In the midst of appreciating God for all His wondrous works, I decided to teach you how to make Ekuru.
Actually, Ekuru (a Nigerian food common with the Yoruba) is made with beans and followed the same steps as moin moin making but with a slight difference.
Welcome to day 5 of #GratitudeChallenge. It may be similar to yesterday but it’s not because this is dedicated to You.
On 20th of December, 2021 WordPress.com informed me that this blog is 3 years old with the following stats.
All these stats are only possible because of You.
So thank You for staying, following, reading, visiting, commenting and liking.
Therefore I bless the name of the Lord for bringing you here for this past 3 years and onwards to a better years.
To appreciate you, my readers and followers, I have put this Ebooks together for would-be bloggers and content creators. Just click the download icon to download
Remember, my God loves you for loving me.
As usual let’s sing this song to Yahweh for this growth courtesy of you:
Alagbara, You are the might God,
Eyin latobiju,
You are the glorious God.
Today’s task for you: Are you a blogger? If yes, drop the link to your site, I want to follow you.
In case you are wondering what is #GratitudeChallenge? Well, it is a 40-day action plans to appreciate God throughout Lent period and today is day 4 which is dedicated to acknowledge the sustaining grace of God for the vision of this Blog for the past three years.
Why, the appreciations? I started blogging 10 years ago with blogspot.com but it didn’t fly so I have to abandon it for livejournal.com about 7 years ago. Yet the stats was meagre.
Then on 20th of December, 2019 i.e., 3 years ago and the stats is commendable. Thank God for the stats but that’s not the main reason for this post.
The main reason is that Jehovah Nissi is the One providing materials for running this site.
So therefore, I bless the name of the Almighty God for His sustaining power over this site.
Brethren, if not that God is blessing me with wisdom, knowledge and skills for writing these articles, who I am?
Furthermore, this same God bless me with amazing subscribers/followers from all over the world. All power be unto Him for eternity.
Now Sing this song of praise with me this wrap today’s episode:
From North to South,
There is no other God,
From east to west,
I say there is no other God.
Today’s task for you: which vision of yours did you think if not for God, it can’t be successful?
Let me start today’s with a popular Bible verse
A man who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 18:22
(Christian Standard Bible).
The story of my marriage is simply a product of mercy obtained from God because if not for God’s Divine orchestration, I would have missed this Rarest Gem of mine @vicpraise1010 .
God gave me a good thing and may His name be praised on high for giving me a suitable helper.
I honour God’s grace for this girl for she is lovely, godly and make loving her so easily to do.
Let’s close today also with a hymn
O Father, all creating Whose wisdom, love, and power
First bound two lives together
In Eden's primal hour,
Today to these Thy children
earliest gifts renew:
A home by thee made happy,
A love by Thee true.
Task for today: what specific attribute of your spouse are you grateful for?
Welcome to day 2 of #GratitudeChallenge. It is just an avenue to praise the Lord for 40 days.
First of all, to recognize all the gifts of relationships I have enjoyed, I penned this Ebook – A Tearless Courtship – a simpler guide to Christian dating. Click on the download button to get it.
Being saved is incredible and having good relationships is great too.
I won’t underestimate theese gifts of relationships because after my salvation what next is my relationships and God has wonderfully blessed me with amazing ones which have recommended me for jobs, submitted my CV, gave me a wife, encouraged me, visited my blog, read my articles, prayed for me, helped me and corrected me.
Furthermore, all glory to You for the most amazing gift of all, the woman you gave me as my wife. King of glory, your daughter is indeed a helper, a mother and a wife.
Thank you, Lord, for my parents because they know You and for using them to train my siblings and I in Your way.
I will not fail to appreciate Your Holy Name for my mother-in-law. My Lord and King, this woman is truly your daughter.
Hallelujah to Your Name for my amazing siblings.
I am still thanking You for my sisters-in-law, for they are not only beautiful but godly.
I applaud the mightiness of Your Essence for my friends. Oh, Lord! They have been extraordinary!
If I fail to eulogise You for my pastor, I will be ungrateful.
What about mentors? You gave them to me so that I can grow to fulfill Thy purpose and counsel for my life.
I am extolling Your awesomeness for all my blog followers and visitors for bringing them here from all over the world.
Father to appreciate the gifts of relationships I have have and those that will be found later in life. I dedicate this song to You:
Thank You Lord,
I just want to thank you Lord,
Thank you Lord.
Task for today: Dedicate a praise song for the gifts of relationships you possess.
Lent is commencing today and it will last for 40 days, I want to show gratitude to Almighty God for what He has been doing for me, What He has done, what He will do and what He will not do in His infinite wisdom.
Please join me to appreciate our Maker.
Day 1 starts with utmost gratitude to my Saviour for delivering me from the power of self and sin.
If not for Jesus, I can just imagine where I would have been but His compassion redeemed me during the first Reinhard Bonnke Crusade to my hometown in 2016.
Oh what a memorable day for me because from that day onwards the Spirit Himself thestifies that I am a child of God!
Despite the challenges, God has stood faithful. He has been. Hallelujah!
I also admire Jehovah for my justification (past salvation), sanctification (present salvation) and my glorification (future salvation). May His name be praised.
Now, lemme end day 1 with this song
Thank you for saving me, thank you my Lord/2x.
Today’s task for you: When did you come to be born again?
Benjamin Franklin said, ‘there is no good war or bad peace.’
We pray the that the Lord of peace will end the aggressions and counter-aggressions on both sides as no sides will come out without losing significantly.
Let there be peace in all the earth. Amen
To be candid, heartbreak hurts. It stinks. It pains to the inner mind particularly when you knew for a fact that you dot all the ‘i’s and crossed all the ‘t’s in a biblical way yet you are being ‘punished’ for love.
I said it again it isn’t palatable. I knew what it implies to be heartbroken but you can deal with the agony triumphantly.
In addition to that, heartbreak is inevitable. As long as a human will be your father, mother, kid, spouse, boss, etc, you got to respect their fallibilities.
Now deal with heartbreak like these:
Even our Lord Jesus Christ was heartbroken at His people’ unbeliefs and wept. Cry! You have not sinned. Talk to people about your pains. Crying relieves pain.
It was a human being that broke your heart, not Yahweh, so praise ummhangeable Promise Keeper.
Two, if it is a romantic breakup, dance away! There are many saves that God is doing for us that we have no inkling about. Maybe you are saved from a potentially damaging relationship and lastly, the bible said, ‘in everything, give thanks.’
Yeah! You didn’t misread me! You have to forgive your heartbreaker whether the person realises his/her mistakes or not, after all, we have done worse for Jesus and He forgave us.
Don’t just forgive, take the first step of reconciliation by calling, emailing, DMing the offender to normalise the relationship after all Christ didn’t wait for us to repent before dying for us.
You say, ‘it is not easy and unfair.’ who said it will be? But that is Christ’s teaching and Christ Himself is the one that will grace to do His will. Remember, blessed are the peacemakers.
After doing the stuff above. Stop blaming yourself.
Stop pity party.
Go and pursue your objectives, goals and aspiration.
Go out, network and make new friends. It is your season of love.
There is an adage in the Yoruba, loosely translated as, ‘if a car hits you, it is still a car that will carry you to hospital.’ Love again and love with Queen Esther’s saying in your mind that, ‘if I perish [again], I perish.’
It is one human that broke your heart, it’s still another human being that you will marry.
It is your ex that dumped you, not all girls, so don’t punish your next, sir.
It is that boy that is unserious not all boys.
You were swindled by one man not all.
So let’s be guided.
Lastly, guard the remaining part of your heart with love, joy and soundness and let it spring out of life.
MAY YOU HEAL.
In the course of my work as a Marriage Educator and Counselor, I meet many people who desire to marry.
The young women lament that they can’t find good men.
The young men too lament that they can’t find good women.
I find this somewhat perplexing because many young men and women that I meet have great characteristics. It seems to me that both men and women do not know how and where to meet prospective partners who fit them.
In The Right Fit Marriage Academy we asked married people to tell us how they met the persons they married. Here are some responses we got:
“I met my fiance in our campus fellowship. He was my discipler��. He was an executive in the fellowship, one of those spiritual brothers we look up to in the fellowship. Through our discipleship class, we became friends and friends became intimate friends and from there it happened ��” T. A.
“I had graduated from school but visited UNN for some other reason and noticed her but never spoke to her at all..so after many years I got a recommendation from a good friend of mine and when I asked for details..her name popped up. I searched my Facebook friends list. Luckily she was there and her number was also there. I took her number from there and started calling..and she finally agreed to take the ride of life with me. Best pal ever.” I. N.
“My husband met me at his colleague’s wedding. The mother of his colleague is my church mum. I had to drag myself to the wedding. Hubby was just taking pictures of us with the bride as we danced with her. According to him, he was just taking a random picture and later I came to stand close to him and he took another picture of me. He was just scrolling through the pictures he took and he was like this lady’s complexion is captivating (I’m dark skinned and he told God he wanted omo dudu.lol). When the colleague came back from honeymoon, he asked her for my number. She had to ask her mum for my number. Her mum questioned and questioned and called me before releasing my number. I was a bit skeptical at first but I agreed to meet him. And days turned to weeks and I met him officially two months after we began talking. We’re now married.” O. A.
These responses show that meeting with a prospective marriage partner happens as you go about your regular activities. However, you have to be present and intentional in order to recognise the opportunity when it presents itself.
What should a person who is eager to find a suitable partner do? If you are that person, what should you do?
Here are seven steps that will help you to overcome the “scarcity problem”.
Your attitude and mindset play a significant role succeeding in any aspect of life including finding the person you will marry. Avoid feeding discouragement and bitterness because you have not yet met a good partner. If you have a cheerful and optimistic attitude and outlook, you’ll be much more attractive to a prospective spouse.
Be open to the idea that a prospective partner that fits you may currently live in a place that is far away from where you currently live. Long distance relationships have their own problems, true. The problem is not the distance. If you know and practice courtship principles that work for a long distance relationship.
There may be a person that you have known for a long time without having any romantic ideas about them. If you pay attention, you may suddenly see such a person with fresh eyes and see in them a possibility of a relationship with them. At times, your friends may see the possibility of that person being suitable for you and nudge you towards them.
One Marriage and Relationship expert stated the dramatic finding that 63% of married couples were first introduced to each other by family or friends. Be open to suggestions and advice from RELIABLE family members and friends. In our careers and businesses, you and I appreciate the value of networking. We are open to using our networks to make beneficial connections. Why not let the same networks work for you in your search for a prospective marriage partner?
You, like many people, may find the online space scary. Yet it is a great platform for meeting new people who share similar interests with you. What you need is to carefully choose the online spaces that have developed a solid reputation and where people of similar age, background, beliefs and interests gather. While interacting with people in the online spaces that you choose, exercise discernment. Today, you can find out a lot about people you meet online even without asking them any questions.
If you want to catch a fish, you go to where you think the most fish are. If you want to make a sales contact, you attend meetings with the likelihood of finding potential clients. If you want to find a prospective marriage partner, it makes sense to go to locations and events where you know that the kind of partner you are looking for is likely to be. Meetings, conferences, training programs.
If marriage is one of your life’s priorities, then you should be intentional about the activities that will make it happen. If you are not intentional, you may actually miss good opportunities for connecting with someone who could be a great match for you.
Do you have additional tips to add to this list? Share with us.
Written by Mrs. Modupe Ehirim via The Right Fit Marriage Academy on Facebook.
According to Wikipedia, only 5% of marriage proposals are done by female.
One of the reasons I so much cherished my wife is that she handled my proposal properly without any delay.
She gave her answer the same day I asked her out.
But many ladies nowadays waste marriage proposals unneccesarily through delay tactics.
Queens, let me tell you a fact; giving a man yes answer on the spot, spending a reasonable time on it or using 6 months to pray about it doesn’t define your value to a man. A man values you based on
☑️ His personal value. If he is a man that believe woman must be below him no matter her efforts, if you like play hard to get for 5 years before saying yes, he still won’t value you.
A valueless individual values nothing.
But if it is a man with high moral values, whether you ask him out by yourself, give yes answer on a spot, or took extended time to think about it, he will still value you.
☑️ Your values. Yoruba proverb says, ‘bonigba ba se pe igba re la n ba peee‘ loosely translated as ‘ the name the owner called her calabash is what we will be helping her to call it.’ You can be behaving as irresponsible and uncaring all over places and expect any reasonable man to take you serious.
Madam, please a value on yourself.
Now, that you have known that taking extended time to answer proposal is of no use, then handle proposal like these:
👉 Have a checklist of who you can’t marry. You can’t marry every man that ask you out and this also boil down to having values.
When I was single, I knew the class of people I can’t marry and trust me I met them but I didn’t trouble any one of them for relationship because marriage between us can never happen.
I knew I can’t marry non-christian. So I don’t bother to ask one out despite having all the qualities I want in my wife.
I also know I can marry from all church. We worship same God but use different beliefs.
Why will I go after a deeper life sister when I love trouser wearing lady with rims as earrings?
Why will I be toasting a JW girl who I know doesn’t believe in Trinity, transfusion of blood and many other fundamental Christian beliefs?
I know I can’t marry from other tribe. No that mine was better, infact, criminal exists in all tribes but firstly my parents will object to it and two, I don’t think I have strength for intertribal marriage. People in intertribal marriage deserve national awards.
Because of my checklist of who I can’t marry, it helps me to focus my searchlight on Yoruba Christian lady going to a trouser and makeup permissive church from any part of the country.
DEAR, yours doesn’t have to be mine but having such mental guideline will help you to determine whose proposal you can consider and who to give instant no to respectfully.
👉 If you are rejecting his proposal, please reject his rides, money, time and gifts.
The principle is, if he is not your type, his thing should not your type.
👉 If you know your answer will be a yes, please give the answer either on the spot or within few days.
My wife gave me her yes answer on the spot and I cherish her for not wasting my time.
👉 You don’t need three months to pray on a proposal ooooo.
If truly, you are a Christian with consistent relationship with God and Bible, first, you will know who deserves straight no and who is worthy of presentation to your heavenly father and I know your father won’t delay you.
A month is okay.
👉 Don’t despise any man because you reject his proposal.
You don’t have to abuse, degrade or despise any man for asking you out.
Na you no like am, there is one correct babe outside wey go lick am.
Don’t damage someone husband with your mouth.
👉 Do you accept his proposal? then say no to secret relationship.
We subscribe to our Cable TVs in order to enjoy ourselves. The level of our subscription depends on the programs cum enjoyment we will derived.
As our Cable TVs got level, stages and packages, so is the romantic relationship got level, stages and packages with benefits acrue to each package levels:
This is the basic package/sub.
At the level, what is available for your enjoyment is friendship. Nothing more.
You boyfriend doesn’t own you, money neither do you own him your body.
She doesn’t own you her cooking and home management skills neither do you own her payment of school fee.
Does this negate gifting? Like I always said, there is no love without exchange of gifts after all, NTA is a free channel.
In this package, more ‘programs’ will be added to you bonquet. Marriage is in view and parents – both in the flesh and in the Lord are in the know how.
Also, you own yourselves plenty gifts and you owned yourselves, sense, transparency, questions, prayers, godly visitation and plenty love.
But you have not sub for house manager, cohabitators, sex and or central bank.
This is the premium package with full access to all what God packaged in the romance TV but it will cost you money, planning and prayers.
With this sub, you owned one another everything, love, affections, duties, gifts, services, sex, etc.
In addition, you have to know that there is a caveat to this sub which is, that that DStv gave full access to all the programs in premium sub don’t make you the owner of DStv or dictate to them what you must show to you.
They have give terms and conditions to enjoy their services, it is now left to you to enjoy the service or off your TV.
That you are married doesn’t make you the creator of marriage, God is and He has given you His terms and conditions for marriage, the ball now is in your court to enjoy or endure it.
Valentine is in few days!
A day unofficially dedicated to celebration of love throughout the whole world, even though, we have limited this love to boyfriend and girlfriend.
Now, if you got no partner, I wish to tell you that Valentine is also for you but how you will celebrate it differs.
Here are six things to do if do you have not partner:
Nice places like Church, restaurant, cinema, public library, spa, photo studios, zoo, orphanage, parents’ house, etc to relax and reflect on the greatness of the Lord to you.
You might even meet your future val during your outings.
Lovey-dovey pictures from lovers will fill our social media spaces on Val’s. No doubt about that. There will be tensions here and there. Intimidations left and right 🥰🥰 . Oppression up and down. 👩❤️👩👩❤️👩
Now to avoid you saying and questioning God with, ‘God when,’ take a 48 hours break from your social media pages. One, to really relax and reflect and two, it doesn’t kill to stay off for a while.
You are not the first, neither will you be the only and last person to be without a Val on Valentine. So instead of pitying yourself inside, go and party with your fellows and enjoy yourselves.
There is probability that someone may notice you in your clique for a serious relationship.
Obviously, you are not loveless without a future partner. You have many lovers – father, mother, brother, sister, friend, colleagues and me, etc. Therefore, we deserve gift from you.
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Even if you don’t have any of the aforementioned loves, God still loves you and He deserve a gift from you – a gift of you.
And what’s time is best to show love if not on the lovers’ day?
July 1st and February 14th have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds.
Nothing spectacular happens on that day, we just hype it, simply because love can be found at any day at any time.
Which means, if you don’t have anybody to call yours now, it perfectly normal and okay.
February 14 will go as it comes, so move on with your life.
Caveat, not a desperately gotten partner or that you should arrange for emergency boyfriend.
But to answer yes to that proposal that has been sitting on your table and DM since last December.
It means to ask that sister out. Maybe, yes could be the the outcome and you will have a Val for the Valentine.
I promise you 6 things but add this as bonus point.
From March 2nd, 2022 which is the beginning of 2022 Lent, I will be doing #GratitudeChallenge to highlight and praise the Almighty God.
During the 40-day period, I will be releasing 3 downloadable Ebooks namely:
Do you know what to do? Block your calendar, share to your friends and download.
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