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  • #GratitudeChallenge – The Gifts of Relationships.

    #GratitudeChallenge – The Gifts of Relationships.

    Welcome to day 2 of #GratitudeChallenge. It is just an avenue to praise the Lord for 40 days.

    First of all, to recognize all the gifts of relationships I have enjoyed, I penned this Ebook – A Tearless Courtship – a simpler guide to Christian dating. Click on the download button to get it.

    A Tearless Courtship – a simpler guide to Christian dating.pdfDownload

    Being saved is incredible and having good relationships is great too.

    I won’t underestimate theese gifts of relationships because after my salvation what next is my relationships and God has wonderfully blessed me with amazing ones which have recommended me for jobs, submitted my CV, gave me a wife, encouraged me, visited my blog, read my articles, prayed for me, helped me and corrected me.

    Furthermore, all glory to You for the most amazing gift of all, the woman you gave me as my wife. King of glory, your daughter is indeed a helper, a mother and a wife.

    Thank you, Lord, for my parents because they know You and for using them to train my siblings and I in Your way.

    I will not fail to appreciate Your Holy Name for my mother-in-law. My Lord and King, this woman is truly your daughter.

    Hallelujah to Your Name for my amazing siblings.

    I am still thanking You for my sisters-in-law, for they are not only beautiful but godly.

    I applaud the mightiness of Your Essence for my friends. Oh, Lord! They have been extraordinary!

    If I fail to eulogise You for my pastor, I will be ungrateful.

    What about mentors? You gave them to me so that I can grow to fulfill Thy purpose and counsel for my life.

    I am extolling Your awesomeness for all my blog followers and visitors for bringing them here from all over the world.

    Father to appreciate the gifts of relationships I have have and those that will be found later in life. I dedicate this song to You:

    Thank You Lord,
     I just want to thank you Lord, 
    Thank you Lord.

    Task for today: Dedicate a praise song for the gifts of relationships you possess.

  • #GratitudeChallenge – Thank You for the Salvation.

    #GratitudeChallenge – Thank You for the Salvation.

    Lent is commencing today and it will last for 40 days, I want to show gratitude to Almighty God for what He has been doing for me, What He has done, what He will do and what He will not do in His infinite wisdom.

    Please join me to appreciate our Maker.

    Day 1 starts with utmost gratitude to my Saviour for delivering me from the power of self and sin.

    If not for Jesus, I can just imagine where I would have been but His compassion redeemed me during the first Reinhard Bonnke Crusade to my hometown in 2016.

    Oh what a memorable day for me because from that day onwards the Spirit Himself thestifies that I am a child of God!

    Despite the challenges, God has stood faithful. He has been. Hallelujah!

    I also admire Jehovah for my justification (past salvation), sanctification (present salvation) and my glorification (future salvation). May His name be praised.

    Now, lemme end day 1 with this song

    Thank you for saving me, thank you my Lord/2x.

    Today’s task for you: When did you come to be born again?

  • Pray for Russia and Ukraine.

    Benjamin Franklin said, ‘there is no good war or bad peace.’

    We pray the that the Lord of peace will end the aggressions and counter-aggressions on both sides as no sides will come out without losing significantly.

    Let there be peace in all the earth. Amen

  • 7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.

    7 Ways to cope with Heartbreak.


    To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.

    Source: shutterstock.

    I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.


    In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.


    Now deal with heartbreak like these:


    1.CRY.

    Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.


    2. THANK GOD.

    It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.

    Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’


    3. FORGIVE AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP OF RECONCILIATION.

    Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.

    Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.


    You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.


    4. GO OUT.

    After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.

    Stop pity party.

    Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.

    Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.


    5. LOVE AGAIN.

    There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’ 

    It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.


    6. DON’T PUNISH OTHERS.

    It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.

    It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.


    You were swindled by one man not all.

    So let’s be guided.

    7. GUARD YOUR HEART. 

    Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.

    MAY YOU HEAL.

  • SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    SCARCITY OF GOOD MEN AND WOMEN…AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT – Mrs. Modupe Ehirim.

    In the course of my work as a Marriage Educator and Counselor, I meet many people who desire to marry.

    The young women lament that they can’t find good men.

    The young men too lament that they can’t find good women.

    I find this somewhat perplexing because many young men and women that I meet have great characteristics. It seems to me that both men and women do not know how and where to meet prospective partners who fit them.

    In The Right Fit Marriage Academy we asked married people to tell us how they met the persons they married. Here are some responses we got:

    “I met my fiance in our campus fellowship. He was my discipler��. He was an executive in the fellowship, one of those spiritual brothers we look up to in the fellowship. Through our discipleship class, we became friends and friends became intimate friends and from there it happened ��” T. A.

    “I had graduated from school but visited UNN for some other reason and noticed her but never spoke to her at all..so after many years I got a recommendation from a good friend of mine and when I asked for details..her name popped up. I searched my Facebook friends list. Luckily she was there and her number was also there. I took her number from there and started calling..and she finally agreed to take the ride of life with me. Best pal ever.” I. N.

    “My husband met me at his colleague’s wedding. The mother of his colleague is my church mum. I had to drag myself to the wedding. Hubby was just taking pictures of us with the bride as we danced with her. According to him, he was just taking a random picture and later I came to stand close to him and he took another picture of me. He was just scrolling through the pictures he took and he was like this lady’s complexion is captivating (I’m dark skinned and he told God he wanted omo dudu.lol). When the colleague came back from honeymoon, he asked her for my number. She had to ask her mum for my number. Her mum questioned and questioned and called me before releasing my number. I was a bit skeptical at first but I agreed to meet him. And days turned to weeks and I met him officially two months after we began talking. We’re now married.” O. A.

    These responses show that meeting with a prospective marriage partner happens as you go about your regular activities. However, you have to be present and intentional in order to recognise the opportunity when it presents itself.

    What should a person who is eager to find a suitable partner do? If you are that person, what should you do?

    Here are seven steps that will help you to overcome the “scarcity problem”.

    1. Avoid Pity Parties

    Your attitude and mindset play a significant role succeeding in any aspect of life including finding the person you will marry. Avoid feeding discouragement and bitterness because you have not yet met a good partner. If you have a cheerful and optimistic attitude and outlook, you’ll be much more attractive to a prospective spouse.

    2. Look beyond your immediate community.

    Be open to the idea that a prospective partner that fits you may currently live in a place that is far away from where you currently live. Long distance relationships have their own problems, true. The problem is not the distance. If you know and practice courtship principles that work for a long distance relationship.

    3. Keep your eyes open with people you already know.

    There may be a person that you have known for a long time without having any romantic ideas about them. If you pay attention, you may suddenly see such a person with fresh eyes and see in them a possibility of a relationship with them. At times, your friends may see the possibility of that person being suitable for you and nudge you towards them.

    4. Accept assistance from GOOD matchmakers – Family, friends, professionals.

    One Marriage and Relationship expert stated the dramatic finding that 63% of married couples were first introduced to each other by family or friends. Be open to suggestions and advice from RELIABLE family members and friends. In our careers and businesses, you and I appreciate the value of networking. We are open to using our networks to make beneficial connections. Why not let the same networks work for you in your search for a prospective marriage partner?

    5. Use the Online Space – Social Media, Dating apps.

    You, like many people, may find the online space scary. Yet it is a great platform for meeting new people who share similar interests with you. What you need is to carefully choose the online spaces that have developed a solid reputation and where people of similar age, background, beliefs and interests gather. While interacting with people in the online spaces that you choose, exercise discernment. Today, you can find out a lot about people you meet online even without asking them any questions.

    6. Go to places and events where people who are like-minded are.

    If you want to catch a fish, you go to where you think the most fish are. If you want to make a sales contact, you attend meetings with the likelihood of finding potential clients. If you want to find a prospective marriage partner, it makes sense to go to locations and events where you know that the kind of partner you are looking for is likely to be. Meetings, conferences, training programs.

    7. Seize your moments of opportunity.

    If marriage is one of your life’s priorities, then you should be intentional about the activities that will make it happen. If you are not intentional, you may actually miss good opportunities for connecting with someone who could be a great match for you.

    Do you have additional tips to add to this list? Share with us.

    Written by Mrs. Modupe Ehirim via The Right Fit Marriage Academy on Facebook.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    How to handle Marriage proposal rightly.

    According to Wikipedia, only 5% of marriage proposals are done by female.

    Source: Google.

    One of the reasons I so much cherished my wife is that she handled my proposal properly without any delay.

    She gave her answer the same day I asked her out.

    But many ladies nowadays waste marriage proposals unneccesarily through delay tactics.

    Queens, let me tell you a fact; giving a man yes answer on the spot, spending a reasonable time on it or using 6 months to pray about it doesn’t define your value to a man. A man values you based on

    ☑️ His personal value. If he is a man that believe woman must be below him no matter her efforts, if you like play hard to get for 5 years before saying yes, he still won’t value you.
    A valueless individual values nothing.

    But if it is a man with high moral values, whether you ask him out by yourself, give yes answer on a spot, or took extended time to think about it, he will still value you.

    ☑️ Your values. Yoruba proverb says, ‘bonigba ba se pe igba re la n ba peee‘ loosely translated as ‘ the name the owner called her calabash is what we will be helping her to call it.’ You can be behaving as irresponsible and uncaring all over places and expect any reasonable man to take you serious.

    Madam, please a value on yourself.

    Now, that you have known that taking extended time to answer proposal is of no use, then handle proposal like these:

    👉 Have a checklist of who you can’t marry. You can’t marry every man that ask you out and this also boil down to having values.

    When I was single, I knew the class of people I can’t marry and trust me I met them but I didn’t trouble any one of them for relationship because marriage between us can never happen.

    I knew I can’t marry non-christian. So I don’t bother to ask one out despite having all the qualities I want in my wife.

    I also know I can marry from all church. We worship same God but use different beliefs.

    Why will I go after a deeper life sister when I love trouser wearing lady with rims as earrings?

    Why will I be toasting a JW girl who I know doesn’t believe in Trinity, transfusion of blood and many other fundamental Christian beliefs?

    I know I can’t marry from other tribe. No that mine was better, infact, criminal exists in all tribes but firstly my parents will object to it and two, I don’t think I have strength for intertribal marriage. People in intertribal marriage deserve national awards.

    Because of my checklist of who I can’t marry, it helps me to focus my searchlight on Yoruba Christian lady going to a trouser and makeup permissive church from any part of the country.

    DEAR, yours doesn’t have to be mine but having such mental guideline will help you to determine whose proposal you can consider and who to give instant no to respectfully.

    👉 If you are rejecting his proposal, please reject his rides, money, time and gifts.
    The principle is, if he is not your type, his thing should not your type.

    👉 If you know your answer will be a yes, please give the answer either on the spot or within few days.

    My wife gave me her yes answer on the spot and I cherish her for not wasting my time.

    👉 You don’t need three months to pray on a proposal ooooo.
    If truly, you are a Christian with consistent relationship with God and Bible, first, you will know who deserves straight no and who is worthy of presentation to your heavenly father and I know your father won’t delay you.
    A month is okay.

    👉 Don’t despise any man because you reject his proposal.
    You don’t have to abuse, degrade or despise any man for asking you out.

    Na you no like am, there is one correct babe outside wey go lick am.

    Don’t damage someone husband with your mouth.

    👉 Do you accept his proposal? then say no to secret relationship.

  • 3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    3 Stages of Romantic Subscription.

    We subscribe to our Cable TVs in order to enjoy ourselves. The level of our subscription depends on the programs cum enjoyment we will derived.

    Love in the air.  Coutersy: pexels.com

    As our Cable TVs got level, stages and packages, so is the romantic relationship got level, stages and packages with benefits acrue to each package levels:

    1. Friendship subscription.

    This is the basic package/sub.

    At the level, what is available for your enjoyment is friendship. Nothing more.

    You boyfriend doesn’t own you, money neither do you own him your body.

    She doesn’t own you her cooking and home management skills neither do you own her payment of school fee.

    Does this negate gifting? Like I always said, there is no love without exchange of gifts after all, NTA is a free channel.

    With my friends at uni.

    2. Fiance/Fiancee Subscription.

    In this package, more ‘programs’ will be added to you bonquet. Marriage is in view and parents – both in the flesh and in the Lord are in the know how.

    Also, you own yourselves plenty gifts and you owned yourselves, sense, transparency, questions, prayers, godly visitation and plenty love.

    But you have not sub for house manager, cohabitators, sex and or central bank.

    Our pre-wedding shot.

    3. Marriage subscription.

    Level 3. Premium sub

    This is the premium package with full access to all what God packaged in the romance TV but it will cost you money, planning and prayers.

    With this sub, you owned one another everything, love, affections, duties, gifts, services, sex, etc.

    Complete package.

    In addition, you have to know that there is a caveat to this sub which is, that that DStv gave full access to all the programs in premium sub don’t make you the owner of DStv or dictate to them what you must show to you.

    They have give terms and conditions to enjoy their services, it is now left to you to enjoy the service or off your TV.

    That you are married doesn’t make you the creator of marriage, God is and He has given you His terms and conditions for marriage, the ball now is in your court to enjoy or endure it.

     

  • 6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    6 Things To Do if You are Single on Valentine’s Day.

    Valentine is in few days!

    A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.

    Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.

    Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:

    1. Take yourself to a nice place

    Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.

    You might even meet your future val during your outings.

    2. Log out of all social media apps.

    Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩‍❤️‍👩👩‍❤️‍👩

    Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.

    3. Go out with your single friends

    You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.

    There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.

    4. Exchange gifts with someone who meant something for you.

    Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.

    Need gift suggestions, Click here

    Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.

    And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?

    5. Pretend like it is just like every other day.

    July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.

    Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.

    Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.

    February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.

    6. Get yourself a partner.

    Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.

    But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.

    It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.

    7. Prepare.

    I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.

    From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.

    During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:

    • A – Z of Content Creation ( to celebrate 3 years of blogging).
    • A Tearless Courtship.
    • Paths to Sexual purity.

    Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.

    Happy Val in advance. I love you.

  • How to fight for your Marriage.

    This article is from YouVersion 7 secrets to an awesome Marriage plan, day 9 under the title No Coasting.

    The apostle Paul hits the nail on the head for us as we wrap up this nine day study. He says in Galatians 6:9, “Let us not weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” In lay terms, hang in there, never give up, and your marriage will thrive. Look at it this way.

    Let’s compare marriage to a long distance race. The truth is that most of us did not prepare well for the race. We just jumped in and someone said go and we went. We did not train. We did not change our habits or behaviors. We just ran. So it is not surprising that not too far into the race some of us were ready to bail out. Others seemed to be hanging in, but they were really struggling. It comes down to this.

    Everyone in the race needs hope. Hope that they can make it the distance. Hope that there are a whole lot of water stations along the route that refresh and energize them. Hope that their spouse is running side by side with them. Hope that their spouse is in it with them to the end. Hope in the truth that they are not running the race alone – God runs with them.

    My prayer for you is that you have an Awesome Marriage. I often say that marriage is not rocket science. The 7 “Secrets” are not difficult. It is living them out day after day that can be difficult. I encourage you to persevere, because one day you will say it was worth it. One day as you look back you can see how far God brought you.

    I wish I could tell you that Nancy and I have always had an Awesome Marriage, but I can’t. We have had some really rough times, and once were at the edge of divorce. In many ways, I am thankful that our marriage took the turns that it did, because otherwise I do not think we would have learned all that God wanted us to learn. Today our marriage is awesome. Here is your final takeaway: No matter where your marriage is today, God can make it awesome. All you have to do is turn it over to Him and walk faithfully each day in the path He sets before you. Take these 7 “Secrets” and let Him change them into steps that will build a marriage that you both will cherish and the world will look at and say, “What is their secret. They have such an awesome marriage.”� Then you can tell them all that God has done.

    Prayer:  Ask God to encourage and guide you as you work with Him to turn the “secrets” into steps.

    Resource: Are you ready to really LEVEL UP your marriage? Get marriage inspiration from me every week that is easy to digest and impactful to your marriage. When you sign up for Marriage Multiplier each week you’ll receive an email from me that will include 4 simple things: 1 Idea from me, 1 Marriage Challenge for you to complete that week, 1 Marriage Resource to highlight, 1 Marriage Question to strengthen your marriage. You can learn more and sign up here. Also be sure to follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. I would love to connect with you!

  • How God will treat your enemy.

    One day, God send one of His son to one of His disobedient and stubborn son to let go of His sons and daughters from servitude and slavery.

    But the stubborn son won’t let his brothers and sisters be free because he hates them seriously because he was their enemies but God, the Almighty Father have to step in warning this adamant individual to let go of His precious people to go and worship Him.

    When all entreats failed by Moses, God treated the file of Pharaoh, the archenemy of the sons of Isreal by dealing with him directly with strong and might hands.

    My dear you, you don’t need all the amount you are devoting to killing enemy, if you know how your heavenly Father has promised to treat them.

    Infact God purposed allow enemy for some of us because He knows if there is no push or pursuing, you are likely not serving God again.

    Since you now have enemy or even enemies, as a result of some people surrendering themselves to be used by Satan and you not being enemy of anyone, these are some of ways, He promised to deal with antagonists and haters

    1. He will shatter your enemy.

    Lord, your right hand is glorious in power.
    Lord, your right hand shattered the enemy. Exodus 15:6.

    2. He will render their desires over you void and null.

    The enemy said:
    “I will pursue, I will overtake,
    I will divide the spoil.
    My desire will be gratified at their expense.
    I will draw my sword;
    my hand will destroy them.”

    But you blew with your breath,
    and the sea covered them.
    They sank like lead
    in the mighty waters. Exodus 15:9 – 10.

    3. He will drive them out.


    The God of old is your dwelling place,
    and underneath are the everlasting arms.
    He drives out the enemy before you
    and commands, “Destroy!” Deuteronomy 33:27.

    4. They will be afraid of you.

    …and he became even more afraid of David. As a result, Saul was David’s enemy from then on. 1 Samuel 18:29.

    5. There will be Divine rescue.


    He rescued me from my powerful enemy
    and from those who hated me,
    for they were too strong for me. 2 Samuel 22:18.

    6. God will give you rest over them.

    The Lord my God has now given me rest on every side; there is no enemy or crisis. 1 Kings 5:4.

    7. God will strengthen and keep you.

    We set out from the Ahava River on the twelfth day of the first month to go to Jerusalem. We were strengthened by our God, and he kept us from the grasp of the enemy and from ambush along the way. Ezra 8:31.

    8. He promised to silence them.

    From the mouths of infants and nursing babies,
    you have established a stronghold
    on account of your adversaries
    in order to silence the enemy and the avenger. Psalm 8:2.

    9. He will not hand you over to them.

    …and have not handed me over to the enemy.
    You have set my feet in a spacious place. Psalm 31:8.

    10. He will be a refuge to you.

    for you have been a refuge for me,
    a strong tower in the face of the enemy. Psalm 61:3.

    11. Power of the enemy won’t have effect on you.

    Look, I have given you the authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and over all the power of the enemy; nothing at all will harm you. Luke 10:19.

    12. They will befriend you by fire by force.

    When a person’s ways please the Lord,
    he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. Proverbs 16:7.

    Those are some of the promises of your heavenly Father over your unrelenting adversary.

    What must you now do ?

    Be at peace with everybody, i.e., no enmity with anyone which invariably mean you rejoice with those that are rejoicing and cry with those that are crying.

    May your loving Father deals with all your enemies as He seems good to Him in Jesus name.


    All Scriptural quotations Christian Standard Bible (CSB).

  • How to Treat you enemy.

    How to Treat you enemy.

    A large number of prayers are being devoted to killing enemies in African churches and you could wonder as to how much resources we earmarked for the destruction of another human being.

    Before we proceed, let established four points.

    1. You don’t have a human enemy.

    Devil is your enemy, influencing unregenerated human beings to hate you. I said unregenerated because you can’t be a Christian and hate someone. Therefore, leave your fellow human beings alone and face Satan.

    Are you going to pray for Satan to die? No! Doing so is wasting precious time and saliva because Satan is a spirit (and spirit doesn’t die). What you should do to Satan is to resist him. After resisting him, stand firm.

    So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you.
    James 4:7
     Therefore put on God's complete armor, that you may be able to resist and stand your ground on the evil day [of danger], and, having done all [the crisis demands], to stand [firmly in your place].
    Ephesians 6:13.

    2. You will have an enemy.

    There is no how, all the people will like you because you are not ice cream. Even if you are ice cream, some people will just hate you for no reason. Some will hate you for a reason. Even God have enemies and who are the enemies of God, if not the wicked?

    Infact, some people can become your enemy because you are looking for their uplifting and betterment? Human hearts are so deceptive.

    3. Do not be somebody’s enemy.

    People will hate you but you don’t have to pay hate with hate.

    I bet it with you that some people want you to hate them consciously and unconsciously, in words and in deeds. Still don’t hate them.

    Why shouldn’t you hate? One, there is no hatred with God. Even when some people rejected His eternal plan of salvation, still He loves them. Two, since you are God’s ambassador here, it is demanded of you to behave like Him.

    4. God expect you to treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and in the manners He treated His own enemies.

    How then do you treat your enemy nicely, dutifully, respectfully and how did God treat His enemies? Thanks to God for not leaving us unguided about dealing with enemies.

    Deal with your enemy thus:

    1. Love for your enemy.

    This command is directly from our Lord Jesus Christ

    You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy; But I tell you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
    Matthew 5:43 - 44.

    2. Pray for your enemy.

    You don’t only love him/her, you are also expected to love. One God is love and you are His image and Bible enjoins us to bless and curse not.

    3. Feed your enemy.

    Give the person that hates you food, give him clothes and find a way for your hater to sleep (not under the same roof though).

    God feed His own enemies by providing food, sunlight and rain for them and doing so mean you are aiming for God’s reward and be GODLY.

     If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For in doing so, you will heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord will reward you.

    Proverbs 25:21
     

    To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes the rain fall upon the upright and the wrongdoers [alike]. For he causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that?
    Matthew 5:45 - 47.

    4. Don’t allow his/her property to ruin if you have the power to prevent the decline.

    If you meet your enemy's ox or his donkey going astray, you shall surely bring it back to him again. If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying [helpless] under his load, you shall refrain from leaving the man to cope with it alone; you shall help him to release the animal. 
    Exodus 23:4 - 5.

    What the passages mean is that

    • If you see a link that can benefit haters, share it.
    • If your enemy’s child comes for your help, render it.
    • If you see danger ahead, notify him/her .
    • Etc.

    This is an instruction, not a suggestion.

    5. Rejoice not about enemy’s downfall

    Why? Because Yahweh hates it.

     Rejoice not when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles or is overthrown, lest the Lord see it and it be evil in His eyes and displease Him, and He turn away His wrath from him [to expend it upon you, the worse offender].  Proverbs 24:18 - 19.

    Will it be easy doing all these un-human acts (un-human because a natural man is revenge-certified)? It won’t but doing so means obeying God and that comes with a whole loads of benefits.

    Why should you do it? Do it because in the God’s kingdom, we repay good with evils, bless and don’t curse.

    May God gives us the strength to do as He does in Jesus mighty name.

  • 20 Facts About Me.

    20 Facts About Me.

    I am sharing with you 20 facts you probably don’t know about me.

    Some of these facts are shocking, embarrassing, bizzare, funny and unbelievable but none of them is a lie and the purpose is to tell you that I am a human like you. Okay! Let’s ride!

    1. My pregnancy lasted for 10 months, 3 week. My mama tried oo oo 😁

    2. I was born on 7th September, 19** without the aid of midwife.

    3. I start school at age 5.

    4. And I can read and write before starting school because I attended Jeleosinmi (let the house rest) – a kind of pre-nursery then.

    5. My first nickname is Éjíbítì (Egypt) as given by Saheed, latter Opamose (Moses’s rod) by Johnson but now officially I am Aladeinternational.

    6. I was the class governor from J.S.S 1 – S.S 3.

    7. Apart from brilliance, I became very popular during secondary school days because I fought on assembly ground with Alamu Christianah (of blessed memory now 😭 ). We became best of friends after then.

    8. I got 2 votes out of possible 350 votes when I contested for class representative during my undergraduate day at year 1.

    9. Later, I won election unopposed as PRO of my departmental association. I am the second person to occupy that post.

    10. I wooed girl for the first time at age 17 (Grace) and between then and now, I had asked 17 ladies to be my girlfriend (including my fiancée). 7 said yes and I eventually dated 3. Married 1

    11. I am happily married. ❤️❤️❤️

    12. I met my wife under the mango tree 😄😃.

    13. I have a Muslim crush called Semiat and

    14. I have two Aunties who are married to Muslims, therefore I have Muslim cousins.

    15. I will be unveiling my 2 eBook titled A to Z of content creation and Before You Say I do this month. Watch out on this space.

    16. I don’t have favourite anything except colour which is Blue and that is why I am a Chelsea FC fan.

    17. I became born again during Reinhard Bonnke first crusade in Ogbomoso and got baptized on November 22nd, 2015.

    18. I am 100% biological Baptist and both paternal and maternal grandparents are.

    19. I started blogging in 2010 with oppamose.blogspot.com then latter to oluwajoel.livejournal.com

    20. I have been to 7 states of Nigeria namely, Osun, Ogun, Kwara, Jigawa, Edo Kano and Kaduna state. I have also being to Niger Republic.

    The bonuses are:

    21. My family house where I grew up had a bar infront of it. One day, someone gave me leftover palm wine to drink. Well, I drank it and went inside and told my dad and he beat me since then which is my first time of taking anything alcohol, I have never tasted nor drink alcohol or smoke in my life.

    22. I was given a prize for being honest (for returning 25 naira that was lost and found by me) during end of the year program.

    23. I have donated blood free of charge, 5 times.

    24. I have equally read Bible from Genesis to Revelation, 7 times and

    25. I am Alade Joel Adetunji, a writer, blogger, Sunday Sunday teacher, food activist, lover boy, God-engraced and empowered plus many more accolades to come.

    Feel free to drop 5 facts about you in the comment section.

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