Let’s burst a bubble! There are many myths you might have heard about Courtship and Marriage which are half-truths and outright lies. So I am gonna take a couples of days to burst some bubbles.
Today the first bubble to burst is the bubble of marrying your friend i.e., someone you have known for years.
Lemme start like this, if I asked you to name your friends, you would probably be mentioning those you had known from 7, 10, 20, 30 years ago.
So if you are thinking of marrying your friend, you may have to wait and build friendship for a long period of time. A plan dangerous for two reasons.
For a start, guys, none of your female friends is ready to date or marry you. Not because you are not lovely, up-to-taste or no feellings, but because of familiarity complex.
She knew you probably from diapers and you too knew her.
Two, only one out of ten couples actually marry their longtime friend. The remaining ones BEFRIEND their spouse.
Now, since you won’t have time to build quality friendship because it takes time and resources, what are you going to do? Are you gonna marry a total stranger or an enemy?
Not at all, but instead of forming niceness, rendering unsolicited helps, advices and visits, commenting epistels on his/her post, etc, for someone you have feelings for, SPEAK UP ( in Nigerian parlance, TOAST HIM/HER) and then BEFRIEND your choice, provided you have your choice’s neccesary bio. Bio such as:
- original and official name
- Religious and church affiliation ( I mean real, offline and physical church he/she attends)
- Genotype
- Mentors
- Etc.
Lastly, another reason you won’t have time to build credible friendship is that another guy is around the corner who is not ready to observe the rule of friendship or you think na only your eye she dey enter?🥰🥰🥰
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