Courtship Forum

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  • Love is Enough.

    Love is Enough.

    Welcome to another episode of bubble busting and myths debunking.

    We have agreed that instead of you, looking for you for a friend rather than befriending the one you love and Marrying God’s will as the common vocabulary in the Christian circle is not enough for a fulfilling marriage but staying in God’s will is the key.

    In this article, I am debunking the age long myth of love is not enough to run a happy home.

    Before I proceeded, I must confess that I am also a believer in this slogan until my eyes was opened to the real thing.

    Now, let’s agreed on this matter of fact, love is enough to run a happy marriage.

    Lemme say it again; Love is more than enough to maintain a godly home.

    Yes, I agreed that selfish human natures cannot sustain a Christian home but we are not called to love our spouse humanly but as Christ loves His Church. How? The Agape way.

    What are then the characteristics of love that we are called to? The answer is not farfetched. It is near us in the greatest book of all time Bible, part called Apostle Paul First letter to the Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4 – 8,13.

    The Bible described love as follows;

    ⁴Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant,

    ⁵is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs.

    ⁶Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth.

    ⁷It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

    ⁸Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end.

    ¹³Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love—but the greatest of these is love.

    Now, tell me which relationship will not thrive in the presence of all the attributes highlighted?

    Less, we forget lemme remind you that love is more than enough to run a Christian family.

    If he loves you he won’t abuse you because love finds no joy in unrighteousness.

    If she loves you, she will submit to your leadership because love is not rude.

    If he loves you he will provide for you as the husband and father in the house because love is not self-seeking.

    If LOML loves you, he/she will keep no records of your wrongdoings.

    Finally, lemme remind you that love as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13 is more than enough for our marriage, courtship and relationship.

    T for thanks, C for the comment and S for share.

    Scripture quotation from Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

  • God’s will is not enough.

    God’s will is not enough.

    This month is for clearing and busting bubbles and myths about relationships, marriage and Courtship.

    Bust the first bubble here

    Today, we will puncture the balloon of ‘all what I need for a happy marriage is to marry God’s will’

    To start with, in Agricultural practices, we have various farming operations namely; pre-planting, planting, post-planting, harvesting and post-harvesting operations.

    The first bubble, how many of us know what is God’s will and how many of us have limited Divine will to marital choice only?

    Now, let’s assume all of us know what is God’s perfect plan for us concerning marital choices but do you know that that doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage.

    Why? Because marrying assumed God’s will is pre-planting operations; something that must be done before marriage and I hope everyone agrees with me that a good pre-planting operation doesn’t mean that a farm will be good. Other operations must be performed to have a good harvest.

    Marrying your God’s ordained spouse is pre-planting operations combing these operations with other operations is what makes a marriage happy.

    Such operations like;

    • Appreciating your spouse.
    • Constant forgiveness
    • Affirmative display of love
    • Prayers
    • Good sex
    • Effective communication
    • Tolerance
    • Etc.

    Doing the former while neglecting the latter is what turned a Christian home into an unattended garden which will soon be run over with weeds of malice, stalled communication, bickerings, etc. This is why some Christians are enduring their union. Not because they allegedly mismarry but because they hand off their marriages almost immediately after their wedding.

    The second reason why the myth doesn’t work is that even God’s will for your life is still a human being.

    And the third reason is; that you have to marry a kind person.

    T for thanks and C for the comment.

  • Your friend won’t marry you.

    Your friend won’t marry you.

    Let’s burst a bubble! There are many myths you might have heard about Courtship and Marriage which are half-truths and outright lies. So I am gonna take a couples of days to burst some bubbles.

    Today the first bubble to burst is the bubble of marrying your friend i.e., someone you have known for years.

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    Lemme start like this, if I asked you to name your friends, you would probably be mentioning those you had known from 7, 10, 20, 30 years ago.

    So if you are thinking of marrying your friend, you may have to wait and build friendship for a long period of time. A plan dangerous for two reasons.

    For a start, guys, none of your female friends is ready to date or marry you. Not because you are not lovely, up-to-taste or no feellings, but because of familiarity complex.

    She knew you probably from diapers and you too knew her.

    Two, only one out of ten couples actually marry their longtime friend. The remaining ones BEFRIEND their spouse.

    Now, since you won’t have time to build quality friendship because it takes time and resources, what are you going to do? Are you gonna marry a total stranger or an enemy?

    Not at all, but instead of forming niceness, rendering unsolicited helps, advices and visits, commenting epistels on his/her post, etc, for someone you have feelings for, SPEAK UP ( in Nigerian parlance, TOAST HIM/HER) and then BEFRIEND your choice, provided you have your choice’s neccesary bio. Bio such as:

    • original and official name
    • Religious and church affiliation ( I mean real, offline and physical church he/she attends)
    • Genotype
    • Mentors
    • Etc.

    Lastly, another reason you won’t have time to build credible friendship is that another guy is around the corner who is not ready to observe the rule of friendship or you think na only your eye she dey enter?🥰🥰🥰

  • 5 lessons I will teach my daughter(s) about Domestic Violence.

    5 lessons I will teach my daughter(s) about Domestic Violence.

    In my last post I talked about 5 lessons I will teach my son(s) about Domestic Violence

    In this post, I will be teaching my daughter peradventure God gives me female kid without excluding her brother(s).

    What is the first lesson? The first lesson is that domestic violence thrives in an atmosphere of secrecy.

    There is nothing secretive, special , sacred and or unspeakable about Marriage, Courtship and relationships that your brother, sister, father, mother, mentor and those that has moral, parental and spiritual oversight over you can’t hear.

    In addition, the second lesson is for both genders; the lesson about sacredness, blessedness and permanency of Marriage before I teach them the biblical viewpoint about Divorce.

    The sub-lesson includes how to be a Christian spouse (a real Christian will not abuse anything talkless of his/her partners), how to maintain the sacredness of this godly institution ( abusing someone’s partner is tantamount to eroding the sacredness of this beautiful union) and that God’s will is that Marriage should last ’till death do us apart.’

    I also allow teaching my daughter that God’s will about whom to marry is never domicile in one person. That is, there is no one that she must marry by fire by force. So if he is acting funny or showing signs of acting funny, Japa* because God’s will don’t act sinfully. LoL.

    God still loves you, you are still my daughter and marriage is still beautiful.

    God won’t lead you to sinner.

    God won’t agreed to you to be battered because He didn’t die for you for be killed by blows, kicks and fists.

    Learning fatherhood through my goddaughter, Shinaayomi

    Fourthly, my teaching will also touch on the subject of divorce, first that divorce is never the first solution to the marital problem, there are many non-toxic ways of resolving conflicts and if her life is been threatened, seek relief first in separation, prayers before ever considering the last option – Divorce and perhaps if you should go the D way (which I will vehemently pray against now before then) that; God still loves you, you are still my daughter and marriage is still beautiful.

    The last lesson is that don’t abuse anyone. As I won’t tolerate abuse of whatever form from male to female is the same way I will not allow it from woman to man because all lives matter.

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    Japa is a Nigerian slang meaning run away

  • 5 lessons I will teach my son(s) about Domestic Violence.

    5 lessons I will teach my son(s) about Domestic Violence.

    Presently now on Nigeria social media space and trend table, the hottest topic is domestic violence after the death of sensational singer Osinach Nwachuckwu, the crooner of Ekwueme as a result of domestic violence from her alleged husband.

    Many are raging and in fact I am livid not because of just this one star gone forever but for many women, girls, men and boys stuck in abusive relationship.

    No one deserves to be abused. Absolutely no one.

    But what has happened has happened, the next agenda is to prevent another ugly occurrence of this nature now and in the next generation.

    Now, what do I intend to do, peradventure God gives me son(s) not also excluding my daughters from the lessons.

    To be truth, I won’t teach my boy, do not beat the women in your live.

    I won’t teach him not to hit his girlfriend.

    I won’t teach him not to abuse his wife.

    Teaching him that is like leaving leperous to treat ringworm. It is like leaving the disease and treating the symptoms. The treatment won’t produce the maximum result you and I desired.

    Now, what will I teach him?

    I will teach him to respect everyone. Every human being, irrespective of their gender, tribe, affiliation, leaning, orientation and religion, deserve a respect. Even if that person is behaving disrespectfully, still respect him/her.

    Not just respect in restraining your hands but also in restraining your tongue, eyes, and hand and giving the other party, the right of disagreement.

    I believe Respect will solve the problem of inferiority/ superiority complex because an abuser thinks he/she is better than his/her abused.

    The second lesson is the lesson of dignity of life of person, animal and plants. Every living things have a right to stress-less living and abuse is stressful living.

    The second reason for lesson no. 2 is that every life matter to God and if everyone matter to Him, every life must matter to us too and because of importance of every life to Him, He doesn’t abuse them. Therefore, what God can not do, we don’t do.

    The third lesson is the principle of love. Majorly, the love of God and the things of God plus the holy fear of the Almighty.

    If you love God and fear Him, you will strive to be like Him. God is not a beater.

    If you love God and fear Him, you will love His creations which include human, the masterpiece of creations.

    If you love and fear God, you will love what He loves and it is a known fact the Almighty loves us.

    If you love the Almighty Creator, you won’t destroy what He created. Abuse is destructive.

    Furthermore, I won’t just teach him to love God but also the attributes of love as outlined in 1st Corinthians 13 part of which says ‘ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’ (NIV)

    An abuser is impatient, unkind,envious, boastful, proud, dishonored and selfish, not forgetting that if the person didn’t desist and repent from the unholy act, the individual is hellbound

    In addition to the three lessons, is the lesson of non-toxic, non-confrontation and non-abusive dispute resolutions through effective communication, therapy and seeking professional advice.

    I will tell him that every fight, disagreement and ruckus must not end in broken relationship, fists, blows, divorce, caustic words and emotional/physiological trauma especially marital relationship.

    Why? Because there are many better ways of resolving and solving marital problems without beating one another. Infact beating and abusing won’t resolve any problem in marriage, it will only aggravate it.

    Then, lastly I will teach my boy(s) and girl(s) that in marriage, divorce is not an option but if your marriage gets to hot, seek God, seek out and seek help. The law of life is higher than the law of Marriage. Marriage/Courtship is meant to be enjoyed not to endured.

    How do I intend to impart these lessons? I will be his model right before I have him.

    I will also impart it during our ‘me and daddy chats,’ during family devotions and fun moments to respect, love, dignify and resolve conflict amicably with his girlfriend, mother, sisters, female friends and colleagues and their gender.

    With all the lessons ably taught and modelled by my wife and me, through the help of God, I believe he won’t abuse or hit anyone physically, verbally or emotionally.

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  • 7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.

    7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.


    To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.

    Source: shutterstock.

    I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.


    In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.


    Now deal with heartbreak like these:


    1.CRY.

    Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.


    2. THANK GOD.

    It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.

    Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’


    3. FORGIVE AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP OF RECONCILIATION.

    Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.

    Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.


    You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.


    4. GO OUT.

    After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.

    Stop pity party.

    Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.

    Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.


    5. LOVE AGAIN.

    There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’ 

    It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.


    6. DON’T PUNISH OTHERS.

    It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.

    It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.


    You were swindled by one man not all.

    So let’s be guided.

    7. GUARD YOUR HEART. 

    Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.

    MAY YOU HEAL.

  • SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    In the course of my work as a Marriage Educator and Counselor, I meet many people who desire to marry.

    The young women lament that they can’t find good men.

    The young men too lament that they can’t find good women.

    I find this somewhat perplexing because many young men and women that I meet have great characteristics. It seems to me that both men and women do not know how and where to meet prospective partners who fit them.

    In The Right Fit Marriage Academy we asked married people to tell us how they met the persons they married. Here are some responses we got:

    “I met my fiance in our campus fellowship. He was my discipler��. He was an executive in the fellowship, one of those spiritual brothers we look up to in the fellowship. Through our discipleship class, we became friends and friends became intimate friends and from there it happened ��” T. A.

    “I had graduated from school but visited UNN for some other reason and noticed her but never spoke to her at all..so after many years I got a recommendation from a good friend of mine and when I asked for details..her name popped up. I searched my Facebook friends list. Luckily she was there and her number was also there. I took her number from there and started calling..and she finally agreed to take the ride of life with me. Best pal ever.” I. N.

    “My husband met me at his colleague’s wedding. The mother of his colleague is my church mum. I had to drag myself to the wedding. Hubby was just taking pictures of us with the bride as we danced with her. According to him, he was just taking a random picture and later I came to stand close to him and he took another picture of me. He was just scrolling through the pictures he took and he was like this lady’s complexion is captivating (I’m dark skinned and he told God he wanted omo dudu.lol). When the colleague came back from honeymoon, he asked her for my number. She had to ask her mum for my number. Her mum questioned and questioned and called me before releasing my number. I was a bit skeptical at first but I agreed to meet him. And days turned to weeks and I met him officially two months after we began talking. We’re now married.” O. A.

    These responses show that meeting with a prospective marriage partner happens as you go about your regular activities. However, you have to be present and intentional in order to recognise the opportunity when it presents itself.

    What should a person who is eager to find a suitable partner do? If you are that person, what should you do?

    Here are seven steps that will help you to overcome the “scarcity problem”.

    1. Avoid Pity Parties

    Your attitude and mindset play a significant role succeeding in any aspect of life including finding the person you will marry. Avoid feeding discouragement and bitterness because you have not yet met a good partner. If you have a cheerful and optimistic attitude and outlook, you’ll be much more attractive to a prospective spouse.

    2. Look beyond your immediate community.

    Be open to the idea that a prospective partner that fits you may currently live in a place that is far away from where you currently live. Long distance relationships have their own problems, true. The problem is not the distance. If you know and practice courtship principles that work for a long distance relationship.

    3. Keep your eyes open with people you already know.

    There may be a person that you have known for a long time without having any romantic ideas about them. If you pay attention, you may suddenly see such a person with fresh eyes and see in them a possibility of a relationship with them. At times, your friends may see the possibility of that person being suitable for you and nudge you towards them.

    4. Accept assistance from GOOD matchmakers – Family, friends, professionals.

    One Marriage and Relationship expert stated the dramatic finding that 63% of married couples were first introduced to each other by family or friends. Be open to suggestions and advice from RELIABLE family members and friends. In our careers and businesses, you and I appreciate the value of networking. We are open to using our networks to make beneficial connections. Why not let the same networks work for you in your search for a prospective marriage partner?

    5. Use the Online Space – Social Media, Dating apps.

    You, like many people, may find the online space scary. Yet it is a great platform for meeting new people who share similar interests with you. What you need is to carefully choose the online spaces that have developed a solid reputation and where people of similar age, background, beliefs and interests gather. While interacting with people in the online spaces that you choose, exercise discernment. Today, you can find out a lot about people you meet online even without asking them any questions.

    6. Go to places and events where people who are like-minded are.

    If you want to catch a fish, you go to where you think the most fish are. If you want to make a sales contact, you attend meetings with the likelihood of finding potential clients. If you want to find a prospective marriage partner, it makes sense to go to locations and events where you know that the kind of partner you are looking for is likely to be. Meetings, conferences, training programs.

    7. Seize your moments of opportunity.

    If marriage is one of your life’s priorities, then you should be intentional about the activities that will make it happen. If you are not intentional, you may actually miss good opportunities for connecting with someone who could be a great match for you.

    Do you have additional tips to add to this list? Share with us.

    Written by Mrs. Modupe Ehirim via The Right Fit Marriage Academy on Facebook.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    According to Wikipedia, only 5% of marriage proposals are done by female.

    Source: Google.

    One of the reasons I so much cherished my wife is that she handled my proposal properly without any delay.

    She gave her answer the same day I asked her out.

    But many ladies nowadays waste marriage proposals unneccesarily through delay tactics.

    Queens, let me tell you a fact; giving a man yes answer on the spot, spending a reasonable time on it or using 6 months to pray about it doesn’t define your value to a man. A man values you based on

    ☑️ His personal value. If he is a man that believe woman must be below him no matter her efforts, if you like play hard to get for 5 years before saying yes, he still won’t value you.
    A valueless individual values nothing.

    But if it is a man with high moral values, whether you ask him out by yourself, give yes answer on a spot, or took extended time to think about it, he will still value you.

    ☑️ Your values. Yoruba proverb says, ‘bonigba ba se pe igba re la n ba peee‘ loosely translated as ‘ the name the owner called her calabash is what we will be helping her to call it.’ You can be behaving as irresponsible and uncaring all over places and expect any reasonable man to take you serious.

    Madam, please a value on yourself.

    Now, that you have known that taking extended time to answer proposal is of no use, then handle proposal like these:

    👉 Have a checklist of who you can’t marry. You can’t marry every man that ask you out and this also boil down to having values.

    When I was single, I knew the class of people I can’t marry and trust me I met them but I didn’t trouble any one of them for relationship because marriage between us can never happen.

    I knew I can’t marry non-christian. So I don’t bother to ask one out despite having all the qualities I want in my wife.

    I also know I can marry from all church. We worship same God but use different beliefs.

    Why will I go after a deeper life sister when I love trouser wearing lady with rims as earrings?

    Why will I be toasting a JW girl who I know doesn’t believe in Trinity, transfusion of blood and many other fundamental Christian beliefs?

    I know I can’t marry from other tribe. No that mine was better, infact, criminal exists in all tribes but firstly my parents will object to it and two, I don’t think I have strength for intertribal marriage. People in intertribal marriage deserve national awards.

    Because of my checklist of who I can’t marry, it helps me to focus my searchlight on Yoruba Christian lady going to a trouser and makeup permissive church from any part of the country.

    DEAR, yours doesn’t have to be mine but having such mental guideline will help you to determine whose proposal you can consider and who to give instant no to respectfully.

    👉 If you are rejecting his proposal, please reject his rides, money, time and gifts.
    The principle is, if he is not your type, his thing should not your type.

    👉 If you know your answer will be a yes, please give the answer either on the spot or within few days.

    My wife gave me her yes answer on the spot and I cherish her for not wasting my time.

    👉 You don’t need three months to pray on a proposal ooooo.
    If truly, you are a Christian with consistent relationship with God and Bible, first, you will know who deserves straight no and who is worthy of presentation to your heavenly father and I know your father won’t delay you.
    A month is okay.

    👉 Don’t despise any man because you reject his proposal.
    You don’t have to abuse, degrade or despise any man for asking you out.

    Na you no like am, there is one correct babe outside wey go lick am.

    Don’t damage someone husband with your mouth.

    👉 Do you accept his proposal? then say no to secret relationship.

  • 3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    We subscribe to our Cable TVs in order to enjoy ourselves. The level of our subscription depends on the programs cum enjoyment we will derived.

    Love in the air.  Coutersy: pexels.com

    As our Cable TVs got level, stages and packages, so is the romantic relationship got level, stages and packages with benefits acrue to each package levels:

    1. Friendship subscription.

    This is the basic package/sub.

    At the level, what is available for your enjoyment is friendship. Nothing more.

    You boyfriend doesn’t own you, money neither do you own him your body.

    She doesn’t own you her cooking and home management skills neither do you own her payment of school fee.

    Does this negate gifting? Like I always said, there is no love without exchange of gifts after all, NTA is a free channel.

    With my friends at uni.

    2. Fiance/Fiancee Subscription.

    In this package, more ‘programs’ will be added to you bonquet. Marriage is in view and parents – both in the flesh and in the Lord are in the know how.

    Also, you own yourselves plenty gifts and you owned yourselves, sense, transparency, questions, prayers, godly visitation and plenty love.

    But you have not sub for house manager, cohabitators, sex and or central bank.

    Our pre-wedding shot.

    3. Marriage subscription.

    Level 3. Premium sub

    This is the premium package with full access to all what God packaged in the romance TV but it will cost you money, planning and prayers.

    With this sub, you owned one another everything, love, affections, duties, gifts, services, sex, etc.

    Complete package.

    In addition, you have to know that there is a caveat to this sub which is, that that DStv gave full access to all the programs in premium sub don’t make you the owner of DStv or dictate to them what you must show to you.

    They have give terms and conditions to enjoy their services, it is now left to you to enjoy the service or off your TV.

    That you are married doesn’t make you the creator of marriage, God is and He has given you His terms and conditions for marriage, the ball now is in your court to enjoy or endure it.

     

  • 6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    Valentine is in few days!

    A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.

    Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:

    1. Take yourself to a nice place

    Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.

    You might even meet your future val during your outings.

    2. Log out of all social media apps.

    Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩‍❤️‍👩👩‍❤️‍👩

    Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.

    3. Go out with your single friends

    You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.

    There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.

    4. Exchange gifts with someone who meant something for you.

    Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.

    Need gift suggestions, Click here

    Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.

    And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?

    5. Pretend like it is just like every other day.

    July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.

    Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.

    Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.

    February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.

    6. Get yourself a partner.

    Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.

    But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.

    It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.

    7. Prepare.

    I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.

    From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.

    During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:

    • A – Z of Content Creation ( to celebrate 3 years of blogging).
    • A Tearless Courtship.
    • Paths to Sexual purity.

    Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.

    Happy Val in advance. I love you.

  • How to fight for your Marriage.

    This article is from YouVersion 7 secrets to an awesome Marriage plan, day 9 under the title No Coasting.

    The apostle Paul hits the nail on the head for us as we wrap up this nine day study. He says in Galatians 6:9, “Let us not weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” In lay terms, hang in there, never give up, and your marriage will thrive. Look at it this way.

    Let’s compare marriage to a long distance race. The truth is that most of us did not prepare well for the race. We just jumped in and someone said go and we went. We did not train. We did not change our habits or behaviors. We just ran. So it is not surprising that not too far into the race some of us were ready to bail out. Others seemed to be hanging in, but they were really struggling. It comes down to this.

    Everyone in the race needs hope. Hope that they can make it the distance. Hope that there are a whole lot of water stations along the route that refresh and energize them. Hope that their spouse is running side by side with them. Hope that their spouse is in it with them to the end. Hope in the truth that they are not running the race alone – God runs with them.

    My prayer for you is that you have an Awesome Marriage. I often say that marriage is not rocket science. The 7 “Secrets” are not difficult. It is living them out day after day that can be difficult. I encourage you to persevere, because one day you will say it was worth it. One day as you look back you can see how far God brought you.

    I wish I could tell you that Nancy and I have always had an Awesome Marriage, but I can’t. We have had some really rough times, and once were at the edge of divorce. In many ways, I am thankful that our marriage took the turns that it did, because otherwise I do not think we would have learned all that God wanted us to learn. Today our marriage is awesome. Here is your final takeaway: No matter where your marriage is today, God can make it awesome. All you have to do is turn it over to Him and walk faithfully each day in the path He sets before you. Take these 7 “Secrets” and let Him change them into steps that will build a marriage that you both will cherish and the world will look at and say, “What is their secret. They have such an awesome marriage.”� Then you can tell them all that God has done.

    Prayer:  Ask God to encourage and guide you as you work with Him to turn the “secrets” into steps.

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  • How God will treat your enemy.

    One day, God send one of His son to one of His disobedient and stubborn son to let go of His sons and daughters from servitude and slavery.

    But the stubborn son won’t let his brothers and sisters be free because he hates them seriously because he was their enemies but God, the Almighty Father have to step in warning this adamant individual to let go of His precious people to go and worship Him.

    When all entreats failed by Moses, God treated the file of Pharaoh, the archenemy of the sons of Isreal by dealing with him directly with strong and might hands.

    My dear you, you don’t need all the amount you are devoting to killing enemy, if you know how your heavenly Father has promised to treat them.

    Infact God purposed allow enemy for some of us because He knows if there is no push or pursuing, you are likely not serving God again.

    Since you now have enemy or even enemies, as a result of some people surrendering themselves to be used by Satan and you not being enemy of anyone, these are some of ways, He promised to deal with antagonists and haters

    1. He will shatter your enemy.

    Lord, your right hand is glorious in power.
    Lord, your right hand shattered the enemy. Exodus 15:6.

    2. He will render their desires over you void and null.

    The enemy said:
    “I will pursue, I will overtake,
    I will divide the spoil.
    My desire will be gratified at their expense.
    I will draw my sword;
    my hand will destroy them.”

    But you blew with your breath,
    and the sea covered them.
    They sank like lead
    in the mighty waters. Exodus 15:9 – 10.

    3. He will drive them out.


    The God of old is your dwelling place,
    and underneath are the everlasting arms.
    He drives out the enemy before you
    and commands, “Destroy!” Deuteronomy 33:27.

    4. They will be afraid of you.

    …and he became even more afraid of David. As a result, Saul was David’s enemy from then on. 1 Samuel 18:29.

    5. There will be Divine rescue.


    He rescued me from my powerful enemy
    and from those who hated me,
    for they were too strong for me. 2 Samuel 22:18.

    6. God will give you rest over them.

    The Lord my God has now given me rest on every side; there is no enemy or crisis. 1 Kings 5:4.

    7. God will strengthen and keep you.

    We set out from the Ahava River on the twelfth day of the first month to go to Jerusalem. We were strengthened by our God, and he kept us from the grasp of the enemy and from ambush along the way. Ezra 8:31.

    8. He promised to silence them.

    From the mouths of infants and nursing babies,
    you have established a stronghold
    on account of your adversaries
    in order to silence the enemy and the avenger. Psalm 8:2.

    9. He will not hand you over to them.

    …and have not handed me over to the enemy.
    You have set my feet in a spacious place. Psalm 31:8.

    10. He will be a refuge to you.

    for you have been a refuge for me,
    a strong tower in the face of the enemy. Psalm 61:3.

    11. Power of the enemy won’t have effect on you.

    Look, I have given you the authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy; nothing at all will harm you. Luke 10:19.

    12. They will befriend you by fire by force.

    When a person’s ways please the Lord,
    he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. Proverbs 16:7.

    Those are some of the promises of your heavenly Father over your unrelenting adversary.

    What must you now do ?

    Be at peace with everybody, i.e., no enmity with anyone which invariably mean you rejoice with those that are rejoicing and cry with those that are crying.

    May your loving Father deals with all your enemies as He seems good to Him in Jesus name.


    All Scriptural quotations Christian Standard Bible (CSB).

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