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  • How to cultivate a hearty relationship with your daughter-in-law.

    How to cultivate a hearty relationship with your daughter-in-law.

    We have talked, written, podcasted and blogged about how a wife should cultivate a working relationship with her mother-in-law. I think it is time to talk about mothers striving for a good relationship with their daughters-in-law.

    Having said that, my unconfirmed research said that 5 out of 10 mothers-daughters-in-law relationships are unhealthy, 3 are healthy while the remaining 2 are on “dey your dey lemme dey my dey*” but you as a potential or mother-in-law can cultivate a good and hearty relationship with your daughter-in-law through the following ways:

    1. Know where your daughter-in-law is coming from.

    For instance, my wife is coming from a background where they employed caterers for their ceremonies, wherein in mine, we used our wives. It will amount to insensitivity should my mum be expecting my wife to do “olobinrin file**” fully. It won’t work well if she has those expectations of her.

    In another instance, up to when she will be getting married, my wife and her siblings called themselves by their birth names or pet names and none of her uncles’ wives adds sister to her name as culture demands. So my mom shouldn’t be expecting that from her except she willingly wants to.

    Dear mother, know the difference and respect it. Things won’t always be the same. Have honest expectations.

    2. Have a honest expectations.

    Mother, this is the 21st century and there is still a respectable lady out there for your son who will see you as her mother but she may not be able to tolerate many things you tolerated with your mother-in-law.

    She may not able to use her hand to wash your clothes.

    She may not be available to come and stir amala at the family ceremony.

    She may not call your son and daughter aunties or brother

    She may not even allowed omugwo.

    She is not bad but times are changing and women are getting educated nowadays and they are gainfully employed.

    3. Respect your daughter-in-law.

    Respect is reciprocal. If you want respect from her, respect her too.

    If you want a gift from her, give her a gift too.

    Click here to see the gifts you can give your daughter-in-law

    Respect her womanhood.

    Respect her humanity.

    Respect the fact that she can harm your son and she hasn’t.

    Respect as the lady of the house as you are the lady of your husband’s house.

    Respect her.

    4. Accept the biblical fact.

    What biblical fact? The fact that “the two are naked and are not ashamed.”

    Meaning; that as far as your son’s priority towards his mum and wife are concerned, the latter take preeminent in every area.

    That is the fact that can liberate you. If you thoroughly trained your son, he wouldn’t have a problem with leaving you and cleaving to his wife.

    Thanks for engaging.

    *dey your dey lemme dey my dey is a pidgin language meaning be on your lane let me be on mine

    **olobinrin ile mean wives of the house. This is a system common among the Yoruba in which the wives in the family comes together to cook and serve during family ceremonies.

  • 7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.

    7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.


    To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.

    Source: shutterstock.

    I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.


    In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.


    Now deal with heartbreak like these:


    1.CRY.

    Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.


    2. THANK GOD.

    It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.

    Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’


    3. FORGIVE AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP OF RECONCILIATION.

    Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.

    Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.


    You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.


    4. GO OUT.

    After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.

    Stop pity party.

    Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.

    Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.


    5. LOVE AGAIN.

    There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’ 

    It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.


    6. DON’T PUNISH OTHERS.

    It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.

    It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.


    You were swindled by one man not all.

    So let’s be guided.

    7. GUARD YOUR HEART. 

    Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.

    MAY YOU HEAL.

  • SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    In the course of my work as a Marriage Educator and Counselor, I meet many people who desire to marry.

    The young women lament that they can’t find good men.

    The young men too lament that they can’t find good women.

    I find this somewhat perplexing because many young men and women that I meet have great characteristics. It seems to me that both men and women do not know how and where to meet prospective partners who fit them.

    In The Right Fit Marriage Academy we asked married people to tell us how they met the persons they married. Here are some responses we got:

    “I met my fiance in our campus fellowship. He was my discipler��. He was an executive in the fellowship, one of those spiritual brothers we look up to in the fellowship. Through our discipleship class, we became friends and friends became intimate friends and from there it happened ��” T. A.

    “I had graduated from school but visited UNN for some other reason and noticed her but never spoke to her at all..so after many years I got a recommendation from a good friend of mine and when I asked for details..her name popped up. I searched my Facebook friends list. Luckily she was there and her number was also there. I took her number from there and started calling..and she finally agreed to take the ride of life with me. Best pal ever.” I. N.

    “My husband met me at his colleague’s wedding. The mother of his colleague is my church mum. I had to drag myself to the wedding. Hubby was just taking pictures of us with the bride as we danced with her. According to him, he was just taking a random picture and later I came to stand close to him and he took another picture of me. He was just scrolling through the pictures he took and he was like this lady’s complexion is captivating (I’m dark skinned and he told God he wanted omo dudu.lol). When the colleague came back from honeymoon, he asked her for my number. She had to ask her mum for my number. Her mum questioned and questioned and called me before releasing my number. I was a bit skeptical at first but I agreed to meet him. And days turned to weeks and I met him officially two months after we began talking. We’re now married.” O. A.

    These responses show that meeting with a prospective marriage partner happens as you go about your regular activities. However, you have to be present and intentional in order to recognise the opportunity when it presents itself.

    What should a person who is eager to find a suitable partner do? If you are that person, what should you do?

    Here are seven steps that will help you to overcome the “scarcity problem”.

    1. Avoid Pity Parties

    Your attitude and mindset play a significant role succeeding in any aspect of life including finding the person you will marry. Avoid feeding discouragement and bitterness because you have not yet met a good partner. If you have a cheerful and optimistic attitude and outlook, you’ll be much more attractive to a prospective spouse.

    2. Look beyond your immediate community.

    Be open to the idea that a prospective partner that fits you may currently live in a place that is far away from where you currently live. Long distance relationships have their own problems, true. The problem is not the distance. If you know and practice courtship principles that work for a long distance relationship.

    3. Keep your eyes open with people you already know.

    There may be a person that you have known for a long time without having any romantic ideas about them. If you pay attention, you may suddenly see such a person with fresh eyes and see in them a possibility of a relationship with them. At times, your friends may see the possibility of that person being suitable for you and nudge you towards them.

    4. Accept assistance from GOOD matchmakers – Family, friends, professionals.

    One Marriage and Relationship expert stated the dramatic finding that 63% of married couples were first introduced to each other by family or friends. Be open to suggestions and advice from RELIABLE family members and friends. In our careers and businesses, you and I appreciate the value of networking. We are open to using our networks to make beneficial connections. Why not let the same networks work for you in your search for a prospective marriage partner?

    5. Use the Online Space – Social Media, Dating apps.

    You, like many people, may find the online space scary. Yet it is a great platform for meeting new people who share similar interests with you. What you need is to carefully choose the online spaces that have developed a solid reputation and where people of similar age, background, beliefs and interests gather. While interacting with people in the online spaces that you choose, exercise discernment. Today, you can find out a lot about people you meet online even without asking them any questions.

    6. Go to places and events where people who are like-minded are.

    If you want to catch a fish, you go to where you think the most fish are. If you want to make a sales contact, you attend meetings with the likelihood of finding potential clients. If you want to find a prospective marriage partner, it makes sense to go to locations and events where you know that the kind of partner you are looking for is likely to be. Meetings, conferences, training programs.

    7. Seize your moments of opportunity.

    If marriage is one of your life’s priorities, then you should be intentional about the activities that will make it happen. If you are not intentional, you may actually miss good opportunities for connecting with someone who could be a great match for you.

    Do you have additional tips to add to this list? Share with us.

    Written by Mrs. Modupe Ehirim via The Right Fit Marriage Academy on Facebook.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    According to Wikipedia, only 5% of marriage proposals are done by female.

    Source: Google.

    One of the reasons I so much cherished my wife is that she handled my proposal properly without any delay.

    She gave her answer the same day I asked her out.

    But many ladies nowadays waste marriage proposals unneccesarily through delay tactics.

    Queens, let me tell you a fact; giving a man yes answer on the spot, spending a reasonable time on it or using 6 months to pray about it doesn’t define your value to a man. A man values you based on

    ☑️ His personal value. If he is a man that believe woman must be below him no matter her efforts, if you like play hard to get for 5 years before saying yes, he still won’t value you.
    A valueless individual values nothing.

    But if it is a man with high moral values, whether you ask him out by yourself, give yes answer on a spot, or took extended time to think about it, he will still value you.

    ☑️ Your values. Yoruba proverb says, ‘bonigba ba se pe igba re la n ba peee‘ loosely translated as ‘ the name the owner called her calabash is what we will be helping her to call it.’ You can be behaving as irresponsible and uncaring all over places and expect any reasonable man to take you serious.

    Madam, please a value on yourself.

    Now, that you have known that taking extended time to answer proposal is of no use, then handle proposal like these:

    👉 Have a checklist of who you can’t marry. You can’t marry every man that ask you out and this also boil down to having values.

    When I was single, I knew the class of people I can’t marry and trust me I met them but I didn’t trouble any one of them for relationship because marriage between us can never happen.

    I knew I can’t marry non-christian. So I don’t bother to ask one out despite having all the qualities I want in my wife.

    I also know I can marry from all church. We worship same God but use different beliefs.

    Why will I go after a deeper life sister when I love trouser wearing lady with rims as earrings?

    Why will I be toasting a JW girl who I know doesn’t believe in Trinity, transfusion of blood and many other fundamental Christian beliefs?

    I know I can’t marry from other tribe. No that mine was better, infact, criminal exists in all tribes but firstly my parents will object to it and two, I don’t think I have strength for intertribal marriage. People in intertribal marriage deserve national awards.

    Because of my checklist of who I can’t marry, it helps me to focus my searchlight on Yoruba Christian lady going to a trouser and makeup permissive church from any part of the country.

    DEAR, yours doesn’t have to be mine but having such mental guideline will help you to determine whose proposal you can consider and who to give instant no to respectfully.

    👉 If you are rejecting his proposal, please reject his rides, money, time and gifts.
    The principle is, if he is not your type, his thing should not your type.

    👉 If you know your answer will be a yes, please give the answer either on the spot or within few days.

    My wife gave me her yes answer on the spot and I cherish her for not wasting my time.

    👉 You don’t need three months to pray on a proposal ooooo.
    If truly, you are a Christian with consistent relationship with God and Bible, first, you will know who deserves straight no and who is worthy of presentation to your heavenly father and I know your father won’t delay you.
    A month is okay.

    👉 Don’t despise any man because you reject his proposal.
    You don’t have to abuse, degrade or despise any man for asking you out.

    Na you no like am, there is one correct babe outside wey go lick am.

    Don’t damage someone husband with your mouth.

    👉 Do you accept his proposal? then say no to secret relationship.

  • Somebody’s child will find you.

    Somebody’s child will find you.

    Let’s start with this true story of mine. It happened in November 2020.

    Her: Master Joel, do you like 🥰🥰🥰 lady.

    Me: Yes, I do, ma.

    Her: As in very ❤️❤️❤️?

    Me: I am sure I like them like that 😄😃

    That was a phone convo with a former colleague of mine recommending her very beautiful friend of hers for me for a relationship that can lead to marriage.

    For brevity sake, the recommended lady and I met and talked but relationship didn’t materialize between us.

    Seeing/finding my wife under mango tree is the best feeling in the world.

    This year also, a senior friend recommended another godly lady to me who eventually became my wife.

    What am I striking at?
    Somebody’s child will find you but do you know somebody child knows somebody’s child that should find but you are unfindable because of your attitudes.

    Somebody’s child has a good friend that can marry but he knows your stubbornness can kill another woman’s child.

    Somebody’s kid has a godly sister that can make a good wife but she knows that your eye no dey stay one place.

    Somebody’s pikin want to recommend one of his/her for you but they are afraid that you may rub their faces in the mud through your behaviors.

    Dear, somebody’s child had somebody’s daughter/son for you that he/she think may find you but are you findable?

  • Somebody’s child will love you.

    Somebody’s child will love you.

    Happy new year. May you have a good year.

    Did you trying finding love last year and it didn’t work or you intended that some love should find but the search didn’t materialize?

    My brother or sister, don’t panic. Read this story of mine and put your mine at rest.

    The story goes this: I remembered telling this story before on Facebook.


    The story of a girl who came to my workplace for Teaching Practice.


    The lady is a Christian, educated, skillful and both of us were 100% singularly single as at then.

    Infact, I have 9/10 assurance that if I asked her out, she will obliged.


    But I didn’t. Why? I just don’t feel towards her. I can’t just say what happened, I just know I don’t jelly toward her.

    Fortunately, my LOML has the same skill set as my wife – bag making among others thing that my own do like event management, catering, teen coaching, etc.

    Sorry for digressing.
    The lady I didn’t ‘love’ became someone’s wife last November.

    The lady I didn’t felt for is now somebody’s son heartbeat.

    The lady my heart wasn’t jelly towards today has found someone whose heart has melted for her.

    What I didn’t like, someone love it.

    Even I, was rejected by 17 ladies but I thank God that my wife was 10x better than all of them in all manners.

    That someone did not see the gold embedded in your soil didn’t and wouldn’t diminish the gold in you.


    Somebody’s kid definitely will mine you one day.

    A farmer sees crop to bring out of the soil while a geographer is thinking of bringing out precious stones from the same piece of land. None is wrong and none of them is right, training differs.

    Somebody’s son will love you.

    Somebody’s daughter will be your wife.

    Somebody’s kid will employ you

    Somebody’s siblings will help you.

    Somebody’s child will find you one day.

  • How to find a godly man to marry.

    How to find a godly man to marry.

    You know that as a Christian lady that you can marry a non-believer.

    You may have meet a non-believer who is cute and caring

    You may have noticed a non-Christian guy who is gorgeous and romantic

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    He may even be rich and be everything you need in a man for a husband.

    Still, for Christian ladies (and guys) unbelievers is never an option for marriage.

    Despite, that you can’t marry all supposssed self-confessed Christian dudes because no all Israel is from truly is Isreal. To now identify a real Christian guy fitted for marriage, check out for this qualities :

    1. He believes in the Lordship and Saviorship.

    Christian is an individual who approve Jesus Christ as his/her Lord and reckon He was the only  the one who saves.

    Believing Jesus is acknowledging His Godship. If he doesn’t believe Jesus is God and God is Jesus. He is probably a pseudo-Christian.

    Receiving Jesus Christ Lordship is also accepting His humanity, i.e. Jesus was 100% human while he was on this planet Earth to execute the work of salvation and He was 100% God before coming and after accomplishing the work of redemption.

    He is subjected to Bible.

    Bible is the map, light, guide, treasure and compass for believers.

    It is our book of dos and don’ts.

    It is from it that we know the Father’s will, laws, desires and commands for every area of life.

    We believe in all parts of the Bible i.e. from Genesis to Revelation for instruction, doctrine and correction unto righteousness and that not even an iota of the Holy writ was written by human inspiration but God moves men to write for Him.

    I assure you, many of your life problems have been solved if youu will only but read your Bible.

    And what joy is to hear your husband said, ‘What did the Bible said on this.’

    He is under authority.

    God did not design rudderless and disorderly world.

    Everything He created was subjected to an higher authority to make sure it is working as He intended it to be.

    The solar system is under the authority of the sun for their rotations and revolutions and anyone of them who thinks the ‘sun’s problem’ is too much for it, will cease to be a planet or cease to be part of solar system.

    A Christian has someone who can call him to order.

    Likewise, Yahweh designed that each and every Christian is under the authority of a more spiritually matured Christian for discipleship, supervision and mentoring.

    A Christian has a pastor shepherding over his spiritual life.

    He has someone he prays with or who prays for him.

    He has someone who can advise him and correct him where necessary.

    A man not subjected to any constituted authority and who thinks he can live his life in isolation is a dangerous man to marry. Such man can wreak havoc.

    He has a church.

    I don’t need to go to church to worship God, I have my Bible is a clear indication person hasn’t read his Bible.

    Christians go to church for fellowship, spiritual growth and strengthening because it was commanded by God that we must not forsake the gathering of the saints.

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    Dear ma, if he doesn’t have a particular church he identified with, take to you heels.

    If he is not one of us, he doesn’t have right to marry one of us.

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  • HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    It is becoming ever-increasingly difficult nowadays to live a sexually pure life in this sexually crazed and saturated world. A world that has sexualized everything from music to a common 100 naira soap.

    Even the church of God is not spared. Nowadays, we now use barely clad ladies as ushers to welcome visitors.

    Watch out for this book to celebrate the world sexual purity day.

    We are being bombarded daily with sexual scenes and near-sexual scenes on our streets, social media, television, workplaces and pathetically in fellowships but the word of God still stands that we must be pure in our sexual lives before and after marriage.

    First, we should know that to stay pure in this generation is possible. It is possible to marry as a virgin if you are determined to be. It is possible to remain untouched – no kissing, smoothing, no masturbation and no foreplay before the wedding if you will rely on the grace of God to hold you. Why? Because God will never lack those who are willing and ready to sacrificially serve Him in all generations.

    He can’t lack Josephs who are willing to say, ‘ how can I do this thing and sin against God,’ and are ready to abandon their ‘clothes’ to flee.

    He can’t lack the Joshuas who have determined to serve God even if He and his family are the only and affirmatively He won’t lack the 7000 men who have never kissed or bowed down to Baal in every generation.

    Do you care to join the leagues of Josephs, Joshuas and the 7000 men, are you?

    Now, how can you tread this path joyfully? One, TRUST GOD and His judgments, laws and guidelines that they are for your benefit. God did not hate you when He bade you that you should flee fornication. It was because He loves you.

    You got to trust the Almighty because He as Omniscient knows far more than you know. He knows that illegal sex can reduce someone life to a mere loaf of bread. He knows that sex can be weaponised to harm. Therefore, trust that God has you completely in His heart. Oh! What a loving father!

    Secondly, TRUST THE PROCESS that you won’t regret ever staying sexually pure in this corrupt world. The journey, the decision and the determination will eventually pay you.

    The world may look otherwise but you won’t regret opting out of the friendship that is pressurizing you for premarital sex.

    Trusting the process also signifies that you are the wise one even though the worldly system may regard you as a fool and the odd one out but remember what is highly esteemed by man is an abomination in the sight of the Lord.

    The injunction will save you from avoidable heartbreaks, unwanted pregnancy, unmet expectations, shame, a litany of exes and many avoidable damages to your body, spirit and soul.

    You can’t regret standing for and with God.

    Thirdly, DON’T TRUST YOURSELF because the power of your arm will fail because by flesh shall no man prevail, the opportunities to sin will always be present and it was your Spirit that got born again, your body, its hormones and your soul do not follow suit.

    Don’t trust yourself that you can sleep in the same room with the opposite sex and nothing will happen.

    Don’t trust yourself that just because you speak in tongues, you can watch porn and nothing will happen.

    Don’t really on your strength that because you are the winner of best choir member of the year, you can’t fall into the sin of immoralities.

    Don’t trust that immoralities won’t hurt you because God has been using you. Remember David, Solomon and Samson.

    If Judas Iscariot can fall away after performing many miracles, preached to many and received directly from Jesus, then who are you?

    Lastly, remember that this battle against immoralities is a battle again imagination, thoughts and actions as preached by unsaved celebrities, wokist, cancel culturists, Bible twisters and haters that raised themselves against the knowledge of God and we all know our weapons are not carnal.

  • Causes of Marital delays in Nigeria.

    This article was my contribution to Causes of delays to marriage by Christ’s mind tech

    I quite agreed with all what the contributors have said but I will like to add to the cause of marital delays among singles in Nigeria;

    1. Finances: most of those that are ready and willing to marry do not have the financial capacity to do so especially the guys owning to the poor state of our economy. This delayed me for 2 years till I took the bull by the horn this year with an understanding wife.
    2. Assumption: some brothers/sisters may assume that I will get whom to marry after my undergraduate, after NYSC, after I clock 28, etc, not knowing most times it may not be so because most times by the time the general society is also assuming that they have a partner.
      Hardly, will someone believed that a graduate lady of 28 is singular single whereas they exist.
    3. Confusion: about what is the WILL OF GOD and PURPOSES.
      Most youths are confused about what is the will of God even though they truly want to marry a will of God. They thought will of God (direction of God, His laws and command, His antecedents and precedents) is only about marriage not knowing that ‘God would surely direct you the same way He would direct you on matters of your life and destiny like during business decisions.’ Now if you abandon Him for a long period, do you think He will answer you when you want to use Him to butter your bread? Even if He speaks, can you recognize His Divine voice? Do you even know His dos and donts concerning Marriage as started in the Bible?
      Most will just get whatever they wanted and go MIA for God and return when things go south, to go AWOOL when the problem is solved. Do you know some ladies believe God’s will must be a pitiable, ugly poor brother? So when a handsome, rich and educated somebody propose to them, they may reject it. As per purpose, purpose discovery will help someone to know first, who not to marry before who to marry. This will delete the trial and error method of choosing which invariably reduce waiting time. The only solution to this is knowing and doing the will of God and discovering and fulfilling purpose is having a closed and consistent relationship with Yahweh.
    4. Spiritual: this can be from God or Satan.
      It is God, not satan that shut the womb of Hannah. Why He did that in the first instance, we can not fathom but we do know that at the appropriate and glorious time, God give Hannah, a glorious son who is a national prophet and a kingmaker. For those who are in God’s waiting room, rest and relax, God is probably working on you, your spouse, both of you or some circumstances that will benefit both of you.
      Spiritual delay can also be caused by Satan using His lies. For those who perceive that they are under Satan siege concerning their Marriage, prayer is the only solution.
    5. Limiting choice: If what you meant by marrying within the organization is marrying within the denomination, I don’t believe that. Christians everywhere belong to one organization – The Church.
      Many brothers and sisters have limits where (physicalities) they can find Christian spouse to church and choir within their church, denomination, town, profession, etc., only. This can cause a delay if God in his infinite mercy will not allow your permissive will.
      Let it be known a Christian spouse can be found in your DM, comment section of your timeline or others’ timelines, in the neighbourhood, matchmaker’s cubicle, pew, office, seminars, etc., within or without your church, town, profession and denomination. God knows the best spouse for you and where best to meet him/her.
    6. Culture: Nigeria for instance, an average Hausa guy or lady, irrespective of religion, is not planning to marry late. Starting from 18 upwards, they are preparing for marriage (not talking about forced/child Marriages here) whereas an average Igbo guy usually tends to marry late because he knows the amount of bride price he has to pay on his wife. Most Yorubas will go for the mid-20s for ladies and early 30s for guys.
  • 25 Quotes about Marriage.

    25 Quotes about Marriage.

    1. Marriage is extremely sweet.


    2. Marriage will change EVERYTHING about you.

    Blue is the colour.


    3. You are only similar [ similararity] to your partner by a nanosecond and different [differences] from him/her by a distance from the earth to the sun.


    5. For you to enjoy your Marriage, create a uniqueness albeit a godly one about it. Your partner is 100% different from your favourite celeb.


    6. Whatever you bring to the table of marriage, will be MAGNIFY.

    12. Sex is the least cause of friction in a marriage. Dear, Marriage is more than sex.


    7. You need the knowledge of understanding of marital differences than the knowledge of love.

    Lovey Dovey


    8. Embrace the difference between your spouse and you. Therein is lies your happiness.


    9. I think one of the greatest disservices, people of God has done to the unmarried is to tell them that physical likeness doesn’t matter for a happy marriage. My dear, if it is breasts, height, skin colour, bum bum, etc you like in your intended spouse, ask God for it but doesn’t ever over-desire physical over spiritual. Period.


    10. I discovered that the operating system in my wife and I is the same, but the apps on individual systems differ.


    11. The things that cause fights in the house are mostly inanimate objects like toothpaste, chairs, clothes, shoes, hairpins, etc.


    12. Sex is the least cause of friction in a marriage. Dear, Marriage is more than sex.


    13. If your manner of eating, sleeping, travelling, worship, enjoyment and ways of life generally is the same as at that of when you are single when you marry, I doubt if you marry properly.


    14. The concept of ‘two becoming one’ in marriage is so real that at a particular time, you started to reason and smell like your partner. Provided, you allow God.


    15. My dear unmarried brothers and sisters, please enjoy your singleness to the fullest. I am grateful to God that I thoroughly enjoyed mine.


    16. A good man may not be the right man. A good husband may not make a good husband.

    17. I don’t know how you enter your marriage but I can boldly tell you that love is not blind.

    18. Darling sister, saying yes to the man on the day he asked you out cannot make you cheap. One of the reasons I love my wife is that she didn’t waste my time.

    19. Never marry anybody who is not under authority.

    20. Talking about marriage is different from doing marriage. The former is theory while the latter should be practical.

    21. Your watchword in marriage should be devil, sin, diseases will not entered into this family through me.

    22. Marriage is not bondage. Ring is not a cell.

    23. Wedding is for a day, marriage is for every day.

    24. In your choice of matrimonial partner, don’t be selfish in choosing for your gratification alone but ask yourself, will this one be worthy of being a co-parent with me?

    25. Although marriage is of this earth but it is 100 percent spiritually run or did you think it’s natural to start living with someone you don’t know from Adam?

    Marriage is very sweet.

    Add yours.


    Thanks.

  • My Teachers, Happy Teachers’ day.

    My Teachers, Happy Teachers’ day.

    One of the profound definitions of teacher that I found relatable is that ‘ a teacher is someone who knows more and tries to impart those who know less.’

    Teaching is a noble profession and teacher in whatsoever ways they exist – schoolteacher, lecturer, trainer, pastor, boss, parents deserves commendation and celebration.

    Because they led me to where I am today by giving what they know up for me.

    If they didn’t teach me, I wouldn’t have known anything.

    Therefore, happy teachers’ day to all teachers worldwide

  • STOP KILLING YOUR KIDS!

    I’m angry. Very livid about the attitude of some of us.

    You are a killer! Yes I say you are a killer and God is going to judge your for using your child to fulfill your own failed dreams. Are you her? Is she you? Are you talented and gifted the same way?

    I am angry about one bad behavior by modern parents of rushing their children through school into emergency adulthood by enrolling them very early (probably by age 1) and helping them to skip classes along the ways chiefly because such kid is performing brilliantly in his/her academics.

    Many people have suggested the causes; Nigerian government unstable education policies, private schools owners, parents, society, etc., but the chiefest culprit are parents especially mothers because they want to do BRAGGING in church and their age grade groups that their kids finished University at 18 not knowing the damages they are inflicting on those kids.

    One thing parents should know is that that your kid skipped and he/she is still performing well in school doesn’t mean he/she is emotionally and morally okay.

    And rushing your kids through life is stealing their childhood away from them. Live and let your child live peaceably!

    Furthermore, that it’s not showing physically doesn’t mean damages are not being done to those rushed kids. It will show sonner or latter, morally and emotionally. What is the essence of having academically sound but emotionally and morally bankrupt individuals?

    Thirdly, there is no single advantage in rushing your child through pre-tertiary schools. I left my mates at primary 4 then to go J.S.1 skipping primary 5 to do so. Despite that, I am not richer, more educated or famous than those I left behind then. Infact one of them is my ward councillor now.

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