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  • Marriage is Not a Trap.

    Marriage is Not a Trap.

    Before I married, I heard many times about the union. Some are beautiful to the ears, some are outright myths, and some are unbelievable lies.

    Part of what I heard is that ‘marriage is the smallest cell in the world…’ and several other misguided quotes.

    But I am here to tell you now as a married man, that, marriage is not a trap.

    Marriage is not a prison so don’t bother to choose a cellmate.

    Marriage is not a war zone where you fight yourself every day.

    Marriage is not an unhappy institution where you cry at every moment.

    Marriage is not what your celebs call it.

    Marriage is not a lord-servant ship zone.

    Marriage is not a place of unfulfilled purposes.

    Rather I am telling you by this little experience of mine that God said Marriage is beautiful and you can achieve all the beautiful things you desire by being happily married.

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  • Love Conquers All: A Reflection on World Cancer Day

    Love Conquers All: A Reflection on World Cancer Day

    World Cancer Day is observed annually on February 4th. It serves as a global initiative to raise awareness about cancer, encourage its prevention, detection, and treatment, and unite individuals and organizations in the fight against this devastating disease.

    On this World Cancer Day, let’s take a moment to reflect on the strength and resilience that love brings, especially in the face of challenges like cancer. As a marriage content creator, I believe that the power of love within a marriage can provide comfort, support, and hope during difficult times.

    In times of illness, couples often find solace in each other’s presence, becoming pillars of strength for one another. It’s a reminder that love is not just about the joyful moments but also about standing united when life throws its toughest battles our way.

    Reflecting on this, the Bible offers wisdom in 1 Corinthians 13:7 (NIV): “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” This verse beautifully encapsulates the essence of love within a marriage, emphasizing the strength that comes from enduring challenges together.

    As we observe World Cancer Day, let’s extend our love and support to those facing this formidable foe. Together, we can be a source of hope and encouragement for those navigating the journey of cancer. Remember, love is a powerful force that can conquer even the most challenging circumstances.

    Wishing everyone strength, hope, and love on this important day.

  • There will always be an exception.

    There will always be an exception.

    Good day.

    If I told you that as a Christian do not marry non-christian. You will have someone who does and is enjoying his/her marriage.

    I have two aunties who did so. One enjoyed. One is suffering.

    But the stats have proven intrafaith Marriage to be better than interfaith ones and that is what the word of God says.

    If I say, do not play bet, you will ruin your destiny. You will know someone who has been doing it for 30 years and is successful in your eyes but millions of lives, if not billions, have been ruined being a gambler. The chance of you making it as a gambler is 0.0000000000000000000000000001%

    If I told you premarital sex is ungodly, you will have someone who aborted not one or two pregnancies while single and still ‘married well’ but who told you there won’t be consequences of that sin down the lanes or haven’t you heard about pains of premarital sex sung by many.

    Therefore, like me, I will encourage you to live a life based on the pure fact of what the Word says rather than placing your marital journey on the slippery ground of opinions and maybes.

    You have a 98% chance of a happy marriage with a believer.

    You have a 99% chance of a faithful spouse when you keep yourself.

    You have a 99% chance of godly children with a godly partner.

    Leave exceptions and stand on the factual Word of God.

    As you do so, may you be richly blessed in Jesus’ name.

    #dadkylexy

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  • PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR SINGLE SISTERS WHO HATE FOOTBALL AND CANNOT TOLERATE IT.

    PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR SINGLE SISTERS WHO HATE FOOTBALL AND CANNOT TOLERATE IT.

    I am a Chelsea fan and I don’t shy off saying that.

    Recently I was on a thread with a sister who opined that it’s irresponsible husbands who go out to watch football at odd hours and she can’t share her husband with the beautiful game. If you are someone like her, here are practical wisdom for you:

    1. Marry someone who hates football as you do. There are a lot of single brothers who hate the game and don’t care a hoot about it.

    It’s a sheer unwise decision to agree for a football fan and start troubling him for his hobby.

    There are 168 hours in a week. 2 – 4 hours per week for his me-moments is not bad.

    1. Football is a team sport. You cannot play it individually nor can you enjoy watching it maximally as an individual. That’s why a football fan will prefer watching it in the stadium or at the viewing center sometimes at odd hours.
    2. Perhaps if you have to marry a football fan, marry either a Manchester City or Liverpool fan. How many are there in Nigeria that viewing center owner will be wasting resources to livestream their matches?

    But Manchester United, Chelsea, and Arsenal fans, na you na no near dem ooooo.

    Because I cannot just imagine me missing Chelsea vs Manchester United.

    And

    1. If your husband rejects your food because his team loses, my dear, it’s because your food is not sweet. Men no dey reject sweet foods

    Abi how will I reject jollof rice, fried rice, Amala, and Ewedu by Praise Foods because Chelsea loses?

    Lastly, congratulations to Super Eagle of Nigeria.

  • Holiness is Not Shabbiness: A Tale of Ade and Morayo

    Holiness is Not Shabbiness: A Tale of Ade and Morayo

    In the bustling city of Lagos, there lived a young woman named Morayo. Known for her grace and humility, Morayo was a beacon of modesty in a world often blinded by ostentation.

    Ade, a close friend, observed Morayo’s distinctive approach to life. While many around them chased after the latest trends and flaunted their possessions, Morayo remained unswayed, radiating an inner elegance that surpassed the superficial.

    Reflecting on Morayo’s character, Ade was reminded of a lesson ingrained in their Yoruba heritage—a lesson echoed in the teachings of modesty. In the heart of their vibrant community, the Yoruba people cherished values that celebrated humility and simplicity.

    “Ẹ̀dá là ńlá”, Ade’s grandmother used to say, emphasizing that true greatness lies in character rather than external grandeur.

    Ade saw the embodiment of this wisdom in Morayo, who, like a rare gem, shone brightest through her deeds and the kindness she shared. Inspired by Morayo’s example, Ade delved into the essence of modesty—a timeless virtue celebrated not just in Yoruba traditions but also echoed in the universal wisdom of scriptures.

    Thus, the story of Ade and Morayo unfolds, a testament to the enduring beauty found in modesty, where names bear the weight of tradition, and character stands tall amidst the noise of a modern world.Decency and Modesty: Beyond Unkempt Appearances

    In the pursuit of decency and modesty, it’s essential to dispel the misconception that one must look unkempt to embody these virtues. Modesty isn’t synonymous with neglect; rather, it’s a reflection of inner values that transcend external appearances.

    Maintaining a well-groomed appearance doesn’t compromise one’s modesty. Personal hygiene, neatly kept attire, and a polished demeanor can coexist harmoniously with humility and simplicity. It’s about embracing a balanced approach that acknowledges the significance of self-care without succumbing to the allure of excess.

    In fact, presenting oneself in a tidy manner can enhance the impact of modesty, demonstrating respect for oneself and others. It communicates a sense of responsibility and an understanding that the way we present ourselves matters. This nuanced perspective challenges the notion that modesty necessitates a disheveled look.

    As we navigate the delicate balance between self-expression and humility, let’s remember that decency and modesty manifest in diverse forms. The key lies in cultivating an authentic and respectful demeanor that transcends outward appearances, affirming that looking decent and modest is an artistry that embraces both inner character and outward presentation.

  • God is Angry at You.

    God is Angry at You.

    Bible is not silent about any matter of life. The bible offered the mind and expectations of the Maker of all things, seen and unseen.

    What did God say in the Bible concurrently about divorce and domestic violence? I will use the popular Bible verse, Malachi 2:16 which we all know albeit in different versions.

    New International Version
    “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

    New Living Translation
    “For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

    English Standard Version
    “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”

    Berean Study Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “He who divorces his wife covers his garment with violence,” says the LORD of Hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit and do not break faith.

    King James Bible
    For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

    New King James Version
    “For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”

    New American Standard Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the LORD of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    NASB 1995
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    NASB 1977
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    Amplified Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong and violence,” says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore keep watch on your spirit, so that you do not deal treacherously [with your wife].”

    American Standard Version
    For I hate putting away, saith Jehovah, the God of Israel, and him that covereth his garment with violence, saith Jehovah of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

    Aramaic Bible in Plain English
    LORD JEHOVAH of Hosts God of Israel says, and no one shall hide evil in his cloak. LORD JEHOVAH of Hosts says: “Be aware in your spirit, and you shall not be treacherous

    Brenton Septuagint Translation
    But if thou shouldest hate thy wife and put her away, saith the Lord God of Israel, then ungodliness shall cover thy thoughts, saith the Lord Almighty: therefore take ye heed to your spirit, and forsake them not,

    Good News Translation
    “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”

    International Standard Version
    “Indeed, the LORD God of Israel says that he hates divorce, along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances,” says the LORD of the Heavenly Armies. “So guard yourselves carefully, and don’t be unfaithful.”

    JPS Tanakh 1917
    For I hate putting away, Saith the LORD, the God of Israel, And him that covereth his garment with violence, Saith the LORD of hosts; Therefore take heed to your spirit, That ye deal not treacherously.

    Literal Standard Version
    “For He hates sending away,” said YHWH, God of Israel, “And he [who] has covered violence with his clothing,” said YHWH of Hosts, “And you have been watchful over your spirit, And you do not deal treacherously.”

    New American Bible
    For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, And the one who covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. You should be on guard, then, for your life, and you must not break faith.

    NET Bible
    “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and the one who is guilty of violence,” says the LORD who rules over all. “Pay attention to your conscience, and do not be unfaithful.”

    New Revised Standard Version
    For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless.

    Young’s Literal Translation
    For I hate sending away, said Jehovah, God of Israel, And He who hath covered violence with his clothing, said Jehovah of Hosts, And ye have been watchful over your spirit, And ye do not deal treacherously.

    From this bible verse quoted, it can be deduced that

    • God that hate divorce also hate domestic violence.
    • No where was it stated here that God hates divorcees.

    Did God permits divorce? Yes, he permits it


    Deuteronomy 24:1
    If a man marries a woman, but she becomes displeasing to him because he finds some indecency in her, he may write her a certificate of divorce, hand it to her, and send her away from his house

    Why did he permits it? Because of the hardness of our hearts.

    Lastly, dear you, are you currently in an abusive relationship, my advise is; take heed for you safety. Run for your life.

  • How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    Men irrespective of their age loved being honoured and respected but the problem is that some women don’t know how.

    But to tell you the fact; what you are calling respect and honour in your own eyes, to him, is bullshit.

    Now, see how

    Happy watching.

  • Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Apart from vaccination appointments, since his birth, we have had two hospital runs for Kyle-XY. At two different hospitals

    When my wife laid her observations, both doctors asked her this simple questions, ‘who did any of those things among two of you?’ before recommending any drug.

    And to be truthful, one of those behaviours was inherited from me, and the other from his mum.

    Which means choose your partner very well.

    Choose him/her prayerfully.

    Choose him/her with every iota of intentionality in you for you are not just choosing a partner for yourself, you are choosing how your kid will look and behave.

    The funny thing about this is that it is more of scientific fact than prayer. Therefore, if he/she has horrible acts you don’t want to see in your kid, it’s better you part way now.

    Because your son or daughter is going to take if not all, at least 50% of your spouse.

    Remember the journey of intentional parenting begins with the choice of whom to marry.

  • 12 PERSONAL ADVICES I WILL GIVE YOU ABOUT COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE (2).

    7. AS A SINGLE LADY, YOUR FOOD, CLOTHES, EDUCATION, AND SHELTER ARE 100% THE JOB OF YOUR FATHER OR YOUR BROTHERS.

    If your boyfriend wants to do this, all is well and good, but it’s not his job.

    Also, if you can do that by yourself, you are just a normal human being. There’s nothing independent or strong about that.

    8. DON’T PAY FOR LOVE. You are the most miserable of all men if you have to send data, call cards, or transport fare to chat, hear, or see your girlfriend.

    The one beyond redemption is placing your girl on salary. Salary for loving you or what?

    9. LOVE IS ENOUGH TO SUSTAIN A HAPPY HOME BUT DON’T MARRY BECAUSE OF LOVE.

    The problem with most of us concerning love is that we know it as noun rathe than, verb.

    Go check 2 Corinthians 13 and see the attributes of love but still don’t because you love him or her.

    Marry because your core values and beliefs are agreed or aligned.

    You will save yourself a lot of headaches in marriage with that.

    10. MARRIAGE NEEDS A LOT OF MONEY TO RUN. Love is good but in the presence of plenty of money, love is sweeter.

    Therefore before you get married, it’s not only enough for both of you to have what brings in money but one of you should have a reliable and consistent money flow (preferably the husband).


    11. FOR A YOUNG COUPLE, A SELF-CONTAINED APARTMENT – A ROOM, PARLOR, KITCHEN, AND BATHROOM IS ENOUGH TO START A LIFE.

    One, it helps to create the necessary bonding needed at the start of marriage since there is no space for extended me-moments.

    I don’t advise, a 3-, 4- bedroom flat for young couples. Trust me, you don’t need it.


    12. MARRIAGE IS SWEET. Make sure you do it.

    Bonus

    12. IF YOU CAN’T COPE WITH A PARTICULAR BEHAVIOR OF YOUR PARTNER IN COURTSHIP, make sure he/she drops it now or you find your square root. One thing about marriage is that it amplifies everything, both the good, the bad, and the ugly.

    12. THEY WON’T TREAT YOU BETTER THAN THEY TREAT THEIR MOTHER, SISTER, FEMALE FRIEND, BOSS, BROTHER, OR THOSE BELOW THEM.

    Thank for reading sharing and commenting.

    I love you.

  • 12 PERSONAL ADVICE I WILL GIVE ON COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.

    I deliberately called them personal because that is what I am going to tell you if you seek my opinions on them and I understand that it may not work for everyone but I am 100% sure that it doesn’t.

    1. MARRY AT YOUR YOUTHFUL AGE. I mean in your late 20s or very early 30s.

    I know there is no latecomer but still, having your firstborn in primary 5 at 70 is not ideal.

    Two, the older you grow the riskier the childbearing. Men, don’t let anyone deceive you, sperm quality decreases with increasing age. Though you have been told you can impregnate women at 90 how many grandpas have you heard impregnate women at such old age?

    Three, sex is best enjoyed as a youth. Maybe that was why the Bible always says, ‘Enjoy the wife of thy youth.’

    If you are very rich, ignore this advice you can do surrogacy, or IVF, etc, and the like. Also if you don’t plan on becoming a family, as in all what you want is a childless happy marriage, you can marry any time.



    2. SHORT COURTSHIP IS OKAY. After you have seen someone to do life with, I will recommend courtship of 1 year at minimum and 2 years at the maximum unless you want to take a step of faith like me but I don’t recommend it anyhow.

    One, the shorter, the merrier. Too long a courtship can lead to boredom and boringness in the relationship and later in marriage.

    Two, we dated for 8 years is not a testimony. For I know, you could have dated for 1 or 2 years and go on to enjoy 7 or 6 years of blissful Marriage.

    Three, one of the best ways to prevent premarital sex is a short courtship.

    3. LOOK FOR SOMEONE DURING YOUR UNIVERSITY DAY OR NYSC.
    I don’t recommend romantic relationships for 100-level students but I will usually tell them that before they graduate, to make sure that they are in a ‘serious’ relationship. If that wasn’t possible, catch one during your NYSC.

    You know what, the older you get, the lesser the dating pool and harder is for you even though the quality increases.

    4. MARRY WITHIN YOUR CIRCLE – both your tribal, spiritual, and denominational circles if possible.

    I have nothing against intertribal, or interdenominational marriage but I still prefer Marriage between two people from identical tribal, spiritual, and denominational cultures.

    This doesn’t mean if my son brings a Fulani girl from the winners I will object, but I will want him to choose from among Yoruba and from fellow Baptists.

    Why, I felt that the time I would be using to explain my culture, ways of life, language, this and that to my wife and hers to me, could be better used in other equally profitable things.

    As per interfaith, that one is a BIG NO for me. Christian should go for Christian. Muslim for Muslim. That doesn’t mean we are enemies.

    Why? Our spiritual values don’t align.

    5. AS A GUY, DON’T EVER DATE, ‘on this day, a king is born,’ AND MORE LADIES TALK LESS OF MARRIAGE.

    Run very far from a lady who thinks theirs is to collect from a man and never to give a man.

    If you do, you have likely shortened your lifespan by half with a severely entitled being.


    6. AS A SINGLE LADY, YOUR FOOD, CLOTHES, EDUCATION, AND SHELTER ARE 100% THE JOB OF YOUR FATHER OR YOUR BROTHERS.

    If your boyfriend wants to do this, all is well and good, but it’s not his job.

    Also, if you can do that by yourself, you are just a normal human being. There’s nothing independent or strong about that.

    See you tomorrow but before then say something about this post.

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