How will they know, if they are not told? Who will tell them when no one has been sent?
The only reason you have concluded that violence, cheating, quarreling, and fighting are part of a godly relationship is that you have not read, are ignorant, or are under demonic attack.
You think drama-less relationships are mythical because you don’t know what a relationship is all about.
Dear, you subscribe to that idea of small weekly gba gbos in a relationship because you don’t know what to do in a Christian courtship.
Oya, touch the ground with your right hand. Done abi? Now use it to touch your chest.
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Lessons From 2022/23 EPL Season.
The hype is real. The banter is sweet and the taunts are never ending. Football is sweet. Now these are lessons from the season:
1. Like Manchester City, it won’t be bad, if you are a serial winner.
2. Like Arsenal, good football may not be enough to win the league.
Good appearance may not be able to win that sister.
Good intents may not be enough to win.
But aim for the star, if you miss, you will hit the moon. Arsenal aimed for the league, lost it, but gain UCL ticket.
3. Do you know Tottenham Hotspur have the greeniest EPL stadium but they are one unserious club? No drive and passion to win trophy. Lesson therein, aso nla ko leyan nla (big clothes is not big man)
Packaging is good but your content should be topmost of your drive.
6. Concerning Harry Kane, just know the difference between being loyal to a worthy cause and being loyal to a worthless cause. Obviously, Kane is just loyal to a useless cause. He needs a trophy to cement his greatness.
You need to dump that dakudaji relationship. It has overspent its usefulness.
Loyalty to a cheating girlfriend is both wastage of time and resources.
6. By all means possible, make someone happy this year, like Manchester United and this Calabar, sorry, carabao cup trophy win 😀😄
7. About $600m spent, no show for Chelsea. Idan for nothing but Blue is still the country.
See, no lesson to learn from my club this season. Next season, we cook all.
8. We welcome Luton, Sheffield United and Burley while bidding Leceister City, Southampton and Leeds United farewell
9. Lastly, we are going into a period where Fabrizio Romano is more important than your girlfriends.
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If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.
Though she was my toastee. But the peace she gives is extraordinary and when I eventually met the real my wife, peace like a river attendeth my soul and I know it’s well with my soul.
If you believe this you need prayer ASAP .
Now, Give about 100 ladies, an option to choose between a cool calm guy and a rash playboy, 80% will probably choose the latter with the belief that a relationship with the former will be boring. Why? It will not involve beating, cheating, quarrels, or fightings.
See, something must be faulty about your parentage, mentality, and brain if you believed that violence (even if it is a touch of it), beatings, cheating, and premarital sex are hallmarks of relationships.
Pathetically, some Christian ladies believe such rubbish.
Dear, you need MFM standard deliverance, if you believe that a relationship without all those vices will be boring.
Because with all the problems going on across the globe, why will a reasonable person add relationship problems to it?
Why will a reasonable person think there is progress and joy in calamities?
Why will someone with a functioning brain think true love/relationship is fighting today, quarreling tomorrow, suspecting one another the day after and fake love is tranquility and peace of mind?
The manifestation of those vice should be testimonial enough that so-called fake true relationship is abusive and ungodly.True love/relationship is not done in chaos.
Lakotan ara, K’Olorun le wa pelu èmí re, jeki ori re kope (finally brethren, if you want God to be with you, calm down).Share this:
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Relationship Mindshift 7 – WHY DOES OUR ‘UNBELIEVING’ PARENTS’ MARRIAGE SEEM TO LAST MORE THAN OURS?
In the film #Enoch, Deboye and Folu met and got married while they are unbelievers. They got saved on the same day, at the same place, listening to the same preacher.
But despite that, they still seem to have a good house before their salvation experience, and why people are asking how is that possible?
To be factual, most of our grandparents and parents are not born again but they seem to have more lasting marriages than this present generation. How come?
Number one, a happy home is not part of the salvation package. It’s not a criterion for making heaven. It is not even exclusively for Christians.
My dear, I have seen unbelievers with a good union and believers with a terrible one.
Two, though most of them as I said are mere Churchgoers then they have fear of God (iberu Olòrun), good character (iwa rere), and a good conscience (eri okan) and it impacted how they live.
Boye and Folu have not come to the knowledge of Christ then but they still kept the bed undefiled nowadays, we have supposed Christians who are debating whether cohabiting or premarital sex is a sin.
We have supposed modern Christians with all their exegesis without an iota of fear of God.
We have supposed tongue-speaking Christians who are intolerable everywhere.
Modern Christians are perfect examples of worshipping God with a mouth but a heart far from God.
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Relationship Mindshift 6 – 3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.
3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.
Good day, how are you? I hope you are fine.
Before I proceed with this write, I want to inform you that you can pre-order my two new books – MEET AND MARRY and 500 YORUBA NAMES AND THEIR MEANINGS from Amazon.com. To do so, click here
Now, to our topic of discussion, let me start with a story. I remembered when I met my wife and having accepted my proposal. She told her Uncle, who is her defacto father and also vocationally a pastor. He contacted my pastor who happened to be his colleague to ask about me and my pastor gave a positive remark about me.
Also, while we are house hunting during our wedding preparations, we were chanced to met one of my juniors, who remarked that I am gentle.
After wedding, we discovered that our neighbors were my seniors – both husband and wife and they also commented that I am a good man.
I believed all these favourable testimonials about me cemented my wife’s resolve that I am a good man.
What I am aiming at? Bar perfection, don’t ever date someone with bad reputation and if you are dating such people, go and quit.
He/she was known as bad guy, anything-in-skirt, thief, loud-mouthed, and many other negative tags to his parents, neighbors, friends, his church, etc. Forget it. The relationship is an unholy alliance between light and darkness.
You can’t know him more than them.
Another set of people you should never date are those who believe that there is nothing you can do, a marriage doomed to fail will fail.
If you say, wife respect your husband,they will say, it doesn’t prevent cheating.
If you tell them, husband loves your wife, they will reply, it doesn’t prevent break-up.
Read books, they will say, it’s not a determinant of good a marriage will be.
In their thinking, there is nothing you can do to enjoy your home. If it will fail, it will fail but they forget to know that that we know accident may occur with our cars but we will not say before of that we will not check the tires, water level, brakes, etc before moving out.
Don’t ever date them because they always have losers’ mentality who gives up before the start of actual battle. They won’t fight for the sanctity, sacredness, and exclusivity of your home
The third type are those with bad company. Bad company corrupts good manners and no one is good and godly than the corridor of friends he kept.
He is only one who is faithful in relationship amidst his friends? It’s only a matter of time, a friend reflects the face of his friend.
All her known friends are into hookups, trust me, she is either fooling you or she hasn’t started yet.
The person is godly but all his/her core circle are ungodly people. Don’t sleep on it, it’s a matter of time.
Finally on this, the maxim is true, show me your friend and I will tell the kind of person you are.
I love you.
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Relationship Mindshift 5 – Give Up Everything You Have For This.
I waited for it and I am grateful to God for giving me the grace to do it.
One of my desires (even before I got born again) is to be a virgin till I got married. My aim is that I don’t want any lady to say of me that I used her.
Thank God for keeping me safe even when the journey want to be comatose at a point, but His grace kept me.
Now, my first sexual experience, at 32, with my wife was electrifying, fun, fabulicious, heavenly, undescribable, and satisfying. Something you have been waiting for, for 32 good years.
But after the whole heavenly show, I asked myself, is that all, and I thank Yahweh for waiting.
My reason for the question is that, is this all Samson lost his power for?
Is this what people lost their senses and dignity for?
Is this all what Reuben lost his heritage for?
Is this what the ancient Kingdom and empire were destroyed for?
Is this what people commonalise and commercialize?
I repeat, I thank God for helping me make and kept that decision.
Dear Single Pringle, if you are still a virgin, I beg you, jealousy keep it. I’m promising you, you won’t regret doing so.
The wait will be worth it. Apart from the benefits of not having pregnancy and STDs scarce, you will be very happy you did. I can give you that assurance.
And if you are not a virgin anymore but you have taken the oat of celibacy till your wedding nite, I can assure you, you are making a worthwhile and future joy-giving decision.
You can’t regret keeping your body holy.
Lastly, I have a book for you. A book that can help you in this purity journey titled, God Doesn’t want you to Be a Virgin and is available for free. Download hereShare this:
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Relationship Mindshift 4 – Food or Sex?
Please read this article carefully. This isn’t an against-sex post neither it’s limiting nor berating the importance of sex in marriage but correcting the notion of comparing food to sex and vice versa.
This is a link to an article here, where I wrote about its importance in marriage
Now, comparing both is a sacrilege against food. Food is not sex. Sex is food. Both are unique, good, and holy and in my opinion, you need food to perform your conjugal bedmatics well. Empty stomach can’t perform very well on bed.
Two, food is a basic need that you can’t do without while the other is a physiological need that you can survive without.
Three, food is a mile ahead of sex, you started eating from the womb while the other, you should start it when you are married.
Summarily, think about food before sex but know that God will bring an end to both, one day.
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Relationship Mindshift 3 – Demanding A Child From The Pope.
When PSG player, Hakimi’s story of hiding his property in his mother’s name after his ex-wife asked for 50% of it during their divorce proceeding, broke out, a good friend asked for my opinion and I answered, ‘I can’t approve or condemn Hakimi’s move because, he is not a Christian and he didn’t marry under Christian guidelines so I am not expecting him to behave like one.
Furthermore, demanding marital faithfulness from someone like Davido and co is like demanding that your son who is a pope should give you, a grandkid. We all know that it’s impossible.
Now, that impossibility is what most singles are expecting in marriage.
You marry an unbeliever and you expect godly behavior from such an individual. Ko le work.
While you are in Courtship, he impregnated two ladies, now, you are married, you are demanding a son from his pope by asking for faithfulness from him. How is that logical?
No respect for anybody and she is a backbiter, yet you settle for her as a wife, now, she has almost scattered the neighborhood with gossip and you are wondering why. What else do you expect from her?
Do you know why expecting a child from a pope in a marriage is an impossible task? Because Marriage AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY both your strengths and weaknesses.
If he is Davido in courtship, he will be 2face in marriage.
If she is Tiwa Savage in Courtship, don’t expect anything less than a Cossy in your house.
A Naira Marley in Courtship is a Portable in marriage.
A slapper today is an Anthony Joshua tomorrow.
Don’t people change? People do change but it’s rare and two, after the change, at what cost to the other partner? Probably at the cost of broken trust, scattered emotions, mental drain, health problems, loss of life, etc.
Therefore if you can serve the jail, don’t do the crime.
If you need a grandkid, make sure he never becomes a Catholic priest talkless of being a pope.
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Relationship Mindshift 2 – The Half of The Story.
I have told you severally, that my wife gave me an on-the-spot answer and we got married 3 months 3 days after. For those that are close to me, I used to tell them that, my first date gave an answer within a week while my second, gave her answer on the spot too. And that if I asked you out and your answer passed a week, I’m not interested again
But that is half of the story, because by reading and holding up to that story, you may start to think , ‘God why I am unlucky with lady?’ not knowing that I have 16 ladies who rejected my proposal, a hateful girlfriend’s mum, followed by 8 years break, and a premium breakfast. One of them said I look like his dad 🙄. Another said, she will rather die 😥 . One called Joke (not Cynthia oo) turned the proposal into committee of friends affairs 😀 and one was dribbling me 😬
Another example, you all know Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook owner and how he dropped out of school. But that is half of the story. The whole story was that, he dropped out from Harvard University and that Mark is from a rich family like Bill Gates and Aliko Dangote. With or without creating Facebook, he (Mark) can’t be poor (he may not be popular though).
So don’t dropped out of school as the child of pepper seller oo. Your fight is different
Also, If I’m always telling you that Marriage is sweet, I’m correct but if I fail in telling you that the sweetness requires work, forgiveness, overlooking some silliness, and many other things, I am only telling you, half of the story.
People will only tell you that sweetest and easiest part of their stories, either to inspire or to tension you. Your job is to find the whole story and pick the needed lessons applicable to your destiny and move.Even if you don’t have access to the whole story, don’t ever have it in mind, that your situation is the worst, you are not trying enough or be inspired by the wealth of someone who you don’t know his/her antecedent.
Therefore, don’t let a pastor tell you it is only grace of God that is helping him in the ministry, tell the pastor to tell you about seminary attended, friendships made, books read, connection enjoyed, etc.
Don’t let any successful businessman/woman tell you na God ooo, tell him/her to tell you about how the friendship won his first breakthrough contract, seed money from his/her uncle, grants won, gifts received and encouragement gotten.
The story is more than that. Even my wife’s instant answer was an answer to a prayer prayed 10 years before meeting her.
May God gives you understanding.
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Relationship Mindshift 1 – GOD LOVES DIVORCE.(For those in an abusive or serial cheating Marriage).
Every Day, it’s either insult, abuse, mistrust, or beating.
The person has tried every possible means for the spouse to change. The Family has intervened. Church also but instead of abating, the partner seems to be increasing in cruelty.
To preserve her/his sanity, the abused seeks divorce.
This partner can’t count the number of fastings and prayers plus mountain climbing she has done to separate, her husband and his numerous side chicks, yet she treats STDs every month.
When she could no longer take it, she legally end the marriage.
Are we saying, the two divorce-seeking partners are going to hell?
Let us not deceive ourselves, as long as it’s two imperfect human beings are getting married every Saturday, we can never rule divorce out.
Nobody plans for it.
Nobody prays for it.
Nobody likes it.
Nobody should celebrate it.
But shit happened. Mistakes happened. Some students read for the exams and still fail.
Some Abigails married Nabals.
Two, divorce is a failure of the married (not a Marriage institution), a sin though but not an unforgivable sin.
Three, Bible granted those who marry unbelievers and the unbeliever asks for it, to take it. So He loves divorce that will preserve the salvation of your spirit.
In addition, if God committed a great purpose into your hands and perhaps, you find yourself in an untoward marriage that threatened your life, sanity, and salvation, seek help and seek out, if the help doesn’t work. You need a sane mind, a sound body, and a saved spirit to obey God.
He understands that you made a mistake and He can forgive that mistake. He is not happy that your marriage crashed, nevertheless, he still loves you.
Lastly, church, let’s go and completely read and start quoting Malachi 2:16 in different versions because God said he hates divorce and also said he hates injustice [violence] to one’s spouse in the same verse.
May God keeps our marriage in Jesus’ Name
Afterthought: I believe divorce should be the last thing a troubled marriage should considered after all the possible means like prayers, professional and spiritual helps, family intervention, etc have failed.
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How this new couples vexed me off.
I was pissed off. Very pissed off because of how this new couples (Like 3/4 months old) in my church behaved last Sunday.
Now, it happened that every first Sunday of the year in my church is Anointing and Holy Communion Service (this year was strictly anointing service). While we are filling out to receive the touch, and it reached my turn to join the line, the wife was in front with a gap in between them and I said let me step into the gap. If you see how the husband dragged me out of the space, you will pity me.
As if not receiving the oil immediately after his wife will reduce the power.
I was terribly vex. I told mine and while we are laughing over it, I commented that, it’s initial gra gra.
He will soon calm down like me when life happens. I pray life happens goodly to them.
Dear Mr life Coach at 22, calm down oooo. Life really do happen oooooooo. And it happens unexpectedly.
Dear single marriage counselor, double down a little. Marriage is not a science practical where everything can be controlled to get predetermined results. You can’t control the happenings.
Dear undergrad, your senior brothers and sisters are not stupid or unintelligent. You see, Nigeria happens to majority of us.
Lastly, as you are calming down, k’Olorun wa pelu èmí re (may God be with your spirit).Share this:
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God’s Will or Willy Willy?
She was sure that he was the one, she received in her dream. In fact, she has never had a vivid dream in her life except this vision of him.
But two weeks into the said relationship with God’s Will, he is asking for sex. He was even quoting Bible to explain why they should committed premarital sex.
After some months of back and forth, he started pressurizing this godly sister, threatening to end their situationship.
Nevertheless, she came to me confused and I told her plainly, that that brother is not the marital will of God for you and for any other godly church sisters. God’s Will will display God’s character and be pro-Bible. Cefinis.
See, how some of us go about this God’s Will of a thing is surprising and pathetic, because I don’t know your supposed will of God will be after you life?
I can fathom a will of God will be doing everything God warned us against, hate what God loves and love what God hates. Such bro or sister can never be God’s Will for any of His children rather they are Willy Willy.
Additionally, in plain terms, God’s Will will not abuse you.
God’s Will won’t plunge you into bottomless pit of debt so that you can afford her expensive lifestyle.
The person God has chosen for you as a spouse will not have problem with Bible, prayer, giving and serving in this kingdom. If he does, you received wrongly
Whom God has in mind for you in marriage is never an unbeliever.
That person will not take peace of mind away from you. If s/he does, s/he is a Willy Willy.
I repeat conclusively, God’s Will is equal to godly character. Anything is not of God and He didn’t have in mind for you. Anything outside that is manipulative spirit showing you lies.
May God gives you, the understanding to know His mind in Jesus’ name.
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