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  • What sacrifices have you made in life?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    Hmmmm!

    Three months to my wedding, I got a job far away from home. In fact, about 8 hours from home. Ogbomoso, Oyo State to Benin Edo State.

    Well, the job pays more than what I currently had then. Actually 3× of the then salary.

    If I stay in my current job, my then fiance turned wife now, monthly income is 3× mine and I have to man up.

    The problem has never been my wife earning more than I did but rather closing the income gap between us. So I took the job

    The job is a farm manager position in a remote village in Benin, Edo State. No network, no light, no road. So bad that if I have to communicate effectively with my fiance, without interruption, I will have to spend ₦1000 as transport fare to where there is good network. After the day work on farm that runs from 8am till 4pm.

    Besides, almost all the guys there smoke indian hemp.

    The first question I ask myself is; carrer-wise, did this make sense? How will I know of emerging trends in the market?

    Two, is this the type of environment, I want to raise my children? A community of Indian hemp smokers and unkempt hairs?

    Three, let’s say my fiance resigned from her job, what job have I secure for her or what money did I have to give her to start a business?

    If I said my wife should be at home, and I will be visiting monthly, it still doesn’t make economic sense. Why? Because, I will have to travel on Friday evening, all things being equal, I should get home by 11pm. By Saturday, I will sure visit my friends and parents and by Sunday afternoon, I am on way back in order to resume on month. The transport fee will cost me about ₦10,000 to and fro .

    I will have to drop home maintenance fee for my wife and will also eat at my workplace. After everything, what will be left will be ₦5000. Why this stress?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    After all these introspection, I discovered that the cons far outweigh the pros, a month to my wedding, I resigned and return to my former workplace which this saying in mind, let the worse that want to happen happened, God is on the throne.

    Praise God, the bad did not happen talk less of the worst and I joined my wife and both of us combined our little resources together and live happily after.

    Now, tell me what sacrifices have you made in your life?

  • Inspire Inclusion

    Inspire Inclusion




    Dear friends and followers,



    On this International Women’s Day 2024, we come together to honor the remarkable women who shape our world, challenge norms, and lead with grace.

    Fiancé/Girlfriend/Wife: or whatsoever nomenclature you bears, you are fully appreciated for the love and the sacrifices.

    Women of God: thank you for answering the call of God

    Artists and Content Creators: Your palates echo stories of resilience, passion, and strength. Today, your artistry and pen which is your voices are acknowledged. 🎨

    Farmers and Growers: From tilling the soil to nurturing life, you cultivate more than crops. You sow seeds of hope, nourishment, and sustainability. 🌾

    Healthcare Heroines: To our nurses, doctors, and caregivers, your compassion heals hearts and mends bodies. Your dedication knows no bounds. Thank you for being the pillars of care and empathy. 💙

    Mothers: whether you are working mum or a stay-at-home mom, you are raising the next generation. God bless you.

    Leaders and Innovators: Whether in boardrooms or classrooms, you break barriers and shatter glass ceilings. Your brilliance shapes policies, industries, and minds. Keep leading, keep inspiring. 💡



    🌟 Call to Action🌟

    1. Amplify Voices: Share stories of women who inspire you. Tag them, celebrate their achievements, and let their light shine brighter.

    2. Educate and Elevate: give your girl child the best of education. Not because she is a woman but because she is a human.

    3. Support Women-Owned Businesses: From local artisans to entrepreneurs, let’s uplift women-led ventures. Shop consciously and invest in their dreams.

    4. Advocate for Inclusivity: Gender equity benefits everyone. Let’s challenge stereotypes, biases, and outdated norms.

    5. Donate and Volunteer: Support organizations working for women’s rights, education, and well-being. Every contribution matters.

    Remember, WOMEN ARE NOT AFTERTHOUGHT. Together, we create a world where every woman’s voice matters, where dreams know no bounds, and where love and respect prevail.

    Happy International Women’s Day! 🌟💜

  • How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    Men irrespective of their age loved being honoured and respected but the problem is that some women don’t know how.

    But to tell you the fact; what you are calling respect and honour in your own eyes, to him, is bullshit.

    Now, see how

    Happy watching.

  • #GratitudeChallenge – How I was able to keep myself.

    #GratitudeChallenge – How I was able to keep myself.

    It seems our world is a sex world. We are so craze about it to the extent we made it look like without sex, a human being can’t survive.

    Had it been, what the world promotes is conjugal sex – sex between a biological male and biological female in the exclusive confine of marriage, it would have been better but what they promote is illicit sex, casual sex and perversions.

    Pexels.com

    They have commonalised and commercialized it.

    We are bombarded with sexual scenes on our streets, TVs, smartphones, billboards, books, etc. Even church is not spared.

    … Jehovah Aronilagbara – the Strenghter and Jehovah Olopo ore ofe – the plentiful Grace enabler

    But among all these temptations, I asked God to help me keep myself sexually till my wedding night and He marvellously helped me.

    If not for God, the power failed. Not once and not even thrice but I was prevented from failing and tarnishing the image of Christ in me.

    I called him, Jehovah Aronilagbara – the Strenghter and Jehovah Olopo ore ofe – the plentiful Grace enabler

    Thank you for helping me and my wife to do Your will and that we will continue to do Your will throughout our lives in Jesus name. Amen.

    If God helped my wife and I, He can helped you too and if we can do it, you too can do it.

    I put this ebook titled Paths to Sexual purity documenting what help us and many others. Click on the download icon to download

    Paths to sexual purity.pdfDownload

    Remember if God helped us and still helping, for you too He can and if we did it, you and your partner can do it.

    Today’s task for you: Have you downloaded A-Z of content creation and A TEARLESS COURTSHIP?

  • 3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    We subscribe to our Cable TVs in order to enjoy ourselves. The level of our subscription depends on the programs cum enjoyment we will derived.

    Love in the air.  Coutersy: pexels.com

    As our Cable TVs got level, stages and packages, so is the romantic relationship got level, stages and packages with benefits acrue to each package levels:

    1. Friendship subscription.

    This is the basic package/sub.

    At the level, what is available for your enjoyment is friendship. Nothing more.

    You boyfriend doesn’t own you, money neither do you own him your body.

    She doesn’t own you her cooking and home management skills neither do you own her payment of school fee.

    Does this negate gifting? Like I always said, there is no love without exchange of gifts after all, NTA is a free channel.

    With my friends at uni.

    2. Fiance/Fiancee Subscription.

    In this package, more ‘programs’ will be added to you bonquet. Marriage is in view and parents – both in the flesh and in the Lord are in the know how.

    Also, you own yourselves plenty gifts and you owned yourselves, sense, transparency, questions, prayers, godly visitation and plenty love.

    But you have not sub for house manager, cohabitators, sex and or central bank.

    Our pre-wedding shot.

    3. Marriage subscription.

    Level 3. Premium sub

    This is the premium package with full access to all what God packaged in the romance TV but it will cost you money, planning and prayers.

    With this sub, you owned one another everything, love, affections, duties, gifts, services, sex, etc.

    Complete package.

    In addition, you have to know that there is a caveat to this sub which is, that that DStv gave full access to all the programs in premium sub don’t make you the owner of DStv or dictate to them what you must show to you.

    They have give terms and conditions to enjoy their services, it is now left to you to enjoy the service or off your TV.

    That you are married doesn’t make you the creator of marriage, God is and He has given you His terms and conditions for marriage, the ball now is in your court to enjoy or endure it.

     

  • 6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    Valentine is in few days!

    A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.

    Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:

    1. Take yourself to a nice place

    Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.

    You might even meet your future val during your outings.

    2. Log out of all social media apps.

    Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩‍❤️‍👩👩‍❤️‍👩

    Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.

    3. Go out with your single friends

    You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.

    There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.

    4. Exchange gifts with someone who meant something for you.

    Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.

    Need gift suggestions, Click here

    Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.

    And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?

    5. Pretend like it is just like every other day.

    July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.

    Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.

    Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.

    February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.

    6. Get yourself a partner.

    Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.

    But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.

    It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.

    7. Prepare.

    I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.

    From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.

    During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:

    • A – Z of Content Creation ( to celebrate 3 years of blogging).
    • A Tearless Courtship.
    • Paths to Sexual purity.

    Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.

    Happy Val in advance. I love you.

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