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  • 7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.

    7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.


    To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.

    Source: shutterstock.

    I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.


    In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.


    Now deal with heartbreak like these:


    1.CRY.

    Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.


    2. THANK GOD.

    It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.

    Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’


    3. FORGIVE AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP OF RECONCILIATION.

    Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.

    Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.


    You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.


    4. GO OUT.

    After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.

    Stop pity party.

    Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.

    Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.


    5. LOVE AGAIN.

    There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’ 

    It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.


    6. DON’T PUNISH OTHERS.

    It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.

    It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.


    You were swindled by one man not all.

    So let’s be guided.

    7. GUARD YOUR HEART. 

    Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.

    MAY YOU HEAL.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    According to Wikipedia, only 5% of marriage proposals are done by female.

    Source: Google.

    One of the reasons I so much cherished my wife is that she handled my proposal properly without any delay.

    She gave her answer the same day I asked her out.

    But many ladies nowadays waste marriage proposals unneccesarily through delay tactics.

    Queens, let me tell you a fact; giving a man yes answer on the spot, spending a reasonable time on it or using 6 months to pray about it doesn’t define your value to a man. A man values you based on

    ☑️ His personal value. If he is a man that believe woman must be below him no matter her efforts, if you like play hard to get for 5 years before saying yes, he still won’t value you.
    A valueless individual values nothing.

    But if it is a man with high moral values, whether you ask him out by yourself, give yes answer on a spot, or took extended time to think about it, he will still value you.

    ☑️ Your values. Yoruba proverb says, ‘bonigba ba se pe igba re la n ba peee‘ loosely translated as ‘ the name the owner called her calabash is what we will be helping her to call it.’ You can be behaving as irresponsible and uncaring all over places and expect any reasonable man to take you serious.

    Madam, please a value on yourself.

    Now, that you have known that taking extended time to answer proposal is of no use, then handle proposal like these:

    👉 Have a checklist of who you can’t marry. You can’t marry every man that ask you out and this also boil down to having values.

    When I was single, I knew the class of people I can’t marry and trust me I met them but I didn’t trouble any one of them for relationship because marriage between us can never happen.

    I knew I can’t marry non-christian. So I don’t bother to ask one out despite having all the qualities I want in my wife.

    I also know I can marry from all church. We worship same God but use different beliefs.

    Why will I go after a deeper life sister when I love trouser wearing lady with rims as earrings?

    Why will I be toasting a JW girl who I know doesn’t believe in Trinity, transfusion of blood and many other fundamental Christian beliefs?

    I know I can’t marry from other tribe. No that mine was better, infact, criminal exists in all tribes but firstly my parents will object to it and two, I don’t think I have strength for intertribal marriage. People in intertribal marriage deserve national awards.

    Because of my checklist of who I can’t marry, it helps me to focus my searchlight on Yoruba Christian lady going to a trouser and makeup permissive church from any part of the country.

    DEAR, yours doesn’t have to be mine but having such mental guideline will help you to determine whose proposal you can consider and who to give instant no to respectfully.

    👉 If you are rejecting his proposal, please reject his rides, money, time and gifts.
    The principle is, if he is not your type, his thing should not your type.

    👉 If you know your answer will be a yes, please give the answer either on the spot or within few days.

    My wife gave me her yes answer on the spot and I cherish her for not wasting my time.

    👉 You don’t need three months to pray on a proposal ooooo.
    If truly, you are a Christian with consistent relationship with God and Bible, first, you will know who deserves straight no and who is worthy of presentation to your heavenly father and I know your father won’t delay you.
    A month is okay.

    👉 Don’t despise any man because you reject his proposal.
    You don’t have to abuse, degrade or despise any man for asking you out.

    Na you no like am, there is one correct babe outside wey go lick am.

    Don’t damage someone husband with your mouth.

    👉 Do you accept his proposal? then say no to secret relationship.

  • 6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    Valentine is in few days!

    A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.

    Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:

    1. Take yourself to a nice place

    Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.

    You might even meet your future val during your outings.

    2. Log out of all social media apps.

    Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩‍❤️‍👩👩‍❤️‍👩

    Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.

    3. Go out with your single friends

    You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.

    There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.

    4. Exchange gifts with someone who meant something for you.

    Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.

    Need gift suggestions, Click here

    Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.

    And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?

    5. Pretend like it is just like every other day.

    July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.

    Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.

    Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.

    February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.

    6. Get yourself a partner.

    Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.

    But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.

    It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.

    7. Prepare.

    I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.

    From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.

    During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:

    • A – Z of Content Creation ( to celebrate 3 years of blogging).
    • A Tearless Courtship.
    • Paths to Sexual purity.

    Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.

    Happy Val in advance. I love you.

  • How somebody’s child can find you.

    How somebody’s child can find you.

    The new year is the season where there is so much fun in the air and it could be a perfect time for you to find another woman’s son to find you or to look for another man’s daughter for friendship and marital settlement in 2022.

    If you are game, primed and ready to roll then follow this guide to find or to be found (as the case may be):

    1. Open your social media DM.

    Who knows maybe your significant other has been waiting for you for two years. Love can happen anywhere, including your DM.

    Do you reply to every message in there? Absolutely no! Carefully select anyone with the sensible message while ignoring all ‘hello angles.’

    Click the link to read exciting stories of those who met their spouses in their DMs and timelines.

    2. Start sharing values on your social media page.

    Where there is a carcass, there the vultures gather.

    By starting to offer values on your social page, group, blog or weblink, you will eventually attract a crowd. Maybe your future spouse may come with the healing to your singleness in his/her wing. Who knows.

    Read the story of Ayosolas below.

    Couples of Zuckerville’s Facebook page

    3. Be a commenter.

    First of all, make sure you comment your marital status and contact info in the comment section if you are ready to mingle and settle this year.

    Apart from commenting here, don’t just be a values sharer, be a value encourager by commenting, liking and sharing other value givers’ and content creators’ creative works.

    You can even tailor your comments to the person that you are developing feelings for provided the ‘feelee‘ values aligned with godly principles. I bet it with you, people can be known through what they read, write and say.

    Facebook posts are the written form of our thoughts, beliefs and ideologies.

    The caveat here, don’t just comment casually, comment intelligently and argue respectfully. Maybe the person that will find you is also a fellow commenter.

    Did you know why I hammered so much on your social media? Because it is the easiest means for baby boomers, millennials and Gen Zs to find love.

    4. Owambe is a goldmine.

    If you are seriously considering marriage this year or the year after, do not joke with parties and any avenues that put you amid opposite sexes.

    Such parties include wedding parties, burial parties, chieftaincy ceremony and various festivities.

    Even if you are not invited to one make sure you volunteer to attend one or look for one to attend in the neighbourhood. All that you need is boldness, a good phone to exchange contact, neat clothes preferably native wears and perf so that you can appear nice to your would-be suitors.

    You can’t attend five in a row without seeing love.

    5. Now, let’s go to church.

    If you have been skipping church before, this ain’t the best time to do so.

    This is the time to make church and churchy activities serious and be serious with them for life because there is joy in the presence of God.

    There are thousands of single men and women in the faith but they don’t go to clubhouses, you can only find them in the choir, youth meetings, camp meetings, church volunteer groups, etc., plus the fact that some of them are not active on social media and you know what, they are serving God sincerely.

    If you don’t marry from the church, where will you?

    6. Listen to recommendations.

    Like I said yesterday, somebody knows someone that he/she thinks can make a good spouse to you. If you got that opportunity please don’t belittle it. Check the recommended person out first.

    After all, there is nothing sinful about matchmaking.

    7. Prayer is the master key.

    Let’s sing this song:

    Prayer is the key,
    Prayer is the key,
    Prayer is the master key,
    Jesus started with prayer,
    And end it with prayer,
    Prayer is the master.

    The whole process of searching, looking and finding should start with prayer and continue in prayer.

    Why prayer? People can be wicked and fake what they are not. So you will need prayer to separate the chaff from the wheat.

    Praying means you are saying to God, ‘my father I can’t do this in my power but you can help me.’

    This, we are sure of, He never fails.

    Finally, do you want to settle down this year, drop your contact info in the comment section?

  • Somebody’s child will find you.

    Somebody’s child will find you.

    Let’s start with this true story of mine. It happened in November 2020.

    Her: Master Joel, do you like 🥰🥰🥰 lady.

    Me: Yes, I do, ma.

    Her: As in very ❤️❤️❤️?

    Me: I am sure I like them like that 😄😃

    That was a phone convo with a former colleague of mine recommending her very beautiful friend of hers for me for a relationship that can lead to marriage.

    For brevity sake, the recommended lady and I met and talked but relationship didn’t materialize between us.

    Seeing/finding my wife under mango tree is the best feeling in the world.

    This year also, a senior friend recommended another godly lady to me who eventually became my wife.

    What am I striking at?
    Somebody’s child will find you but do you know somebody child knows somebody’s child that should find but you are unfindable because of your attitudes.

    Somebody’s child has a good friend that can marry but he knows your stubbornness can kill another woman’s child.

    Somebody’s kid has a godly sister that can make a good wife but she knows that your eye no dey stay one place.

    Somebody’s pikin want to recommend one of his/her for you but they are afraid that you may rub their faces in the mud through your behaviors.

    Dear, somebody’s child had somebody’s daughter/son for you that he/she think may find you but are you findable?

  • Ten Romantic/Valentines Getaways for Couples

    Long post alert.

    Recently, I was reading from https://lifestylebymo.com/ post titled is honeymoon compulsory? Of course, it is not compulsory but VERY NECESSARY for newlyweds, ‘olderlyweds’ and even soon-to-be-weds to get outside their normal habitats in order for them to be fully devoted to one another for a period of time. Bible even commanded one-year honeymoon packages for new couples 😂 😂 😂.

    We always thought romantic getaways must be in an exotic and expensive places in or outside the country but here I present to you budget-smilling and one-of-its-kind 10 romantic places/valentines getaways in Nigeria with affordable food and hotels for your honeymoon, wedding anniversary, wedding, excursions and dates. Are you ready? Have you packed your bag (with all travel essentials)? Now, let’s move:

    #1. OLD OYO NATIONAL PARK

    Old Oyo National Park is one of the national parks in Nigeria located across Northern Oyo state (15 LGAs) and Southern Kwara state (1 LGA) covering 2,512 km2. It’s the site of Old Oyo empire.


    Attraction points:

    • old Akesa market.
    • old Alaafin’s palacepalace and city wall.
    • Yemoso, Gbogun and Kosomoun HillsHills.

    -dye pits.

    exotic and endagered species of plants and animals like buffalo, duiker, antelope and kob , Ikere Gorge dam, etc.
    You can enjoy full undiluted Yoruba culture, sport fishing, boat cruising, bird sighting, picknicing among others.
    The park is open everyday from 8am – 6pm but you have to book at their Administrative HQs in Oyo town, Oyo state (09064941163).

    #2. ERIN-JESHA WATERFALL:

    If you adventurous, Erin-Jesha Waterfall located in Erin-Jesha, Osun state is bae. The waterfall is perhaps the most popular tourists’ center in South West Nigeria measuring 10.3km in lenght. The waterfall is said to have medicinal properties.

    Attraction points:

    -seven floor of rock,

    -ancient gourd,

    -ereke

    – erin hills.
    You can do water-game, mountain climbing, swimming, etc. The place is open everyday for N500 gate fee without a tourguide and extra N500 for taking pictures. Get to Osogbo the state capital from there you will get a bus going to Erin-Jesha. The popular musical hits of Õrente and Oluwa mon ti ose by Adekunle Gold and Baba Sala’s daughter respectively were shot here.

    #3. OGBOMOSO – THE LAND OF VALIANTS

    Away from the hustling and bubling life of urban cities lie an ancient and quiet city of Ogbomoso in Oyo state. After your wedding or to get away from urban ‘noise,’ the town could be a homhome-away-from-home for the main time or even permanently (we have abundant farmlands at shikena prices).

    Attraction points:

    • LAUTECH Botanical Gardens Campus.
    • 3rd Primary School in Nigeria, Osupa Baptist Day School.
    • Nigerian Baptist Theological Seminary, the first degree awarding institution in the country.
    • Kersey Motherless House.
    • Ladoke Akintola House.
    • Nearness to Ilorin International Airport (30 min’ drive).
    • Mounments of early Baptist Missionaries.
    • 400 years old Ajagbon tree.
    • Famed Ogun ojalu house.
    • Nearness to old oyo national park.
    • Feel of a Yoruba culture, language and food especially Amala and gbégiri/abula). I can serve as your tourguide through 08135446603.

    #4. IGBETI MOUNTAIN RANGES

    Do you want to burn some fat while enjoying wonderments of nature? Find your way with your partner to Igbeti town in Olorunsogo LG of Oyo state. The town is surrounded with mountains and has Ilorin to her east, Ogbomoso through old oyo national park to the south, Igboho and Saki to the west and old oyo national part to the north. The city is also known as Marble city and the coolest place in SW.

    Attraction points:

    • Iya Mapo Hill (covering 6kms and 50ft high).
    • Agbele Hills.
    • 16 Rock Ranges.
    • Bata Erugba (a drumlike rock).
    • Obadimo rock.

    There are even cheap hotels of 2 -3k here.

    #4. ADO AWAYE SUSPENDED LAKE .

    Water body on top of the mountain and the water has never dry? Yes, it is available at Ado awaye in Iseyin local government of Oyo state. Apart from the lake being sceneric with loads of wonderments, it’s one of the two available in the world.

    Attraction points:

    • Iyake lake
    • Elephant tree
    • Agbómofúnyàké hole
    • Iya alara lake
    • Ishage rock
    • Ese awon agba (footprints of elders)

    – Ese kan aye, ese kan orun (between-life-and-death) chasm.

    The lake is accessible by 200 steps with tour charges ranging from N200 – N500.

    #5. IDANRE HILL

    How sure are you that you are eligible for marriage? Do you think you are? Ok., let’s go to most beautiful natural landscape called Idanre hill in Ondo state to check. The hill has 663 steps with resting points in between to its summit.

    Attraction points:

    • Iraye (forgetfulness) tree.
    • ibi akaso
    • Agboogun footprints
    • Thunder water.
    • Unreadable letter.
    • Orosun hill
    • Arun river with live forest elephant and
    • Aapon-o-gbe (bachelor cannot carry) stone (to check if a man is maritally eligible then). Ticket is N1000.

    #6. IKOGOSI WARM SPRING

    Ever think of two distinct streams sprutting hot water of about 70 degree and cool water respectively flowing side by side, later joined in their travels to give warm water and each maintaining its thermal properties? If you think, it’s impossible, then I wish to shock with the realisation that God has blessed us with such at Ikogosi, Ekiti state in a place called Ikogosi WarmSpring.

    Attraction points:

    • confluence of the two springs
    • Zoo
    • Rev. McCree chaplets
    • Arinta waterfall

    The activities there include swimming, nightout, mountaineering, partying among other enjoyments. The attraction is located southwest of Akure, the state capital and N500 is the entrance fare.

    #7. OSUN-OSHOGBO SACRED GROOVE

    If you are a pastor (for integrity sake) or one of those Christians who believed Christians can be demon-possessed, stay clear. Well, for tourism sake, Osun-Osogbo Groove is the only surviving sacred groove in Yorubaland. The site is a large UNESCO-certified cultural landscape of undisturbed forest near the city of Osogbo, Osun state capital and play host to annual osun-osogbo festival in August.

    Attraction points:

    • 40 yoruba gods and goddesses’ shrines plus their figurines.
    • White throated monkeys.
    • Nike art gallery.

    Entrance fee without camera is N200 And N500 for Nigerians and Non-Nigerians respectively. With phone camera 1k, photo camera 3k and a video camera 15k respectively.

    #8. IITA FOREST CENTRE

    Are you a lover of exotic and medicinal plants, birds and animals? Then you next bus-stop is IITA forest centre, IITA HQS, Ibadan. The centre is mainly established for conservation,research and educational purposes.

    Attraction points:

    • ethnobotanical garden housing 13 plants of medicinal properties among Yorubas.
    • 150 different exotic plants
    • bird watching of over 270 different bird species.
    • tree heritage park housing 350 species of endagered Nigerian trees.

    Activities include forest schools through guided tours, outdoor class, camping, walk around lakes, etc. Gate fee is FREE. Web: http://forestcenter.iita.org

    #10. Owu Waterfalls

    Owu Waterfall is a waterfall located in Owa Kajola in Ifelodun Local Government Area of Kwara State, Nigeria. It’s the highest waterfall in West Africa measuring 120m above the water level and cascades 330 feet down an escarpment, with rocky out crops to a pool of ice-cold water below.

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