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Now, if I had a million dollars to give away, I will first of all do massive investments into agriculture and education.
I hate hunger and ignorance.
Secondly I will look for a nice Christian program to sponsor. It could be Evangelism outreach, singles hangouts, prayer meetings, youth congress, couples’ dinners, etc.
Then lastly, I will wake up from my dreams and go to hospital to treat malaria. 😀😀😀
Welcome to my page and I love you for being here. Thanks for you the past 18 days and the remaining 12 days.
Today, I want to speak about principle that defines how I live my life as a human being, Nigerian, father, husband, employee, etc and I called it the Principle of Minus Me.
I have decided in my life that if anyone gonna have problem I won’t be part of his/her problem
My boss may have many problems but I won’t be his problem
My wife may have issue, but I won’t be the issue.
You may have problem, but I won’t be your problem or part of it.
If I can’t add to you, I will make sure I am not subtracting from you.
Welcome to day 16 of #OctoberChallenge. Thanks for your share, likes and following.
Let me tell you a personal story.
It was in 2015. I was in my final Year as undergraduate and we used to have a weeklong program called FYB week – Final Year Brethren Week.
This is both done on departmental, faculty and university bases and for each day, a program is planned.
Where I felt out of place was the university’s own. On the third day, which is tagged Crazy day.
The idea is to dress crazily. Act funny. Behave silly. Since I can’t do what many will do (which I believe is extreme) and I want to participate in the program.
Do you what I did? I wore a bathroom slippers to school, not knowing the program have been cancelled.
I felt so embarrassed and totally out of place that day.
As a result of growing up where cane was the order of the day for any misbehaviour (infact, ‘I will tell you dad,’ is enough for me to allow you ride me because how I wan explain public fighting to Bàbá Olugbala Gbami 😀😀😀).
As a result of that, I grew up loving administering canes and I am so damn good at it when I started teaching at Happiness High School.
I no fit lie, the kain type of beating I gave my students six years ago, I can’t allow any teacher to give my kids ooo now and I tender my apologies to for ‘too much cane’ and not for punishment per se. You know, Master Joel loves you.
Then one day, I have a rethink. One, beating is waste of energy. What is the purpose of caning that you will do and be feeling pains all over your body after?
Two, these students are beginning to hate me and three, then I was too single and don’t know how it used to do parents but now, I scarcely use cane because I know how childbirth and training one looks like.
Na beg I beg my students of 5 ago, not to visit the my ‘sin’ on Kyle-XY and his siblings if them be their teachers. Ìdí mi o ti jinná.
The lessons here;
1. Dear parents, by all means and truthfully, I am urging you to provide a lovely childhood environment for your kids. The environment you are providing now will be 50% of what they will used to build their homes.
2. If you went through any not-so-palatable experience while growing up, go for therapy.
That you haven’t erupted doesn’t mean you won’t when the right weather is available. The seed was just dormant in you.
Don’t even think you turn out well. You, didn’t. You just a walking dormant volcano.
Therefore You need to seek healing, relearning, mind reformation and teaching.
Granted, my father is a very loving father. Talk about, fathers should go to the PTA meetings, I can’t relate because my mum never attended one in my school.
Despite that, my dad is a strict disciplinarian who spare no rod and spoilt not. We all thought when we grow up we won’t be like him not knowing he has our very best at heart. What I am driving at? If you are not yet a parent, you know not a thing about parenting. Take this from me, Marriage is far easy to do that parenting.
You thought your father is unfriendly when he always stay aloof after work and whereas he is thinking how the rent will be paid.
You thought your mother is too strict for constantly warning about being distracted by boys whereas she just want the best for you.
Most of our parents want the very best for us (though they at times go overboard) but most of them deeply loved me.
And you wouldn’t understand why and how they are behaving like that until you have yours.
That’s why I’m not praying again not to become like my dad, my prayer is to do more better than him for my own kids by God’s grace only.
Welcome to day 12 of #OctoberChallenge. Today’s topic is a hmmmmm!
Do not judge anything before its time
To start with, nowadays, before I condemned a particular thing, system or person, I will first of all, ask myself, ‘is this thing truly bad or is it because I can afford it.’
A topic or issue about which I’ve changed your mind about is Marriage.
Dearly beloved, to talk about marriage is easy but to do the Marriage is the main thing.
There are many thing I believed as single, that I no longer believed in now.
For example, I thought pregnancy was easy as single, but now I will gladly advocate for 9-months maternity leave for nursing mothers.
Furthermore, my disposition towards house chores as single is not that encouraging but in marriage, I see that house chores is a full-time job
I repeat, Courtship and Marriage are two different thing. The latter makes you feel good, the former is serious work of love, responsibilities and commitment.
As a result of this, I don’t criticize people, system, because I don’t always have the full story.
I concluded with this Bible quote, do not judge anything before it’s time.