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  • PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR SINGLE SISTERS WHO HATE FOOTBALL AND CANNOT TOLERATE IT.

    PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR SINGLE SISTERS WHO HATE FOOTBALL AND CANNOT TOLERATE IT.

    I am a Chelsea fan and I don’t shy off saying that.

    Recently I was on a thread with a sister who opined that it’s irresponsible husbands who go out to watch football at odd hours and she can’t share her husband with the beautiful game. If you are someone like her, here are practical wisdom for you:

    1. Marry someone who hates football as you do. There are a lot of single brothers who hate the game and don’t care a hoot about it.

    It’s a sheer unwise decision to agree for a football fan and start troubling him for his hobby.

    There are 168 hours in a week. 2 – 4 hours per week for his me-moments is not bad.

    1. Football is a team sport. You cannot play it individually nor can you enjoy watching it maximally as an individual. That’s why a football fan will prefer watching it in the stadium or at the viewing center sometimes at odd hours.
    2. Perhaps if you have to marry a football fan, marry either a Manchester City or Liverpool fan. How many are there in Nigeria that viewing center owner will be wasting resources to livestream their matches?

    But Manchester United, Chelsea, and Arsenal fans, na you na no near dem ooooo.

    Because I cannot just imagine me missing Chelsea vs Manchester United.

    And

    1. If your husband rejects your food because his team loses, my dear, it’s because your food is not sweet. Men no dey reject sweet foods

    Abi how will I reject jollof rice, fried rice, Amala, and Ewedu by Praise Foods because Chelsea loses?

    Lastly, congratulations to Super Eagle of Nigeria.

  • Holiness is Not Shabbiness: A Tale of Ade and Morayo

    Holiness is Not Shabbiness: A Tale of Ade and Morayo

    In the bustling city of Lagos, there lived a young woman named Morayo. Known for her grace and humility, Morayo was a beacon of modesty in a world often blinded by ostentation.

    Ade, a close friend, observed Morayo’s distinctive approach to life. While many around them chased after the latest trends and flaunted their possessions, Morayo remained unswayed, radiating an inner elegance that surpassed the superficial.

    Reflecting on Morayo’s character, Ade was reminded of a lesson ingrained in their Yoruba heritage—a lesson echoed in the teachings of modesty. In the heart of their vibrant community, the Yoruba people cherished values that celebrated humility and simplicity.

    “Ẹ̀dá là ńlá”, Ade’s grandmother used to say, emphasizing that true greatness lies in character rather than external grandeur.

    Ade saw the embodiment of this wisdom in Morayo, who, like a rare gem, shone brightest through her deeds and the kindness she shared. Inspired by Morayo’s example, Ade delved into the essence of modesty—a timeless virtue celebrated not just in Yoruba traditions but also echoed in the universal wisdom of scriptures.

    Thus, the story of Ade and Morayo unfolds, a testament to the enduring beauty found in modesty, where names bear the weight of tradition, and character stands tall amidst the noise of a modern world.Decency and Modesty: Beyond Unkempt Appearances

    In the pursuit of decency and modesty, it’s essential to dispel the misconception that one must look unkempt to embody these virtues. Modesty isn’t synonymous with neglect; rather, it’s a reflection of inner values that transcend external appearances.

    Maintaining a well-groomed appearance doesn’t compromise one’s modesty. Personal hygiene, neatly kept attire, and a polished demeanor can coexist harmoniously with humility and simplicity. It’s about embracing a balanced approach that acknowledges the significance of self-care without succumbing to the allure of excess.

    In fact, presenting oneself in a tidy manner can enhance the impact of modesty, demonstrating respect for oneself and others. It communicates a sense of responsibility and an understanding that the way we present ourselves matters. This nuanced perspective challenges the notion that modesty necessitates a disheveled look.

    As we navigate the delicate balance between self-expression and humility, let’s remember that decency and modesty manifest in diverse forms. The key lies in cultivating an authentic and respectful demeanor that transcends outward appearances, affirming that looking decent and modest is an artistry that embraces both inner character and outward presentation.

  • God is Angry at You.

    God is Angry at You.

    Bible is not silent about any matter of life. The bible offered the mind and expectations of the Maker of all things, seen and unseen.

    What did God say in the Bible concurrently about divorce and domestic violence? I will use the popular Bible verse, Malachi 2:16 which we all know albeit in different versions.

    New International Version
    “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.

    New Living Translation
    “For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

    English Standard Version
    “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”

    Berean Study Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “He who divorces his wife covers his garment with violence,” says the LORD of Hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit and do not break faith.

    King James Bible
    For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

    New King James Version
    “For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.”

    New American Standard Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the LORD of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    NASB 1995
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    NASB 1977
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

    Amplified Bible
    “For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong and violence,” says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore keep watch on your spirit, so that you do not deal treacherously [with your wife].”

    American Standard Version
    For I hate putting away, saith Jehovah, the God of Israel, and him that covereth his garment with violence, saith Jehovah of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

    Aramaic Bible in Plain English
    LORD JEHOVAH of Hosts God of Israel says, and no one shall hide evil in his cloak. LORD JEHOVAH of Hosts says: “Be aware in your spirit, and you shall not be treacherous

    Brenton Septuagint Translation
    But if thou shouldest hate thy wife and put her away, saith the Lord God of Israel, then ungodliness shall cover thy thoughts, saith the Lord Almighty: therefore take ye heed to your spirit, and forsake them not,

    Good News Translation
    “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”

    International Standard Version
    “Indeed, the LORD God of Israel says that he hates divorce, along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances,” says the LORD of the Heavenly Armies. “So guard yourselves carefully, and don’t be unfaithful.”

    JPS Tanakh 1917
    For I hate putting away, Saith the LORD, the God of Israel, And him that covereth his garment with violence, Saith the LORD of hosts; Therefore take heed to your spirit, That ye deal not treacherously.

    Literal Standard Version
    “For He hates sending away,” said YHWH, God of Israel, “And he [who] has covered violence with his clothing,” said YHWH of Hosts, “And you have been watchful over your spirit, And you do not deal treacherously.”

    New American Bible
    For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, And the one who covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. You should be on guard, then, for your life, and you must not break faith.

    NET Bible
    “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and the one who is guilty of violence,” says the LORD who rules over all. “Pay attention to your conscience, and do not be unfaithful.”

    New Revised Standard Version
    For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless.

    Young’s Literal Translation
    For I hate sending away, said Jehovah, God of Israel, And He who hath covered violence with his clothing, said Jehovah of Hosts, And ye have been watchful over your spirit, And ye do not deal treacherously.

    From this bible verse quoted, it can be deduced that

    • God that hate divorce also hate domestic violence.
    • No where was it stated here that God hates divorcees.

    Did God permits divorce? Yes, he permits it


    Deuteronomy 24:1
    If a man marries a woman, but she becomes displeasing to him because he finds some indecency in her, he may write her a certificate of divorce, hand it to her, and send her away from his house

    Why did he permits it? Because of the hardness of our hearts.

    Lastly, dear you, are you currently in an abusive relationship, my advise is; take heed for you safety. Run for your life.

  • How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    How to Honour And Respect Your Fiance.

    Men irrespective of their age loved being honoured and respected but the problem is that some women don’t know how.

    But to tell you the fact; what you are calling respect and honour in your own eyes, to him, is bullshit.

    Now, see how

    Happy watching.

  • Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Fatherhood: Make it Count (3)

    Apart from vaccination appointments, since his birth, we have had two hospital runs for Kyle-XY. At two different hospitals

    When my wife laid her observations, both doctors asked her this simple questions, ‘who did any of those things among two of you?’ before recommending any drug.

    And to be truthful, one of those behaviours was inherited from me, and the other from his mum.

    Which means choose your partner very well.

    Choose him/her prayerfully.

    Choose him/her with every iota of intentionality in you for you are not just choosing a partner for yourself, you are choosing how your kid will look and behave.

    The funny thing about this is that it is more of scientific fact than prayer. Therefore, if he/she has horrible acts you don’t want to see in your kid, it’s better you part way now.

    Because your son or daughter is going to take if not all, at least 50% of your spouse.

    Remember the journey of intentional parenting begins with the choice of whom to marry.

  • 12 PERSONAL ADVICES I WILL GIVE YOU ABOUT COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE (2).

    7. AS A SINGLE LADY, YOUR FOOD, CLOTHES, EDUCATION, AND SHELTER ARE 100% THE JOB OF YOUR FATHER OR YOUR BROTHERS.

    If your boyfriend wants to do this, all is well and good, but it’s not his job.

    Also, if you can do that by yourself, you are just a normal human being. There’s nothing independent or strong about that.

    8. DON’T PAY FOR LOVE. You are the most miserable of all men if you have to send data, call cards, or transport fare to chat, hear, or see your girlfriend.

    The one beyond redemption is placing your girl on salary. Salary for loving you or what?

    9. LOVE IS ENOUGH TO SUSTAIN A HAPPY HOME BUT DON’T MARRY BECAUSE OF LOVE.

    The problem with most of us concerning love is that we know it as noun rathe than, verb.

    Go check 2 Corinthians 13 and see the attributes of love but still don’t because you love him or her.

    Marry because your core values and beliefs are agreed or aligned.

    You will save yourself a lot of headaches in marriage with that.

    10. MARRIAGE NEEDS A LOT OF MONEY TO RUN. Love is good but in the presence of plenty of money, love is sweeter.

    Therefore before you get married, it’s not only enough for both of you to have what brings in money but one of you should have a reliable and consistent money flow (preferably the husband).


    11. FOR A YOUNG COUPLE, A SELF-CONTAINED APARTMENT – A ROOM, PARLOR, KITCHEN, AND BATHROOM IS ENOUGH TO START A LIFE.

    One, it helps to create the necessary bonding needed at the start of marriage since there is no space for extended me-moments.

    I don’t advise, a 3-, 4- bedroom flat for young couples. Trust me, you don’t need it.


    12. MARRIAGE IS SWEET. Make sure you do it.

    Bonus

    12. IF YOU CAN’T COPE WITH A PARTICULAR BEHAVIOR OF YOUR PARTNER IN COURTSHIP, make sure he/she drops it now or you find your square root. One thing about marriage is that it amplifies everything, both the good, the bad, and the ugly.

    12. THEY WON’T TREAT YOU BETTER THAN THEY TREAT THEIR MOTHER, SISTER, FEMALE FRIEND, BOSS, BROTHER, OR THOSE BELOW THEM.

    Thank for reading sharing and commenting.

    I love you.

  • 12 PERSONAL ADVICE I WILL GIVE ON COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.

    I deliberately called them personal because that is what I am going to tell you if you seek my opinions on them and I understand that it may not work for everyone but I am 100% sure that it doesn’t.

    1. MARRY AT YOUR YOUTHFUL AGE. I mean in your late 20s or very early 30s.

    I know there is no latecomer but still, having your firstborn in primary 5 at 70 is not ideal.

    Two, the older you grow the riskier the childbearing. Men, don’t let anyone deceive you, sperm quality decreases with increasing age. Though you have been told you can impregnate women at 90 how many grandpas have you heard impregnate women at such old age?

    Three, sex is best enjoyed as a youth. Maybe that was why the Bible always says, ‘Enjoy the wife of thy youth.’

    If you are very rich, ignore this advice you can do surrogacy, or IVF, etc, and the like. Also if you don’t plan on becoming a family, as in all what you want is a childless happy marriage, you can marry any time.



    2. SHORT COURTSHIP IS OKAY. After you have seen someone to do life with, I will recommend courtship of 1 year at minimum and 2 years at the maximum unless you want to take a step of faith like me but I don’t recommend it anyhow.

    One, the shorter, the merrier. Too long a courtship can lead to boredom and boringness in the relationship and later in marriage.

    Two, we dated for 8 years is not a testimony. For I know, you could have dated for 1 or 2 years and go on to enjoy 7 or 6 years of blissful Marriage.

    Three, one of the best ways to prevent premarital sex is a short courtship.

    3. LOOK FOR SOMEONE DURING YOUR UNIVERSITY DAY OR NYSC.
    I don’t recommend romantic relationships for 100-level students but I will usually tell them that before they graduate, to make sure that they are in a ‘serious’ relationship. If that wasn’t possible, catch one during your NYSC.

    You know what, the older you get, the lesser the dating pool and harder is for you even though the quality increases.

    4. MARRY WITHIN YOUR CIRCLE – both your tribal, spiritual, and denominational circles if possible.

    I have nothing against intertribal, or interdenominational marriage but I still prefer Marriage between two people from identical tribal, spiritual, and denominational cultures.

    This doesn’t mean if my son brings a Fulani girl from the winners I will object, but I will want him to choose from among Yoruba and from fellow Baptists.

    Why, I felt that the time I would be using to explain my culture, ways of life, language, this and that to my wife and hers to me, could be better used in other equally profitable things.

    As per interfaith, that one is a BIG NO for me. Christian should go for Christian. Muslim for Muslim. That doesn’t mean we are enemies.

    Why? Our spiritual values don’t align.

    5. AS A GUY, DON’T EVER DATE, ‘on this day, a king is born,’ AND MORE LADIES TALK LESS OF MARRIAGE.

    Run very far from a lady who thinks theirs is to collect from a man and never to give a man.

    If you do, you have likely shortened your lifespan by half with a severely entitled being.


    6. AS A SINGLE LADY, YOUR FOOD, CLOTHES, EDUCATION, AND SHELTER ARE 100% THE JOB OF YOUR FATHER OR YOUR BROTHERS.

    If your boyfriend wants to do this, all is well and good, but it’s not his job.

    Also, if you can do that by yourself, you are just a normal human being. There’s nothing independent or strong about that.

    See you tomorrow but before then say something about this post.

  • ARE YOU ABOUT TO GET MARRIED? THEN YOU MUST READ THIS.

    ARE YOU ABOUT TO GET MARRIED? THEN YOU MUST READ THIS.

    This post is more to the about-to-wed guys than ladies.


    In the olden YORUBA setting, Young Couples are not allowed to work for some months.

    In fact, as a son they married for you or give you out in marriage (this is not forced marriage. There is no point in history when Yoruba do that), hence the word igbeyawo f’ọmọ (for groom’s family) or ifọmọfọkọ (for In bride’s family)

    And your father should be the one that pays your wife’s bride price.

    They make sure you have your abode and field to till at the point of marriage in a bid to ensure your marital life was started on some level of comfortability

    This is where I am going; as much as starting with what you have in marriage is good, and highly recommended by me, knowing that I too, didn’t ever have ‘anything’ when Iya Kyle-XY decided to do this life with me, but please don’t start your family life with avoidable stresses and glaring lackness.

    I know you have read about couples who started their marital journey in an uncompleted building and are now mansion owners – I am not doubting their zero beginning but I would prefer you start your own on at least a room with a comfortable bed that fits two people.

    I knew you knew how your parents started their marriage with no shishi and hunger but now plenty money dey. All is well and good, but I will still advise you to start yours with food in your tummy and foodstuffs in your panties. Not necessarily a sumptuous meal but something good to hold belly every day.

    You might have heard how your pastor and his wife have one clothes each at the point of marriage but now they can cloth 1000 people. Thank God for their lives but I will still say please for God’s sake, start yours with a few clean, wearable clothes.

    All that I am saying is that start your family on a comfortable level – even if it is the barest comfort level.

    Do you know why? It is easy to think and think adequately when the necessities of life are not a major problem again.

    Two, marriage is already very hard work than adding the agony of lack, hunger, and nakedness to it at the very start of it. Each with those that started on a very opulent level, it is a serious work talk less of those who are finding it excruciatingly difficult. Please, as much as possible, destress your marriage.

    And lastly, I know testimonies abound of those who began from ground zero and are now heroes and heroines but testimonies abound also of people who started from level 1, 2, or,3 and grew massively to level 100. Won’t you rather go with the former?

    By this, I hope you know I am not saying go and borrow money to rent a house you won’t be able to pay the rent the following year, order your daily food from hold a Hilda Baci to pepper your ex and online in-laws or be decked in debt-gotten Gucci. All I want to say is get a comfortable cheaper liveable place, a few pairs of nice clothes, and a least when you are not fasting food to hold your spirit body, and mind together and don’t forget to order food from Praise Foods occasionally to spice up your marriage at a very shikini money.

    Thank you for understanding this post.

  • Differences are guaranteed parts of Marriage (2)

    Differences are guaranteed parts of Marriage (2)


    I remembered my wife saying she doesn’t buy eggs to keep because of me, I replied, ‘you are a daughter of government worker so you are raised on budgets and I am a son of a bricklayer, I was purely raised on faith that we can’t go hungry (and sure we didn’t).

    This is just one of many differences between us and it wasn’t because any one of us what faulty or bad. It was because we grew up under different parents, environments, schools, read different books, and expose to different things.

    If we didn’t settle with this differences, one may be seeing the other as waster and the other seeing the one as miser. We just accepted the difference and make adjustments as we continued on this journey.

    And I am very happy to tell you that you are different from your charming Prince and that different is make will marry your home, a habitation of peace.

    Thanks. Make sure you share, like and comment

  • Differences are guaranteed parts of Marriage (1).

    Differences are guaranteed parts of Marriage (1).

    In the bustling city of Aba, Nigeria, where tradition intertwines with modernity, lived a couple whose marriage was a testament to the intricate dance of differences. Adewuyi and Modupeoluwa, both Nigerians, embarked on a journey that unveiled the beauty and challenges woven into the fabric of their union.

    Adewuyi, a free-spirited artist, saw the world as a canvas waiting to be painted with vibrant hues of spontaneity. Modupeoluwa, on the other hand, was a disciplined banker who believed in the order and precision of black and white. Their personalities, seemingly worlds apart, converged in the tapestry of matrimony, creating a rich mosaic of love and understanding.

    Early in their marriage, his spontaneity clashed with her need for structure. Simple decisions, like weekend plans or household routines, became potential sources of tension. However, rather than letting these disparities tear them apart, they chose to navigate the labyrinth of their differences.

    One pivotal moment occurred when Modupeoluwa’s meticulous planning collided with his impromptu desire to host a gathering of friends at their home. As the clash of expectations unfolded, it became a turning point in their understanding of one another. They decided to communicate openly, delving into the root of their perspectives.

    Through heartfelt conversations, he explained how spontaneity fueled his creativity, providing an escape from the constraints of routine. She, in turn, expressed how structure provided stability and a sense of security. Slowly, they began to appreciate the unique strengths each brought to the relationship.

    Their journey mirrored the broader marital context, where diverse backgrounds, systems, and beliefs coexist. The couple discovered that their dissimilarities mirrored the rich cultural diversity that makes Marriage unique. Embracing these distinctions became a celebration of their heritage and a source of strength in their marriage.

    Over time, the husband and the wife discovered the beauty of compromise. They learned to find a middle ground that allowed both spontaneity and structure to coexist harmoniously. Weekends became a blend of impromptu adventures and planned quiet moments. Their home transformed into a gallery of Adewuyi’s creations adorned with the order that Modupeoluwa cherished.

    The couple’s story became an inspiration to their friends and family, challenging the conventional notion that opposites repel. Instead, Adewuyi and Modupeoluwa showcased how differences, when embraced with love and understanding, could be the foundation of a resilient and thriving marriage.

    In the heart of Aba, Adewuyi and Modupeoluwa’s love story became a beacon, reminding everyone that differences are not obstacles but opportunities for growth. As they continued to navigate the ebb and flow of life together, their union became a living testament to the idea that a marriage enriched by diverse perspectives is not only possible but profoundly beautiful.

  • How To Know if He loves you.

    The attached picture is a comment and my reply to a post of mine.



    I had a friend who is a passionate fan of Yinka Ayefele. He had all his albums.

    There is a brother I know to whom Tope Alabi and Sola Allyson can’t do any wrong. He is always under every post defending the former.

    , I am a very huge fan of the late reply Bàbá Ara. Bàbá O ṣe anu Rẹ duro by him was my most streamed song of the year on Boom Play. Even the purported cocaine smuggling has nothing on me.

    Same thing for Hillsong United.

    This brings us to the point, someone who loves you will be partially blind to your faults and weaknesses.

    Such an individual is not on fault-hunting about you.

    Did they know you are faulty? Of course, they knew.

    But ẹni teyán bá fẹ kí learn kankan (the one someone loves is disease-free). You are not getting married to find out the weakness of your spouse (Watchman Nee)

    Therefore if he/she always finds fault in everything about you, such an individual is not yours.

    May God give you discernment in Jesus’ name.

  • Change your view

    Change your view

    Some of you have seen dysfunctionalinaties to the extent that every things good in marriage is slavery.

    A married woman cooking for her husband is slavery.

    Pregnancy is not fair on women.

    Men don’t do anything in marriage.

    And all other trashy talks from you.

    See, I have nothing to say to you than to tell you that God will heal your hurting heart in Jesus name.

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