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  • Why I ‘Banned’ My Wife from Early Morning Radio Prayer 3 – Some Lessons From RCCF Family House.

    Why I ‘Banned’ My Wife from Early Morning Radio Prayer 3 – Some Lessons From RCCF Family House.


    By now, you should know the word banned as used was used tongue in check. If you miss part 1 and 2. Check the click the links below.

    One organisation that I joined that the impact and influence have not left me is Redeemed Christian Corpers Fellowship Gumel Family House.

    What a beautiful family of God.

    Now, the fellowship is being run on 3 fronts; family, church and organization but the family part is the most obvious, hence we called the president, Pape (papa). Woman can also be president too. Infact, NCCF Gumel of our batch president was a mama), mame, uncle, Aunt, etc.

    Though, all of us are corpers but once you are the roof of the family house, Pape is both the exclusive physical and spiritual head of the house, assisted of course, by Uncle, Mame, Aunt, etc.

    Is he the most spiritual? I doubt that assertion but still, he has the exclusive responsibility of making sure spiritual fervor of the house is going on thru various spiritual activities like morning and night devotions, Friday, Bible study, prayer meetings, etc.

    Did he do everything? No. In fact, he allocated members of the house to 90% of the activities.

    Mame leading prayer in one of our monthly crossover vigils.


    What is the moral of the story; a man being priest of the house doesn’t mean he will be in charge of every spiritual activities in the house, he should coordinate his household even if everything he does at the venue of those activities is saying amen and sharing the grace.

    What of if a woman is more spiritual than her husband? She should still let the man be the priest of the house. I believe a godly husband won’t smoothen the gifts of God in his wife.

    What of if he is not forthcoming? Hold the forth for him. Both of you are of the royal priesthood but we still have the high priest.

    May God uphold and bless the RCCF GUMEL family House and His body worldwhile in Jesus name.

    Gaskiya, eternally as one big family.🎶🎶

    Ire oooooooo.

  • Why I ‘banned’ My Wife From Early Morning Prayer 2.

    Why I ‘banned’ My Wife From Early Morning Prayer 2.

    Yesterday, I wrote the first part of this story and someone tackled me courageously for using the word banned. He didn’t troll me



    Though I used the word banned deliberately it is not that deep.

    I could remember when I told my wife about my dissatifisation about the said MoG, we were in the kitchen that morning and I don’t think we discussed the issue more than 2 times.

    What is my drift? A man’s headship is not absoluteness. That a man is a head doesn’t make him an absolute leader who dishes out commands at his whims and caprice (though in some cases, you have to stand your ground especially when it has to do with spiritual issues).

    Headship is not lordship.

    A man as a priest of the house doesn’t mean he got to the one leading all the morning devotions and that he is most spiritual but despite that, even if he is not spiritual up to his wife, he should coordinate it.

    My wife can pray longer hours than I do conveniently.

    Three, correct headship means delegation, e.g., mummy you take prayer, Kyle-XY, you read Bible for us while Gwen sings for us, etc and rotate it among yourself like that.

    Fourthly, a correct headship allows others in the family to be what God created them to be and each has a personal relationship with their God.

    Your headship should not tamper with your wife’s relationship with God in prayer, fellowship, and the word nor should the little kids suffer spiritually because their dad is not forthcoming.

    Number five, headship is not lordship. We are not the Lord and Messiah of our house.

    You didn’t die for anyone.

    Therefore, stop behaving like Jesus because you are not.


    Lastly, a marital headship is a headship under Christ. Any head not subject to Christ will malfunction and misbehave. Therefore, submit yourself to the Lord.

    Orí gbogbo wa o ni daaru oooooooo loruko Jesu

  • Pastor Jerry Eze and Our wives; Why I ‘banned’ My Wife From Early Morning Radio Prayer.

    Pastor Jerry Eze and Our wives; Why I ‘banned’ My Wife From Early Morning Radio Prayer.

    There was this popular MoG who do early morning prayer on Ajilete FM that I adamantly forbid my wife from listening to.

    I told her, ‘I am not saying you shouldn’t listen to him but not under my own roof.’

    I didn’t banned her because the man was fake. I didn’t think the MoG is, but I find some of his modus operandi unbiblical.

    Likewise, some songs like Daddy wey dey pamper is not fit my own family. While I am around, she mustn’t.

    I will soon delete that song from her phone sef.

    I once collected her purse and gave her only transport fare when she was going for a crusade organized by one prophet olororo.

    What is my drift? I have no qualm with Pastor Jerry Eze and his YouTube early morning prayer ministry but it is a disgrace and dishonour to you, the man of the house, if your woman can wake up to listen to other man before you.

    It’s a disgrace to my fatherhood if my kids are doing morning devotion via internet led by another man and your wife and kids aren’t to be blamed.

    Therefore, we men, should truly man up and be the leader God made us.

    The likes of Pastor Jerry Eze* and co come into equation because many men are not spiritual leader. He is filling the gaps created by spiritually-absent fathers.

    Your wife jumping from one prayer mountain to another is because you haven’t ascertain and stay in your spiritual headship in the house.

    And for those joining Pastor Jerry from their boyfriend’s room, just dey play ooo, dey play ooo.

    May God helps us to discharge our duties accordingly.

    Ire oooooooo

    Watch out for part 2

    *Pastor Jerry Eze run an early morning prayer on his YouTube channel daily. You can follow him

  • Tales of a Nursing Dad – 8.

    Tales of a Nursing Dad – 8.

    ARE YOU THE ONLY ONE TO BE PREGNANT THAT YOU SALIVATING?

    Welcome to another episode of #TalesofANursingDad.

    Let me tell you a story. The person who defines fear as fake expectations appearing real deserve two cups of garium sulphate😄😄

    Before I got married, one thing I feared and prayed against most is my wife probably spitting saliva when pregnant and having unwholesome cravings.

    I knew pregnancy symptoms different in different women. I have also seen pregnant women who drool (some even with a bottle they spit in in their bags 😔).

    The sights of those saliva bottles and handkerchiefs were so disgusting and irritable to me.

    I can’t just stand the sight of it.

    But lo and behold, mummy Kyle-XY never drool for a minute though out the gestation period and no unholy desires. 😍😍😍

    See, your fears are legit but they are not real.

    They are fake expectations appearing real.

    Most of your fears won’t happen. Many of them are unrealistic.

    Therefore, marry first before being afraid of what your family will eat.

    Travel first before you complained of accidents.

    Record and upload that videos, then worry about views.

    Write that book and then worry about buyers.

    Most of your fears are fake expectations and even if they eventually happened, you can withstand them.

    Even if mummy Kyle-XY demanded Red Sea crocodile pepper soup, shey I get a choice not to provide for her ni?

    Had she drolled, shey I go run away ni?

    May God empowers us to be courageous to take the next step in Jesus’ name.

    What are your fears about marriage ?

  • Tales of a Nursing Dad – 6

    Tales of a Nursing Dad – 6

    Topic 6 – Calm Down.

    I know this is a controversial topic on Nigerian social media space – The caesarian section or vaginal birth.

    I know none of them is a sin and I could have shared a story from our experience but I did not have my wife’s permission for now till 2026 (I will write the article after this one and schedule it).

    Apart from the cost of the surgical procedure, the #talesofANursingdad is telling you, if you see the instruments for the process and you love your wife, you will not wish for it.

    Now, to that woman who had assisted non-natural delivery, I am telling you, the process did not make you less mom than the woman who gave birth through the other mean. You are MVP and God blesses you. Amen.

    P.S.: Here is the link for Tales of a Nursing Dad – 7 which will be published on 11/06/2026. See you then.

    Did you have natural birth or cesarian section?

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad – 5

    Tales of A Nursing Dad – 5

    Topic 5 – GOD ANSWERED MY PRAYER.

    I have heard and read about many pregnancy tales – inordinate food cravings, ‘crazy’ behaviour, uncontrollable appetite and different funny and not-so-funny pregnancy journey.

    When my elder sister was pregnant, from day one till delivery, she was spitting saliva. Apologies, but it puked me and make me pray a funny simple prayer – ‘ God, please don’t let my wife spit during pregnancy oooo,’ and God did answer it.

    My wife didn’t spit nor did she have any inordinate cravings during the duration.

    Screengrab from Facebook.

    What are the lessons I want you to learn from this episode of #talesofANursingDad; one, God answers prayers even the real funny ones. Even if she spit during the pregnancy, God still answered my prayer.

    In addition, pregnancy experiences differ. That she didn’t spit doesn’t mean yours will not and that she didn’t spit now doesn’t mean she won’t in subsequent ones. Therefore, never belittle the experience of nursing and or waiting-for moms. The shoes pinch differently.

    Nursing mums and dads, can you share your pregnancy experiences in the comment section?

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad 3

    Tales of A Nursing Dad 3

    Topic 3 – I was depressed because everyone thinks I am a tree.

    After six and a half months, we lost our first baby prematurely.

    To be candid, I was happy that soonest I am going to be a father. I prayed earnestly for her arrival. Prepare like never before. Spend my emotions, and give up my bed space to make it comfortable for my pregnant wife. All in vain.

    I was pained but what pains me most is that most of those who came to sympathize with us left me and offer comforting words to only my wife.

    Their usual salvo when they wanted to start their tirade is, ‘Be a man,’ ‘You have to be there for your wife,’ bla bla blah as if I too don’t need comforting.

    As if I am a wood without emotions.

    As if it wasn’t my baby too.

    As if I didn’t contribute anything to the well-being of my kid.

    Most of them have no encouraging and comforting words for me – a miscarriage father and it makes me sadder.

    Some even insulted my parents but I have forgiven all of them because God has comforted me.

    Conclusively, dear all, if you can’t offer hope and comfort for both, leave them alone.

    P.S: any experience with miscarriage, care to share?

  • 40 ROMANTIC WORDS FOR COUPLES by Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike

    40 ROMANTIC WORDS FOR COUPLES by Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike

    #Exclusively for the married:

    Dear married friends,

    Marriage is very sweet and it’s for a lifetime. One way to keep it sizzling is by remaining romantic to your spouse every day. In marriage, nobody outgrows romance. When the romance level drops, the fun level in that marriage drops as well. Marriage is primarily about the two spouses, not the children. Therefore have fun; enjoy yourselves.

    Marriage is what the two spouses make of it. No marriage can be any sweeter than the husband and the wife in it. Marriage is like a building. And God gave us the exclusive rights to build it to our taste and shape. God doesn’t get in our way with respect to the taste and shape we give to our marriage. Because He is not the one getting married; but you and your spouse. It is generally observed that most Africans are not usually romantic as spouses. Tonight, I would like to advise all spouses in the house to re-write the narratives of their marriages. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t be shy. Make it sweet, fun and enjoyable. Marriage is such a long time to be bored in it. To help us, I have catalogued some love expressions romantic spouses use. I am also using them. Please enjoy (don’t laugh your heart out o). But if you are “Spirit Koko” (that’s more spiritual than the Holy Spirit himself) please just “Waka pass” and don’t say anything. Allow those who know what I am talking about to enjoy the reading.

    1. I love you so much, Baby
    2. You are the best thing that happened to me
    3. You look cute
    4. I like your perf (perfume)
    5. This meal is so delicious
    6. I love you so much, Baby
    7. Thank you so much for the gift
    8. I like the way you give it to me on the bed
    9. You are wild like a cat on the bed
    10. You look sexy
    11. You look gorgeous
    12. I can’t wait to see you
    13. I can’t wait to have more of you
    14. I like it whenever you are inside of me
    15. You were so electrifying last night.
    16. I like the way you hit me hard.
    17. I miss you so much
    18. I love you more
    19. I got you some gifts
    20. Do you like it?
    21. I like those sexy eyes
    22. Please give me some more
    23. Have a great day, Baby!
    24. I will miss you
    25. I am the happiest man in the world
    26. I can’t stop thinking about you
    27. Oh my God, our last dinner out was memorable
    28. Welcome, sweetheart!
    29. How was your day?
    30. Honey, did you have a great day?
    31. Baby, the dinner is ready
    32. Babe, I made your favorite
    33. How much do you love me?
    34. Baby, I want you inside of me
    35. Please kiss me hard
    36. Squeeze my boobs hard
    37. Play with my nipples
    38. Honey, caress me
    39. Let me sit on your laps
    40. Please cuddle me

    Many thanks for reading, commenting, liking and sharing.

    Your friend,

    Coach Joshua

    Photo credits: Facebook News Feed

    Follow him on Facebook at Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike
  • Tales of A Nursing Dad 2

    Tales of A Nursing Dad 2

    Topic 2 – Dear Man, know this fact about pregnancy.

    During our first pregnancy, during the first semester, my wife was vomiting daily. Every food she eat got vomited within 10 minutes of eating it. It got so bad that I had to run to my mother-in-law on what to do. She assured me that no problem. That it is normal for some women. Funnily enough, she didn’t experience it during the second one.

    During the last one, from the first month, her two legs doubled its size but throughout the first one which lasted for 6½ months, she didn’t have swollen legs.

    In continuation, though my wife will argue she got fatter during those periods but I think she reduced in size during both occurrences 🤩🤩🤩.

    Furthermore, my wife was a great cook . Infact, she is a professional caterer and CEO of Praise Foods but I noticed that the sweetness of her prepared food reduced. Not throughout but compared to before, it reduces.

    She told her mentor how she developed a hatred for me during the first week of discovering she was pregnant during the first one but she wasn’t insulting but during the second one, no feeling of hatred but the ‘insults’ no be here

    She will be happy in the morning and be moody in the evening. She may be playful in the evening and before we woke up, she can’t explain herself again.

    Should I talk about injections, drugs, surgical operation, mood swings, loss of my bed space, irregular sex, etc?

    The first lesson I want you to derive from this episode of #talesofaNursingDad is that no two pregnancies are the same. Two, you have to be understanding. Things won’t be like before again.

    Sex won’t be like before.

    Communication won’t be like before she starts nursing.

    Different hormones are working on her so you have to pay a sacrifice, for her whom you called the love of your life, and for the kid she is carrying or nursing.

    Lastly you can get my new book – 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings here

    Thanks for reading.

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad – 1

    Tales of A Nursing Dad – 1

    Topic 1 – Felicitate with Us. It’s A Boy and A Book

    Hi, friends. You might have noticed my absence here. Cool! It was a joyous absence as Yahweh gave my wife and I, the gift of a bouncing baby boy some weeks ago.

    Now, as Yoruba and Christian cultures demand, that on the 8th day of birth, a child should be named, here are his names:

    Samuel, Adeyemi, Mofiyinfoluwa, Oluwatamilore, Oluwatobiloba, Olusola, Gavi, Victor, Chisom,

    Also to celebrate the arrival of my boy, I write and dedicate a new book to him, titled 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings where I highlighted Yoruba naming cultures and the meanings of 500 beautiful, well researched and fantastic Yoruba names for your newly born. Trust me, you are gonna love it!

    You want to gift us a naming gift, do so by pre-ordering 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings for $2 here

    Your congratulations are now in order

    #talesofaNursingDad

  • How to escape abusive Relationship.

    How to escape abusive Relationship.

    How will they know, if they are not told? Who will tell them when no one has been sent?

    The only reason you have concluded that violence, cheating, quarreling, and fighting are part of a godly relationship is that you have not read, are ignorant, or are under demonic attack.

    You think drama-less relationships are mythical because you don’t know what a relationship is all about.

    Dear, you subscribe to that idea of small weekly gba gbos in a relationship because you don’t know what to do in a Christian courtship.

    Oya, touch the ground with your right hand. Done abi? Now use it to touch your chest.

    As per your friend wey I be, I got a solution for you through this ebook titled A Tearless Courtship written by Alade Joel.

    The book covers such topics like

    What is Courtship?

    Purpose of Courtship?

    3 stages of Courtship.

    50 courtship questions?

    50 non-combative, funny, edifying activities in Courtship.

    7 dos and don’ts of Courtship.

    For how much? For now, for free.

    Where: Here.

  • Lessons From 2022/23 EPL Season.

    The hype is real. The banter is sweet and the taunts are never ending. Football is sweet. Now these are lessons from the season:

    1. Like Manchester City, it won’t be bad, if you are a serial winner.

    2. Like Arsenal, good football may not be enough to win the league.

    Good appearance may not be able to win that sister.

    Good intents may not be enough to win.

    But aim for the star, if you miss, you will hit the moon. Arsenal aimed for the league, lost it, but gain UCL ticket.

    3. Do you know Tottenham Hotspur have the greeniest EPL stadium but they are one unserious club? No drive and passion to win trophy. Lesson therein, aso nla ko leyan nla (big clothes is not big man)

    Packaging is good but your content should be topmost of your drive.

    6. Concerning Harry Kane, just know the difference between being loyal to a worthy cause and being loyal to a worthless cause. Obviously, Kane is just loyal to a useless cause. He needs a trophy to cement his greatness.

    You need to dump that dakudaji relationship. It has overspent its usefulness.

    Loyalty to a cheating girlfriend is both wastage of time and resources.

    6. By all means possible, make someone happy this year, like Manchester United and this Calabar, sorry, carabao cup trophy win 😀😄

    7. About $600m spent, no show for Chelsea. Idan for nothing but Blue is still the country.

    See, no lesson to learn from my club this season. Next season, we cook all.

    8. We welcome Luton, Sheffield United and Burley while bidding Leceister City, Southampton and Leeds United farewell

    9. Lastly, we are going into a period where Fabrizio Romano is more important than your girlfriends.

    See you on August 5 for another season.

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