Big Brother Naija, a reality TV show has attracted a lot of criticisms from Christians due to it promotion of nudity, pornography, premarital sex among other unchristian practices, prompting some Christians to call for a counter-programs.
Well, those brethren have a solid point but having a counter program is not the solution because BBN is not the problem, sin is.
Furthermore, we are not in competition with the world; we are Light and they, darkness and Light doesn’t compete with darkness. Once Light arrives, darkness must vanishes. Competiting with them is fighting a spiritual war with carnal weapons so therefore we, Christians must carry our torchs to every area of human endeavours; be it science or media world.
In addition to that, there are a lot of Christian programs, channels (DoveTV, New Frontier TV, DunamisTV, GodTV, etc), movies, music, websites (e.g Living word media by Pastor Chris Onayinka) blogs (e.g My Witness,), shows, social media handles, products (e.g Churchsource) and services out there. But how many of us watch those channels, shows and movies? How many of visit and comment on Christian blogs and websites?
Let’s start watching, promoting and trending our movies, actors, music and artistes, creative brothers and sisters and their works, visit and comment on Christian blogs and websites and promote our contents then I believe sponsorship will come.
Lastly, Church should start sponsoring Christian contents too. Imagine what exploded impacts Mount Zion, EVOM, Calvary Drama Ministry, etc will have with sponsorers like Winners, RCCG, Nigerian Baptist Convention, etc as Christ Embassy is doing to Christian musicians.
In accordance to Sarah’s My Witness, I’m doing this ethnicity tag to let you guys know about me. I’ll be using her questions and you can check out her own version here.
Which ethnicity do you belong to? I am a Yoruba, from Oyo State, Southwest of Nigeria.
Which food best represents your ethnicity? There are lot but Iyan (pounded yam) and Egusi (melon stew) Amala (yam flour pasta) and Ewedu (Jute leaf soup) or Gbegiri (bean soup) best represent the Yoruba culture.
Which ethnic language are your perfect in? I am fluent in my native tongue, Yoruba and English language which is the lingual franca of the country.
Do you have an ethic name? Yes, infact I have two, Oluwagbemiga which means ‘The Lord lifts me up’ and Adetunji which means ‘Crown resurrects’.
Which clothes best represent your ethnicity? The flowing wide-sleeved robe called ‘Agbada’, Buba and Sokoto and Dansiki for men which Buba and Iro (wrapper), blouses and skirts for our women.
Which drink represents your ethnicity? ‘Emu’ Palm Wine, it’s a drink tapped from the sap of palm trees. It is alcoholic so i’m not a fan. Also Èko (maize pap) is a popular food among us.
When was the last time you visited your homeland? Well, I still live in my hometown, Ogbomoso.
Which is your favorite place in your homeland? A lot which include places like Old Oyo National Park, Oyo state, Erin ijesa waterfall in Osun state, The Oke Ogun gorge in Oyo state, Atlantic beach in Lagos state, Idanre Hill in Ondo state, Esiele meseum in Kwara state, First skyscraper and TV station in Africa at Oyo state, First university in Nigeria. University of Ibadan in Oyo state, first degree awarding education institution in Africa The Nigeria Baptist Theological Seminary, Ogbomoso, etc
What are three things you love about your country? Hospitality, love of education and tolerance (it is among Yorubas that we have large percentage of interreligious marriages in Nigeria).
Which household item best represents the culture of your country? Pepper. We like pepper and can add it to anything eatable 😀😀😀
Which festival is a specific one for your ethnic culture? In ancient times, the Yorubas are idol worshipper of sango (god of thunder), Ogun (god of iron), esu (Satan), egungun (masquerade) and they have festivals for all these gods but nowadays most of us are Christians and Muslims.
What is the traditional way of greeting someone in your culture? Typically, when greeting an elderly person, the boys prostrate (lie flat on the ground) while the girls kneel down (stand on both knees) and we use plural pronoun when talking about elderly ones.
Which three ancient tradition are still part of your culture? Ceremony especially wedding, naming and burial ceremonies, respect for elders (we don’t joke with this) and love of our foods.
What color or shade represents your culture? Black and Red traditionally.
What religion is prevalent for people of the same ethnicity? The Yorubas practised two main religions; Christianity and Islam and the adherents are almost on 50:50 ratio but we still have ample number of Traditionalists among us.
I hope you have all learnt a little something about my culture
Caveat: My parents’ marriage is not a perfect one, if perfect marriage exists.
My parents will be celebrating their 37th wedding anniversary comes 15th of July and this writeup is about 7 great lessons from their marriage which has inspired me and which should inspire you to desire a responsible marital relationship.
My parents – Mr and Mrs. Alade.
Marriage is still honorable : God declared marriage to be honorable and that loneliness is not good. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Abby Alade’ marriage modelled that biblical saying as duo cannot do without one another and none will take a step without another person’ s consent. This should inspire us and gear us to know that social media, its influencers, celebrities and or anyone’s experiences have not eroded the sacredness, honour and blessedness of marriage.
Furthermore, there is a wide gap between big wedding and happy marriage as my parents had what was called a parlour wedding then ( just payment of bride price and blessing by parents). It was indeed a small wedding that produced a big marriage. God created marriage, human beings created wedding but it needs not be flamboyant, expensive or debt-achieved before we can have a big marriage. My parents did theirs simply and live bigly. Doesn’t that mean if you have the means for big wedding, you shouldn’t do it? Or does expensive wedding automatically means bad marriage? Not at all, the glamorousness of a wedding doesn’t determine longevity and ‘happyability’ of a marriage (in fact a family friend who shared the same wedding date, month and year with them had a big wedding and theirs also is working till date) but the lesson is that we should prepare for marriage than for wedding.
In addition, happy marriage and godly marriage is not the same thing because you can be happily married like Ahab and Jezebel and not be godly married like them. My parents’ marriage is a godly one and because it is godly, happiness is guaranteed because a house inhabitated by Jesus is a happy home and two, a godly home produces a godly offsprings.
Fourthly, what worked for A might not work for B. All those marriage teachings on couples wearing the same clothes, sleeping in the same room and bed, having joint account, sharing house chores has never worked in my family (maybe in the future but for now, not working). Are all these wrong? No, they are not bad in fact they are highly encouraged but it won’t work for all of us. So everyone of us has got to decide what will work for them asthere is not copy and paste marriage because each marriage comes with its unique differences, challenges and uniqueness. My parents don’t sleep in the same room, don’t have joint account and don’t wear same clothes though they have few together, shared housechores and it is working for them for the past 37 years. Design your own happiness.
Sequel to number 4, for a great marriage to occur, like my parents’ only things matter and are needed; LOVE AND SUBMISSION. My dad loves my mum and my mum is a submitted woman. Anything you don’t anybody to hear, don’t tell my dad because he will tell his wife. Contrary to popular opinion, love is unconditional and submission is never slavery.
Divorce is not the solution to every marital problem is the fifth lesson to insipe us. My parents faced a lot of challenges that many secular marriage and relationship experts will have advised calling it quit. The challenges they faced ranges from financial, spiritual, health, in laws problems not excluding abuse of power but they didn’t quit nor give up on one another. They held on prayerfully for their marriage though God’s intervention and godly extended family’ persuasion and today the rest is a good testimony. There are still challenges in the marriage though.
In conclusion, there are still happily married couples on this planet Earth. Forget about society what is saying, happy couples still exist, godly marriage is still possible and happy marriages still abound just that some of those couples are not on Facebook like my parents, don’t have their stories on FP of newspapers and don’t ever talk. Apart from my parents, I knew many of them. You too, can be happily married. Stay blessed and 37 cheers to my parents.
My sister. A farmer, inspirational speaker and an author
n Genesis 7:2, God told Noah to, ‘take with you seven of every kind of clean animal, a male and its mate, and two of every kind of unclean animal, a male and its mate.’
Inside Noah’s ark, there is a space for ferocious lion, gentle lamb, aggresive tiger, large hippopotamus, small mosquitoes, might elephant, tinniest microbes, smart babbons, dullard ostrick, stubborn goat, beautiful peacock, dirty pig and all kind of animals with their behaviours both the preys and the predators.
Today, we have a better ark which is JESUS ARK (as He is both the owner and the builder of this better ark). Inside this ark, there is a space for adulterous Mary, lying Joseph, beautiful Joke, Ugly Dayo, murderous Jonah, betrayal Peter, persecutor Paul, selfish James and John, rich Matthew, poor Samaritan, Dr. Luke, illiterate James and all kinds of people have found solace in JESUS’ ARK of eternal salvation.
Another interesting thing about Noah’s ark is that once an animal steps inside the ark, it loses its known behaviors and take on the attitude of peaceful co-existence. Lion and lamb are living together for 40 days and no problem.
Same way, inside JESUS’ ARK, once you step you must lose your former attitude and take on the attitude of Jesus.
Inside JESUS’ ARK, there is no Jew, no Gentile, no master, no slave, no rich, no poor, no class as we are brethren. Once you step into this ark, all your sin must be done with and you will be forgiven. The ark can only contain those that have been washed by the blood of JESUS. No matter, you past life, there is still space for you in the ark.
Just as Noah make call then, Jesus is making His call saying, ‘repent for the kingdom of God is at hand.’
The entry ticket then is to heed the warning, the ticket now is to heed Jesus’ call to accept Him as your LORD and SAVIOR.
Won’t you rather ‘ark’ with JESUS? Won’t you rather accept JESUS as your lord and savior now so that you can be save eternally (becausw those of Noah’s were only save temporarily).
If you want to enter the ark, say this word of prayer, ‘Lord JESUS, thank you for dieing on the cross for me, I confess my sin and ask for your forgiveness, I accept you as my Lord and Savior henceforth. Thank you for saving me, my loving Jesus (Amen).
If you genuinely do this, take a step in the ark by joining a bible-believing Church in your locality.
Welcome to the ark, Jesus, the ark owner loves you.
Since the beginning of March, our covid19-battered world has been greeted with protests and hash tags have trended on the social media, all over the world over the killing of US black man, George Floyd. Most people on the political divides have commented on the killing but most have not talked from God’s view.
Source: Internet
The problem that world is facing is not caused by racism rather it is caused by sin. Sin is at the Root of every human problems and it leads to death, murder, arson and all ‘ism’ that is why Bible said in Roman 6:23 that the ‘wages of sin is death’.
Did black lives matter? Yes, it matters. Why do it matter? No because they are black but because they are God’s creation and two, all lives, all people of all races and religions matter to God.
All lives matter because God said in Ezekiel 18:23 ‘Do I take any pleasure in the death of the wicked? declares the Sovereign LORD. Rather, am I not pleased when they turn from their ways and live?’ Furthermore, He also declared in 2 Peter 3:9 that ‘The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance’.
So therefore, your live matter to your Creator.
Your neighbors’ lives matter to Him not matter the his\her skin colour.
Prophet Ezekiel had a drastic encounter from God about moving on to next stage/level of our walk with God in Ezekiel 47
Verse 1b said the water is coming from the south side of the temple south of the altar that’s the water is coming from God. The water could signifies many things – rhema, revelation, God’s dealing, instruction, inner voice, inspiration, talents and gifts, prophecy, words of wisdom, etc and they all come from God the creator of all things.
Brother, stop appropriating what is not yours?
Sister, stop claiming what you are not the owner.
Stop all these ‘my messages, my rhema, my song, my rev, our message.’ It is never yours? it belongs to God to the giver of all good gifts .
The ‘water’ was created by God and flow from HIM. Halleluyah!
In our walk with God and our work for God we should never get to a point where we think we have arrived.
In our walk with God, the present level is not the best and final level there is always a next level to spiritual growth and better level to occupy; not because you have a point to score or a medal to get but because you want to deepen the relationship with Father, to know Christ and the power of His ressurection.
In our spiritual growth, there are
trickling level (vs 2)
ankle level (vs 3)
kneel level (vs 4) and
waist level (4b) and
swimming level (vs 5)
If you can talk to GOD, remember there is MOSES who speak with you face to face
If you can write, remember there is a level of PAUL the apostel
If you are obedient, remember there is Abraham level on obedience
If you think you have left something for GOD, remember there is Apostels’ level of leaving all for Christ.
There are next level to your walk with CHRIST.
If you are prophet there are level of Ezekiel prophethood
If you have the gift of healing, remember there is a level of Peter and Paul level of healing with shadows and handkerchief
There is a level of Elijah prophethood who doesn’t need to declare 7 days fasting and prayer to shut the heaven for 3 and half years.
Third lesson, from verse 2-5 is that Ezekiel went on a walk with God from trickling stage to swimming stage so therefore it is not our work for God but our walk with GOD that determine your next level.
Prophet Ezekiel wasn’t given an axe to dig for the water rather he was to follow the Angel for a third of mile to go to another level- trickling to ankle to kneel to waist to swimming and even in swimming level there is depths, lengths,breadths and widths to the knowledge of CHRIST.
Your work for GOD is ushering, prophecy, and various positions in church and positions doesn’t determine your level in Christ as you may not even be in Christ to occupy those positions. Your walk with God is a life of obedience, daily bible study and prayer, surrender, holiness, sacrifice and godliness…It is your walk with God and not your work for GOD therefore;
how far are you ready to WALK with the LORD in obedience?
how far are you ready to go with the LORD in bible study?
how far are you ready to go with GOD im prayer even though your prayers seem unanswered?
how far are you willing to walk with GOD in brotherly fellowship?
Lastly, verse 8 says that when the water flows to the dead sea it gets healed. HCSB version says that there was living in the water
Dead sea did not have any living things but once this water touches it there is a living in it… Hallelujah…So therefore because of the LIVING WATER in us WHO IS JESUS CHRIST in whom we move, live and have our beings, our lives must be a life-giving ones.
They have been collecting bribe in your office, the living water in you must put a stop to it when you start working there.
People die younger in your family, you must put a stop to it
People have been using there gifts and talents to populate hell,you must use yours to depopulate hell.
The depressed must not leave you still felling depressed, he or she must get healing when he or she meets you.
The sinner must not continue sinning after meeting you or you meeting him/her.
The barren situation must receive a fruitful situation when you are involve.
The assembly you just join must not remain cool after joining, there must be freshness.
Every stale situations must receive freshness when you are around because our case is different… halleluyah.
If you don’t have JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR you are not on any level at all talkless of next level so you need to accept JESUS CHRIST as LORD and SAVIOR now. Tommorrow maybe too late.
So you’ve been in a relationship with a woman of your dreams and you can’t wait to drop down on one knee to pop the question, “Will you marry me?”
While this is a good and romantic thing to do, you wanna be sure that you get the best result out of your plan, and that’s why you must know or do some things before you propose to your woman.
Read below the 5 things you must do before proposing to a woman:
Be sure you wanna be with her
I know you’re thinking if it’s possible for a man to propose to a woman without being sure if he wants to be with her.
It’s very possible.
Some men will propose to a woman and still be checking out other women.
If you are not sure she’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then don’t propose to her. Be clear what you want and be sure she’s the one you really want.
Don’t propose to her and start doubting if you’ve made the right decision.
Be sure she’s ready
Are sure she’s ready to be married, and most importantly to you?
If she has projects or education to complete, she might be not be ready to be married.
Have the marriage talk with her
If you are in a serious relationship that you wish it leads to marriage, then you should somehow have the marriage talk with your woman.
This will help you to :
-know her mind
-know if you’re on the same page
-know if she’s ready for marriage
-know if she wants to marry you
-know her thoughts on marriage
You shouldn’t just dump marriage on her without having a talk with her about it. Some women love surprises anyway. But it’s better to be sure to prevent any unpleasant surprises, so that the joke won’t be on you.
Know the kind of proposal she’d love
You should know your woman enough to know the kind of proposal she’d love.
Not everyone loves to be the cynosure of all eyes, with her man on one knee before her being cheered on by a bunch of strangers or even friends.
Not everyone loves a public proposal. She might find a private proposal, the one between the both of you, more romantic.
Shyness may make a woman run away from the venue or become too tongue-tied to respond to your question. Save both of you from avoidable embarrassment.
Remember that the proposal is primarily for her or both of you, not for the world.
There is no award for the most ‘public’ proposal yet.
Public? Yes. Not every public proposal is romantic.
Hahaha.
Prepare your mind for any eventuality
While the four points above will secure you from unpleasant surprises, you should still prepare your mind for any answer because humans can be unpredictable.
Do what you have to do, and let the woman make her decision. If she requests time to think about it, don’t nurse any bitterness against her. Give her the time she seeks.
I believe that a lady who loves you will want to marry you.
Written by Olubunmi Mabel and and gotten from her website http://www.olubunmimabel.com please visit to enjoy other great articles from her.
Our Lord Jesus has risen! He has resurrected! He is not in the tomb again! Amen.
According to the Scripture, our Lord Jesus died and resurrected on the third day;
“Don’t be alarmed,” he said. “You are looking for Jesus the Nazarene, who was crucified. He has risen! He is not here. See the place where they laid him. But go, tell his disciples and Peter, ‘He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see him, just as he told you.’ Mark 16:6-7.
What are the significances of Easter to us as Christians:
Easter tell us that our God that promises will fulfill His promises in due time.
The prophecies about Jesus’ ministry was foretold hundred of years ago before their eventual fulfillment. Many have forgotten about it, many have discarded it and many have come to see it as fable but at the right time in God’s sight, He fulfilled the promises He has made.
My sister, what is it that God has promised you? He will fulfill it.
My brother, the covenant God has made with you, He will keep it.
Is it car, house, marital partner, healing, financial breakthrough, job, etc? Whatsoever He has promised, He will do. Jesus promised to rise on the third day and He did.
Easter gives us hope.
Hope of eternal life, hope of eternal kingdom with our risen King and hope of resurrection. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-15 says;
Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep.
Halleluyah.
Easter also tells us that we are serving a living God.
All other religious leaders compulsorily died and never rose again but our Lord Jesus willinly gave His life and on the third day resurrected again, never to taste death again which means our God is not dead.
He is God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
He is God of the saints of old and present.
He is my God and and He is your God.
He is not dead nor deaf and He still answer prayers prayed in His name.
Easter tells us about God’s love.
John 3:16 says;
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
and Romans 5:6-8 also says;
You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
If He did not deny us of His Son and Himself, what can He deny us?
Nothing.
These are some of the significances of Easter but all these benefits are for His children. Are you a child of God? If not, you can become one now by accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
If you are doing so, say this prayer; Lord Jesus, thank you for dying on the cross for me. I confess my sin, please forgive me. I accept you as my personal Lord and Savior. Thank you for saving me. Amen.
Welcome to God’s family, it is that simple but it doesn’t end here. Do find a bible believing church in your locality and join and I also wish to hear from you.
Lastly from me from Nigeria to you and all other Christians across the world HAPPY EASTER.
Is it a sin to blast in tongue, sing, prophesy or display any spiritual fruit? not! Displaying one or two spiritual gifts is good but the best is displaying spiritual fruits as listed in Galatians 5:22-23.
…display of gift without accompanying display of fruits is showmanship at its best.
That a potential partner display a particular gift doesn’t automatically translate him/her into a good hubby or a good wife because the display of a gift without an accompanying display of fruits is showmanship at its best.
Don’t fall for showmanship because inside the present church is a demon-filled sister who prophesies, fornicating brothers who see sisters as sexual conquest medals who teach, born-against pastor, corrupt men and women in the choir, men and women with questionable salvation experiences in high positions in the church, so be careful.
That he/she displays the gift does not mean he/she will be a profitable partner in marriage, the question is is he/she bearing the fruit?
GOD want you to marry but He doesn’t want you to be miserable in it.
7. God understand that we are in the 21st century
Yes, God knows we are in the 21st century and He also knows if we will live to the 22nd century but He doesn’t understand teachings, doings, actions, and postulation associated with this century that are not consistent with His word.
He doesn’t understand the reason for premarital sex even though that is the norm now.
He doesn’t understand why you want to submit to unholy sexual invites because Joseph had shown him that it is possible to control one’s urge.
He doesn’t understand why you become arrogant now because you are now an undergraduate Daniel, and his friends have proven to him that it is possible to be humble, good-looking, and intelligent and still be Christian.
He doesn’t understand why you want to trade the body for material gains because Mary had shown him that beauty is not a hindrance to godliness.
God doesn’t understand irresponsibility because Joseph and Timothy have demonstrated to Him that you can be youthful and useful to the church and society.
What God understands is that His word stands for all ages, cultures and centuries and that if you have transgressed there is a space for you for repentance.
GOD can’t disown His word for anybody for any reason at any time…God cannot and will not tell you to go and marry an unbeliever even if there are no believing brothers again...
8. God told me to marry an unbeliever
God cannot say one thing in the bible and told you to discard his written word. His word is binding on Him. GOD can’t disown His word for anybody for any reason at any time.
God cannot and will not tell you to go and marry an unbeliever even if there are no believing brothers again ( and He has promised to be your husband self) because He has said ‘do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever and two, nobody becomes a Christian simply because he/she marries a Christian or by going to church. An unbelieving partner is like one aching teeth in your mouth which will eventually cause a bad ache to the entire mouth later if not treated (treatment for an unbeliever is a dose of acceptalin Jesus Christ).
The only message God has for you to unbelievers is the message of salvation not of marriage.
9. There is only one man/woman for me
GOD has indeed destined one particular woman/man as your wife/husband but your marital life is not tied to that particular person because for every Saul and Judas that is fumbling there is always a better David and Mattias to replace them.
If truly you are led by God to go and met Joke and she said no, report back to GOD for the next line of actions which may be; wait for that person or go to another person. Just report back to GOD and don’t make any move without His binding to do so.
What if the person dies? Does that mean you are doomed?
Your marital life is not tied to a single man/woman but to GOD – the originator and sustainer of marriage.
Absolutely NO! because for every dead and faithful Samuel, there are faithful Nathan, Isaiah, Ezekiel, and Joel still living who will be equally faithful and for every Elijah caught up in the whirlwind, there is Elisha who will do double of his work and 50 sons of prophets still living.
Your marital life is not tied to a single man/woman but to GOD – the originator and sustainer of marriage.
10. God’s will is only in marriage
Pure lie. God’s will is not only in marriage it cut across all areas of our life. Be it any type of relationship, business, marriage, social life, finances, speech, etc, there is God’s standard required therein as stated in the bible but the problem is that many of us often relegated God to one corner in most areas of human endeavours and few of us remember him when we want to marry with resultant dullness in our spiritual sensitivity to how He speaks.
There is God’s will you must try to know about that university you intend to go to, a particular course you will, who you can be friends with, places you can go and cannot go, what you can eat, wear, read, how you speak, etc. Try to know His mind in other areas of your life too to experience an all-around successful life.
Remember that knowing and doing God’s will is not only in marriage but in all areas of life.
I, Alade Joel Adetunji Aladeinternational plus other well meaning Nigerians wish to comdemn the attack on Muslim faithfuls at ChristChurch, New Zealand as barbaric and unchristian behavior by a terrorist and commiserate with all those that lost thier loved ones in the attack and ask that the Lord God our Comforter will comfort the town, the families and the nation at large.
I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel and watch over you.
1. God doesn’t lead anyone again since Adam’s issue.
This is a lie as GOD is still leading and directing His people as to whom they will marry. Psalm 32:8 said, ‘I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel and watch over you,’ is a promise of God that is not excluding marriage. If you want His will, He will direct you but what He won’t do for you is to woo the girl/boy, you do that by yourself.
God provided the manna, the Isrealites went out to gather it. (Read Psalm 9:10).
2. God’s will is always one poor unkempt brother or one ugly sister.
This is highly promoted by our ‘Gospelwood.’ Granted, all that glitter are not gold but it’s also true that that it looks dull doesn’t make it a gold either. God’s will for your own marriage may be that rich brother/sister that is always on well-ironed attires or that that brother/sister that is handsome/beautiful.
The only caution here is that don’t let physical qualities be your guide when presenting or accepting a marital proposal as he/she may come in different mold of richness, education, beauty and class. All need to do is ask for God’s leading and be ready to accept His decision because that he/she answers brother/sister doesn’t mean him/her is truly a brother/sister.
God is not defined by a formula as His will may not suit your taste but will definitely sweeten your taste.
GOD WILL NEVER BRING YOU SOMEONE TO SIN WITH
3. Since God brought us together, we can start having sex.
Pure lie as GOD WILL NEVER BRING YOU SOMEONE TO SIN WITH and HE DIDN’T BROUGHT YOU TOGETHER TO COMMIT SIN. He has never, will never and can never encourage sin as Job 34:10 said, ‘ Job 34:10 “So listen to me, you men of understanding. Far be it from God to do evil, from the Almighty to do wrong.’ He loves sinners but abhors sins.
4. My type is not in the Church. This is a pure lie as everything you desire or want in a man/woman as hubby/wiffy is present in a man/woman inside the church. What qualities do you want in a man/woman for a partner? Tall, dark and handsome? literate with or without swag? beautiful? industrious? six pack or figure-8? spirikoko, not-so-spiritual or carnal? rich or poor? slim, chubby or fat? romantic, not romantic or in-between? fashionista or not? talented or not? gentle, aggresive or in-between? All these qualities are inside a man/woman inside the church (and by church,I mean body of Christ throughout the world and not your denomination).
You may not get the person inside your denomination but the person is present in another denominatiom of God’s church.
Your type is in the church so you don’t have any reason to go and marry unbeliever.
Remember God’s will is still human and imperfect so you will have to work on your marriage to make it a beautiful orchard.
5. Marrying God’s will automatically translate to marital bliss.
To some extent, it does but this belief is half-truth. Believing such is like Isreal believing that because God’s will for them is cannan, when they get there the street will be oceans of milk and honey without them doing anything to dig the well of such or they believing that upon entering the promised land, houses will build themselves, streets will paved themselves, crops will grow on theirselves without them planting them. Marrying God’s will doesn’t translate to marital bliss because the man or woman is a human with desire for love, care, respect and attention, if you ignore giving your spouse all these things, one day chicken will come to roost even though he/she is God’s desire for you in marriage and two, even God’s will is imperfect like you.
You have to build your marriage after wedding. That he is a child of God doesn’t mean he doesn’t need respect, he needs it as a man. That she is a born again doesn’t mean she doesn’t need love, she want it as a woman. That you are born again doesn’t mean you don’t need good sex, nice food, peace of mind, clothes, shelter, money, love, care, attention, advice, respect and other dainities of marriage. You really need them to function as profitable spouses. You have to keep beautiful for him and you have to look okay for her despite both of you being a Christian.
Marrying God’s will and becoming non-challant about his/her need is like preparing soil, planting a tree and leaving the tree to do anyhow, the tree may grow but it won’t produce maximally.
Remember God’s will is still human and imperfect so you will have to work on your marriage to make it a beautiful orchard.
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