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  • Blogmas Idea 2025 – A Journey Through the Gospel of Matthew.

    Blogmas Idea 2025 – A Journey Through the Gospel of Matthew.

    Matthew-A-Thon Announcement



    Greetings on the commencement of a new month!

    I extend my sincere gratitude for the continuous support over the past 11 months, expressed through views, follows, shares, and subscriptions.

    I am excited to announce the beginning of Season 5 of Annual Blogmas, a 25-day event dedicated to celebrating Christmas. This year’s theme is LIFT HIM UP, and the format this year will be video-based. Each day, leading up to Christmas, I will be reading a chapter from the Gospel of Saint Matthew.

    A short overview of this writer – Matthew, a disciple of our Lord Jesus Christ, called by Christ Himself from his tax collecting booth, serves as the focal point for this year’s exploration. Despite being one of the quieter apostles, Matthew’s prolific writing shines through.

    Today being Day 1, I will delve into Chapter 1 and 2 at 6 pm here and on my Facebook page, as we collectively embark on this journey to LIFT HIM UP.

    #Matthew_a_thon #2025Blogmas #lifthimup

  • To All Teachers

    I am using this hour to wish colleagues all over the world #HappyTeachers’day

  • Welcome to House of J&V — Our New Beginning!

    Welcome to House of J&V — Our New Beginning!

    Dear friends, family, and beloved readers,

    I am beyond excited to introduce to you my latest God-inspired journey — House of J&V!

    Join Victoria and I, every week on our YouTube channel as we shared our marital journey via House of J&V


    Why House of J&V?
    Because we believe that marriage is blissful — when Christ is at the center.

    We’ve cried. We’ve laughed. We’ve prayed. We have fought. We have won. And now, we’re creating a space to share it all — not just the polished moments, but the real, raw, and redemptive ones.

    House of J&V is our online family where faith meets fun, where biblical truth meets real talk, and where singles, young couples like us, parents, and the soon-to-wed can find love, encouragement, and hope.

    House of J&V want to tell you that you are not the only one passing through the relationship challenges. You are neither the first nor the last


    🎥 What You Can Expect

    We’ll be sharing content across:


    📖 Devotionals & family prayers

    💍 Marriage & relationship insights

    👶 Faith-based parenting tips

    🙌 Testimonies, stories, and laughter

    ❌❌ Our mistakes and errors

    🎥 On YouTube and TikTok, with occasional drops on our Facebook pages
    We are building a digital home that blesses hearts and strengthens homes.

    📌 Join Us!

    Subscribe to our YouTube channel: House of J&V

    Follow us on TikTok: @HouseOfJandV

    Together, let’s prove that with Christ, love still works. Marriage still stands. Homes still thrive.

    Welcome to the House of J&V 🏡
    We’re so glad you’re here.

  • 5 Relationship Lessons from Chelsea’s Club World Cup Triumph

    5 Relationship Lessons from Chelsea’s Club World Cup Triumph

    Chelsea winning the first edition of the expanded Club World Cup tournament against PSG is not news anymore.
    They are going to hold that trophy 🏆 for the next four years — but more than the celebration and the headlines, there are powerful relationship lessons hidden in that football victory.


    1. Your Relationship Choice Affects Future Generations

    Chelsea played in the 2025 Club World Cup because the 2021 squad won the UEFA Champions League. Guess what? Only two players from that team are still in the current squad — yet, they’re benefitting from the decisions of the past.

    Likewise, the choice of your life partner goes beyond today.
    You are not just choosing a spouse — you are choosing a co-parent.
    Your children, your home, your legacy — all will feel the impact of who you choose.

    Genes and values run deep.


    2. Don’t Be Afraid to Start Afresh
    After winning the Champions League, Chelsea went through:

    A transfer ban
    Ownership change
    Firing and hiring of four coaches
    Rebuilding a squad from scratch

    They signed and sold players. They experimented. But in all this, they were never afraid of rebuilding. Why? Because the best is born through change.

    In relationships too, don’t cling to someone just because of time spent.
    Don’t be afraid to break off and start again.
    The “better” may have to step aside so the “best” can come.


    3. You’re Not in Courtship to Impress Anyone
    Before the tournament, analysts and fans wrote Chelsea off.
    Did Chelsea fight them on Twitter?
    Did they argue with bookies or trend on social media?

    No. They simply showed up and played their game.

    Your courtship should never be to live anyone’s dreams, aspirations and experiences. Custom-made your relationship for God’s glory. 


    Stop trying to impress the crowd — live to please God.
    Let your courtship glorify Him, not Instagram algorithms or friend group expectations.


    4. Long-term Sacrifice Pays Off
    Chelsea didn’t win by luck. It was a culmination of years of discipline — from recruitment to training to staying focused through a long season.

    In relationships, you may not “win” instantly. But with faith, patience, prayer, and effort, your investment in each other will pay off.

    Just like Chelsea, your relationship must endure seasons of growth, pressure, and restructuring — until victory comes.


    5. You Need the Right Coach and a Shared Game Plan

    Chelsea’s new coach had only spent 12 months with the squad, yet they succeeded. Why? Because they shared a clear vision and executed it as a team.

    In your courtship, you don’t just need love — you need:

    Godly counsel (a spiritual “coach”)

    Mutual purpose (a shared game plan)

    Willingness to play your roles
    Don’t just vibe. Align.


    You both must be submitted to God’s plan for your relationship.

    This is not just about football. It’s about your future.

    Like Chelsea, your choice of partner, your willingness to rebuild, and your refusal to impress others will determine whether you lift the trophy — or sit on the sidelines of life.

  • Bitterness in Singleness, Chaos in Courtship

    Sade had always been bitter — even before Cole came into the picture. She was constantly complaining. Always moody. Frequently dissatisfied with life for no clear reason.

    When she met Cole, their relationship quickly became a cycle of bickering, nagging, and emotional unrest.
    She never stopped reminding Cole of his inadequacies — real or imagined.

    But here’s the thing:
    Cole was actually trying.

    He treated her with respect.
    He never shut her down.
    He helped pay some of her bills, bought her thoughtful gifts, and was committed to growth.

    Still, Sade remained bitter. Unhappy. Always frowning. Always frustrated.

    Eventually, Cole walked away — not because he hated her, but because he realised something deep:



    “Doing life with an ungrateful, unhappy and bitter person is a journey of torment.”

    A toxic single life will only produce a toxic relationship — and eventually, a toxic marriage.

    Courtship won’t make you happy.
    Marriage won’t fix your bitterness.

    If you’re not whole before love comes, love won’t magically make you whole.

    Why It Matters:

    1. Humans are not your source of joy.
    Only God is — and should be. No one can carry the burden of your unhappiness.


    2. If you’re emotionally unstable, you’ll project it.
    Your pain, fear, and insecurity will land on someone who simply wants to love you — and it will crush them.


    Therefore, live before you plan to live with someone else.
    Become whole in God, find joy in your own journey — then share that joy with someone, instead of making them responsible for it.

  • When Red Flags Are Loud in Courtship

    When Red Flags Are Loud in Courtship

    Single sisters, let’s talk.

    There’s a growing pattern of defending the obvious — even when the red flags are slapping harder than the brother himself.

    You’ll hear things like:

    • “He’s born again but he’s asking for my nudes… Can I still marry him?”
    • “He’s born again, but he drinks one or two bottles… Is it bad?”
    • “He flirts with other ladies, but he’s caring. What should I do?”
    • “He slapped me twice because I made him angry… I don’t want to lose him 😅”
    • “He’s born again but doesn’t go to church.”


    Ah ah! My sister, who born am again?🤷🤷


    And many more radarada justifications like that.

    But let’s be honest — if you trace the root of most of these excuses, it’s usually because:

    • He buys data
    • He pays for your pad
    • He orders you food
    • He sends you urgent 2k


    So, out of pressure, you start building tolerance for things that your spirit already knows is wrong.

    Hard Truth:

    If a particular behaviour is bothering you now — abort mission!
    Marriage doesn’t hide red flags, it magnifies them.

    Don’t mistake provision for character.
    Don’t confuse gifts for godliness.
    Don’t call brokenness “love” because he’s doing boyfriend charity.

    🗣️ To Every Single Sister:

    If it’s a red flag now, it will be a blazing banner in marriage.
    Run early. Abort mission. Save your soul and your destiny.

  • Parenting Reality Check

    Parenting Reality Check

    This Is Just a Rant from #DiaryOfANursingFather

    Marriage is a funny affair — especially parenting a kid.

    Before we became parents, our neighbours hardly knew when we left for work or came back. Once we were inside, the door was shut — except for the occasional outing or errand.

    But once parenthood entered the chat? Everything changed — drastically.

    • If we’re not shouting “Leave that place!” × 300 times,
    • We’re yelling “Joojoo!”,
    • Or trying to decode a vicious cry for something… invisible,
    • Or running after this boy like it’s a daily Olympics.

    Now? Everyone knows when we’re in and when we’re out.

    And honestly, that’s been burdening me lately.

    “How are those parenting alone coping? If you know, yarn me in the comment section.”

    🔖 Tags:

    • #DiaryOfANursingFather
    • #ChristianParentingReality
    • #MarriageAndParenthood
    • #FatherhoodJourney
    • #NigerianDadChronicles
    • #ParentingUnfiltered
    • #SingleParentQuestions
    • #ParentingWithHumour
    • #EverydayDadThoughts
  • Signs That They’re Not the One

    Signs That They’re Not the One

    Signs They’re Not the One: A Christian’s Guide to Discernment in Courtship



    By now, as a Christian, you should know that not everyone out there is for you. You’re only permitted to marry one of the good ones — the one who aligns with God’s purpose for your life.

    That’s why discernment is essential. No matter how many butterflies are in your stomach, some people simply aren’t “the one.”

    Here are key warning signs that reveal when someone is not the person God has prepared for you — even if they look good on paper.

    1. The Narcissist

    You are a masterpiece — a unique design shaped by God’s hand. Though you may have flaws, you’re still precious in His sight.

    But what does a narcissist see? A nobody.

    If someone constantly belittles you or ignores your value, they are not for you. Never settle for someone who speaks less of you than your Creator does.

    2. The One You Have to Beg for Communication

    Communication is the engine oil of courtship.

    If you’re always the one:

    • Calling
    • Texting
    • Checking in
    • Asking questions

    …then it’s a one-way street. Nobody is too busy for someone they truly care about. If you’re begging for basic attention, this person is not your God-ordained partner.

    3. The One You Do All the Loving For

    Love should be mutual. If you’re the only one doing all the emotional heavy lifting, you haven’t found the one.

    Marriage is a covenant, not a charity mission. If you’re already overworking emotionally in courtship, how will you cope in marriage?

    4. The Unkind Person

    It’s not just about how they treat you. Look deeper.

    How do they treat those with no power over them?

    • The doorkeeper
    • The waitress
    • The elderly
    • The poor
    • The disabled

    That’s who they really are. The way they treat the vulnerable is a preview of how they will treat you when you’re weak or in need.

    5. The One Who Rejects Christian Family Values

    Not all who call themselves Christians accept biblical family structures.

    If someone doesn’t believe in God’s design for the home — servant leadership, Christ-like love, mutual respect, spiritual alignment — they are not fit to build with you.

    Why start something that’s already misaligned with God’s will?

    6. The Abuser of Anything

    Whether it’s:

    • Power
    • Grace
    • Money
    • Alcohol
    • Access to others

    Abuse in one area will eventually affect others. Don’t assume you’ll be the exception. You may be the next victim.

    Conclusion: Come Correct, Not Perfect

    Yes, nobody is perfect — but as Christians, we should come correct.

    Let wisdom guide you. Don’t throw your pearls before pigs (Matthew 7:6). Know your worth in Christ and discern who is worthy of walking life’s path with you.

    📖 Relevant Bible References:

    • Matthew 7:6 – “Do not give what is holy to dogs…”
    • Proverbs 4:7 – “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom.”


    Tags: christian-courtship-red-flags, godly-relationship-discernment, christian-dating-advice, choosing-a-spouse-wisely, communication-in-relationships, narcissism-in-marriage, biblical-courtship-values

  • Dear Christian Brother, abeg!!!

    Dear Christian Brother, abeg!!!

    Choosing with Conviction: A Christian Brother’s Honest Reflection on Courtship Standards

    Category: Christian Living / Courtship & Marriage / Faith & Values

    In today’s Christian circles, especially within African communities, relationship expectations have become a mix of conviction, culture, and confusion. Too often, men enter relationships with women they secretly hope to change, instead of choosing partners who already align with their values.

    This personal reflection highlights the need for clarity, honesty, and conviction in choosing a life partner—particularly for Christian brothers navigating courtship.

    A Personal Journey of Conviction

    When I wanted to marry, I determined in my heart that the woman for me would be from Ogbomoso, a Baptist who uses make-up (though my wife hardly uses it herself) and doesn’t see trousers as a mortal sin.

    And that was what I went for aside from other qualities.

    Now I didn’t see a non-Ogbomoso, non-Baptist, who doesn’t use make-up or wear trousers and asked her for marriage and asked her to be all that.

    Is my wife the only one who must meet those criteria? How can it be the only one, when there are thousands of ladies like that?

    This shows a key truth: there’s no need to compromise personal values or try to convert someone to fit your picture of an ideal spouse when there are plenty who already do.

    A Word to Christian Brothers

    I believe it is time for us, Christian brothers, to stop all this childish behaviour.

    You saw her wearing trousers.
    You know she uses make-up.
    You are very much informed that she wears jewellery.
    Abi you knew she doesn’t wear all these things.

    You are aware that her church permitted those things that your church called sin (things which are not sin but a matter of choice).

    You knew all these, despite a lot of ladies in your domain who fit your agenda, yet you went for a trouser and jewellery wearing sister, and you are pressuring and gaslighting an innocent sister.

    Some of you, are even using submission 😀😀 to gaslighting an innocent sister?

    Submission in marriage was never meant to be a tool for manipulation or spiritual abuse. We must move away from this unchristlike tendency.

    Choose from Conviction, Not Control

    There are always one or two things to compromise but let it be from the place of personal conviction.

    So, brother, wrap it up, there are plenty of ladies out there who fit your description of a wife.

    The time you will be using to discuss those things will be better used discussing better things.

    I hope you understand me. If you do share, like and comment your opinion on this?

    Bible References for Reflection

    • Amos 3:3 (KJV) – “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
    • Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) – “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
    • 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) – “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way…”
    • Romans 14:5 (NLT) – “Let each be fully convinced in their own mind.”
    • Colossians 3:19 (NIV) – “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

    Conclusion: Let Wisdom Lead

    This honest piece is a call to maturity, sincerity, and intentionality. It reminds us that relationships should not be mission fields, but unions of agreement and shared conviction. Christian brothers, if you desire certain values in a spouse, seek those values genuinely—don’t demand transformation from someone who never agreed to change.

    What are your thoughts on this? Share them in the comments below. Let’s grow in wisdom and love together.

  • God is Pro-life

    God is Pro-life

    Today is another day set aside to celebrate children.

    Guess what, as my father will say, we are all children. If you doubt me, ain’t you a child of God.

    And God is very delighted about His children both the ones adopted in this Kingdom through the blood of Jesus Christ and those He has given to us as caretaker, guidance, role model, light and as parents.

    He doesn’t want anyone to perish and as the sons and daughters of this court, we ought to also preserve the lives of the unborn, pre-terms, physically challenged, hyperactive, genius and the so-called dullards.

    We should stop killing them with our knives and brains in the abortion clinics.

    We should start killing them by affirming their gender confusion.

    We should stop killing them with our embarrassing policies.

    Let’s stop experimenting with their bodies.

    We should stop dashing their holes courtesy of our actions and inactions.

    Because Their God desires that they live so that they can fulfill their destinies.

    God is pro-life and I wish you happy children day to all of us.

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  • 7 Signs That Should Make You Pray That Your Courtship Should Not Lead to Marriage.

    7 Signs That Should Make You Pray That Your Courtship Should Not Lead to Marriage.

    Courtship is the dress rehearsal for your marriage, and how you do it will tell a lot about how your marital experiences will look.

    But the signs are always obvious right from courtship, and here are 7 of them;



    1. You spent time discussing submission in marriage. There is no week in your relationship that you don’t have that conversation.



    2. Over communication: any person who is ready to talk to you for 24 hours is a jobless and purposeless entity.



    Dear sister, don’t let any jobless man convince you that a man needs 24 hours of speaking and talking to prove love.



    3. Under communication: if all that you talked about in about two years of courtship is, ‘how are you’, ‘have you eaten’, ‘what is your favourite colour’, ‘who is your favourite musician, bla bla bla, every eke market. My brother, you have not started ooooo. You are still playing.



    4. If you have to prove it. If you have to pass a test. If you have to show the workings that you are the one, after she/he has agreed to be with you. Brethren, if e didn’t dey, e didn’t dey nani and two, true love will not whyne you.

    If you pass the test now, how many more are you going to do to qualify as a spouse, as a parent, as a daughter/son-in-law or even as a human being?



    5. You argue about anything and everything. You have never agreed on anything in your courtship life except an agreement to marry one another.

    If you disagree on anything and everything, how then do you plan to walk and work?



    6. The person is unattractive to you. Granted, everything created by God is good, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we shouldn’t choose by sight, but my dear,  marriage is so long and so personal to be doing it with someone that is repulsive to you.

    How do you plan on marrying someone whose physicality has never elicit a positive response from you saved hiss and dejection?

    If he is repulsive to you. Leaver her, there is a someone who thinks she/he has found his/her own Miss or Mr. World.

    7. If her/his  people hate you. Marriage is long, stressful and delicate than be doing it with unavoidable enemies, hatred, and suspicion.

    If they hate you, leave their son and daughter for them.

    May God deliver you from problematic courtship in Jesus name

  • What sacrifices have you made in life?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    Hmmmm!

    Three months to my wedding, I got a job far away from home. In fact, about 8 hours from home. Ogbomoso, Oyo State to Benin Edo State.

    Well, the job pays more than what I currently had then. Actually 3× of the then salary.

    If I stay in my current job, my then fiance turned wife now, monthly income is 3× mine and I have to man up.

    The problem has never been my wife earning more than I did but rather closing the income gap between us. So I took the job

    The job is a farm manager position in a remote village in Benin, Edo State. No network, no light, no road. So bad that if I have to communicate effectively with my fiance, without interruption, I will have to spend ₦1000 as transport fare to where there is good network. After the day work on farm that runs from 8am till 4pm.

    Besides, almost all the guys there smoke indian hemp.

    The first question I ask myself is; carrer-wise, did this make sense? How will I know of emerging trends in the market?

    Two, is this the type of environment, I want to raise my children? A community of Indian hemp smokers and unkempt hairs?

    Three, let’s say my fiance resigned from her job, what job have I secure for her or what money did I have to give her to start a business?

    If I said my wife should be at home, and I will be visiting monthly, it still doesn’t make economic sense. Why? Because, I will have to travel on Friday evening, all things being equal, I should get home by 11pm. By Saturday, I will sure visit my friends and parents and by Sunday afternoon, I am on way back in order to resume on month. The transport fee will cost me about ₦10,000 to and fro .

    I will have to drop home maintenance fee for my wife and will also eat at my workplace. After everything, what will be left will be ₦5000. Why this stress?

    What sacrifices have you made in life?

    After all these introspection, I discovered that the cons far outweigh the pros, a month to my wedding, I resigned and return to my former workplace which this saying in mind, let the worse that want to happen happened, God is on the throne.

    Praise God, the bad did not happen talk less of the worst and I joined my wife and both of us combined our little resources together and live happily after.

    Now, tell me what sacrifices have you made in your life?

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