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  • STOP KILLING YOUR KIDS!

    I’m angry. Very livid about the attitude of some of us.

    You are a killer! Yes I say you are a killer and God is going to judge your for using your child to fulfill your own failed dreams. Are you her? Is she you? Are you talented and gifted the same way?

    I am angry about one bad behavior by modern parents of rushing their children through school into emergency adulthood by enrolling them very early (probably by age 1) and helping them to skip classes along the ways chiefly because such kid is performing brilliantly in his/her academics.

    Many people have suggested the causes; Nigerian government unstable education policies, private schools owners, parents, society, etc., but the chiefest culprit are parents especially mothers because they want to do BRAGGING in church and their age grade groups that their kids finished University at 18 not knowing the damages they are inflicting on those kids.

    One thing parents should know is that that your kid skipped and he/she is still performing well in school doesn’t mean he/she is emotionally and morally okay.

    And rushing your kids through life is stealing their childhood away from them. Live and let your child live peaceably!

    Furthermore, that it’s not showing physically doesn’t mean damages are not being done to those rushed kids. It will show sonner or latter, morally and emotionally. What is the essence of having academically sound but emotionally and morally bankrupt individuals?

    Thirdly, there is no single advantage in rushing your child through pre-tertiary schools. I left my mates at primary 4 then to go J.S.1 skipping primary 5 to do so. Despite that, I am not richer, more educated or famous than those I left behind then. Infact one of them is my ward councillor now.

  • The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 2).

    The Parable of Goat and Yam (Chapter 2).

    Image from Goggle.

    For Christian Sisters Only.

    Christian sisters should be sweet yams. Yes, they should. God is the planter and that brother that used to tell you, ‘ you are my honey,’ every blessed morning is the goat and you got to help him to become a G.O.A.T.

    But how? You should know that, although Farmer-Owner which is Yahweh God has brought you to you goat or you have brought you goat to your owner, you must know that you can’t be peel, toasted, roasted, touched anyhow or boiled.

    You can’t. It’s not yet time.

    And I want you to also know that the desire to be eaten, boiled, peel, roasted, grated or even fried is legitimate and God-given but it is not yet an appropriate time. What should be touching you is now word of God, your pillows and or a cup of tea.

    Also, forget not that though the coming G.O.A.T is a Christian, he is also with a God-given instincts to boil and fry. He may speak the languages of angels but he has godly desires in him.

    Furthermore, be aware that not all goats are domesticated goats. Some are mountain goats (wild one), some are wannabes (infact baby antelope looks like goat) while some are ewu gambias* and not all goats have potential to become G.O.A.T. Only the Capra hiscus can survive all weathers and you should know that you own goat many not be in your locale.

    Therefore, you must help him by not seductively peel yourself, park yourself into his barn, for the habit of sleeping in his barn, touch him inappropriately (Yes, you can’t touch him too!) or arouse the goatness in him till appropriate time.

    If you want to be boiled, peel, grated, roasted, touched or even turn to yam cake (òjòjò)* , tell him to come and see the yam caterers to do the required and you too should go and see goat caterers to do the neccesary.

    But a potential GOAT should have self-control? Yes, of course, so a potential Y.A.M should self-control too. Not be any of your efforts, but by the grace of thy Farmer who art in heaven.

    If you can do this, you will be able to Y.A.M i.e. Yes! Am Married and be able to YAHM (Yes! Am Holly Married) before thy Father-Farmer.

    Stay tuned for chapter 3.

  • A trial will convince you.

    A trial will convince you.

  • Appreciation post.

    Appreciation post.

    Recently I crossed 1k views here courtesy of you, my followers, visitors and readers from all over the world.

    Official recognition from WordPress Inc.

    You make it possible. You made it real and I thank you for being part of this move.

    Like Oliver Twist, I am asking for more views, likes, follows and comments plus feedbacks. Invite your friends and family here.

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    Gratitude once again.

  • 20 Super Gifts For Super Mom.

    20 Super Gifts For Super Mom.

    Hurray! Another Mother’s day is here and we love moms! Don’t we?

    My mum

    I love my mum❤️. I am sure you love yours too. Mums are shelter we run to when dads start behaving daddy. They are our first teacher, pastor, advisor, expert, LOML 🥰, and girlfriend; all roll into one.

    Convincingly, Mothers are super and they deserve superb treatments from our tokens appreciatively. Not because they cannot afford these things but because they are worthy of our acknowledgement of services and deserve honour as Bible outlined it in Exodus 20:12 and Ephesians 6:1.

    Now, these are list of 20 gifts for your super mummy during Mother’s day, holidays, her birthday, matriculation, anniversary, graduation, etc:

    1. Listening ears ( most of them don’t get this from our fathers when we are growing up).

    2. Visitation ( especially by her grandchildren).

    3. Aso-ebí clothes.

    Remember MOTHERS DESERVE THE BEST.

    4. Cooking kits ( remember she is still that innocent girl that fall in love with dad).

    5. Recharge cards ( she is gonna use all the credits to call you😃).

    6. Pyjamas.

    7. A bottle of wine 🍷.

    8. Flat-helled shoes.

    9. Fancy pillow cases.

    10. Cardigans and wool socks ( for oldies).

    11. A bottle of nice perf.

    12. Call.

    13. Cash transfer ( no girl hates credit alert).

    14. 6 yards of Ankara or lace materials.

    15. Beverages.

    16. Electric Blender/Grinder.

    17. Jewelry.

    18. Wigs ( for mummy that are still young).

    19. MP3 player

    20. A pack of assorted ponmo

    21. A date with either one of her old best friend or church group and

    22. A responsible spouse that gives you peace of mind.

    Trust me, our mothers deserve the best of everything we can think of. Our gifts can never pay for the love they have showered on us and if your mom gave you the best of her you cannot get from others, so why don’t you give her best of what you are.

    Friends, what other gift can we buy for mom?

    Remember MOTHERS DESERVE THE BEST.

    Pack of dried cow skin called ponmo.
    Bale of Ankara.

    Images courtesy of Google.

  • My Parents’ marriage should inspire you.

    Caveat: My parents’ marriage is not a perfect one, if perfect marriage exists.

    My parents will be celebrating their 37th wedding anniversary comes 15th of July and this writeup is about 7 great lessons from their marriage which has inspired me and which should inspire you to desire a responsible marital relationship.

    My parents – Mr and Mrs. Alade.
    1. Marriage is still honorable : God declared marriage to be honorable and that loneliness is not good. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Abby Alade’ marriage modelled that biblical saying as duo cannot do without one another and none will take a step without another person’ s consent. This should inspire us and gear us to know that social media, its influencers, celebrities and or anyone’s experiences have not eroded the sacredness, honour and blessedness of marriage.
    2. Furthermore, there is a wide gap between big wedding and happy marriage as my parents had what was called a parlour wedding then ( just payment of bride price and blessing by parents). It was indeed a small wedding that produced a big marriage. God created marriage, human beings created wedding but it needs not be flamboyant, expensive or debt-achieved before we can have a big marriage. My parents did theirs simply and live bigly. Doesn’t that mean if you have the means for big wedding, you shouldn’t do it? Or does expensive wedding automatically means bad marriage? Not at all, the glamorousness of a wedding doesn’t determine longevity and ‘happyability’ of a marriage (in fact a family friend who shared the same wedding date, month and year with them had a big wedding and theirs also is working till date) but the lesson is that we should prepare for marriage than for wedding.
    3. In addition, happy marriage and godly marriage is not the same thing because you can be happily married like Ahab and Jezebel and not be godly married like them. My parents’ marriage is a godly one and because it is godly, happiness is guaranteed because a house inhabitated by Jesus is a happy home and two, a godly home produces a godly offsprings.
    4. Fourthly, what worked for A might not work for B. All those marriage teachings on couples wearing the same clothes, sleeping in the same room and bed, having joint account, sharing house chores has never worked in my family (maybe in the future but for now, not working). Are all these wrong? No, they are not bad in fact they are highly encouraged but it won’t work for all of us. So everyone of us has got to decide what will work for them as there is not copy and paste marriage because each marriage comes with its unique differences, challenges and uniqueness. My parents don’t sleep in the same room, don’t have joint account and don’t wear same clothes though they have few together, shared housechores and it is working for them for the past 37 years. Design your own happiness.
    5. Sequel to number 4, for a great marriage to occur, like my parents’ only things matter and are needed; LOVE AND SUBMISSION. My dad loves my mum and my mum is a submitted woman. Anything you don’t anybody to hear, don’t tell my dad because he will tell his wife. Contrary to popular opinion, love is unconditional and submission is never slavery.
    6. Divorce is not the solution to every marital problem is the fifth lesson to insipe us. My parents faced a lot of challenges that many secular marriage and relationship experts will have advised calling it quit. The challenges they faced ranges from financial, spiritual, health, in laws problems not excluding abuse of power but they didn’t quit nor give up on one another. They held on prayerfully for their marriage though God’s intervention and godly extended family’ persuasion and today the rest is a good testimony. There are still challenges in the marriage though.
    7. In conclusion, there are still happily married couples on this planet Earth. Forget about society what is saying, happy couples still exist, godly marriage is still possible and happy marriages still abound just that some of those couples are not on Facebook like my parents, don’t have their stories on FP of newspapers and don’t ever talk. Apart from my parents, I knew many of them. You too, can be happily married. Stay blessed and 37 cheers to my parents.
    My sister. A farmer, inspirational speaker and an author
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