Good day. How has it been so far?
Today, I want to talk about something very important about choosing who to marry.
A little story before I delve into the topic at hand. You see, I love Pelumi, my ex, than my wife till now but if I am given the chance to choose between the love of my life and the woman I married again, I will gladly choose the wife over and over again. 1 million times sef gan.
Now, you must have heard Marriage Counselors opined that love can’t sustain marital journey. I perfectly understand the angle they are coming from but I beg to differ by saying; Love is more than enough to sustain a happy marriage.
I repeat, love is the principal ingredient for a happy marriage.
If you love someone, as a husband, you will provide and protect your wife and children.
If you love your husband, you will truly be a help that meet his needs, vision and purpose.
Furthermore, look at the attributes of love in 1 Corinthians Chapter 13 and tell me how, where all those attributes are evidently present, will be unhappy?
But I am begging you today, don’t marry that person simply because you love him/her, MARRY THAT PERSON BECAUSE YOUR CORE VALUES ALIGNED. That was the reason why I dumped her. dumped her and marry my wife.
If you don’t like to use majority of your marital life fighting one avoidable battle to another and frustrated, marry someone whose core values agreed, aligned, and work with yours especially in this four areas;
- Religion beliefs and Doctrine.
- Use of money
- Parenting styles and
- In-laws relationships
Trust me, you don’t want to use your marital life explaining why congregational worship is important to a believer to someone who seem church as a scam or a thing of the heart.
I repeat myself, it won’t be funny again if your spouse is tightfisted or spendthrift.
You don’t want to use productive days of life arguing and settling issues arising from misalignment of core values, purposes and visions.
Can two people walk together except they agreed?
You know why I am suggesting you choose value alignment over love is because one, you are expected to love all manners of people as mandated by the Bible and two it’s one of the reasons God categorically forbids marriage between believers and unbelievers because He knows you can possibly fall in love with them but your values don’t align, can agree, or worked together.
Another reason is that God wants you, a happy home and happy home will be unachievable in an environment of constant conflicts, disagreement and misunderstanding
In the intricate dance of relationships, the choice of a life partner is a profound decision that shapes the chapters of our shared story. While love is undeniably a powerful force, it is values alignment that serves as the compass guiding this journey. Choosing a partner whose values resonate with your own creates a foundation of shared beliefs, fostering understanding, and fortifying the union against the winds of change. Love may be the melody, but values alignment is the harmonious rhythm that sustains the beautiful symphony of a lifelong partnership. So, as you embark on the path of choosing a life companion, let the echoes of shared values be the enduring melody that weaves through the tapestry of your love story.
Lastly, Embrace lasting love by choosing values alignment. Share your thoughts, like, subscribe, and comment for a community of shared wisdom.
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