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  • How to plan your wedding in Nigeria.

    How to plan your wedding in Nigeria.

    Caveat; this is a long but beneficial article and two, I am speaking from a Yoruba-Christian perspective which can be fixed in many African cultures. This write-up explains Everything you need to know about getting married in Nigeria.

    Let’s start like this, in Africa, a wedding especially is such a big ceremony that involves extended family, money, food, colour codes, culture, music and many more. A wedding is a big ceremony for us.

    I could vividly remember my own some months ago with nods of divine appreciation.

    Therefore, in this writeup, I will be talking about the following:

    • What is the wedding?
    • When should wedding preps start?
    • Steps/types of weddings in Nigeria
    • How to have a budget-friendly wedding ceremony in Nigeria? 🇳🇬
    • Dos and Donts of the wedding ceremony.

    What is a Wedding?

    Firstly, what is a wedding? A wedding is a formal ceremony to legalise and solemnise a marriage.

    It is also an event marking the end of courtship and the start of the marriage.

    I want you to note the keywords in both definitions; ceremony and event which can be big, medium or large depending on your pocket, taste and wants. Therefore, don’t expect profit from it. It is not an investment plan.

    In addition, I want you to know that the bigness or the smallness of your wedding ceremony has nothing to do with the sweetness, blissfulness and enjoyment of your marriage. You can have it either way and enjoy or endure your conjugal union.

    My parents have theirs in my maternal grandfather’s sitting room and 39 God-graced years already down.

    When should wedding preps start?

    Wedding preps should begin and it usually begins in Nigeria when these two conditions have been met:

    • When the intending couples decided to take their relationship to the next deep level called marriage.
    • And two, when all consents have been secured and guaranteed. The parental consents and couples-to-be’ consents.

    And I will always advise you to calm down with wedding prep with someone your parents have not agreed with or someone who seems reluctant to the whole idea of marrying you.

    You see I didn’t mention when he/she proposes. Why? Because I don’t see any sense in asking your fiance/fiancee of more than 2-3 years if she will marry you after sharing your dreams, and goals, and being introduced to friends and family as lovers. What is the purpose of courtship and dating if not marriage?

    Perhaps, you guys have been courting and dating wrongly. That is why I write a book titled A Tearless Courtship – a simpler guide to Christian courtship and dating. Download by clicking here.

    Picking a wedding date?

    Going by the many steps toward marriage in Nigerian wedding ceremonies, different people determine dates viz:

    • The bride-to-be’s parents usually pick the introduction Date. Sometimes, the husband-to-be’s parents might
    • The Registrar chooses the one for the registry.
    • The engagement date is strictly the bride-to-be’s parents’ call
    • While the couples-to-be most times determine when they will be wedded at church.

    As far as weddings in most Nigerian cultures are concerned, the groom’s family has less to do in the determination of many things.

    Steps in the wedding ceremony.

    Majorly, there are three to four steps in a wedding that will lead to legal Marriage in Nigeria. All the steps are explained below:

    Introduction

    This is the first step in the wedding ceremony and it is an avenue for both families to know themselves. My dear, this is strictly nuclear family affairs which concern only important members of both families notably parents, siblings and who both families considered important in their respective families.

    and the main event of the day is each knowing one another; more like each family saying officially we know our children are dating/courting, we agreed to their relationship and look forward to them being husband and wife in the nearest possible future.

    Furthermore, among other things done on that day is the collection of the bride price list by the groom’s family and sometimes, the setting of the D-Day.

    It may also interest you to know that introduction is strictly at the bride’s parents’ house and not vice versa and if you are the groom, make sure your family visit with a basket of fruits/gift and if you are the bride, make sure your family entertains your future husband family.

    A typical introduction package from groom’s family.

    Less I forget, exchange of rings by couples are also done here too.

    Dear Christians, please even if you have all the money to spend, you still don’t need a tent, cake, drum or hall for the introduction. 8 – 10 people from both sides are enough and the bride’s parents’ sitting room is beautiful enough.

    Apart from what you guys will wear, you don’t need to borrow to fund it.

    Registry

    The second step to a successful wedding day is Filling of wedding notification at your Local Government Area Secretariat.

    This is usually done after determination of wedding date.

    At the registry, the registrar will ask for two passports each of intending couples and a joint photography of them to be pasted on the LGA notice board for 21 days.

    But before that you will be asked to pay certain amount of fee – a very small amount of money into different accounts usually 3 bank accounts.

    After the payment of required fee and if there is no objections to your intention within that 21 days that your names are on the bann, the registrar gives you the date to come for your joining and vow taking. Shikena! Lobatan!!

    Guys, two secrets here; number one, you don’t need to go to any Federal Registry to have your wedding. All weddings conducted at every LGA in Nigeria is valid and legal as confirmed by Supreme Court last year. Aseju ni Ikoyi Registry, your LGA is okay.

    Secondly, on that day, you don’t have to panic. Basically what you do in front of the registrar is him/her highlighting and telling you those you can’t marry under the law and the consequences of breaking such laws and where are you having your white wedding, peradventure you are going plus saying your vows. If your answer is in affirmative, as per who can’t marry, you take you vow by placing your hands on the Bible and munching some word after the registrar, kisses the Bible and sign your marriage certificate then boooooom you are legally married under Nigeria Marriage Act. 😍😍😍

    This is perhaps the cheapest type or step of wedding in terms of cost and time. If you guys are still going to church, 4 person is enough – your LOML and you plus two friends preferably best man and chief bridesmaid plus you don’t need new clothes for this and if yours is stoping here, only 4 people is actually needed to sign the certificate, so you still don’t need crowd. Why crowding when hardly will you guys used up to 30 minutes?

    Engagement/Traditional wedding.

    This part is the most important step of wedding ceremony. This is part where you marry your wife according to the culture, traditions and practices of your soon-to-be wife.

    Groom and his friends prostrating for the bride’s family.

    Traditional wedding is more of larger introduction ceremony; now, all your extended family can and should attend this one and two, payment of bride price and dowry as the case may be.

    This is a very colourful and entertaining event reverend highly among the Yoruba because it is a day of heartfelt prayers, asoebi, dance, money spraying and a sort of family reunion.

    It is usually anchored by two MCs namely Alaga ijoko (sitting MC) representing the bride’s family and Alaga iduro (standing MC) who is representing the groom’s family.

    I will also sound a note of warning here; as a Christian I will advise you to engage the service of professional Christian engagers. These ones will not waste your time and money and make your joyous day, a day for the Lord. With secular engagers out there, it is cold outside.

    Part of the activities for that day (in no particular order) include:

    • Introduction of both family collectively especially the parents of the couples.
    • Prostration of the groom for the bride’s family indicating that please accept me as your biological son and give me your daughter I will take care of her.❤️😄😍
    • Prostration of groom’s friends for the bride’s family signifying that please give our friend your daughter, he will take care of her. 😍
    • Kneeling down by bride for the groom’s family indicating that “accept me as your biological daughter.”
    • Kneeling down of bride’s friends.
    • Prayer by both families for their newly acquired children.
    • Payment of bride price by the groom’s family meaning, “take this token in appreciation of taking care of our daughter who has been with you all these while” and collection of such by bride’s family.
    • Greetings from both families.
    • Reading of proposal and acceptance letter by someone from bride’s family.
    • Cutting of cake and Exchange of rings
    • Husband giving her wife, the first feeding fee. 😍😄😁😃😁. LoL! I gave my wife 500 naira.
    • Etc

    This is also done exclusively at bride’s place and basically traditional wedding is technically merging the two family to be one

    As per entertaining attendees, it depends on your pocket, the norm now is to share puff puff or jollof rice in a take-away manners.

    If you successfully do this, congratulations you are now married. In fact no religious houses will solemnize your marriage with payment of bride price in Nigeria.

    White wedding

    This is the last step in being legally married in Nigeria and must be conducted within 3 months of filling your marriage notification at your LGA. It is called white wedding because the bride always wear white wedding gown which signifies purity in the day of yore but I think proper name this day should be church wedding and two it is not compulsory to wear white colour as a bride if you don’t have the financial power to get one and purity is more than than colour.

    I knew of a wedding conducted more than four decades ago with traditional clothes for both groom and the bride. Also recently a couples went viral on FacebookNG for rocking traditional igbo clothes for their church wedding.

    Basically, what you do here is solemnization of your wedding before God, His angels and His people – the church by promising to take care and love your spouse in all circumstances.

    This is perhaps the most expensive part of a normal wedding in the country but the main thing is never borrow to fund a wedding ceremony.

    If I may shock you, apart from the couples and their helps (best man and chief bridesmaid), only six other person are needed – 3 each from both sides to sign the certificate.

    Now, before I closed this part, I wish to inform you to ignore naysayers who is saying that weddings conducted in churches are illegal. They are liars. Weddings conducted in a licensed churches by a licensed minister are perfectly legal. Infact you will be given two copies of marriage certificate bearing the seal of the Federal Republic of Nigeria – one for you and one for filling at your Local Government Area Secretariat and a scratch card for e-registration of your marriage on government website.

    Reception.

    I am just including this part as a formality not that it conveys any legal entity on the marriage. It is just an avenue to entertain friends and family.

    If you are a mid-income earner, allow your parents to finance the budget of this part because they will surely have more guests than even both of you will do. Infact times three of yours especially your moms 😍😁😁😄.

    Dos and Don’ts of Wedding.

    1. Do not borrow to fund your weeding. It is gross irresponsibility to do. It is wise and advisable to start your family debt-free.

    2. Stay by your budget and if anybody ask for the wedding of his dream, tell the person to finance it for you.

    3. For you, the intending husband, make sure you get the bride price list on time and start getting imperishable items.

    4. For your traditional wedding, employ Christian engagers that will not waste your time and resources.

    5. If you will go to church (some will not go to church but end it at registry after the payment of bride price), please tell the officiants about the plan for a simple, debt-free, glorious wedding plans. Most of these pastors want to help but we hid a lot from them.

    6. Except for little bride and groom, usee matured grown-up adults for your bridal train. It will save you from thousands of post-wedding apologies and remove stress from your preps.

    7. For your little bride and groom, make sure you collect your money from their parents before buying their clothing materials. After party, shingbai you no go see collect.

    8. Make sure you are in great physical and mental conditions during your wedding preps. That period is not the period for extended fasting and rigorous spiritual activities.

    9. Pray. Pray. Pray.

    T for thanks and C for comment.

  • Day 23 – Desires or Demands?

    Day 23 – Desires or Demands?

    Before marrying, we all had ideas about what married life would be like. We played out scenarios in our heads and spent our dating lives mulling desires in the backs of our minds. When we married, we made our spouses responsible for fulfilling those desires. “I do” was barely out of our mouths when we placed the burden of our needs on our spouses’ shoulders.  That burden set our spouses and our marriages up for failure. Eventually, our desires became demands, and that’s when problems arise. What was once, “I hope our marriage…” became, “You promised to…” Demanding that your spouse meet your needs is a recipe for disaster.  When our desires become demands or expectations, our marriage relationships begin to resemble contractual partnerships. In a contract marriage, promises are made, and both husband and wife look to each other to keep those promises. In that kind of marriage, everything is okay as long as husbands and wives do what’s expected of them—what they owe. But when they miss a payment, the penalties can be swift and severe. After all, contracts don’t often include clauses stipulating grace and forgiveness.  The opposite of a contract marriage is a covenant marriage. In a covenant marriage, both husband and wife put the other’s needs first. Each spouse is committed to loving the other unconditionally and without demands. That’s the kind of love God shows us—the kind he has designed to be the fuel for thriving marriages.  Unfortunately, not every marriage is a covenant marriage. And even in covenant marriages, it’s impossible for husbands and wives to completely meet each other’s needs.  If we have God-given needs our spouses can’t meet, what can we do? Ignore those needs? Pretend they don’t exist? Suppress our desires in an attempt to be selfless? Should we just abandon the hopes and dreams we brought with us into marriage? In a letter written to the early church, the apostle Peter offers a different solution:  Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:6–7)  God didn’t design your marriage so your spouse would meet all of your needs. Your spouse will meet some of your needs, but only God can meet all of them. His plan is for you to depend solely upon him.  In thriving marriages, each spouse trusts God to meet their needs without making demands of the other. Your desires and dreams will always matter to God, even when they don’t seem to matter to your spouse. Bring them to God, and you’ll find that he gives you the strength and grace to carry on. 

    Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God, so that He may exalt you at the proper time,
    1 Peter 5:6 HCSB

    Do nothing out of rivalry or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
    Philippians 2:3‭-‬4 HCSB

    Gotten from Youversion Bible app Thriving Marriage plan Day 4

  • Day 22 – Revive.

    Thank you for journeying with me on this #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge. I am not taking it for granted.

    Today, I want you to think of an activity that you and your partner used to do then to sweeten your relationship that you have abandoned now.

    Is it reading together? Fellowship together? Visiting friends and family? Family day of fasting and prayer? Sleep on the same bed? Calling/texting/DMing? Word of affirmation? Quality time together? Me-moment?

    Go and revive those beautiful moments again.

    Gratitude. See you tomorrow.

  • Day 21 – Be Angry.

    This post was written by Mrs. Hyacintho

    When my Loveband and I are angry at each other for those brief moments, our behavior remains the same as when we are at peace in the home.

    Mrs. Hyacintho. You can follow her on Facebook via VOICE of a Goodwoman.

    Our moments of anger does not stop us from doing the things that was built by our moments of peace; like serving each other, chatting each other up, picking up our calls, going to bed together, watch TV together in the living room, etc, that would not be fair on our home at all.

    Do you understand what I mean?

    Our happy moments created the joy and happiness we enjoy in our home, it would be unfair to allow our moments of anger destroy what peace have established for us.

    We have a very high regard and respect for each other, this we have built through the instruments of love and understanding, we cannot allow our brief moments of misunderstanding put all that we have built to waste, because we decided to choose disrespect instead of patience.

    Listen to me you two;
    Be angry for a time, it’s okay to feel hurt by your spouse, we are not all perfect, such moment will surely come, but let the fruit of your anger never destroy the things that the fruit of your love and peace produced in your home.

    Be angry and serve your husband his meal.

    Be angry and run him a bath if that’s the norm in your home when there is peace.

    Be angry and watch your TV shows together.

    Be angry and eat together.

    Be angry and sleep on that bed.

    Be angry and greet your spouse in the morning.

    Be angry and still honour the family devotions.

    Be hurt and still observe other protocols that has been sustaining the joy and happiness in your home until you discuss and make peace with each other.

    Let no unwholesome words come out of your mouth. This are basic Biblical principles that should stay consistent whether you are angry or not.

    It is independent on your mood swings or feelings at any point in time.

    Your words are spirit and they are life! This principle is independent of who was right or wrong as well. It holds no regard for who should apologize first or who apologized the last time.

    It doesn’t matter if you are angry or joyful, at no point should nonsense be produced from you.

    #voiceofagoodwoman
    #warwivesfellowship
    #bymywordsonly

  • Day 20 – Volunteer

    Day 20 – Volunteer

    Waoh! 20 days down! 7 days to go! Hmmmm! That is a perfect number.

    I hope you tried my Zobo drink yesterday? Or you are gonna try it today? Anyhow, make sure you try it out with you partner someday.

    One of ways, I believe husband and wife can strengthen their relationship is working together and one of those ways of working is volunteering together for a godly and common cause.

    In addition to strengthening your bond, volunteering together will help in the following ways according to Zaytoen Domingo :

    • Travelling (volunteering) with someone else can be easier.
    • You’ll see the best in each other.
    • You can build a closer relationship. Helping people can trigger love hormone named oxytocin 😍
    • You won’t get sick of each other.
    • You’ll learn to work as a team.
    • You can double your impact. Talk about two chasing ten thousand.
    • Volunteering can help you find a common purpose
    • Some experiences are best shared.

    What can you volunteer to do?

    1. Start a Bible club on your street.

    2. Donate a Bible here for Evangelism purpose

    3. Visit the mission field

    4. Join a mission minded organisation.

    5. Join the local Christian group supporting Christian cores, norms and values.

    6. Children and adult Sunday school teacher.

    7. Volunteer to take cards to a nursing home.

    8. Have a one-day mission trip in your community and do some yard work.

    9. Volunteering during church wide “mission week.

    10. Volunteering at a food bank or clothes closet.

    11. Children’s Christmas program/play director volunteer.

    12. Volunteering during church wide “mission week

    13. Volunteering to clear the bush or drain the blocked water ways.

    14. Volunteering as ushers/greeters/communion helpers/ security volunteers

    15. Volunteering as fundraiser for local ministry.

    To know more click here or volunteer here

    Finally, let’s closed with the word of our Lord Jesus Christ from Matthew 25:34‭-‬37‭, ‬39‭-‬40; Then the King will say to those on His right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by My Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave Me something to eat; I was thirsty and you gave Me something to drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you took care of Me; I was in prison and you visited Me.’ “Then the righteous will answer Him, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You something to drink? When did we see You sick, or in prison, and visit You? ’ “And the King will answer them, ‘I assure you: Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of Mine, you did for Me.’ (HCSB)

  • Day 19 – How to make cool Zobo drink

    Day 19 – How to make cool Zobo drink

    Welcome to day 19th of #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge.

    Please if you haven’t practiced any of the tips I have been sharing I urged you to make an habit of day 16, 17 and 18 tips, i.e., studying the word of God together as a family, praying together and eating the flesh and drink the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    Today, let’s me teach you how to make Zobo drink but firstly of all, what is Zobo drink? Zobo drink is a Nigeria natural drink gotten from boiling of hibiscus flower that is best served cold.

    What are the benefits of this drinks:

    1. It can be used as Communion wine. It’s perfectly non-alcoholic.
    2. It contains antioxidants that prevent diseases
    3. Hibiscus leaves help your body to break down food easily and keep your liver on good shape
    4. Hibiscus leaves is an antibacterial which fight different bacterial infection in the body system.
    5. It helps in lowering blood pressure.

    Recipes.

    • Hibiscus leaves
    • Garlic cloves
    • Ginger
    • Pineapple
    • Any sweetener of your choice
    • Water

    Steps.

    • Wash and peel the pineapple, thereafter cut it into small bits in a bowl
    • Wash the hibiscus leaves and put it inside a pot for it to boil
    • Add the pineapple, the ginger and garlic into the boiling leaves then cook for 15 – 20 minutes
    • Strain the juice with the strainer and then add any sweetener of your choice to it
    • Serve it when chilled

    Thanks for trying it out. If you need fresh hibiscus flower, DM Victoria ( the writer of this article) via 0703 233 8012

  • Day 18 – Eat.

    Day 18 – Eat.

    Today is the 18th day of our #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge. Thank you for engaging.

    Today’s will be short. We have read our Bible and pray, now let’s eat the Lord’s flesh commonly called the Lord’s Supper or the Communion.

    You said I don’t have unleavened bread at home? Go and buy biscuits or use that leavened bread and that non-alcoholic drink. Faith is what matters.

    I am not a priest? Dear husband, you are a priest in your family.

    We are not church? It’s not the number that made the Church, it is the called out of God’s elects irrespective of their numbers.

    The Bread (the flesh).

    In the name of the Father, Son and of the Holy Spirit… While they were eating, Jesus took bread, spoke a blessing and broke it, and gave it to the disciples, saying, “Take and eat; this is My body.”

    The wine (the blood of Jesus).

    In the name of the Father, Son and of the Holy Spirit… Then He took the cup, gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you. This is My blood of the covenant,e which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. I tell you, I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now on until that day when I drink it anew with you in My Father’s kingdom.”

    I want to conclude this episode with this assurance that if you truly do the last two days plus this one, nothing will move your family

  • Day 17 – Pray

    Day 17 – Pray

    Let’s start today’s episode of #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge with Jesus’ word that miracles cannot happen except by fasting and prayer.

    Numerous instances abound in the word of God of those who prayed either as individuals or as a couple.

    Abraham and Sarah prayed. Manoah and his wife prayed for Samson. Isaac and Rebecca also prayed over their childlessness. Elkanah and Hannah prayed too and God answered them.

    Also, I can boldly say this, it’s a principle I have practised and established to be true in my family and will uphold jealously.

    Praying together as a couples and praying individually for your spouse is one of the most powerful weapons you have again divorce and for building intimacy in your marriage

    Mary Fairchild

    In addition to bible reading and studying, pray as a family, for God has promised us that two will chase ten thousand because of this assurance that everything we asked confidently according to His will in Jesus name, He will do it.

    Now, how do we pray? We pray in Jesus’ name. What do we pray about? Anything and everything – family, careers, children, mental health, safety, brothers and sisters, in-laws, church, MoGs and WoGs, Missionaries, political leaders, traditional leaders, neighbours, colleagues, enemies, policymakers, etc. When should pray? Anytime.

    Furthermore, Jesus says ‘where two or more people in My name, I will be there ‘ and ‘whatsoever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven and whatsoever you bind on earth will be bind in heaven.

    Finally, I want to motivate us with this hymn by W. W. Williams titled Sweet Hours of Prayer :

    1 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    that calls me from a world of care, 
    and bids me at my Father's throne 
    make all my wants and wishes known. 
    In seasons of distress and grief, 
    my soul has often found relief, 
    and oft escaped the tempter's snare 
    by thy return, sweet hour of prayer! 
    2 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    the joys I feel, the bliss I share 
    of those whose anxious spirits burn 
    with strong desires for thy return! 
    With such I hasten to the place 
    where God my Savior shows his face, 
    and gladly take my station there, 
    and wait for thee, sweet hour of prayer! 

    3 Sweet hour of prayer! sweet hour of prayer! 
    thy wings shall my petition bear 
    to him whose truth and faithfulness 
    engage the waiting soul to bless. 
    And since he bids me seek his face, 
    believe his word, and trust his grace, 
    I’ll cast on him my every care, 
    and wait for thee, sweet hour of prayer! 

    P.S: Why can’t you pick together to pray? 5 minutes can do wonders.

  • Normal Christian life.

    Normal Christian life.

    Last Sunday, a sesentional Nigerian Award winning Gospel Singer, Mercy Chinwo got hooked maritally to her heart desire, Pastor Blessed of Water Brook Ministry, Lagos and their wedding has trended on all Nigerian social media spaces.

    What trended the wedding ceremony wasn’t the fact that the bride, Mercy Chinwo is a celebrity but the fact that everything about the wedding has Christian decency stamped on it – the official social media announcement, pre-wedding pics, court ,church and reception activities, bridal train, choice of music. No breast and cleavages show as it is common in many supposed Christians, wedding ceremonies. Not even a single item was yielded to worldliness.

    While I am also joining the Church to congratulate the couples for the blessed and merciful start. I began to have this thought in me; should we be celebrating her for covering her body as it’s expected? Is she not a Christian again? Didn’t Bible said our clothes should cover our nakedness and beautify us?

    Pastor and Mrs Blessed.

    I think she deserves commendation because we have seen many instances where the bride/groom/their bridal train/parents completely throw cautious to the wind simply because they are getting wedded.

    I have seen examples of brides who hardly used make-up pre-wedding, who was totally transmogrify into another thing on her wedding date and supposed Christian/Church weddings that are no better stripper club.

    While we are commending them for doing what God expected of them especially in this utterly corrupt world where the line has been totally blurred because what is holy and what is unholy and what is Christian norms,practices and what is not, we should know that dressing decently is a normal Christian norms as praying, studying the Bible and fasting is.

    If somebody mistakenly transferred some amount of money into your account and you returned all the money, Jesus said well-done for doing what is expected of you.

    If you are punctual and diligent in your workplace, Jesus said good boy for representing the kingdom values expected of an ambassador.

    If you respect your husband, your heavenly father is saying thank you for doing the norm and if you love you wife, the same God is saying the same thing.

    You doubt me? Here is Jesus’ word: Which of you whose servant comes in from plowing or shepherding in the field will say to him, ‘Come at once and sit down to eat’? Instead, won’t he tell him, ‘Prepare my meal and dress yourself to serve me while I eat and drink; and afterward you may eat and drink’? Does he thank the servant because he did what he was told?

    And this should be your answer : ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’ ” (Luke 17:7-10, Berean Study Bible)

    Lastly, faithfulness, honest, love, respect, orderliness, decency and many other godly virtues are normal Christian life.

  • Day 15 – Study.

    Day 15 – Study.

    I am sorry that I couldn’t bring up #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge. There was a need to reset my phone to factory settings last Saturday which leads to lost of many things – documents, contacts, images, passwords, etc., including the guide of this challenge.

    Presently, I am trying to recover some of those lost items via Google.com but life must continues.

    Today, our focus is study and what I want you to study is the word of God together. Take a book of the bible and study together. It will help your family and strengthen the bond of love.

    I don’t want you to make this a one-time affair but a daily consistent doings.

    But how do I do this? Follow this simple three steps; decide on the book of bible together (I will suggest Song of Songs 😍😍😍) and read verse by verse, one after the other and take it slowly and lovingly.

    Benefits of Reading Bible together.

    1. It makes you to know about God and His will for your as a family.
    2. It deepens your commutation.
    3. It enhances family prayer life

    To round today off, let’s read together, Song of Songs chapter 2, verse 15; Catch the foxes for us — the little foxes that ruin the vineyards — for our vineyards are in bloom.

  • A Call for Partnership.

    A Call for Partnership.

    The Ogbomosho Rehoboth Baptist Association of the Nigerian Baptist Convention organises her Annual Evangelism Outreach.

    This year, we are taking the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ to the Ope-Ola village at Orire Local Government Oyo State Nigeria and it will hold from 4th – 6th November, 2022 featuring Open Air crusades, film show, medical outreach, prayer, Bible study etc.

    The last one was held at Ipaasa Village, Surulere Local Government, Oyo state and we bless the name of the Lord for the souls saved.

    Furthermore, as we have started last year, we planned to go with 50 free Bibles for the souls that we will be saved and we appeal to you to partner with us in donating Bible(s) towards this godly cause either in kind or in cash

    Presently, a copy of Yoruba Bible goes for US$3 (NGN1300, £4, €2).*

    The Lord gave the word: great was the company of those that published it.
    Psalm 68:11 (KJV)

    If God touches your heart, you can make your donations to account details below with narration spell as 2022 Bible Donation

    • Bank: Zenith bank: 2021840708. Alade Joel Adetunji.

    For further enquiry, contact the following via calls and WhatsApp on:

    Association President: +234706 850 1910

    Association Secretary: +234813 386 4849

    Association Evagelism coordinator**: +2348135446603. Email: joelalade2018@gmail.com, joelalade2018@yahoo.com.

    Thank you for allowing God to use you as we bring this greatest treasure, gift, compass, map, light to another person that Christ die for.

    Shallom.

    * As at 19/08/20** I am the Association Evagelism Coordinator.

  • Day 14 – Can you Read and Write?

    Good day, my dear followers. Today is the 14th day of our #ReviveYourRelationshipChallenge. Thanks for all the liking, sharing and the comment so far.

    Hope you are not surprised about my caption for the post; can you read and write? Of course, you can literate! That’s why you are here in the first place.

    Now, do and take a pen and a sheet of paper and write a lovely letter to your partner.

    But you are not going to post this one neither are you going to hide it where they can see it but you are going to read it to your LOML.

    Thank you for complying.

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