Courtship Forum

Tag: Responsible relationship

  • Dear Future Wife.

    Dear Future Wife.
    From My Inner Heart,
    Dear Future wife, with sound health and plenty love, I am writing this to you. Hope you are fine too? If so, Gloryyyy!
    The purpose of writing this letter are many but firstly many people will in my name, saying I am Joel, don’t listen to them o o o o. What is keeping me wanting is that as a Jesus Brother with many rooms in my Father’s house, I am preparing a room of improvement, prosperities, godliness and advancement for us.
    Furthermore, I also want in wife is support, fidelity and godliness and I will wish to tell you that to me borrow me is different from gift me so if you say, ‘ dear o o o please borrow me 1k. I will pay in 2030,’ I am expecting my money then but if you say,’LOML, gift me N1m,’ I will gladly do with with expecting it back. That is called having integrity.
    Another thing is that we are not doing big wedding because God created marriage which we are going to do bigly and happily while men created wedding which we are going to do prudently i.e debt-free.
    Moreover, my babe I am using this medium to assure you that marrying me will be an achievement and that be assured of peace of mind, vision support and hand of helps in all areas.
    Finally, Super Mother, God has been flashing me, maybe He wants to call and less I forget, our kids visited me last night asking, ‘dad, why, why now,’ but I asked them to calm down.
    Yours sincerely

    Future Best Husband.

  • My Parents’ marriage should inspire you.

    Caveat: My parents’ marriage is not a perfect one, if perfect marriage exists.

    My parents will be celebrating their 37th wedding anniversary comes 15th of July and this writeup is about 7 great lessons from their marriage which has inspired me and which should inspire you to desire a responsible marital relationship.

    My parents – Mr and Mrs. Alade.
    1. Marriage is still honorable : God declared marriage to be honorable and that loneliness is not good. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Abby Alade’ marriage modelled that biblical saying as duo cannot do without one another and none will take a step without another person’ s consent. This should inspire us and gear us to know that social media, its influencers, celebrities and or anyone’s experiences have not eroded the sacredness, honour and blessedness of marriage.
    2. Furthermore, there is a wide gap between big wedding and happy marriage as my parents had what was called a parlour wedding then ( just payment of bride price and blessing by parents). It was indeed a small wedding that produced a big marriage. God created marriage, human beings created wedding but it needs not be flamboyant, expensive or debt-achieved before we can have a big marriage. My parents did theirs simply and live bigly. Doesn’t that mean if you have the means for big wedding, you shouldn’t do it? Or does expensive wedding automatically means bad marriage? Not at all, the glamorousness of a wedding doesn’t determine longevity and ‘happyability’ of a marriage (in fact a family friend who shared the same wedding date, month and year with them had a big wedding and theirs also is working till date) but the lesson is that we should prepare for marriage than for wedding.
    3. In addition, happy marriage and godly marriage is not the same thing because you can be happily married like Ahab and Jezebel and not be godly married like them. My parents’ marriage is a godly one and because it is godly, happiness is guaranteed because a house inhabitated by Jesus is a happy home and two, a godly home produces a godly offsprings.
    4. Fourthly, what worked for A might not work for B. All those marriage teachings on couples wearing the same clothes, sleeping in the same room and bed, having joint account, sharing house chores has never worked in my family (maybe in the future but for now, not working). Are all these wrong? No, they are not bad in fact they are highly encouraged but it won’t work for all of us. So everyone of us has got to decide what will work for them as there is not copy and paste marriage because each marriage comes with its unique differences, challenges and uniqueness. My parents don’t sleep in the same room, don’t have joint account and don’t wear same clothes though they have few together, shared housechores and it is working for them for the past 37 years. Design your own happiness.
    5. Sequel to number 4, for a great marriage to occur, like my parents’ only things matter and are needed; LOVE AND SUBMISSION. My dad loves my mum and my mum is a submitted woman. Anything you don’t anybody to hear, don’t tell my dad because he will tell his wife. Contrary to popular opinion, love is unconditional and submission is never slavery.
    6. Divorce is not the solution to every marital problem is the fifth lesson to insipe us. My parents faced a lot of challenges that many secular marriage and relationship experts will have advised calling it quit. The challenges they faced ranges from financial, spiritual, health, in laws problems not excluding abuse of power but they didn’t quit nor give up on one another. They held on prayerfully for their marriage though God’s intervention and godly extended family’ persuasion and today the rest is a good testimony. There are still challenges in the marriage though.
    7. In conclusion, there are still happily married couples on this planet Earth. Forget about society what is saying, happy couples still exist, godly marriage is still possible and happy marriages still abound just that some of those couples are not on Facebook like my parents, don’t have their stories on FP of newspapers and don’t ever talk. Apart from my parents, I knew many of them. You too, can be happily married. Stay blessed and 37 cheers to my parents.
    My sister. A farmer, inspirational speaker and an author
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