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  • 11 KEYS FOR A GREAT DATE.

    11 KEYS FOR A GREAT DATE.

    To begin with, what’s a date? A date is an appointment to meet someone or go out with them, especially someone with whom you are having, or may soon have, a romantic relationship.

    As a Christian, it should be clear enough to you that you should be having, or may soon have a romantic relationship with only a Christian.

    Two, since a romantic date is usually male-initiated, this write-up may be focused majorly on ladies but the tips are still much applicable for guys.

    Now these are the tips:

    • Let your date venue be open, non-solitary and well-lighted. The chosen place should be a place that is comfortable for both of you and temptation-free.
    • A date is for discussion and dinning. The former before the latter.
    • Dress smartly and not seductively.
    • That moment is not a moment to relay your date with what ex you did, house rent, family problems, work-related issues, etc. All those can wait.
    • A date is between two adults. Therefore, don’t go with a friend.
    • On the date table, avoid controversial topics like politics except you both mutually agreed to.
    • Keep your phone in your purse/pocket. Let your date have your whole attention for that moment.
    • I believe the initiator of the date should be the one to finance it. However, you are an adult, please add your widow’s mite.
    • You too [as a lady] can initiate a date.
    • Note that a date invite is not a moment to act like a hungry, ferocious lion. Therefore, eat from home, if you always fell hungry.
    • Don’t pressure your partner. Rather make him/her comfortable
    • If it is someone you are already in Courtship with, please do it periodically. It is a good avenue to create and strengthen friendliness.
    • After the date, send a thank-you message expressing your appreciation for their company.

    In conclusion, buy my new book, SINGLE BUT NOT SEARCHING FOR LOVE, here to determine whether you are mature enough to have a date, court that person and remember following these tips can help ensure your date goes smoothly and leaves a positive impression.

    Enjoy your time together!

  • Red Flags

    Red Flags

    Those red flags don’t come knocking on your door, they become a very red billboards living with you, eating with you, co-parenting with us, eating food with you, having sex with you, etc.



    Now ask yourself, can you live with the red flags for 30+ years and more?

    That is why you should let go of him/her if that behaviour of him/her very much irritates you now.

    The goal is not to marry a perfect spouse, the goal is to marry a red flag that is manageable, nor abusive and non life-threatening.

    May God helps you to discern well in Jesus name.

  • ARE YOU ABOUT TO GET MARRIED? THEN YOU MUST READ THIS.

    ARE YOU ABOUT TO GET MARRIED? THEN YOU MUST READ THIS.

    This post is more to the about-to-wed guys than ladies.


    In the olden YORUBA setting, Young Couples are not allowed to work for some months.

    In fact, as a son they married for you or give you out in marriage (this is not forced marriage. There is no point in history when Yoruba do that), hence the word igbeyawo f’ọmọ (for groom’s family) or ifọmọfọkọ (for In bride’s family)

    And your father should be the one that pays your wife’s bride price.

    They make sure you have your abode and field to till at the point of marriage in a bid to ensure your marital life was started on some level of comfortability

    This is where I am going; as much as starting with what you have in marriage is good, and highly recommended by me, knowing that I too, didn’t ever have ‘anything’ when Iya Kyle-XY decided to do this life with me, but please don’t start your family life with avoidable stresses and glaring lackness.

    I know you have read about couples who started their marital journey in an uncompleted building and are now mansion owners – I am not doubting their zero beginning but I would prefer you start your own on at least a room with a comfortable bed that fits two people.

    I knew you knew how your parents started their marriage with no shishi and hunger but now plenty money dey. All is well and good, but I will still advise you to start yours with food in your tummy and foodstuffs in your panties. Not necessarily a sumptuous meal but something good to hold belly every day.

    You might have heard how your pastor and his wife have one clothes each at the point of marriage but now they can cloth 1000 people. Thank God for their lives but I will still say please for God’s sake, start yours with a few clean, wearable clothes.

    All that I am saying is that start your family on a comfortable level – even if it is the barest comfort level.

    Do you know why? It is easy to think and think adequately when the necessities of life are not a major problem again.

    Two, marriage is already very hard work than adding the agony of lack, hunger, and nakedness to it at the very start of it. Each with those that started on a very opulent level, it is a serious work talk less of those who are finding it excruciatingly difficult. Please, as much as possible, destress your marriage.

    And lastly, I know testimonies abound of those who began from ground zero and are now heroes and heroines but testimonies abound also of people who started from level 1, 2, or,3 and grew massively to level 100. Won’t you rather go with the former?

    By this, I hope you know I am not saying go and borrow money to rent a house you won’t be able to pay the rent the following year, order your daily food from hold a Hilda Baci to pepper your ex and online in-laws or be decked in debt-gotten Gucci. All I want to say is get a comfortable cheaper liveable place, a few pairs of nice clothes, and a least when you are not fasting food to hold your spirit body, and mind together and don’t forget to order food from Praise Foods occasionally to spice up your marriage at a very shikini money.

    Thank you for understanding this post.

  • Make Your Marriage Beautiful by Doing This.

    Make Your Marriage Beautiful by Doing This.

    Many singles think Marriage conveys some sort of special power on the Married or they aren’t ordinary.

    Gosh, my dear! We are ordinary folk like you. Not superhumans. No superpower.

    On a normal day, my alarm goes on by 5am, my wife have probably wake up early.

    By 6am, after I am done with my morning devotions, we will come out for Family devotions and say our good mornings. By this time, my wife has put food on the gas.

    While food is still on fire, I will go for my bath with hot water. After that, I will carry Kyle-XY, while his mum had her bath then he will have his own bath playfully.

    None of these were done by superhuman power. It’s just what everyday folk does.

    By 7am with our breakfasts already packed, we are out hustling for our daily bread. At times, during the day, we contact ourselves. Most times, we don’t.

    Furthermore, most evenings find us in church for one program or the others and we retired home by 7pm, sharing how our days met. Wife went to fix something for dinner while I play with Kyle-XY.

    After dinner, we gist about many things, had family devotions, if we didn’t have one in the morning.

    Then off to bed; at times, one to press his/her phone, other to read or relax. If there is power availability during the night, the first to wake, charge all rechargeables in the house.

    The next day, we rinse and repeat.

    Now, what make our marriage beautiful is staying true to our marital vows through the normal days and very abnormal ones, finding delight and positivity in one’s partner.

    What make us say we are enjoying this time is both spontaneous and inspontaneous moments, the love, and the respect, the shoulder to lean on, the kids to raise, etc.

    Apart from those things as highlighted about, marriage is pretty boring, if you are not a happy person in yourself.

    Lastly, we, the married are regular folks like you and who even told you you need superpower to build a home?

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  • October Challenge Day 31 – What I have been working on.

    October Challenge Day 31 – What I have been working on.

    Waoh!!!! 31 good fantastic days down. Thank for all your likes, reads, views, follows.

    You have been amazing for so far! But let me put you into some of the things I have been working with lately purposely for the remaining of this year and the next one.

    First, my scheduled Talk With Me Episode 2 with @tonified that was unable to hold due to unforseen circumstances, will now hold on Sunday 5th November, 2023 by 6pm WAT.

    Also, I will also be living with Damilola, Founder of Praise Foods in December for Third Episode of Talk with Me. We will discussing our preparing your family for Christmas in food matters. Watch out!

    The original BigMary and I are also cooking big things for you. Feminists and plagiarists, make una run for your life ,🏃🏃🏃🏃

    In addition, next year, February I will be launch a new digital book (with plenty bounces) titled HOW TO MEET AND MARRY WITHIN 3 MONTHS. Watch out too!

    You can preorder here on Selar.co via Here or via Amazon through Here

    Furthermore, my annual Blogmas is starting on December and it runs for 25 days.

    This year’s theme is The Essence of Christmas and we are studying from the book of Gospel according to Dr. Luke which has 25 chapters.

    I won’t tell you lies, there are loads of activities slated going forward. All you need is to stay tuned to this page.

    Thanks you for being here but before you go, check the comment section and do accordingly. Loveeeee!

    #dadkylexy #octoberchallenge

  • October Challenge Day 30 10 – What food would you say is your specialty?

    October Challenge Day 30 10 – What food would you say is your specialty?

  • October Challenge Day 8 – What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

    October Challenge Day 8 – What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

    By tribe, I am a Yoruba from Southwest Nigeria. We are one of the major tribes in Nigeria.

    The first culture heritage I am always most proud of is the our culture of Respect and Greetings.

    In my culture, young ones don’t called or refer to elderly ones by names. You must affixed the name of the elderly person with appropriate titles like Baba (Daddy), Mama (mum), Auntie so so so and so (if you see most Yoruba referring to someone as their auntie, most times such person is their sibling sister😄😄), broda lagbaja, oba (king) etc.

    And we used plural pronoun to refer to eldery person. Instead of o, we used e or won.

    In addition, we believe everyone deserves respect – the young and the old, that’s why, we have a proverb that says, ‘òwò díèdíè lará ñfè (everyone deserves little respect) but some people deserve perpetual Respect notably your parents and your king.

    Furthermore, we, the boys greet by prostrating and our girls do so by kneeling. Yoruba greatly tied greeting to respect.

    Girl kneeling and the boy prostrating for their mother

    We also have greetings for everything. For example, when Nigerian government removed subsidy, we started greeting ourselves, e ku aisi subsidy yii, meaning congratulations on this no subsidy regime ooo 😁😄😅

    The second cultural heritage I am most proud of is our food specifically Amala and Gbegiri plus ewedu. You can’t beat the flavour.

    If you need one made for you, DM +2347032338012.

    Lastly, take the mic and tell us what aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?

    #dadkylexy #october

  • Relationship Mindshift 4 – Food or Sex?

    Relationship Mindshift 4 – Food or Sex?

    Please read this article carefully. This isn’t an against-sex post neither it’s limiting nor berating the importance of sex in marriage but correcting the notion of comparing food to sex and vice versa.

    This is a link to an article here, where I wrote about its importance in marriage



    Now, comparing both is a sacrilege against food. Food is not sex. Sex is food. Both are unique, good, and holy and in my opinion, you need food to perform your conjugal bedmatics well. Empty stomach can’t perform very well on bed.

    Two, food is a basic need that you can’t do without while the other is a physiological need that you can survive without.

    Three, food is a mile ahead of sex, you started eating from the womb while the other, you should start it when you are married.

    Summarily, think about food before sex but know that God will bring an end to both, one day.

    Ire oooooooo.

  • How to make Nigerian jollof rice.

    How to make Nigerian jollof rice.

    You are welcome to day 13 of Blogmas 2022 called The Love of Christ.

    Before I delve into today’s episode, let me appreciate you all for the views, visits and the likes. We clocked 2k visitors yesterday and a few shy of 3k views. You are wonderful lot!

    Now, remember I told you that one of the 4 pillars of Christmas is food and I promised to teach you some Nigerian delicacies that can pass for a Christmas foods here and there in your place

    Over the week, I will teach 4 namely; jollof rice, pap and akara, Amala and gbegiri and egusi.

    Now, let’s prepare Nigerian delicious jollof rice.

    Ingredients.

    1. Rice

    2. Tomatoes – pepper mix ( blended or grounded)

    3. Tomato puree

    4. Onions

    5. Jollof spices (bay leaves, curry, thyme, ginger, and garlic powder)

    6. Seasoning cube.

    7. Salt.

    8. Groundnut oil/Margarine.

    9. Vegetables of your choice ( sliced tomato + spring onions + sliced red and green ball pepper)

    Preparation.

    1. Heat a substantial amount of groundnut oil into your pot.

    2. Add some of your sliced vegetables (recipe 9) and allow them to fry for a few seconds.

    3. Then add tomatoes puree and stir while frying for 5 – 10 minutes.

    5. Then add your blended tomato pepper mix.

    6. After that, allow it to cook for 10 – 15 minutes.

    8. Add seasoning cubes, curry powder, thyme, ginger, garlic powder, and bay leaves (to taste) then stir.

    9. Add stock water or ordinary water.

    Note: every ingredient must be in the right proportion equivalent to the amount of rice to be cooked to have a great taste.

    10. Allow the mixture to boil, then add your rice.

    11. Cover the pot and set your fire appropriately to avoid over-burning.

    12. Let it cook for 20 – 25 minutes.

    13. Garnish it with margarine, sliced onions, spring onions, sliced tomato, and sliced green and red pepper.

    15. Allow it to simmer for some minutes. Stir. Then serve.

    1. Rice

    2. Tomatoes – pepper mix ( blended or grounded)

    3. Tomato puree

    4. Onions

    5. Jollof spices (bay leaves, curry, thyme, ginger, and garlic powder)

    6. Seasoning cube.

    7. Salt.

    8. Groundnut oil/Margarine.

    9. Vegetables of your choice ( sliced tomato + spring onions + sliced red and green ball pepper)


    Preparation.


    1. Heat a substantial amount of groundnut oil into your pot.

    2. Add some of your sliced vegetables (recipe 9) and allow them to fry for a few seconds.

    3. Then add tomatoes puree and stir while frying for 5 – 10 minutes.

    5. Then add your blended tomato pepper mix.

    6. After that, allow it to cook for 10 – 15 minutes.

    8. Add seasoning cubes, curry powder, thyme, ginger, garlic powder, and bay leaves (to taste) then stir.

    9. Add stock water or ordinary water.

    Note: every ingredient must be in the right proportion equivalent to the amount of rice to be cooked to have a great taste.

    10. Allow the mixture to boil, then add your rice.

    11. Cover the pot and set your fire appropriately to avoid over-burning.

    12. Let it cook for 20 – 25 minutes.

    13. Garnish it with margarine, sliced onions, spring onions, sliced tomato, and sliced green and red pepper.

    Nigerian jollof rice.

    15. Allow it to simmer for some minutes. Stir. Then serve.

  • Four pillars of Christmas.

    Four pillars of Christmas.

    Today is the fifth day of 2022 Blogmas titled The Love of Christ. Thank you for staying by.

    In the early 90s and close to early 20s, Christmas and New Year celebrations in my place were hinged on four things that make them worthwhile. We use to celebrate the moment with deep joy and gladness and I think it should be like that too now.

    With Christ being the foundation of all your Christmas celebrations as discussed yesterday, now, erect these four pillars on that surest foundation:

    #Pillar 1 – Family.

    Commemorate this moment with your family because of truth, the Christmas story is all about bringing the family of God together. Jesus grew up in a family. Involve all your household in preparing for celebrating the head of the house.

    #Pillar 2 – Food.

    Christmastime is not a day of fasting but a day of feasting and merriment. It is a season to eat and send some to those who don’t have any. Why? It’s a holy day to the Lord.

    Traditionally, Christmas is celebrated with such foods as rice and its varieties plus fried chicken, amala, semovita, and pounded yam with sumptuous soups like ewedu (jute allow), egusi, etc.

    We didn’t only cook and eat those foods but we also send some to our neighbors and receive some from them.

    Egusi soup
    Nigerian Jollof rice
    Amala and gbegiri

    Stay tuned on this channel to learn how to prepare some of these foods and you can also teach me how to prepare your traditional food in the comment section.

    #Pillar 3 – Touch

    There was this December program in Nigeria tagged Touching lives at Christmas. It holds annually during this period. The program is all above preaching Christ in some designated villages before and on Christmas.

    God touches our lives 2 millenniums ago during this season and he expects us to extend the touch to others by giving them love, hope, clothes, food, hugs, alms, salvation messages, etc.

    Dear friend, I urge you not to let this season pass without touching the life of someone with what God has blessed you with particularly the poor. They deserve a space in your budget list.

    #Pillar 4 – Fun.

    One of our hymn goes thus;

    Joy to the earth! The Saviour reigns;
    Let men their songs employ;
    While fields and floods, rocks, hills and plains
    Repeat the sounding joy,
    Repeat the sounding joy,
    Repeat, repeat the sounding joy.

    That hymn connotes the herald of a joyous moment in heaven and on earth at the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    Christmastime is a joyous occasion and it deserves all the maximum enjoyment you can derive from it.

    Go to the orphanage and have fun. Go with your family and friends

    Go to the beach.

    Attend Christmas carols, school Reunions, and family meetings.

    Visit a museum or a cinema.

    Visit old people’s houses.

    Share the joy with those lying on hospital beds

    Visit your longtime friend.

    Have fun with the family, with others, and with your food.

    But make sure your fun is within what is permissible as a Christian.

    See you tomorrow. Thanks

  • #GratitudeChallenge – Why I love Nigeria.

    #GratitudeChallenge – Why I love Nigeria.

    Welcome once again to this channel. It has been fantastic 20 days all along.

    To start with, I am a Nigerian 🇳🇬🇳🇬. A proud one at that and I love my country for the following reasons:

    • Multi-pluralities: both in tribes (over 200), languages (over 250), religions (more than 5), political parties (close to 100 in the last general elections),etc.
    • Numerous cultures and festivals.
    • Democratic governments.
    • Fantastic media.
    • Freedom.
    • Foods – Click here to learn how to make ekuru, okro, and moi moi here
    • Outstanding environments.
    • Attractive tourist attractions. Click here to watch 5 fantastic places you can visit in Nigeria
    • Flamboyant ceremonies.
    • Fantastic and detribalised people.
    • World class universities.
    • Educated people making waves home and abroad.
    • Famous personalities who are shaking the whole world in all human endeavors. Name that sector and you will definitely met a Nigerian in the top seat there.
    • Highest numbers of twins in the whole world
    • And many more.
    In traditional Yoruba agbada.

    Therefore, I thank God for the provision of all these in my country.

    Semo and okro soup

    I also thank God for our leaders across all strata for the wisdom and understanding you have given them and will give them.

    I also appreciate your Holy name for our economy. You are wonderful oh Lord, my God.

    For adding to us daily making us the most populous Black nation, you are highly exalted

    Thank you for everything concerning my country. It is by your power and allowance, that we are, despite the threats of terrorists, seccessionists, bandits, insecurities, etc.

    Conclusively, let’s sing the national anthem;

    Arise, O Compatriots
    Nigeria’s call obey
    To serve our fatherland
    With love and strength and faith
    The labour of our heroes past,
    shall never be in vain
    To serve with heart and might,
    One nation bound in freedom, peace and unity


    Oh God of creation,
    Direct our noble cause
    Guide our leaders right
    Help our youth the truth to know
    In love and honesty to grow
    And living just and true
    Great lofty heights attain
    To build a nation where peace and justice shall reign

    Today’s task for you: (1) How many state of the federation have you been to? (For Nigerians). (2) Have you been to Nigeria? If yes, which state? (non-Nigerians).

    P:S: To non-Nigerians wondering if these assertions are true. They are true and Nigeria is not as bad as it’s portrays home and abroad and we have our own national challenges as every developing and developed nations.

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