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  • Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Apart from vaccination appointments, since his birth, we have had two hospital runs for Kyle-XY. At two different hospitals

    When my wife laid her observations, both doctors asked her this simple questions, ‘who did any of those things among two of you?’ before recommending any drug.

    And to be truthful, one of those behaviours was inherited from me, and the other from his mum.

    Which means choose your partner very well.

    Choose him/her prayerfully.

    Choose him/her with every iota of intentionality in you for you are not just choosing a partner for yourself, you are choosing how your kid will look and behave.

    The funny thing about this is that it is more of scientific fact than prayer. Therefore, if he/she has horrible acts you don’t want to see in your kid, it’s better you part way now.

    Because your son or daughter is going to take if not all, at least 50% of your spouse.

    Remember the journey of intentional parenting begins with the choice of whom to marry.

  • THAT MARRIAGE CAN STILL WORK (3) – Adetutu Oshofowora

    THAT MARRIAGE CAN STILL WORK (3) – Adetutu Oshofowora

    HANDLING THE TRI & TRIAL YEARS: PART 2 (CONCLUDING PART).


    Below are the last 3 points that concludes this series, points 7-10.

    7. Do periodic marriage evaluation time: with your pastors, a good counsellor or your mentors. Listen, particularly within the first few years and you know you are having issues, seek other elderly couples that you know are God fearing, Spirit filled and have a good report and testimony, or go to your pastor. Evaluation and updates are key factors for any organization to succeed. Those who have successfully gone ahead are in the best position to help you navigate certain bumps and bends without casualty.
    But as usual, I want you to know that the presence of storms is not the evidence of failure, things can still work out if we apply the proper measures.

    8. Face it, your spouse is not the only one with a problem, you also have your own issues o, what often causes prolonged period of estrangement is the inability of each person to also look inwards to see what you also are doing to contribute to the fracas. Many ladies for example stop respecting and honouring their husbands after marriage, familiarity sometimes breeds contempt and believe when I say every man craves respect and honour from his wife, if he didn’t complain before, once he becomes the husband man, he will complain.
    Many guys too stop being loving and tender to their wives once they marry them, proximity encourages neglect, they forget that an unloved wife is a troublesome woman, and that there is no manufacturing machine as powerful as a woman, give her grief, she will produce for you misery, give her peace, she give you bliss. So please, both of you, work on yourself too.

    9. One major reason why there’s a lot of stress leading to tension and then constant conflict in young marriages is children and the physical, emotional, psychological, financial and spiritual strain they put on the couples. So listen to me:

    • Get all the support system available before and during your early parenting days, employ house hold staff, outsource different works at home. Don’t try to do it alone, there’s no award for dying before your time through stress. Get help.
    • Don’t have children you are not financially ready to care for, and don’t have children to prove a point. Have only the number you can handle. If you will listen to me, for this present generation, don’t have more than two. Plan for one, so that the second one will be the unexpected Blessing.



    10. Power Of Prayers: Finally on today’s tips. I am a strong believer in the power of prayers, maybe because it works. I’ve come to realise that Children of God talk and complain more than pray. Learn to pray for each other. It’s a difficult thing to remain angry for long with someone you pray for. Sometimes instead of reporting your spouse to him or herself, report them to God. Talk to God about it. I’ve seen it work wonders, so I know what I’m saying. Effectual, sincere and fervent prayers often works.

    Like I said, all these are not exhaustive, they are just tips. But one thing I want you to know is that God is more interested in the success of your home than you yourself, He is ready and willing to help you. You are not alone, You will make it. You don’t give up on a car as common as it is because you have challenges driving it as a learner, do you? No, you keep driving even when you dent it here and there, you panel beat, repair and keep driving till you get it. What am I saying. You don’t give up over Every little challenge or contrary situation. Tough times don’t last but tough people do.
    Adetutu osofowora (TUSKY)

    Note: The part 1, 2 and 3 were entirely the works of Madam Adetutu Oshofowora TUSKY. She can be reached on Facebook via this link https://www.facebook.com/adetutu.oshofowora

  • Help, I am depressed!

    Help, I am depressed!

    This is tales of a Nursing Dad 8.

    I think most of us men don’t talk about what will pass through during our wives’ pregnancies.


    First of all, ladies, it’s not easy to impregnate you, guys. If e easy, go do am by yourself now 😀😀😀😀😀


    I could remember when my wife told me that she is pregnant with our boy Kyle-XY. From when she told me, my hearts and my mind was up.


    It’s like they put a mountain before me at that particular point in time.


    I couldn’t sleep very well again.


    I was always thinking, praying and hoping that God should deliver my wife safely.


    It came to a particular time, I was nearly into depression because, one, I couldn’t explain what’s happening to my wife and two, should she be in pain I don’t know what to do.


    Why? because this is a journey that can only be undertaken by one with the support of others.


    What I’m trying to say is that It is not only the women that carry the pregnancy, we men, also carried the pregnancy.


    We carry the pregnancy in our mind.


    We carried it in our thoughts.


    We carried pregnancy in our prayers.


    We carry pregnancy in our pockets.


    In fact the last time I slept 8 hours nonstop was a year ago; before my wife announced that she’s with our boy.


    I am by no means undermining the many sacrifices of our mothers but I am by means amplifying the sacrifices of we the fathers, too.


    Moreover the husband of a pregnant woman is between heaven and earth, thinking of how his wife will came back home safely with their bouncing baby in her hands.


    Furthermore, on the delivery day, you as the father of an expectant baby you’re busy running up and down just to make sure that your baby is healthy and alive and your wife is also hale.


    These also involve danger likes taking bikes all around, going up and down, spending money, insults from in-laws, snipe remarks from most Nigerian nurses. Are all these not fatherly sacrifice for pregnancy?


    Therefore I celebrate myself as the father of the most beautiful Boy in the world, Kyle-XY.


    I celebrate my father too.


    I celebrate all the expectant fathers who are doing their jobs excellently.


    I also celebrate all the mothers for the sacrifice of giving us those who will bear our names.


    May God bless everyone of us in Jesus name Amen

  • Don’t Be Deceived, Wigs Won’t Keep Him.

    Don’t Be Deceived, Wigs Won’t Keep Him.

    Recently a supposed woman of God went viral for telling single ladies to ditch natural hairs for wigs in order to attract a potential spouses to themselves, because according to her, natural hairs no dey sell market

    First of all, I wouldn’t known what she meant by selling market, so I won’t comment on that part

    But all these scripture-less laws we keep telling singles especially ladies will backfire one day.

    One day, we will soon graduate to woman do butt to get men. When wig can no longer get them.

    For all I know, what have wigs got to with chosing a marital partner, madam pastor? Many of us hate fake and 80% of guys can’t even differentiate between natural and artificial one, so why waste your resources on it?

    Now, for a ask, what wig brand was Rachel, Zipporah, Rebecca, Sarah, etc wearing to attract their men?

    Thre, What happened to prayer?

    What happened to discernment?

    What happened to proper investigation?

    What happened to divine positioning?

    What happened to preordeing “Rapid Romance: Your Guide to Love and Marriage in 3 Months“

    Three, attracting a man with wig and abandoning using it in marriage is deceit. The vibes you can keep us with in marriage don’t vibe it in courtship.

    Because a man you got through a wig must be kept with a wig.

    Lastly, a God-given brother won’t stress you to find you.

    A Godly sister who is ready to marry you won’t use 6 months topray.

    Bro that want marriage with you already know you are on natural. It is only those unserious brothers that want to force change you.

    As for me, I am all out for #TeamDecency.

  • If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    Though she was my toastee. But the peace she gives is extraordinary and when I eventually met the real my wife, peace like a river attendeth my soul and I know it’s well with my soul.

    If you believe this you need prayer ASAP .



    Now, Give about 100 ladies, an option to choose between a cool calm guy and a rash playboy, 80% will probably choose the latter with the belief that a relationship with the former will be boring. Why? It will not involve beating, cheating, quarrels, or fightings.

    See, something must be faulty about your parentage, mentality, and brain if you believed that violence (even if it is a touch of it), beatings, cheating, and premarital sex are hallmarks of relationships.

    Pathetically, some Christian ladies believe such rubbish.

    Dear, you need MFM standard deliverance, if you believe that a relationship without all those vices will be boring.

    Because with all the problems going on across the globe, why will a reasonable person add relationship problems to it?

    Why will a reasonable person think there is progress and joy in calamities?

    Why will someone with a functioning brain think true love/relationship is fighting today, quarreling tomorrow, suspecting one another the day after and fake love is tranquility and peace of mind?

    The manifestation of those vice should be testimonial enough that so-called fake true relationship is abusive and ungodly.

    True love/relationship is not done in chaos.


    Lakotan ara, K’Olorun le wa pelu èmí re, jeki ori re kope (finally brethren, if you want God to be with you, calm down).

  • 20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    One of the things I don’t joke with as a single (with or without partner) is prayer and one of such prayer is that, God Almighty, wherever my wife is , make it difficult for her to make a future-damaging mistake.

    Believe me dear, that prayer was marvelously answered because God actually prevented her from many errors as He prevented me too from future-damaging mistakes.

    Why all these stories? The moral is; Your marriage can be protected, preserved, prevented and saved from destiny destroyers, home breakers, potential outlaws that may want to disguise as in-laws, side chicks, sickness and what-have-you before you even have a fiance or fiancee.

    You kids can be put under the shadow of the Almighty before you even know who their father or mother will be.

    You can settle your partner’s friends, work, your neighbor when married, now before you know them.

    You can declare peace, joy, and righteousness into your family now and to shock you you can prevent your partner from making life shattering mistake now like I did for mine.

    Here about 20 prayer points from my incoming ebook SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS (A PRAYER GUIDE):

    • Thank you Jesus for a glorious home, you will give me.
    • Thank you for my spouse and my in-laws. I glorify Your Name because we will be friends.
    • Over my children and every stage of their lives, hallowed be thy Name in Jesus Name.
    • Dear Heavenly Father, I ask in Your might Name that every potential partner that will be coming my way will be a godly man/woman
    • Mighty Jehovah, in the name of Jesus, go into every stage, period and season of my marriage and take preeminence control before my arrival.
    • I pronounce my marriage yours in Jesus Name.
    • I pronounce my partner Yours in Jesus Name.
    • I declared my children Yours in Jesus Name.
    • Every resource that I needed to be a responsible spouse, I received it in Jesus Name.
    • I prayed that my marriage will be a springboard for the spread of the Gospel.
    • Precious Father, strengthen and guard my marriage against the evil one, his schemes and systems in Jesus Name.
    • Everybody that will be connected to me through marriage will praised You for the union.

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    • Oh Lord, let Your visits be a constant in my family
    • I proclaim peace into my marriage.
    • My spouse’s siblings will know the Lord in Jesus Name.
    • Give me/us Your Spirit of wisdom and understanding in Jesus Name.
    • I cancel every generational debts and curse in Jesus Name.
    • I demolish every evil family pattern from my marriage in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You for You shall make my family a double harvest of answered prayers in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You that everything that has to do with my marriage has been settled in Jesus Name
    • Thank You for the salvation of spouse and kids
    • All glory, honour, adoration and blessings be unto Your Precious Name in Jesus Name.

    To preorder your own copy of SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS, click here

  • Day 15 – Study.

    Day 15 – Study.

    I am sorry that I couldn’t bring up #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge. There was a need to reset my phone to factory settings last Saturday which leads to lost of many things – documents, contacts, images, passwords, etc., including the guide of this challenge.

    Presently, I am trying to recover some of those lost items via Google.com but life must continues.

    Today, our focus is study and what I want you to study is the word of God together. Take a book of the bible and study together. It will help your family and strengthen the bond of love.

    I don’t want you to make this a one-time affair but a daily consistent doings.

    But how do I do this? Follow this simple three steps; decide on the book of bible together (I will suggest Song of Songs 😍😍😍) and read verse by verse, one after the other and take it slowly and lovingly.

    Benefits of Reading Bible together.

    1. It makes you to know about God and His will for your as a family.
    2. It deepens your commutation.
    3. It enhances family prayer life

    To round today off, let’s read together, Song of Songs chapter 2, verse 15; Catch the foxes for us — the little foxes that ruin the vineyards — for our vineyards are in bloom.

  • 5 Must make decisions before turning 20.

    This message is for teenagers because I strongly believed that how you lived your life in your teen ages will have an impact on your 20s, 30s, 40s, etc a also observed very many of today’s teens are living scary life that may cause a deep scar tomorrow and that most of these behaviours are preventable.

    Note this; my dear, you cannot live a perfect life but you can live a life that you won’t be ashamed of today.

    Now, today, before you hit your 20s onwards, make the following decisions. I made those decisions while I was a teen and I did not for once regretted ever doing so.

    1. Decide to accept Jesus Christ now.

    I received Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior before I aged 20 and that singular decision helped to shape and sharpen my choice of knowledge between evil and good because I already know what is good in the sight of the Lord and what is bad and the consequences thereof.

    Making this decision early will help you too, to avoid many avoidable mistakes in life and will preserve your life.

    This fantastic decision will set you on path of destiny fulfilment early in life. That great, world renowned evangelist Reinhard Boonke became born again aged 9 and started his ministry aged 16. We all know how God used his Evagelistic outreach, CfaN for harvest of souls in Africa. I was one of them. Same thing with Pastor David Ibiyeomi of Salvation Ministries in Port Harcourt – also gave his life to Christ early and started the journey of purpose delivery early.

    My dear, you cannot live a perfect life but you can live a life that you won’t be ashamed of today.

    If you accept Jesus Christ now, it will save you many years of tools, struggles and scars and you can’t regret ever doing so.

    2. Decide to live right.

    Bible said, ‘Daniel purposed in his heart not to defile himself with the king’s rich foo…’ Daniel was 17 years old boy in captivity when that decision was made and later saved him for den of lions and made him president of the presidents in a foreign land.

    What does it mean to decide to live right? It means to shun evil now.

    It means to depart from sin and all appearance of sin now.

    It means to shun premarital sex.

    It means to stop unhealthy behaviors like drug abuse, cultism, thuggery, overeating, smoking, immorality and perversion.

    It also means embracing the fruit of the Spirit as listed in Ephesians 5:22-23 (NIV)

    But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

    It means truth telling at all times.

    It means standing for what is true, holy, reasonable and of good report at all times.

    I reaped the benefit of my decision to shun premarital sex till wedding nite 2 weeks after wedding.

    3. Quality relationships and bridges.

    The world is run based on relationships and connection.

    Somebody knows someone who has what you need.

    Somebody knows someone whose daughter/son will be a good spouse.

    Somebody knows someone who can recommended you for a job. A friend once done that for me.

    There is someone who can help, build, advise you and set you on the path of destiny alignment.

    But you have to build a good relationships and bridges to access all these benefits and more. Such

    Such relationships including friendship, mentorship, discipleship, leadership. The quality of those relationships and more that you build now will definitely served as your springboard later in life.

    Though social media allow anyhowness, but you as a someone with future must build a great online relationships courtesy of respect. No everybody on social media is your age mate or grace mate

    My late father-in-law’ quality relationships that was built as at the time he was alive 11 years worked for us during our wedding ceremony.

    Caveat; build only godly relationships.

    Click here to read the gifts of relationship and download The Tearless Courtship -a simpler guide to Christian dating and courtship free of charge

    4. Have a skill.

    Financial skills like tailoring, baking, plumbing, content creation ( check the E-book section to download my Ebook titled A-Z of Content Creation), graphic designing, web design, Ads manager, bricklaying, amazon KDP, IoT, app development, YouTubeing, bag making, catering, event planning, computer and GSM repairs, blogging, etc.

    Spiritual skills such as constitent bible reading, quiet time, fasting, constant fellowship with the brethren as occasion demands, prayers, tithing, alm giving, ministerial work, volunteering for Church works, etc.

    Survival skills like making money, budgeting, cooking, reading, safe internet browsing, saving, investing, etc.

    Advantages of having skills at tender age ; you learned at the prime of your time because your basic needs will be provided by your parents, i.e., focused, you learn your mistake early and correct it early and lastly, by the time you are in your mid-20, you have become an expert in that field

    5. Decide to pray now.

    Many Christians are reactive Christians. They only pray after calamity instead of praying to prevent it. Talk about medicine after death.

    Talk about prevention is better than cure, prayer is the real prevention because you don’t have to do it when you don’t have problem. You can do it now to acknowledge God as your source, secure your future (carrer wise, financially, maritally, for unborn kids, inlaws, coworkers, neighbors, etc) and avert future problems.

    Dear, I can assure you; if you don’t pray jejely now when you have no kid to feed, no rent to pay, no inlaws to visit, no spouse to love and no ‘ responsibility ‘, you will pray violently when responsibilities keep dropping on top of one another like bag of bean.

    I repeat; the best form of prayer is preventive ones

    Thanks for reading. I will like to hear your thoughts and questions in the comment section.

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  • #GratitudeChallenge – For His Glory and Honour (2).

    #GratitudeChallenge – For His Glory and Honour (2).

    Do we Christians realised that our Father knows what we need before we even open our mouths to ask Him?

    Yes, He knows, He answers and ever grant me what I didn’t get to even ask Him. My brain is limited, His wisdom is limitless.

    For His glory and honour, He granted many prayer points.

    For some that I asked, He said that I should wait, He will do it but not now.

    For some prayers, My Almight father says No and told me to forget about it because like He told Paul, He also told me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you.’

    And for many more things that I don’t know and I don’t ask Him to do, He did. Why? Because He knows that doing it for me will bring glory and honour to His majestic Name.

    Therefore, I am praising my heavenly Father for this.

    I am praising Him for not forgetting that I am His masterpiece and He supplies all what His power and Awesomeness knows that will enrich my life physically and spiritually.

    Thank you, Jesus. Thank You, Almight. I love you Lord with this song of praise:

    O se Oluwa,
    O se Oluwa,
    Anu Re simi o po,
    O se Oluwa.

    Today’s task for you: Do you know that God loves you?

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