I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel and watch over you.
1. God doesn’t lead anyone again since Adam’s issue.
This is a lie as GOD is still leading and directing His people as to whom they will marry. Psalm 32:8 said, ‘I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel and watch over you,’ is a promise of God that is not excluding marriage. If you want His will, He will direct you but what He won’t do for you is to woo the girl/boy, you do that by yourself.
God provided the manna, the Isrealites went out to gather it. (Read Psalm 9:10).
2. God’s will is always one poor unkempt brother or one ugly sister.
This is highly promoted by our ‘Gospelwood.’ Granted, all that glitter are not gold but it’s also true that that it looks dull doesn’t make it a gold either. God’s will for your own marriage may be that rich brother/sister that is always on well-ironed attires or that that brother/sister that is handsome/beautiful.
The only caution here is that don’t let physical qualities be your guide when presenting or accepting a marital proposal as he/she may come in different mold of richness, education, beauty and class. All need to do is ask for God’s leading and be ready to accept His decision because that he/she answers brother/sister doesn’t mean him/her is truly a brother/sister.
God is not defined by a formula as His will may not suit your taste but will definitely sweeten your taste.
GOD WILL NEVER BRING YOU SOMEONE TO SIN WITH
3. Since God brought us together, we can start having sex.
Pure lie as GOD WILL NEVER BRING YOU SOMEONE TO SIN WITH and HE DIDN’T BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER TO COMMIT SIN. He has never, will never and can never encourage sin as Job 34:10 said, ‘ Job 34:10 “So listen to me, you men of understanding. Far be it from God to do evil, from the Almighty to do wrong.’ He loves sinners but abhors sins.
4. My type is not in the Church. This is a pure lie as everything you desire or want in a man/woman as hubby/wiffy is present in a man/woman inside the church. What qualities do you want in a man/woman for a partner? Tall, dark and handsome? literate with or without swag? beautiful? industrious? six pack or figure-8? spirikoko, not-so-spiritual or carnal? rich or poor? slim, chubby or fat? romantic, not romantic or in-between? fashionista or not? talented or not? gentle, aggresive or in-between? All these qualities are inside a man/woman inside the church (and by church,I mean body of Christ throughout the world and not your denomination).
You may not get the person inside your denomination but the person is present in another denominatiom of God’s church.
Your type is in the church so you don’t have any reason to go and marry unbeliever.
Remember God’s will is still human and imperfect so you will have to work on your marriage to make it a beautiful orchard.
5. Marrying God’s will automatically translate to marital bliss.
To some extent, it does but this belief is half-truth. Believing such is like Isreal believing that because God’s will for them is cannan, when they get there the street will be oceans of milk and honey without them doing anything to dig the well of such or they believing that upon entering the promised land, houses will build themselves, streets will paved themselves, crops will grow on theirselves without them planting them. Marrying God’s will doesn’t translate to marital bliss because the man or woman is a human with desire for love, care, respect and attention, if you ignore giving your spouse all these things, one day chicken will come to roost even though he/she is God’s desire for you in marriage and two, even God’s will is imperfect like you.
You have to build your marriage after wedding. That he is a child of God doesn’t mean he doesn’t need respect, he needs it as a man. That she is a born again doesn’t mean she doesn’t need love, she want it as a woman. That you are born again doesn’t mean you don’t need good sex, nice food, peace of mind, clothes, shelter, money, love, care, attention, advice, respect and other dainities of marriage. You really need them to function as profitable spouses. You have to keep beautiful for him and you have to look okay for her despite both of you being a Christian.
Marrying God’s will and becoming non-challant about his/her need is like preparing soil, planting a tree and leaving the tree to do anyhow, the tree may grow but it won’t produce maximally.
Remember God’s will is still human and imperfect so you will have to work on your marriage to make it a beautiful orchard.
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