
His way may be narrow, unpopular and or outdated but that is the only way to go.
That everybody is doing it doesn’t mean it is the right thing to do and that truth is truth no matter how many speaker is speaking it and lie is lie no matter how many speakers it have.
3. On the Judgement day you ain’t answerable to any Linda ikejis, Trumps, Obasanjos of this world.
Prepare to meet your Creator
You are only answerable to your Creator same way they are also answerable to Him. So who will you rather obey and follow? The one that is dependent on God to live or God who is not depending on anyone to be God? Lastly, prepare to meet your Creator. Shalom
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