To start with, a reasonable person will never have his/her nudes or any other person’s, on their devices, let alone sending them to someone. Let alone that such a reasonable person is a Christian.
Number one, no man who loves you will ask for nudes.
Call him any names – husband, boyfriend, teacher, pastor, et cetera. No man who claims he loves you will demand such.
If he wants to see your nakedness, let him go and pay your bride price and then come home to behold the real thing.
Secondly, nothing is safe on your phone. It could be hacked, stolen, lost, or found in the hands of despicable ones. Imagine you, a so-called Queen or King, dancing nakedly in the market square. God forbids.
Thirdly, some sins and mistakes have the potential to permanently destroy your destiny and God’s plan for your life. One of such is the subject matter. See, if you are NFA (No future ambition), you can register on OnlyFans and blow away your destiny, but if you know for sure you have something to offer your generation, don’t dare.
Another reason is that the internet never forgets. The Internet never forgives. Why create shame and reproach for your generation?
And lastly, Christians don’t have nudes on their phones.
Christians don’t request nudes.
Christians don’t send nudes.
For we have been redeemed at a price, so we have to glorify our bodies with Christ.
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Some bible verse won’t make much sense to you till you are in the heat of it – practicing it.
One of such verse is Jesus’ saying ‘… Except you become like one of these children, you cannot entered the kingdom of God.’
Now, being a father to Kyle XY makes me fully grasp the importance of that saying.
First, kids copy-cat a lot. Anything his mum and I do, he will definitely want to repeat it.
Put a bottle on a cabinet, he will try to remove it and repeat the process.
Sweep a portion of the kitchen, he will go and take the broom and want to do his.
He just want to do what we do.
This taught me a vital lesson to dutifully follow in Christ’s footsteps as my boy does with us.
Moreover, on the flip side, Kyle XY knows the next step after a particular house chore.
Once, his mum brings out broom, he will go for the dustpan.
If it’s pot, he goes for pot.
Water on the floor. Dragging mopping stick with us is the next thing.
Talk about being in tune with God is doing and saying per season. That’s
The third way my faith was better for it because I’m a father is the aspect of total trust.
When we are with him, he will playfully move to the bed edge wanting to jump but when he is alone, he won’t dare. Why? Because he knows for a fact that we won’t let him hurt himself.
He may want to play with electrical socket but we won’t allow that.
He may want to do hurting things to himself but he trusts us not to leave him to them.
I may want to self ruin but I trust my God. He won’t allow that.
Furthermore, if my boy needs anything, his first ask is from us, his parents. Talk about dependence because we are duty bound to provide for his needs.
Brother and sister, God is more than enough to be depended on because he cares for you more than we can care for our son.
Another one is love of discipline. If he was disciplined some hours ago, that does mean he won’t come to ask for his needs or play with us as his parents.
No sulking. No disownment. No unforgiveness. Nothing comes in between our relationship because of corrections. And we apologized to our 1½ years old son if we are in the wrong.
No wonder, Bible says, ‘ My son, do not reject your Father’s correction. For the son the Father loves, He disciplines,’ and ‘Nothing can separate us from the love of Christ…’
As my son is eternally assured of my love so I am of, of our Heavenly Father.
Lastly, that Bible’s portion that says, ‘worry not.’ The only category obeying that command are kids.
They are less concerned with US elections, inflation, prices of prescription drugs, immigration, etc. That’s our worries.
My boy knows I will take care of him. So, zero worries.
I now leave God to do the worries for me while I enjoy his cares.
Isn’t all these attributes God is expecting from a Heaven seeker?
Lastly, How has fatherhood/motherhood better your faith?
John, upon his death, found himself at the gate of heaven.
Big, gigantic, shining, golden gate leading to the great white throne of Jesus with angels arrayed in majestic beauty and books placed on a digital platform before each of them.
Book of Life with Master Jesus.
But the Angel in the middle was named, Angel Olushina (Awọn bàbá wa ninu Oluwa don turn angel for heaven!)
Enter John in the Throne room.
Luckily for him, he was chanced to be in the Angel Olushina’s line, and being assured of his salvation while on earth, he strolled royally to the front.
‘What is your name,’ he asked.
He replied, ‘ My name is John TiJesuNiGbogboOgoatiOla Adurotoluwakiijogunofo, from Progress Baptist….’
‘That is enough. Put your hand on the table before you.’
Immediately, he did, a large screen popped out of nowhere, with John’s pic and BioData conspicuously displayed.
The next slide shows his kingdom’s achievements.
Given life to Christ ✅✅ Kingdom financing ✅✅ Good deeds to brethren ✅✅ Kingdom service 🙆🙆🙆
Na here, angel don dey confused!
He perused his system for names of the choir. ❌
Names of those in the media/technical department. ❌
Intercessors’ list nkọ? ❌❌
Witnessing for Christ 🧐
After a thorough search was done, his name could not be found in any kingdom services’ list. Angel Olushina reported thus to Master Jesus; My Lord, this Son of yours, John TiJesuNiGbogboOgoatiOla Adurotoluwakiijogunofo, salvation, kingdom financing, and good deeds were legit, but his services to you, were not servicing at all. What should we do, Sir.’
‘ His salvation is already guaranteed. His place in my father’s house is already assured, but give his 5 strokes of cane, then send him back to earth. I want his stars to be more
Fimmmm! Fimmmm! Fimmmm! Fimm…!
John 🏃🏃🏃 towards the Earth’s portal.
‘Has he ever served in any evangelism outreach team before,’ Jesus called out.
‘No, my Lord.’
‘Add two more pankere.’
That was how John opened his eyes and started asking when is the Oloyoo ’24 starting and the service points available after discombobulation by Angel Shina.
Today make it 4 years, 4 months, 3 days, 5 hours, 10 minutes and 2 seconds, you last received I love you message, since Bro Dare served you premium breakfast the following month.
You are not a tree, ma.
You deserved the best, love can offer you.
You are advised to spread the love Christ has for you.
Open your heart to receive love.
Moreover, since you are assured of God’s love, why don’t you join us to spread it during our Annual Evangelism Outreach holding at Olooyo from Nov., 1st – 3rd, 2024.
Maybe you may meet bro. David during the program by partnering with us and who knows what can happen?
Quite some times. I am so sorry for being irregular here this year. I had been so caught up in the ordinary daily business in life, but I think the coast is getting clear.
Recently, couples trended on FacebookNG for divorcing after two months of marriage. Reason; genotypic incompatibility.
My first question to them was, what were they discussing when they were courting?
Now, let’s talk about 5 issues, questions and clarification that should be a forgone conclusion by the end of your first week being in a romantic relationship leading to marriage.
I hope you are not thinking, ‘Are you a Christian?’ as one of them. Nada! Because as a Christian, you are only permitted to choose, date, court and marry a fellow believer.
That should be a foregone conclusion, a settled affair before even contemplating the relationship.
Now, here are 5 things you should considered a settled case before the end of your 1st weekniversary:
GENOTYPE
If you are not African, you may not fully grasp the reason for this.
You see there is what we called sickle cell patients here and it is an inherited sickness as a result of either parents being a carrier of type S or C in their genotypes – AS, AC or SS.
Marriage between these groups have higher probability of producing a sickle cell children.
Children who will become regular customer at hospital and suffer through childhood and adolescence.
Only few of them make it to their adulthood and it will be in great pain.
But the pain and suffering on innocent child can be avoided if intending parents know their genotype at the tip of their fingers so that they can make informed decision.
I will even say once someone is asking you out for a defined relationship, before even perhaps pray, ask him or her, what is your genotype. So that you can know, if the offer is what can be considered or not.
This should be a settled case by the end of your first week in relationship, so that you will not invest your time, resources and energy in to something that may result to loss on all fronts and likely bring pain and suffering to the unborn babies.
DENOMINATION AND DOCTRINE
We are all Christian but we worship differently and have minor doctrinal differences*. (Infact, I used to advise that you marry someone who, you agreed, at least 95% doctrinally. It won’t be funny if one believed in tithing and sowing while other partner don’t.
By the end of the first week, you should know where he worships and what they believe there, in order for you to decide whether this is where I can worship or I can do marriage with someone with someone believing with or that doctrinally.
It is better done early that arguing one week to walk the aisle, about Mariology or tithes, worship mode.
BASIC BIO-DATA
Another dating partners also trended on TwitterNG because the guy dumped the girl after learning that she is from a particular tribe. 7 years of dating in-between.
Though, it is wrong of him to break someone’s heart on account of tribal sentiments but the question begs for answer; how can you be dating someone for 7 years without knowing something as basic as where he or she is from?
Who does that except Gen-X and -Z?
Don’t be surprised, there is a guy and a girl now in relationship who doesn’t know each other’s official name saved each other social media handles.
My friend, ask her, her government approved names and by the end of the first week of lovey dovey, you should be able to put a face to a particular address and location.
This will boost your confidence and make you a serious
WHAT DID HE/SHE WANT
As Christians, we date because we want to marry but not all of us think likewise.
Some just want to use you to pepper their ex.
Some just want to catch cruise.
Some just your friendship with no strings attached.
Some are just pure time wasters.
Ask so that you will not shed premium tears after 4 years of courting when you hear, ‘ We are just like a sister to me.’
GENDER ROLES BELIEF.
We are some believers who still hold on to traditional gender roles – the husband provides, and the wife keeps and cleans the house. Some have reversed versions of the traditional while some have modified versions – whoever has the means and power to provide, cook, or clean should do – be it husband or wife.
None of these models is bad as long as it was agreed on by both partners but it becomes problematic if this isn’t talked through.
To avoid, needless arguments in marriage, settle this very early in the courtship.
Summarily, the reason for all these early questions is to prevent waste of time, resources, and affections.
Between my first and my last relationship between Marriage is a period of 8 years, majorly my 20s.
During that time though alone but I was never lonely and I can say it emphatically that I enjoyed my singlehood and I am enjoying my marriagehood.
Who says you too can’t?
That’s why I have put pen to paper to write you a new book that highlight ways and manners of enjoying your Singlehood without necessarily being in a relationship.
Two, the book prepares you for marriage but while at it, enjoy your singleness.
To buy your copy of Single But Not Searching For Love, click down
To begin with, what’s a date? A date is an appointment to meet someone or go out with them, especially someone with whom you are having, or may soon have, a romantic relationship.
As a Christian, it should be clear enough to you that you should be having, or may soon have a romantic relationship with only a Christian.
Two, since a romantic date is usually male-initiated, this write-up may be focused majorly on ladies but the tips are still much applicable for guys.
Now these are the tips:
Let your date venue be open, non-solitary and well-lighted. The chosen place should be a place that is comfortable for both of you and temptation-free.
A date is for discussion and dinning. The former before the latter.
Dress smartly and not seductively.
That moment is not a moment to relay your date with what ex you did, house rent, family problems, work-related issues, etc. All those can wait.
A date is between two adults. Therefore, don’t go with a friend.
On the date table, avoid controversial topics like politics except you both mutually agreed to.
Keep your phone in your purse/pocket. Let your date have your whole attention for that moment.
I believe the initiator of the date should be the one to finance it. However, you are an adult, please add your widow’s mite.
You too [as a lady] can initiate a date.
Note that a date invite is not a moment to act like a hungry, ferocious lion. Therefore, eat from home, if you always fell hungry.
Don’t pressure your partner. Rather make him/her comfortable
If it is someone you are already in Courtship with, please do it periodically. It is a good avenue to create and strengthen friendliness.
After the date, send a thank-you message expressing your appreciation for their company.
In conclusion, buy my new book, SINGLE BUT NOT SEARCHING FOR LOVE, here to determine whether you are mature enough to have a date, court that person and remember following these tips can help ensure your date goes smoothly and leaves a positive impression.
It’s been a while since I last shared with you on this beautiful journey of Christian courtship, and I’ve missed you all dearly.
Life has a way of taking us on unexpected detours, and during this time found myself in a season of reflection, growth, and renewal. Today, I return to you with a heart brimming with gratitude, longing, and a renewed commitment to our shared path.
These past months have been a time of deep soul-searching and prayer. I felt the weight of silence and the pang of distance from this community that meant a bunch to me. Each day away made me more aware of the importance of the bonds we’ve formed here, and the encouragement and inspiration we draw from one another. I’ve missed our conversations, your insights, and the unique ways we interact with each other in our pursuit of God-centered relationships.
In this period of quiet, there were moments of doubt and weariness, but also times of profound clarity and peace. Through it all, I’ve been reminded of the beauty of our shared journey – a journey that is not just about finding the right person, but about becoming the person God has called us to be.
I return now, eager to reconnect and dive deeper into the topics that matter most to us. Together, we will explore the joys and challenges of courtship, the wisdom of Scripture, and the testimonies of those who have walked this path before us. I believe that God has placed a renewed purpose in my heart to share.
Thanks for always sharing, liking and subscribing.
One of the intense battle I will always advised Singles to avoid by all means, is in-laws battle and hatred and my advice had always been, ‘if they don’t like you, don’t marry their son/daughter.’
I know you can prayed them for a change of heart but I date you to say, free your time to pray on better things in marriage.
But what could really be the problem, you mother-in-law hates you?
You may have incurred your mother-in-law hatred because of the following:
You have what she didn’t have when you married. You see, human beings generally hate the good things they don’t have.
The amount of love, care and affection their son is giving you which she didn’t receive from your father-in-law when she too was your age, and marital status may be reason she didn’t vibe to you.
She may be demonically possession especially if she is an unbeliever and you are a believer. Believe it or not, demonic possession is real and unbelievers are devil and minions, abode.
You being a Christian and with the virtues attached will naturally repel an unbeliever’s way of life and thinking.
You didn’t hate them but according to what Peter said in his epistle that, they are amazed that you didn’t join them in their ungodly behaviours, now instead of them to praise you, they slander you.
Thirdly, you are the cause. We are in the era where intending spouse have already hated their mother-in-law, when they have even have a suitor yet. More like an in-built hate.
Some of you were shown love, care and respect when you meet her but because of what popular media have told you about in-laws or because of what your own mom experienced with hers. You locked up from receiving love.
Love In Colour was supposed to launch in Easter Monday but right on Resurrection Sunday, I was hospitalized hence the postponement.
Right beside the bed wherein I was lied is a married man attended to, by his elder daughter (probably gotten two daughters).
This daughter stays with her father while her mother runs errands.
If you see the ways and manners both the daughter and wife were taking care of this man, you will love good marriage.
Because it’s very obvious the man was a good jolly, family-oriented man.
None is been forced to do anything.
With them, you will love good marriage.
Brother, if you see happy home, you will feel it.
You will be desirous of one.
You will pray for it and you will work for it.
That is why Love In Action- 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond was written to provide you with practical principles for wholesome courtship experiences, seasoned and garnished with time-tested principles, that will make your courtship fun-filled and godly while preparing you for the happy beyond – Marriage.
By God’s grace I have been able to put together these body of works together for the benefits of your godly courtship and beyond.
The Tearless Courtship – A Christian Guide to Courtship and Dating.*
God Doesn’t Want You To Be A Virgin.*
Love In Action – 31 Principles For Courtship and Beyond
Meet And Marry+
500 Yoruba Names And Their Meanings
A-Z of Content Creation*
You can’t read these books and your Courtship remains boring, unattractive and ungodly and they are available for purchase via Selar and Amazon marketplace
I repeat, if your Courtship is boring , then you have read any of these titles.
Since the day, I read an online article titled, Why Christian Sisters Doesn’t Date Church Brothers and one of reasons being that Christian Courtship is boring. I have been restless.
Christian Courtship is not boring, that I can attest to over and over again, hence the new release, Love In Colour to add fun to your courtship.
The second query was, how do we not sin and we don’t want boredom. There are thousands and one activities for you and LOML without even nearing sinning.
One of them is Colouring and here is Love In Colour – A 31-Day Colouring and Devotional for Christian Singles.
A chapter, a day, a principle that can help you prepare for the glorious journey you guys are preparing for and a laugh to brighten your day
Now get $3 and a pack of colouring material out of your pocket. Let’s colour your love.
Release date: Easter Monday.
Platform: Selar and Amazon.
Like I always say, I am rooting for your marital success.
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