You see, if you ask any brother, his spec in a future wife, if he will not cloth his answer in the garb of spirituality, will go like this;
‘ I love my wife to wear wigs’
‘I will always admire my wife in adimola, adiehin, koloba, weaving, etc’
And many more fantastic things like that.
But the first trust, 95% don’t even know the difference between wigs nor do we even care about any names of many native hairstyles.
Two, if they are probed further, you will discover that most just want to marry a godly sister. In the long run, the sizes of a bum, breasts, shapes, wigs, and hairstyles don’t matter.
Therefore, invest more in what amounts to something than what will not count much in marriage.
Invest more in Christian books, seminars, and conferences than wigs.
Invest in developing a godly character rather than having a big backside
Invest more in being truly a helpmeet to the one than being the most endowed.
The latters are profitable but they profiteth little but the formers profiteth much in marriage.
Yesterday, I wrote about enjoying the childhood stage and documentation of their childhood in a bid to make fatherhood a worthwhile adventure.
At three decades of living, I have never seen a train before except in movies and on TVs and the first time I saw at a plane live was in 2022 going for my friend’s wedding ceremony at Ilorin, Kwara State.
Why because we don’t have a train station and airport in my place. To see both, you got to travel to nearby state or go the state capital.
Thank God I know about those things and many other like that through reading.
Introduce you kids to right ideology, things and places early.
Introduce them to where kings dine.
Introduce them to profitable discussions are the order of the day.
Introduce them to technology early in life.
Introduce them to queenly behaviours
Introduce them to what will positively benefits them.
By Traveling. Yes! Plan travels into their holidays.
Introduce to them good things of life.
Introduce them to people from different places.
Why? So that they will not use ordinary piece of pizza get in between your girl’s legs and that your son will not join secret cult because of smart TV.
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Thank God for the blessings of godly teachings by His servants and the gifts of powerful Christian writers through books, I can realistically say, nothing caught me unaware in my marital experiences.
My expectations weren’t dashed because they have been pruned through the experience and knowledge of Christian authors who write on marriage and relationships.
Dear, reading books on marriage will save you and your marriage before it even begins as you won’t be able to learn everything about marriage during premarital counseling.
But get this right from the start; it’s not by reading books but by applying the principles therein
Now, let me recommend 12 of such fantastic books:
1. Bible
The best book you should read in preparation for marriage is your Bible.
In this Greatest Book of All Time, God, the creator of the beautiful union called Marriage has already told you everything He has to tell you and everything you ought to know about marriage, parenting, sex, romance, and life generally.
Matter of fact, any other books you want to read about marriage should be about the explanation of what the Word of God said about a specific subject matter. No addition or subtraction.
Furthermore, I urged you to try to read it through, i.e., Genesis to Revelation, at least, once before you settle down to having a family because you might not have the opportunity later.
How can you achieve that? If you read 3 chapters per day, you will cover all the chapters in a year, and if you need a Bible Reading Plan for A Year, my friend, Oladele Damilare got you covered here.
2. How To Choose a Life Partner – 156 Questions to ask – Bimbo Odukoya.
I read this book over a decade ago and it still ring a bell in me.
This book listed 156 questions you ought to ask in courtship and the likely answers.
3. No More Two; God’s Principles for Marriage – Gbile Akanni.
This godly book by a world renowned pastor and brother talks about how to create a one-plus-one equal-to-one kind of matrimony. Very powerful book.
4. Single without Singe – Segun Ariyo
An insightful book on courtship, sexual purity, dating, and wedding. You can’t read this masterpiece and still be interested in pleasing the crowd during your wedding ceremony.
5. The Tearless Courtship – Alade Joel.
This one was powerfully written to prevent you from constant heartbreak. It takes it up from what is the definition of Christian courtship, the stages of courtship, 50 plays, 50 questions, and ends with the 7 rules of courtship for singles. Read on Amazon here
6. God doesn’t want you to be a virgin – Alade Joel
God’s will and plan for His children about sex is more than being a virgin. Infact it’s not his sole purpose for you to be one rather He demanded more from you.
This book highlights what is God will and purpose for you as a Christian single in this over-sexualized world concerning sex before and after Marriage. Discover here
7. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married – Gary Chapman.
You have probably heard about 5 love languages by Gary Chapman but to me, though that is his most popular book but Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married is the bomb.
The number one thing you should know now is that like Mother, like Daughter is not a fluke. It is a reality.
This is the book that saved my relationship as it helps pruned all the nonsensical beliefs I had prior having any defined romantic relationship.
8. The 4 Seasons of Marriage; Secrets to a Lasting Marriage – Gary Chapman.
This masterpiece from Dr. Gary literally walk you through all the four seasons of marriage namely Autumn, Spring, Winter, and Summer.
Get it. Read and Apply it.
9. The 5 Love Languages. The Secrets to love that lasts – Gary Chapman.
You have heard about this bestseller that teaches you to speak to your spouse in a love language he or she understands.
A must-read for intending couple
Read and apply diligently.
8. Maintaining Sexual Purity – Sam and Folashade Oloyede.
Not only have I been under the ministration of these authors several time but they are also our family mentor and this point outlined in this book was a guiding light during my days weaknesses.
Among Christians, sexual purity is the norm, the standard and the code but how do you cope when it seems everyone is doing it. Get this amazing book and read it via a DM (08135446693).
10. His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage – Willard Harry Jr.
Prevention, they say is better than cure. I just read this and it really bless my understanding. This classic lists 5 things each for a man and woman’s need to prevent your partner from cheating on you.
11. Saving Your Marriage Before it starts – Les and Leslie Parrot.
Do you want to have a happy and fulfilling marriage? If yes, then this book is the right one for you. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is a wonderful book that shows you how your actions today will affect your future marriage.
This book will help you uncover the different myths in marriage, learn how to communicate properly with your spouse, discover the effective way to solve conflicts, manage your finances, and have a great sex life!
12. The Sacred Marriage – What if God Designed Marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy – Gary Thomas.
The idea that marriage is meant primarily to sanctify us has changed my entire view of marriage. God redeems the hard parts of our lives to make us more like Him, and that’s a beautiful way to approach those hardships we all experience in marriage.
Other worthy reads:
13. The power of a praying wife – Stormie Ormatian (for ladies).
14. The Fatherhood Principles – Myles Munroe (for men).
Reflection: Except Saving Your Marriage Before It Begins, (which I promise to read before the end of May), I have read all the aforementioned titles. Now, recommend a book for me and two, how many have your read from this list?
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