You don’t love me anymore.
Samuel AdΓ©soorΓre and Rhoda Adesola were lovebirds in school. Samuel was the school fellowship president while her fiance was the sister coordinator even though both of them are not from that denomination.
Talk about grace, depth, leadership acumens and what have you.
Their Relationship continues after schooling and this will end in a happy Christian home. In Christian slang, a kingdom Courtship moving to it permanent site of kingdom Marriage and their Relationship is godly – no sex and no yhdvdkccf ππ
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The other reason being that the love is mutual and the submission is top-notch. Each can’t do without the other. Infact people in the neighborhood have started using them as example of what a godly courtship and marriage should be.
You thought they are angels? Of course not for during their courtship stage, they have their shares of intending couples’ fights, malice, misunderstanding, battles yet all were weathered maturely.
After NYSC, they decided to get marry owning to go-ahead from both parents, mentors and their pockets (both got where they are being paid what can afford them comfortability) and their wedding was lite.
Everything done that was done as how a Christian couples and families ought to.
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Five years after wedding, they are contemplating divorce but before they proceeded, as they have agreed before marriage that should chicken comes to roost, we will consult our pastor before the next action. π€·π€·π€·π
Now, let’s see what transpired in the pastor’s office πππ
‘But why are you getting divorce. Bro Samuel, sister Rhoda, your marriage is an example to many in this church. What could have happened?’
None answered.
‘Is there cases of adultery, domestic abuse, financial irresponsibility, undisclosed matters, inlaws problems or any?’
Both nodded in negative.
‘Then what is happening, can somebody please tell me something’
‘He doesn’t love me anymore,’ said Rhoda. πππ
‘How can say that I don’t love you anymore.’ π
‘Everybody knows that I do.’π°π°
‘I don’t love you but I just bought you car this last month.’ π€π€
‘I don’t love you but I stay in the kitchen with you.’ π π
‘I don’t love you but I called you 3 times daily during working hours,’ he interrupted.π‘π‘π‘
‘Daddy, please ask him when last did he said I love you to me.’ π’π’
‘When last did he write a poem for me (like he used to do during our dating period).’π’π’
‘He has even stopped calling me romantic names since I gave birth to Junior,’ she fired back. ππ°π
‘But but…’ he retorted.ππ
And pastor bust into laughter π€£π€£
‘Sir, I have my own to say oooi.’
‘Since the birth of our first kid, iya Junior has used him to replace me.’
‘Sex is non existent owning it up to some ministerial burden.’
‘Food is anyhow (and she knew I don’t eat outside) and he doesn’t even attend to my family properly,’ he accused.
(Meanwhile, during this back and forth, pastor was listening with rapt attention).
‘Hmmm!’ pastor heaved a relief sigh and and said, ‘my brother and sister, I appreciate you for honouring me as your shepherd. First, you have minor issue but big misunderstanding about love and submission.
‘My brother, it is a known fact that you truly love your wife but Love means different stuff to different women. E.g., if you are observant you could have noticed that the finest and the largest part of our house was the kitchen. I purposely designed it so because my wife loves cooking and that most times, we don’t wear asoebi because she is non-PDA’
‘So my brother, love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’
‘As for you, my sister, I know you are a submissive wife and you too know, for a fact, that your husband loves you but be it known unto you today that a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected. I repeated, 8/10 mens are jealous, want sex, food and his family cater for and it is only through those avenue that he felt that you loved him.’
I hope you understand me, brother and sister.
Both nodded in affirmation, called their lawyer to back off, prayed together in pastor’s office and live happily after.
1. …love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’
2. a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected.
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