The hype is real. The banter is sweet and the taunts are never ending. Football is sweet. Now these are lessons from the season:
1. Like Manchester City, it won’t be bad, if you are a serial winner.
2. Like Arsenal, good football may not be enough to win the league.
Good appearance may not be able to win that sister.
Good intents may not be enough to win.
But aim for the star, if you miss, you will hit the moon. Arsenal aimed for the league, lost it, but gain UCL ticket.
3. Do you know Tottenham Hotspur have the greeniest EPL stadium but they are one unserious club? No drive and passion to win trophy. Lesson therein, aso nla ko leyan nla (big clothes is not big man)
Packaging is good but your content should be topmost of your drive.
6. Concerning Harry Kane, just know the difference between being loyal to a worthy cause and being loyal to a worthless cause. Obviously, Kane is just loyal to a useless cause. He needs a trophy to cement his greatness.
You need to dump that dakudaji relationship. It has overspent its usefulness.
Loyalty to a cheating girlfriend is both wastage of time and resources.
6. By all means possible, make someone happy this year, like Manchester United and this Calabar, sorry, carabao cup trophy win 😀😄
7. About $600m spent, no show for Chelsea. Idan for nothing but Blue is still the country.
See, no lesson to learn from my club this season. Next season, we cook all.
8. We welcome Luton, Sheffield United and Burley while bidding Leceister City, Southampton and Leeds United farewell
9. Lastly, we are going into a period where Fabrizio Romano is more important than your girlfriends.
When I was newlywed (still newlywed though), my wife and I used to have a lots of disagreements due to our differing backgrounds. I was afraid of the constant bickerings not until our family mentor told us that the conflict is normal and that it is part of adjustment to one another.
Conflicting couples. Pexel.com.
So if yours look like mine as newlywed, don’t panic and if long-wed, still don’t fear, conflict and disagreement are inevitable in family, Christian homes inclusive as a result of our various backgrounds and experiences.
In those days, as the disciples were increasing in number, there arose a complaint by the Hellenistic Jews against the Hebraic Jews that their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution.
Acts 6:1
The only antidote to it is EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION.
But what is Communication? Communication is the art of sending out thoughts, feelings, ideas, visions and belief by speaking in a manner that is understandable by both the speaker and the listener.
A communication is said to be effective if it’s understood by all the participants.
Furthermore, total Communication is 7% words, 38% tone of voice, and 55% nonverbal.
Tools for Effective Communication.
1. Conflict is bound to happen, denial is not the best course of action.
2. Agreed from onset that your partner (and children) is not your enemy.
You are on the same team. You both want the best for the family.
4. So therefore, depersonalize the problem. It is the the problem that have problem not your spouse.
3. Prepare for conflict and disagreements. To shock you, what causes fights in the house are inanimate objects. Phew!
Agreed from onset that your partner (and children) is not your enemy.
4. Do not assume that the offender offends you if you haven’t let him/her know that he/she does. The offender may sincerely not know. Therefore, speak.
5. If the offender is a man, resolve it by telling him straight. Men are more rational being (speak about 15,000 words per day) than women.
6. If a woman said, ‘you offended me.’ Be it your mother, sister, friend, colleague or wife, let her talk because women are more emotional ( speak 25,000 per day) and just say sooooory.
7. Do not sweep any disagreement under carpet.
8.Therefore RESOLVE ALL CONFLICTS IMMEDIATELY AND TACTFULLY.
9. When resolving a conflict, communicate in such a way that you are understood. Big grammars blur effective communication.
10. Don’t exaggerate. Statements like ‘you always fumbled,’ ‘you are up to no good,’ ‘you are this,’ ‘ you are that’ are all silly exaggerations. Your spouse (or kid) may have truly offended you but that doesn’t mean he/she is such a complete idiot (in Arthur Pendragon’s voice).
These exaggerations aren’t helpful or truthful and put your spouse on the defensive. (Proverbs 25:18)
11. Choose a proper time to engage.
Wanting to resolve a conflict during a hot Premier League march between Chelsea FC and Manchester City FC or NBA match may not produce desired result for football lovers. Same goes to women too.
12. When your spouse is registering his/her grievance, please LISTEN (we men should abundantly take note of this).(James 1:19).
RESOLVE ALL CONFLICTS IMMEDIATELY AND TACTFULLY.
13. Don’t become irresponsible because of the action of your offender.
If it your wife is the offender, don’t stop being a good husband.
Peradventure, the offender is your husband, don’t renege in performing your wifely duties to him.
At work, don’t reduce productivity.
14. Say SORRY and ACT SORRY; whether you are right or wrong. Saying sorry and not acting sorry is tantamount to playing on someone’s intelligence.
15. Don’t deny yourselves of your conjugal rights.
16. In case of recurrent disagreement bordering on illegality, report to higher authority.
17. No yelling, foul language, or name-calling. (Ephesians 4:29; Colossians 3:8).
18. Don’t transfer aggression to innocent people.
19. Don’t physically, emotionally, physiologically abuse one another.
20. Stay on topic. No bringing up past unrelated issues. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5; Philippians 3:13-14)
21. Allow for “time outs” (where you take a break from the discussion) when things are getting heated before one of you loses your cool. If either one of you calls a “time out,” both of you respect that. (Psalm 37:8)
22. Take turns talking. Do not interrupt each other. (Proverbs 1:5)
23. Take a break to pray together when it seems like you aren’t getting anywhere. (Psalm 32:6)
24. Don’t threaten divorce. (Matthew 19:6)
With all these points and steps, I believed that conflicts can be resolved.
A quick question: who is supposed to say sorry first between husband and wife?
Good morning, Masters. Cristiano Ronaldo’s return to Manchester United is no news again but like always, there are lessons to learn here and there:
1. Success always attract success. Why Manchester United and not Watford? Why the Red devils and not the hammers? The choice of Manchester United is because successful people will always go for and with successful people.
If you wanna go far in life If you wanna be a master in all, Then move with those that are succeeding like you. Their mindsets, mentalities and manners will help you.
2. Reputations over money. Manchester City FC was preparing contract for CR7 but it will be scandalous for Ronaldo to play for MCFC after all he has done for Manchester United.
If it money, he will earn more money in City than in United. If it fame, trophies or accolades he had all that in abundance. But his reputation and goatiness is at risk playing for Pep’s side.
Fellow Master, I am urging you in all your dealings, guard above all your reputation, names and identity diligently. Part of guiding your reputation is to know your mates here on Facebook even though you attracts likes that those other than you. Facebook is not a leveller. That is also protecting your identity is behaving civicly here too. All these ‘Wu Wu not take it’ e-holiganlisms won’t take you anywhere.
3. Not to late. CR7 broke a record yesterday. He also set a record yesterday All at 36. Only few players perform well at over 30. There is no early or late date for marriage, education, property acquisition, etc. God make everything beautiful in his own time.
4. Start early. CR7 as well as Messi is near retiring but do you know that both of them start playing since there pre-tennagers day. Not late date in God’s agenda but make sure you start early too. Messi started at 13. Ronaldo started at 18. They start earlier untill they became world renowned. Write your book now. Start that business, podcast, blog, etc now. Make your mistake now.
5. Yours can be better. Messi stole the headlines some weeks ago. Ronaldo upset all those transfer records of Messi in less than a day. Your wedding can be more glamorous than your mates’. You can be more successful than you thought. Your life can be better than than of your parents. It can. It should. It must. And it will.
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