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  • Love is Enough.

    Love is Enough.

    Welcome to another episode of bubble busting and myths debunking.

    We have agreed that instead of you, looking for you for a friend rather than befriending the one you love and Marrying God’s will as the common vocabulary in the Christian circle is not enough for a fulfilling marriage but staying in God’s will is the key.

    In this article, I am debunking the age long myth of love is not enough to run a happy home.

    Before I proceeded, I must confess that I am also a believer in this slogan until my eyes was opened to the real thing.

    Now, let’s agreed on this matter of fact, love is enough to run a happy marriage.

    Lemme say it again; Love is more than enough to maintain a godly home.

    Yes, I agreed that selfish human natures cannot sustain a Christian home but we are not called to love our spouse humanly but as Christ loves His Church. How? The Agape way.

    What are then the characteristics of love that we are called to? The answer is not farfetched. It is near us in the greatest book of all time Bible, part called Apostle Paul First letter to the Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4 – 8,13.

    The Bible described love as follows;

    ⁴Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant,

    ⁵is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs.

    ⁶Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth.

    ⁷It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

    ⁸Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end.

    ¹³Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love—but the greatest of these is love.

    Now, tell me which relationship will not thrive in the presence of all the attributes highlighted?

    Less, we forget lemme remind you that love is more than enough to run a Christian family.

    If he loves you he won’t abuse you because love finds no joy in unrighteousness.

    If she loves you, she will submit to your leadership because love is not rude.

    If he loves you he will provide for you as the husband and father in the house because love is not self-seeking.

    If LOML loves you, he/she will keep no records of your wrongdoings.

    Finally, lemme remind you that love as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13 is more than enough for our marriage, courtship and relationship.

    T for thanks, C for the comment and S for share.

    Scripture quotation from Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

  • God’s will is not enough.

    God’s will is not enough.

    This month is for clearing and busting bubbles and myths about relationships, marriage and Courtship.

    Bust the first bubble here

    Today, we will puncture the balloon of ‘all what I need for a happy marriage is to marry God’s will’

    To start with, in Agricultural practices, we have various farming operations namely; pre-planting, planting, post-planting, harvesting and post-harvesting operations.

    The first bubble, how many of us know what is God’s will and how many of us have limited Divine will to marital choice only?

    Now, let’s assume all of us know what is God’s perfect plan for us concerning marital choices but do you know that that doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage.

    Why? Because marrying assumed God’s will is pre-planting operations; something that must be done before marriage and I hope everyone agrees with me that a good pre-planting operation doesn’t mean that a farm will be good. Other operations must be performed to have a good harvest.

    Marrying your God’s ordained spouse is pre-planting operations combing these operations with other operations is what makes a marriage happy.

    Such operations like;

    • Appreciating your spouse.
    • Constant forgiveness
    • Affirmative display of love
    • Prayers
    • Good sex
    • Effective communication
    • Tolerance
    • Etc.

    Doing the former while neglecting the latter is what turned a Christian home into an unattended garden which will soon be run over with weeds of malice, stalled communication, bickerings, etc. This is why some Christians are enduring their union. Not because they allegedly mismarry but because they hand off their marriages almost immediately after their wedding.

    The second reason why the myth doesn’t work is that even God’s will for your life is still a human being.

    And the third reason is; that you have to marry a kind person.

    T for thanks and C for the comment.

  • Your friend won’t marry you.

    Your friend won’t marry you.

    Let’s burst a bubble! There are many myths you might have heard about Courtship and Marriage which are half-truths and outright lies. So I am gonna take a couples of days to burst some bubbles.

    Today the first bubble to burst is the bubble of marrying your friend i.e., someone you have known for years.

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    Lemme start like this, if I asked you to name your friends, you would probably be mentioning those you had known from 7, 10, 20, 30 years ago.

    So if you are thinking of marrying your friend, you may have to wait and build friendship for a long period of time. A plan dangerous for two reasons.

    For a start, guys, none of your female friends is ready to date or marry you. Not because you are not lovely, up-to-taste or no feellings, but because of familiarity complex.

    She knew you probably from diapers and you too knew her.

    Two, only one out of ten couples actually marry their longtime friend. The remaining ones BEFRIEND their spouse.

    Now, since you won’t have time to build quality friendship because it takes time and resources, what are you going to do? Are you gonna marry a total stranger or an enemy?

    Not at all, but instead of forming niceness, rendering unsolicited helps, advices and visits, commenting epistels on his/her post, etc, for someone you have feelings for, SPEAK UP ( in Nigerian parlance, TOAST HIM/HER) and then BEFRIEND your choice, provided you have your choice’s neccesary bio. Bio such as:

    • original and official name
    • Religious and church affiliation ( I mean real, offline and physical church he/she attends)
    • Genotype
    • Mentors
    • Etc.

    Lastly, another reason you won’t have time to build credible friendship is that another guy is around the corner who is not ready to observe the rule of friendship or you think na only your eye she dey enter?🥰🥰🥰

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