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  • Tales of a Nursing Dad – 6

    Tales of a Nursing Dad – 6

    Topic 6 – Calm Down.

    I know this is a controversial topic on Nigerian social media space – The caesarian section or vaginal birth.

    I know none of them is a sin and I could have shared a story from our experience but I did not have my wife’s permission for now till 2026 (I will write the article after this one and schedule it).

    Apart from the cost of the surgical procedure, the #talesofANursingdad is telling you, if you see the instruments for the process and you love your wife, you will not wish for it.

    Now, to that woman who had assisted non-natural delivery, I am telling you, the process did not make you less mom than the woman who gave birth through the other mean. You are MVP and God blesses you. Amen.

    P.S.: Here is the link for Tales of a Nursing Dad – 7 which will be published on 11/06/2026. See you then.

    Did you have natural birth or cesarian section?

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad – 5

    Tales of A Nursing Dad – 5

    Topic 5 – GOD ANSWERED MY PRAYER.

    I have heard and read about many pregnancy tales – inordinate food cravings, ‘crazy’ behaviour, uncontrollable appetite and different funny and not-so-funny pregnancy journey.

    When my elder sister was pregnant, from day one till delivery, she was spitting saliva. Apologies, but it puked me and make me pray a funny simple prayer – ‘ God, please don’t let my wife spit during pregnancy oooo,’ and God did answer it.

    My wife didn’t spit nor did she have any inordinate cravings during the duration.

    Screengrab from Facebook.

    What are the lessons I want you to learn from this episode of #talesofANursingDad; one, God answers prayers even the real funny ones. Even if she spit during the pregnancy, God still answered my prayer.

    In addition, pregnancy experiences differ. That she didn’t spit doesn’t mean yours will not and that she didn’t spit now doesn’t mean she won’t in subsequent ones. Therefore, never belittle the experience of nursing and or waiting-for moms. The shoes pinch differently.

    Nursing mums and dads, can you share your pregnancy experiences in the comment section?

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad 3

    Tales of A Nursing Dad 3

    Topic 3 – I was depressed because everyone thinks I am a tree.

    After six and a half months, we lost our first baby prematurely.

    To be candid, I was happy that soonest I am going to be a father. I prayed earnestly for her arrival. Prepare like never before. Spend my emotions, and give up my bed space to make it comfortable for my pregnant wife. All in vain.

    I was pained but what pains me most is that most of those who came to sympathize with us left me and offer comforting words to only my wife.

    Their usual salvo when they wanted to start their tirade is, ‘Be a man,’ ‘You have to be there for your wife,’ bla bla blah as if I too don’t need comforting.

    As if I am a wood without emotions.

    As if it wasn’t my baby too.

    As if I didn’t contribute anything to the well-being of my kid.

    Most of them have no encouraging and comforting words for me – a miscarriage father and it makes me sadder.

    Some even insulted my parents but I have forgiven all of them because God has comforted me.

    Conclusively, dear all, if you can’t offer hope and comfort for both, leave them alone.

    P.S: any experience with miscarriage, care to share?

  • 40 ROMANTIC WORDS FOR COUPLES by Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike

    40 ROMANTIC WORDS FOR COUPLES by Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike

    #Exclusively for the married:

    Dear married friends,

    Marriage is very sweet and it’s for a lifetime. One way to keep it sizzling is by remaining romantic to your spouse every day. In marriage, nobody outgrows romance. When the romance level drops, the fun level in that marriage drops as well. Marriage is primarily about the two spouses, not the children. Therefore have fun; enjoy yourselves.

    Marriage is what the two spouses make of it. No marriage can be any sweeter than the husband and the wife in it. Marriage is like a building. And God gave us the exclusive rights to build it to our taste and shape. God doesn’t get in our way with respect to the taste and shape we give to our marriage. Because He is not the one getting married; but you and your spouse. It is generally observed that most Africans are not usually romantic as spouses. Tonight, I would like to advise all spouses in the house to re-write the narratives of their marriages. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t be shy. Make it sweet, fun and enjoyable. Marriage is such a long time to be bored in it. To help us, I have catalogued some love expressions romantic spouses use. I am also using them. Please enjoy (don’t laugh your heart out o). But if you are “Spirit Koko” (that’s more spiritual than the Holy Spirit himself) please just “Waka pass” and don’t say anything. Allow those who know what I am talking about to enjoy the reading.

    1. I love you so much, Baby
    2. You are the best thing that happened to me
    3. You look cute
    4. I like your perf (perfume)
    5. This meal is so delicious
    6. I love you so much, Baby
    7. Thank you so much for the gift
    8. I like the way you give it to me on the bed
    9. You are wild like a cat on the bed
    10. You look sexy
    11. You look gorgeous
    12. I can’t wait to see you
    13. I can’t wait to have more of you
    14. I like it whenever you are inside of me
    15. You were so electrifying last night.
    16. I like the way you hit me hard.
    17. I miss you so much
    18. I love you more
    19. I got you some gifts
    20. Do you like it?
    21. I like those sexy eyes
    22. Please give me some more
    23. Have a great day, Baby!
    24. I will miss you
    25. I am the happiest man in the world
    26. I can’t stop thinking about you
    27. Oh my God, our last dinner out was memorable
    28. Welcome, sweetheart!
    29. How was your day?
    30. Honey, did you have a great day?
    31. Baby, the dinner is ready
    32. Babe, I made your favorite
    33. How much do you love me?
    34. Baby, I want you inside of me
    35. Please kiss me hard
    36. Squeeze my boobs hard
    37. Play with my nipples
    38. Honey, caress me
    39. Let me sit on your laps
    40. Please cuddle me

    Many thanks for reading, commenting, liking and sharing.

    Your friend,

    Coach Joshua

    Photo credits: Facebook News Feed

    Follow him on Facebook at Coach Joshua Chibuike Akwudike
  • Tales of A Nursing Dad 2

    Tales of A Nursing Dad 2

    Topic 2 – Dear Man, know this fact about pregnancy.

    During our first pregnancy, during the first semester, my wife was vomiting daily. Every food she eat got vomited within 10 minutes of eating it. It got so bad that I had to run to my mother-in-law on what to do. She assured me that no problem. That it is normal for some women. Funnily enough, she didn’t experience it during the second one.

    During the last one, from the first month, her two legs doubled its size but throughout the first one which lasted for 6½ months, she didn’t have swollen legs.

    In continuation, though my wife will argue she got fatter during those periods but I think she reduced in size during both occurrences 🤩🤩🤩.

    Furthermore, my wife was a great cook . Infact, she is a professional caterer and CEO of Praise Foods but I noticed that the sweetness of her prepared food reduced. Not throughout but compared to before, it reduces.

    She told her mentor how she developed a hatred for me during the first week of discovering she was pregnant during the first one but she wasn’t insulting but during the second one, no feeling of hatred but the ‘insults’ no be here

    She will be happy in the morning and be moody in the evening. She may be playful in the evening and before we woke up, she can’t explain herself again.

    Should I talk about injections, drugs, surgical operation, mood swings, loss of my bed space, irregular sex, etc?

    The first lesson I want you to derive from this episode of #talesofaNursingDad is that no two pregnancies are the same. Two, you have to be understanding. Things won’t be like before again.

    Sex won’t be like before.

    Communication won’t be like before she starts nursing.

    Different hormones are working on her so you have to pay a sacrifice, for her whom you called the love of your life, and for the kid she is carrying or nursing.

    Lastly you can get my new book – 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings here

    Thanks for reading.

  • Tales of A Nursing Dad – 1

    Tales of A Nursing Dad – 1

    Topic 1 – Felicitate with Us. It’s A Boy and A Book

    Hi, friends. You might have noticed my absence here. Cool! It was a joyous absence as Yahweh gave my wife and I, the gift of a bouncing baby boy some weeks ago.

    Now, as Yoruba and Christian cultures demand, that on the 8th day of birth, a child should be named, here are his names:

    Samuel, Adeyemi, Mofiyinfoluwa, Oluwatamilore, Oluwatobiloba, Olusola, Gavi, Victor, Chisom,

    Also to celebrate the arrival of my boy, I write and dedicate a new book to him, titled 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings where I highlighted Yoruba naming cultures and the meanings of 500 beautiful, well researched and fantastic Yoruba names for your newly born. Trust me, you are gonna love it!

    You want to gift us a naming gift, do so by pre-ordering 500 Yoruba Names and Their Meanings for $2 here

    Your congratulations are now in order

    #talesofaNursingDad

  • How to escape abusive Relationship.

    How to escape abusive Relationship.

    How will they know, if they are not told? Who will tell them when no one has been sent?

    The only reason you have concluded that violence, cheating, quarreling, and fighting are part of a godly relationship is that you have not read, are ignorant, or are under demonic attack.

    You think drama-less relationships are mythical because you don’t know what a relationship is all about.

    Dear, you subscribe to that idea of small weekly gba gbos in a relationship because you don’t know what to do in a Christian courtship.

    Oya, touch the ground with your right hand. Done abi? Now use it to touch your chest.

    As per your friend wey I be, I got a solution for you through this ebook titled A Tearless Courtship written by Alade Joel.

    The book covers such topics like

    What is Courtship?

    Purpose of Courtship?

    3 stages of Courtship.

    50 courtship questions?

    50 non-combative, funny, edifying activities in Courtship.

    7 dos and don’ts of Courtship.

    For how much? For now, for free.

    Where: Here.

  • Lessons From 2022/23 EPL Season.

    The hype is real. The banter is sweet and the taunts are never ending. Football is sweet. Now these are lessons from the season:

    1. Like Manchester City, it won’t be bad, if you are a serial winner.

    2. Like Arsenal, good football may not be enough to win the league.

    Good appearance may not be able to win that sister.

    Good intents may not be enough to win.

    But aim for the star, if you miss, you will hit the moon. Arsenal aimed for the league, lost it, but gain UCL ticket.

    3. Do you know Tottenham Hotspur have the greeniest EPL stadium but they are one unserious club? No drive and passion to win trophy. Lesson therein, aso nla ko leyan nla (big clothes is not big man)

    Packaging is good but your content should be topmost of your drive.

    6. Concerning Harry Kane, just know the difference between being loyal to a worthy cause and being loyal to a worthless cause. Obviously, Kane is just loyal to a useless cause. He needs a trophy to cement his greatness.

    You need to dump that dakudaji relationship. It has overspent its usefulness.

    Loyalty to a cheating girlfriend is both wastage of time and resources.

    6. By all means possible, make someone happy this year, like Manchester United and this Calabar, sorry, carabao cup trophy win 😀😄

    7. About $600m spent, no show for Chelsea. Idan for nothing but Blue is still the country.

    See, no lesson to learn from my club this season. Next season, we cook all.

    8. We welcome Luton, Sheffield United and Burley while bidding Leceister City, Southampton and Leeds United farewell

    9. Lastly, we are going into a period where Fabrizio Romano is more important than your girlfriends.

    See you on August 5 for another season.

  • If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    Though she was my toastee. But the peace she gives is extraordinary and when I eventually met the real my wife, peace like a river attendeth my soul and I know it’s well with my soul.

    If you believe this you need prayer ASAP .



    Now, Give about 100 ladies, an option to choose between a cool calm guy and a rash playboy, 80% will probably choose the latter with the belief that a relationship with the former will be boring. Why? It will not involve beating, cheating, quarrels, or fightings.

    See, something must be faulty about your parentage, mentality, and brain if you believed that violence (even if it is a touch of it), beatings, cheating, and premarital sex are hallmarks of relationships.

    Pathetically, some Christian ladies believe such rubbish.

    Dear, you need MFM standard deliverance, if you believe that a relationship without all those vices will be boring.

    Because with all the problems going on across the globe, why will a reasonable person add relationship problems to it?

    Why will a reasonable person think there is progress and joy in calamities?

    Why will someone with a functioning brain think true love/relationship is fighting today, quarreling tomorrow, suspecting one another the day after and fake love is tranquility and peace of mind?

    The manifestation of those vice should be testimonial enough that so-called fake true relationship is abusive and ungodly.

    True love/relationship is not done in chaos.


    Lakotan ara, K’Olorun le wa pelu èmí re, jeki ori re kope (finally brethren, if you want God to be with you, calm down).

  • Relationship Mindshift 7 – WHY DOES OUR ‘UNBELIEVING’ PARENTS’ MARRIAGE SEEM TO LAST MORE THAN OURS?

    In the film #Enoch, Deboye and Folu met and got married while they are unbelievers. They got saved on the same day, at the same place, listening to the same preacher.

    But despite that, they still seem to have a good house before their salvation experience, and why people are asking how is that possible?

    To be factual, most of our grandparents and parents are not born again but they seem to have more lasting marriages than this present generation. How come?

    Number one, a happy home is not part of the salvation package. It’s not a criterion for making heaven. It is not even exclusively for Christians.

    My dear, I have seen unbelievers with a good union and believers with a terrible one.

    Two, though most of them as I said are mere Churchgoers then they have fear of God (iberu Olòrun), good character (iwa rere), and a good conscience (eri okan) and it impacted how they live.

    Boye and Folu have not come to the knowledge of Christ then but they still kept the bed undefiled nowadays, we have supposed Christians who are debating whether cohabiting or premarital sex is a sin.

    We have supposed modern Christians with all their exegesis without an iota of fear of God.

    We have supposed tongue-speaking Christians who are intolerable everywhere.

    Modern Christians are perfect examples of worshipping God with a mouth but a heart far from God.

    May God uphold our families in Jesus’ name.

  • Relationship Mindshift 6 – 3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    Relationship Mindshift 6 – 3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    Good day, how are you? I hope you are fine.

    Before I proceed with this write, I want to inform you that you can pre-order my two new books – MEET AND MARRY and 500 YORUBA NAMES AND THEIR MEANINGS from Amazon.com. To do so, click here

    Now, to our topic of discussion, let me start with a story. I remembered when I met my wife and having accepted my proposal. She told her Uncle, who is her defacto father and also vocationally a pastor. He contacted my pastor who happened to be his colleague to ask about me and my pastor gave a positive remark about me.

    Also, while we are house hunting during our wedding preparations, we were chanced to met one of my juniors, who remarked that I am gentle.

    After wedding, we discovered that our neighbors were my seniors – both husband and wife and they also commented that I am a good man.

    I believed all these favourable testimonials about me cemented my wife’s resolve that I am a good man.

    What I am aiming at? Bar perfection, don’t ever date someone with bad reputation and if you are dating such people, go and quit.

    He/she was known as bad guy, anything-in-skirt, thief, loud-mouthed, and many other negative tags to his parents, neighbors, friends, his church, etc. Forget it. The relationship is an unholy alliance between light and darkness.

    You can’t know him more than them.

    Another set of people you should never date are those who believe that there is nothing you can do, a marriage doomed to fail will fail.

    If you say, wife respect your husband,they will say, it doesn’t prevent cheating.

    If you tell them, husband loves your wife, they will reply, it doesn’t prevent break-up.

    Read books, they will say, it’s not a determinant of good a marriage will be.

    In their thinking, there is nothing you can do to enjoy your home. If it will fail, it will fail but they forget to know that that we know accident may occur with our cars but we will not say before of that we will not check the tires, water level, brakes, etc before moving out.

    Don’t ever date them because they always have losers’ mentality who gives up before the start of actual battle. They won’t fight for the sanctity, sacredness, and exclusivity of your home

    The third type are those with bad company. Bad company corrupts good manners and no one is good and godly than the corridor of friends he kept.

    He is only one who is faithful in relationship amidst his friends? It’s only a matter of time, a friend reflects the face of his friend.

    All her known friends are into hookups, trust me, she is either fooling you or she hasn’t started yet.

    The person is godly but all his/her core circle are ungodly people. Don’t sleep on it, it’s a matter of time.

    Finally on this, the maxim is true, show me your friend and I will tell the kind of person you are.

    I love you.

  • Relationship Mindshift 5 – Give Up Everything You Have For This.

    I waited for it and I am grateful to God for giving me the grace to do it.
    One of my desires (even before I got born again) is to be a virgin till I got married. My aim is that I don’t want any lady to say of me that I used her.

    Thank God for keeping me safe even when the journey want to be comatose at a point, but His grace kept me.

    Now, my first sexual experience, at 32, with my wife was electrifying, fun, fabulicious, heavenly, undescribable, and satisfying. Something you have been waiting for, for 32 good years.

    But after the whole heavenly show, I asked myself, is that all, and I thank Yahweh for waiting.

    My reason for the question is that, is this all Samson lost his power for?

    Is this what people lost their senses and dignity for?

    Is this all what Reuben lost his heritage for? 

    Is this what the ancient Kingdom and empire were destroyed for?

    Is this what people commonalise and commercialize?

    I repeat, I thank God for helping me make and kept that decision.

    Dear Single Pringle, if you are still a virgin, I beg you, jealousy keep it. I’m promising you, you won’t regret doing so.

    The wait will be worth it. Apart from the benefits of not having pregnancy and STDs scarce, you will be very happy you did. I can give you that assurance.

    And if you are not a virgin anymore but you have taken the oat of celibacy till your wedding nite, I can assure you, you are making a worthwhile and future joy-giving decision.

    You can’t regret keeping your body holy.

    Lastly, I have a book for you. A book that can help you in this purity journey titled, God Doesn’t want you to Be a Virgin and is available for free. Download here

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