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  • What advice would you give to your teenage about Marriage

    What advice would you give to your teenage about Marriage

    Number one, there are people who are keeping the sexual purity ideal up in this 21st century. Don’t let sinners’ voice mislead you contrawise.

    Number two, God’s commands is still No sex before Marriage and I am 100% saying this, you can’t regret ever keeping yourself till you are rightfully married.

    Furthermore, start praying now. Don’t wait until you are about to settle down before praying about your future home.

    Pray for your future spouse, kids, in-laws, friends, neighbours, anything and everything that have to do with marriage.

    Fourthly, believe that Godly, lovely and enjoyable Marriage is very much around and you can have one.

    Lastly, invest in Godly books, conferences, seminars to prepare yourself for the actual day.

    Until then, keep enjoying your teenage with love.

  • 10 Practical Tips for Expectant Fathers.

    10 Practical Tips for Expectant Fathers.

    Is your wife pregnant? Is this your first pregnancy? Here are ten practical tips for you as the upcoming father:

    1. Understand Your Wife’s Hormonal Changes

    During pregnancy, your wife’s hormones may lead to changes in her behavior and demands. It’s important to remember that these changes are due to hormonal fluctuations.

    2. Connect with Her Mother.



    2. Connect with Her Mother.

    Just like the saying, “like mother, like daughter,” holds true in many cases. If your wife is acting differently during her pregnancy, her mother can provide valuable insights and guidance. This is also a time to seek wisdom from experienced women without being overly assertive.



    3. Trust the Doctor

    Once the pregnancy has been confirmed, it’s essential to follow the medical advice given by her gynecologist. Avoid any unsolicited medical advice or medications. Ensure your wife registers for prenatal care at a government-approved hospital to handle potential complications.

    Ignore all well-meaning unsolicited ‘trado-medical’ advices



    4. Offer Support:

    Pregnancy is a life and death experience and can be challenging, so now is the time to be even closer to your wife. Communicate openly, engage in activities together, serve her, and ask her questions. Respect her wishes if she asks you to stop certain displays of affection.



    5. Choose Baby Names Early

    Start selecting baby names from the fifth month onwards, and finalize them by the seventh month. Having names ready in advance allows time for prayer and reflection.

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    6. Prepare for Possible Expenses

    Set money aside for any unexpected medical expenses, especially a cesarean section. It’s always better to be prepared, and if you don’t eventually need it, the money still remains yours.



    7. Pray! Pray!! And Pray!!!

    Pray for your wife’s strength to carry the baby to full term, for a healthy fetus, and for a smooth delivery. Prayer can also help you both during any disagreements or challenges.



    8. Read About Newborn Care

    Educate yourself by reading a book on newborn care, such as “My Baby and I – A New Mom Guide.”* This can dispel myths and help you feel more confident when your baby arrives.



    9. Prepare a Maternity Bag

    Ensure you know where the maternity bag is, so you can quickly grab it when your wife’s water breaks.



    10. Decide on who is coming for Postnatal Care (Omugwo)

    Plan in advance for postnatal care, including who will provide care between the two mothers, the duration of their stay, and stick to your decision.

    In conclusion, I pray for a healthy and safe pregnancy and delivery for your wife and baby. Please feel free to check the comment section for more information and resources.

  • 10 Practical Tips for Expectant Fathers

    10 Practical Tips for Expectant Fathers

    Is your wife pregnant? Is this your first pregnancy? Here are ten practical tips for you as the upcoming father:

    1. Understand Your Wife’s Hormonal Changes: During pregnancy, your wife’s hormones may lead to changes in her behavior and demands. It’s important to remember that these changes are due to hormonal fluctuations.

    2. Connect with Her Mother: Just like the saying, “like mother, like daughter,” holds true in many cases. If your wife is acting differently during her pregnancy, her mother can provide valuable insights and guidance. This is a time to seek wisdom from experienced women without being overly assertive.

    3. Trust the Doctor: Once the pregnancy has been confirmed, it’s essential to follow the medical advice given by her gynecologist. Avoid any unsolicited medical advice or medications. Ensure your wife registers for prenatal care at a government-approved hospital to handle potential complications.

    4. Offer Support: Pregnancy can be challenging, so now is the time to be even closer to your wife. Communicate openly, engage in activities together, serve her, and ask her questions. Respect her wishes if she asks you to stop certain displays of affection.



    5. Choose Baby Names Early: Start selecting baby names from the fifth month onwards, and finalize them by the seventh month. Having names ready in advance allows time for prayer and reflection.

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    6. Prepare for Possible Expenses: Set money aside for any unexpected medical expenses, such as a cesarean section. It’s always better to be prepared, and if you don’t need it, the money remains yours.

    7. Pray: Pray for your wife’s strength to carry the baby to full term, for a healthy fetus, and for a smooth delivery. Prayer can also help you both during any disagreements or challenges.

    8. Read About Newborn Care: Educate yourself by reading a book on newborn care, such as “My Baby and I – A New Mom Guide.” This can dispel myths and help you feel more confident when your baby arrives.

    9. Prepare a Maternity Bag: Ensure you know where the maternity bag is, so you can quickly grab it when your wife’s water breaks.

    10.Decide on Postnatal Care: Plan in advance for postnatal care, including who will provide care between the two mothers, the duration of their stay, and stick to your decision.

    In conclusion, I pray for a healthy and safe pregnancy and delivery for your wife and baby. Please feel free to check the comment section for more information and resources.

  • Day 17 – Pray

    Day 17 – Pray

    Let’s start today’s episode of #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge with Jesus’ word that miracles cannot happen except by fasting and prayer.

    Numerous instances abound in the word of God of those who prayed either as individuals or as a couple.

    Abraham and Sarah prayed. Manoah and his wife prayed for Samson. Isaac and Rebecca also prayed over their childlessness. Elkanah and Hannah prayed too and God answered them.

    Also, I can boldly say this, it’s a principle I have practised and established to be true in my family and will uphold jealously.

    Praying together as a couples and praying individually for your spouse is one of the most powerful weapons you have again divorce and for building intimacy in your marriage

    Mary Fairchild

    In addition to bible reading and studying, pray as a family, for God has promised us that two will chase ten thousand because of this assurance that everything we asked confidently according to His will in Jesus name, He will do it.

    Now, how do we pray? We pray in Jesus’ name. What do we pray about? Anything and everything – family, careers, children, mental health, safety, brothers and sisters, in-laws, church, MoGs and WoGs, Missionaries, political leaders, traditional leaders, neighbours, colleagues, enemies, policymakers, etc. When should pray? Anytime.

    Furthermore, Jesus says ‘where two or more people in My name, I will be there ‘ and ‘whatsoever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven and whatsoever you bind on earth will be bind in heaven.

    Finally, I want to motivate us with this hymn by W. W. Williams titled Sweet Hours of Prayer :

    1 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    that calls me from a world of care, 
    and bids me at my Father's throne 
    make all my wants and wishes known. 
    In seasons of distress and grief, 
    my soul has often found relief, 
    and oft escaped the tempter's snare 
    by thy return, sweet hour of prayer! 
    2 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    the joys I feel, the bliss I share 
    of those whose anxious spirits burn 
    with strong desires for thy return! 
    With such I hasten to the place 
    where God my Savior shows his face, 
    and gladly take my station there, 
    and wait for thee, sweet hour of prayer! 

    3 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    thy wings shall my petition bear 
    to him whose truth and faithfulness 
    engage the waiting soul to bless. 
    And since he bids me seek his face, 
    believe his word, and trust his grace, 
    I’ll cast on him my every care, 
    and wait for thee, sweet hour of prayer! 

    P.S: Why can’t you pick together to pray? 5 minutes can do wonders.

  • Day 13 – Do

    Day 13 – Do

    What’s time are we? (Please tell me the time in your place right now in the comment section. I am publishing this at exactly 1pm, Nigerian time)

    Welcome back. Right now it is #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge O’ clock.

    How far with spreading complements across 5 different hours yesterday? Hope you did it?

    Today, in order to revive or strengthen your relationship, do chores together with your partner or help your partner in doing chores especially the one he/she hates doing.

    Take the dirty clothes outside to the washing machine.

    Take the trashcan out.

    Go to his/her wardrobe, go and help iron or arrange all those scattered clothes.

    Help her to clean the kitchen.

    Mop the floor together.

    Set the table.

    Mow the lawn.

    Take the kids out.

    Walk the dogs out.

    Go grocery shopping.

    Etc.

    Just do a chore together and have opportunity to communicate, profess love for one another, plan together and pray together while doing chores.

    I love you.

  • How to Treat you enemy.

    How to Treat you enemy.

    A large number of prayers are being devoted to killing enemies in African churches and you could wonder as to how much resources we earmarked for the destruction of another human being.

    Before we proceed, let established four points.

    1. You don’t have a human enemy.

    Devil is your enemy, influencing unregenerated human beings to hate you. I said unregenerated because you can’t be a Christian and hate someone. Therefore, leave your fellow human beings alone and face Satan.

    Are you going to pray for Satan to die? No! Doing so is wasting precious time and saliva because Satan is a spirit (and spirit doesn’t die). What you should do to Satan is to resist him. After resisting him, stand firm.

    So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you.
    James 4:7
     Therefore put on God's complete armor, that you may be able to resist and stand your ground on the evil day [of danger], and, having done all [the crisis demands], to stand [firmly in your place].
    Ephesians 6:13.

    2. You will have an enemy.

    There is no how, all the people will like you because you are not ice cream. Even if you are ice cream, some people will just hate you for no reason. Some will hate you for a reason. Even God have enemies and who are the enemies of God, if not the wicked?

    Infact, some people can become your enemy because you are looking for their uplifting and betterment? Human hearts are so deceptive.

    3. Do not be somebody’s enemy.

    People will hate you but you don’t have to pay hate with hate.

    I bet it with you that some people want you to hate them consciously and unconsciously, in words and in deeds. Still don’t hate them.

    Why shouldn’t you hate? One, there is no hatred with God. Even when some people rejected His eternal plan of salvation, still He loves them. Two, since you are God’s ambassador here, it is demanded of you to behave like Him.

    4. God expect you to treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and in the manners He treated His own enemies.

    How then do you treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and how did God treat His enemies? Thanks to God for not leaving us unguided about dealing with enemies.

    Deal with your enemy thus:

    1. Love for your enemy.

    This command is directly from our Lord Jesus Christ

    You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy; But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
    Matthew 5:43 - 44.

    2. Pray for your enemy.

    You don’t only love him/her, you are also expected to love. One God is love and you are His image and Bible enjoins us to bless and curse not.

    3. Feed your enemy.

    Give the person that hates you food, give him clothes and find a way for your hater to sleep (not under the same roof though).

    God feed His own enemies by providing food, sunlight and rain for them and doing so mean you are aiming for God’s reward and be GODLY.

     If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For in doing so, you will heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord will reward you.

    Proverbs 25:21
     

    To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes the rain fall upon the upright and the wrongdoers [alike]. For he causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that?
    Matthew 5:45 - 47.

    4. Don’t allow his/her property to ruin if you have the power to prevent the decline.

    If you meet your enemy's ox or his donkey going astray, you shall surely bring it back to him again. If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying [helpless] under his load, you shall refrain from leaving the man to cope with it alone; you shall help him to release the animal. 
    Exodus 23:4 - 5.

    What the passages mean is that

    • If you see a link that can benefit haters, share it.
    • If your enemy’s child comes for your help, render it.
    • If you see danger ahead, notify him/her .
    • Etc.

    This is an instruction, not a suggestion.

    5. Rejoice not about enemy’s downfall

    Why? Because Yahweh hates it.

     Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles or is overthrown, lest the Lord see it and it be evil in His eyes and displease Him, and He turn away His wrath from him [to expend it upon you, the worse offender].  Proverbs 24:18 - 19.

    Will it be easy doing all these un-human acts (un-human because a natural man is revenge-certified)? It won’t but doing so means obeying God and that comes with a whole loads of benefits.

    Why should you do it? Do it because in the God’s kingdom, we repay good with evils, bless and don’t curse.

    May God gives us the strength to do as He does in Jesus mighty name.

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