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  • If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    If You Believe this, you need MFM-standard prayer ASAP.

    Though she was my toastee. But the peace she gives is extraordinary and when I eventually met the real my wife, peace like a river attendeth my soul and I know it’s well with my soul.

    If you believe this you need prayer ASAP .



    Now, Give about 100 ladies, an option to choose between a cool calm guy and a rash playboy, 80% will probably choose the latter with the belief that a relationship with the former will be boring. Why? It will not involve beating, cheating, quarrels, or fightings.

    See, something must be faulty about your parentage, mentality, and brain if you believed that violence (even if it is a touch of it), beatings, cheating, and premarital sex are hallmarks of relationships.

    Pathetically, some Christian ladies believe such rubbish.

    Dear, you need MFM standard deliverance, if you believe that a relationship without all those vices will be boring.

    Because with all the problems going on across the globe, why will a reasonable person add relationship problems to it?

    Why will a reasonable person think there is progress and joy in calamities?

    Why will someone with a functioning brain think true love/relationship is fighting today, quarreling tomorrow, suspecting one another the day after and fake love is tranquility and peace of mind?

    The manifestation of those vice should be testimonial enough that so-called fake true relationship is abusive and ungodly.

    True love/relationship is not done in chaos.


    Lakotan ara, K’Olorun le wa pelu èmí re, jeki ori re kope (finally brethren, if you want God to be with you, calm down).

  • Relationship Mindshift 7 – WHY DOES OUR ‘UNBELIEVING’ PARENTS’ MARRIAGE SEEM TO LAST MORE THAN OURS?

    In the film #Enoch, Deboye and Folu met and got married while they are unbelievers. They got saved on the same day, at the same place, listening to the same preacher.

    But despite that, they still seem to have a good house before their salvation experience, and why people are asking how is that possible?

    To be factual, most of our grandparents and parents are not born again but they seem to have more lasting marriages than this present generation. How come?

    Number one, a happy home is not part of the salvation package. It’s not a criterion for making heaven. It is not even exclusively for Christians.

    My dear, I have seen unbelievers with a good union and believers with a terrible one.

    Two, though most of them as I said are mere Churchgoers then they have fear of God (iberu Olòrun), good character (iwa rere), and a good conscience (eri okan) and it impacted how they live.

    Boye and Folu have not come to the knowledge of Christ then but they still kept the bed undefiled nowadays, we have supposed Christians who are debating whether cohabiting or premarital sex is a sin.

    We have supposed modern Christians with all their exegesis without an iota of fear of God.

    We have supposed tongue-speaking Christians who are intolerable everywhere.

    Modern Christians are perfect examples of worshipping God with a mouth but a heart far from God.

    May God uphold our families in Jesus’ name.

  • Relationship Mindshift 6 – 3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    Relationship Mindshift 6 – 3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    3 types of people you should NEVER date and if you are dating them, Quit Now.

    Good day, how are you? I hope you are fine.

    Before I proceed with this write, I want to inform you that you can pre-order my two new books – MEET AND MARRY and 500 YORUBA NAMES AND THEIR MEANINGS from Amazon.com. To do so, click here

    Now, to our topic of discussion, let me start with a story. I remembered when I met my wife and having accepted my proposal. She told her Uncle, who is her defacto father and also vocationally a pastor. He contacted my pastor who happened to be his colleague to ask about me and my pastor gave a positive remark about me.

    Also, while we are house hunting during our wedding preparations, we were chanced to met one of my juniors, who remarked that I am gentle.

    After wedding, we discovered that our neighbors were my seniors – both husband and wife and they also commented that I am a good man.

    I believed all these favourable testimonials about me cemented my wife’s resolve that I am a good man.

    What I am aiming at? Bar perfection, don’t ever date someone with bad reputation and if you are dating such people, go and quit.

    He/she was known as bad guy, anything-in-skirt, thief, loud-mouthed, and many other negative tags to his parents, neighbors, friends, his church, etc. Forget it. The relationship is an unholy alliance between light and darkness.

    You can’t know him more than them.

    Another set of people you should never date are those who believe that there is nothing you can do, a marriage doomed to fail will fail.

    If you say, wife respect your husband,they will say, it doesn’t prevent cheating.

    If you tell them, husband loves your wife, they will reply, it doesn’t prevent break-up.

    Read books, they will say, it’s not a determinant of good a marriage will be.

    In their thinking, there is nothing you can do to enjoy your home. If it will fail, it will fail but they forget to know that that we know accident may occur with our cars but we will not say before of that we will not check the tires, water level, brakes, etc before moving out.

    Don’t ever date them because they always have losers’ mentality who gives up before the start of actual battle. They won’t fight for the sanctity, sacredness, and exclusivity of your home

    The third type are those with bad company. Bad company corrupts good manners and no one is good and godly than the corridor of friends he kept.

    He is only one who is faithful in relationship amidst his friends? It’s only a matter of time, a friend reflects the face of his friend.

    All her known friends are into hookups, trust me, she is either fooling you or she hasn’t started yet.

    The person is godly but all his/her core circle are ungodly people. Don’t sleep on it, it’s a matter of time.

    Finally on this, the maxim is true, show me your friend and I will tell the kind of person you are.

    I love you.

  • Relationship Mindshift 5 – Give Up Everything You Have For This.

    I waited for it and I am grateful to God for giving me the grace to do it.
    One of my desires (even before I got born again) is to be a virgin till I got married. My aim is that I don’t want any lady to say of me that I used her.

    Thank God for keeping me safe even when the journey want to be comatose at a point, but His grace kept me.

    Now, my first sexual experience, at 32, with my wife was electrifying, fun, fabulicious, heavenly, undescribable, and satisfying. Something you have been waiting for, for 32 good years.

    But after the whole heavenly show, I asked myself, is that all, and I thank Yahweh for waiting.

    My reason for the question is that, is this all Samson lost his power for?

    Is this what people lost their senses and dignity for?

    Is this all what Reuben lost his heritage for? 

    Is this what the ancient Kingdom and empire were destroyed for?

    Is this what people commonalise and commercialize?

    I repeat, I thank God for helping me make and kept that decision.

    Dear Single Pringle, if you are still a virgin, I beg you, jealousy keep it. I’m promising you, you won’t regret doing so.

    The wait will be worth it. Apart from the benefits of not having pregnancy and STDs scarce, you will be very happy you did. I can give you that assurance.

    And if you are not a virgin anymore but you have taken the oat of celibacy till your wedding nite, I can assure you, you are making a worthwhile and future joy-giving decision.

    You can’t regret keeping your body holy.

    Lastly, I have a book for you. A book that can help you in this purity journey titled, God Doesn’t want you to Be a Virgin and is available for free. Download here

  • Relationship Mindshift 4 – Food or Sex?

    Relationship Mindshift 4 – Food or Sex?

    Please read this article carefully. This isn’t an against-sex post neither it’s limiting nor berating the importance of sex in marriage but correcting the notion of comparing food to sex and vice versa.

    This is a link to an article here, where I wrote about its importance in marriage



    Now, comparing both is a sacrilege against food. Food is not sex. Sex is food. Both are unique, good, and holy and in my opinion, you need food to perform your conjugal bedmatics well. Empty stomach can’t perform very well on bed.

    Two, food is a basic need that you can’t do without while the other is a physiological need that you can survive without.

    Three, food is a mile ahead of sex, you started eating from the womb while the other, you should start it when you are married.

    Summarily, think about food before sex but know that God will bring an end to both, one day.

    Ire oooooooo.

  • Relationship Mindshift 3 – Demanding A Child From The Pope.

    When PSG player, Hakimi’s story of hiding his property in his mother’s name after his ex-wife asked for 50% of it during their divorce proceeding, broke out, a good friend asked for my opinion and I answered, ‘I can’t approve or condemn Hakimi’s move because, he is not a Christian and he didn’t marry under Christian guidelines so I am not expecting him to behave like one.

    Furthermore, demanding marital faithfulness from someone like Davido and co is like demanding that your son who is a pope should give you, a grandkid. We all know that it’s impossible.

    Now, that impossibility is what most singles are expecting in marriage.

    You marry an unbeliever and you expect godly behavior from such an individual. Ko le work.

    While you are in Courtship, he impregnated two ladies, now, you are married, you are demanding a son from his pope by asking for faithfulness from him. How is that logical?

    No respect for anybody and she is a backbiter, yet you settle for her as a wife, now, she has almost scattered the neighborhood with gossip and you are wondering why. What else do you expect from her?

    Do you know why expecting a child from a pope in a marriage is an impossible task? Because Marriage AMPLIFY and MAGNIFY both your strengths and weaknesses.

    If he is Davido in courtship, he will be 2face in marriage.

    If she is Tiwa Savage in Courtship, don’t expect anything less than a Cossy in your house.

    A Naira Marley in Courtship is a Portable in marriage.

    A slapper today is an Anthony Joshua tomorrow.

    Don’t people change? People do change but it’s rare and two, after the change, at what cost to the other partner? Probably at the cost of broken trust, scattered emotions, mental drain, health problems, loss of life, etc.

    Therefore if you can serve the jail, don’t do the crime.

    If you need a grandkid, make sure he never becomes a Catholic priest talkless of being a pope.

    Thank you for reading.

  • Relationship Mindshift 2 – The Half of The Story.

    I have told you severally, that my wife gave me an on-the-spot answer and we got married 3 months 3 days after. For those that are close to me, I used to tell them that, my first date gave an answer within a week while my second, gave her answer on the spot too. And that if I asked you out and your answer passed a week, I’m not interested again

    But that is half of the story, because by reading and holding up to that story, you may start to think , ‘God why I am unlucky with lady?’ not knowing that I have 16 ladies who rejected my proposal, a hateful girlfriend’s mum, followed by 8 years break, and a premium breakfast. One of them said I look like his dad 🙄. Another said, she will rather die 😥 . One called Joke (not Cynthia oo) turned the proposal into committee of friends affairs 😀 and one was dribbling me 😬

    Another example, you all know Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook owner and how he dropped out of school. But that is half of the story. The whole story was that, he dropped out from Harvard University and that Mark is from a rich family like Bill Gates and Aliko Dangote. With or without creating Facebook, he (Mark) can’t be poor (he may not be popular though).


    So don’t dropped out of school as the child of pepper seller oo. Your fight is different

    Also, If I’m always telling you that Marriage is sweet, I’m correct but if I fail in telling you that the sweetness requires work, forgiveness, overlooking some silliness, and many other things, I am only telling you, half of the story.

    People will only tell you that sweetest and easiest part of their stories, either to inspire or to tension you. Your job is to find the whole story and pick the needed lessons applicable to your destiny and move.

    Even if you don’t have access to the whole story, don’t ever have it in mind, that your situation is the worst, you are not trying enough or be inspired by the wealth of someone who you don’t know his/her antecedent.

    Therefore, don’t let a pastor tell you it is only grace of God that is helping him in the ministry, tell the pastor to tell you about seminary attended, friendships made, books read, connection enjoyed, etc.

    Don’t let any successful businessman/woman tell you na God ooo, tell him/her to tell you about how the friendship won his first breakthrough contract, seed money from his/her uncle, grants won, gifts received and encouragement gotten.

    The story is more than that. Even my wife’s instant answer was an answer to a prayer prayed 10 years before meeting her.

    May God gives you understanding.

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  • Relationship Mindshift 1 – GOD LOVES DIVORCE.(For those in an abusive or serial cheating Marriage).

    Every Day, it’s either insult, abuse, mistrust, or beating.

    The person has tried every possible means for the spouse to change. The Family has intervened. Church also but instead of abating, the partner seems to be increasing in cruelty.

    To preserve her/his sanity, the abused seeks divorce.

    This partner can’t count the number of fastings and prayers plus mountain climbing she has done to separate, her husband and his numerous side chicks, yet she treats STDs every month.

    When she could no longer take it, she legally end the marriage.

    Are we saying, the two divorce-seeking partners are going to hell?

    Let us not deceive ourselves, as long as it’s two imperfect human beings are getting married every Saturday, we can never rule divorce out.

    Nobody plans for it.

    Nobody prays for it.

    Nobody likes it.

    Nobody should celebrate it.

    But shit happened. Mistakes happened. Some students read for the exams and still fail.

    Some Abigails married Nabals.

    Two, divorce is a failure of the married (not a Marriage institution), a sin though but not an unforgivable sin.

    Three, Bible granted those who marry unbelievers and the unbeliever asks for it, to take it. So He loves divorce that will preserve the salvation of your spirit.

    In addition, if God committed a great purpose into your hands and perhaps, you find yourself in an untoward marriage that threatened your life, sanity, and salvation, seek help and seek out, if the help doesn’t work. You need a sane mind, a sound body, and a saved spirit to obey God.

    He understands that you made a mistake and He can forgive that mistake. He is not happy that your marriage crashed, nevertheless, he still loves you.

    Lastly, church, let’s go and completely read and start quoting Malachi 2:16 in different versions because God said he hates divorce and also said he hates injustice [violence] to one’s spouse in the same verse.

    May God keeps our marriage in Jesus’ Name

    Afterthought: I believe divorce should be the last thing a troubled marriage should considered after all the possible means like prayers, professional and spiritual helps, family intervention, etc have failed.

  • How this new couples vexed me off.

    How this new couples vexed me off.

    I was pissed off. Very pissed off because of how this new couples (Like 3/4 months old) in my church behaved last Sunday.

    Now, it happened that every first Sunday of the year in my church is Anointing and Holy Communion Service (this year was strictly anointing service). While we are filling out to receive the touch, and it reached my turn to join the line, the wife was in front with a gap in between them and I said let me step into the gap. If you see how the husband dragged me out of the space, you will pity me.

    As if not receiving the oil immediately after his wife will reduce the power.

    I was terribly vex. I told mine and while we are laughing over it, I commented that, it’s initial gra gra.

    He will soon calm down like me when life happens. I pray life happens goodly to them.

    Dear Mr life Coach at 22, calm down oooo. Life really do happen oooooooo. And it happens unexpectedly.

    Dear single marriage counselor, double down a little. Marriage is not a science practical where everything can be controlled to get predetermined results. You can’t control the happenings.

    Dear undergrad, your senior brothers and sisters are not stupid or unintelligent. You see, Nigeria happens to majority of us.

    Lastly, as you are calming down, k’Olorun wa pelu èmí re (may God be with your spirit).

  • God’s Will or Willy Willy?

    She was sure that he was the one, she received in her dream. In fact, she has never had a vivid dream in her life except this vision of him.

    But two weeks into the said relationship with God’s Will, he is asking for sex. He was even quoting Bible to explain why they should committed premarital sex.

    After some months of back and forth, he started pressurizing this godly sister, threatening to end their situationship.

    Nevertheless, she came to me confused and I told her plainly, that that brother is not the marital will of God for you and for any other godly church sisters. God’s Will will display God’s character and be pro-Bible. Cefinis.

    See, how some of us go about this God’s Will of a thing is surprising and pathetic, because I don’t know your supposed will of God will be after you life?

    I can fathom a will of God will be doing everything God warned us against, hate what God loves and love what God hates. Such bro or sister can never be God’s Will for any of His children rather they are Willy Willy.

    Additionally, in plain terms, God’s Will will not abuse you.

    God’s Will won’t plunge you into bottomless pit of debt so that you can afford her expensive lifestyle.

    The person God has chosen for you as a spouse will not have problem with Bible, prayer, giving and serving in this kingdom. If he does, you received wrongly

    Whom God has in mind for you in marriage is never an unbeliever.

    That person will not take peace of mind away from you. If s/he does, s/he is a Willy Willy.

    I repeat conclusively, God’s Will is equal to godly character. Anything is not of God and He didn’t have in mind for you. Anything outside that is manipulative spirit showing you lies.

    May God gives you, the understanding to know His mind in Jesus’ name.

  • The National Delegates.

    The National Delegates.

    The President of a nation on a journey to settle his subject on a good land decided to scout the land purposely to establish the veracity of the claim to his subjects.

    The essence of the scouting is never about him but about his people who see before believing.

    Now, to do this, he selected 12 intelligent, Harvard-trained, well travelled and educated men to go and confirm what he has said about their new homes.

    Off, they went and to be kind to them, they never have it easy on their 3-months journey.

    Some of the challenges they encountered on the way including; the descendants of Anakim (Giants), fortified walls, populated cities, inter-tribal wars here and there, pagans with barbaric cultures and many other difficulties too numerous to highlight.

    Needless to say, the journey was not all gloomy, for they saw a land flowing with milk and honey, a supportive climate for their occupation, a land that produced in thousands agriculturally, rivers, streams and springs that produce water in and out of season and many others advantages that time will not permit mentioning.

    All the words of the president were confirmed.

    After 3 months, the national delegates returned to report to the whole country. It was to be a live broadcast.

    10 of 12 reported that though the land is as you told us, sir, even more than you said but we met the cannibalistic giants therein, there were high walls, and the people there are powerful (they didn’t engage in any fight along the way, how they knew that those people are more powerful than them battled me sef 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️). We were grasshoppers, those people will just trample on us like ants.


    This caused a national uproar instantly, both on and offline, but the 2 remaining delegates rushed to grab the mic and reported all the advantages of the scouted land highlighting the fact all the disadvantages reported by the first 10 are actually to their advantages

    They encouraged them not to forget that they have conquered better fortified wall, more numerous and tall people/nations before and that they should not forget the word and helps of their president’s Godfather who also doubled as their National Patron while singing this song, ‘ count your blessings, name them one by one and you will be surprised at what the Lord has done…’


    Meanwhile, while the 2 were addressing the press, somebody tweeted ‘off the mic‘ on them and like a harmattan fire, it trended on all social media platforms #onthemic.

    Those that were in the hall where the press was being addressed have picked stones for the 2.

    Those online have started issuing threats to them.

    Protests has filled all the major streets.

    International media houses have started carrying the news.

    The 2 delegates would have been lynched had it not been for the intervention of their president and his vice.

    Las las, since they did not believe the word of their president as sent to them by their Patron, the Patron promised to rescind his help to them in terms of power and GPS to navigate the road untill they received sense.

    He also told them none of protestors will get to the land except the 2 that believe him.

    In fact, if not for plead of the President and his Vice, the patron has vowed to completely abandon them.

    Finally, of all the over a million of them, only 2 entered the promised land.


    Ponder on these questions:

    1. Whose reports will you believe? God, human, breaking news, circumstances, etc.

    2. What are seeing currently in the present situation?

    3. Do you remember that the God of yesterday is the God of tomorrow?

    Thanks for reading.

  • How the Marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Rhoda Adésooríre almost crashed after five years.

    How the Marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Rhoda Adésooríre almost crashed after five years.

    You don’t love me anymore.

    Samuel Adésooríre and Rhoda Adesola were lovebirds in school. Samuel was the school fellowship president while her fiance was the sister coordinator even though both of them are not from that denomination.

    Talk about grace, depth, leadership acumens and what have you.

    Their Relationship continues after schooling and this will end in a happy Christian home. In Christian slang, a kingdom Courtship moving to it permanent site of kingdom Marriage and their Relationship is godly – no sex and no yhdvdkccf 🙄🙄

    Click here to download God doesn’t want you to be a virgin Ebook free of charge so that you too can be like them.

    The other reason being that the love is mutual and the submission is top-notch. Each can’t do without the other. Infact people in the neighborhood have started using them as example of what a godly courtship and marriage should be.

    You thought they are angels? Of course not for during their courtship stage, they have their shares of intending couples’ fights, malice, misunderstanding, battles yet all were weathered maturely.

    After NYSC, they decided to get marry owning to go-ahead from both parents, mentors and their pockets (both got where they are being paid what can afford them comfortability) and their wedding was lite.

    Everything done that was done as how a Christian couples and families ought to.

    Click here to see how a Christian weddings should go

    Five years after wedding, they are contemplating divorce but before they proceeded, as they have agreed before marriage that should chicken comes to roost, we will consult our pastor before the next action. 🤷🤷🤷🙄

    Now, let’s see what transpired in the pastor’s office 👉👉👉

    ‘But why are you getting divorce. Bro Samuel, sister Rhoda, your marriage is an example to many in this church. What could have happened?’

    None answered.

    ‘Is there cases of adultery, domestic abuse, financial irresponsibility, undisclosed matters, inlaws problems or any?’

    Both nodded in negative.

    ‘Then what is happening, can somebody please tell me something’

    ‘He doesn’t love me anymore,’ said Rhoda. 😭😭😭

    ‘How can say that I don’t love you anymore.’ 🙄

    ‘Everybody knows that I do.’😰😰

    ‘I don’t love you but I just bought you car this last month.’ 🤔🤔

    ‘I don’t love you but I stay in the kitchen with you.’ 😠😠

    ‘I don’t love you but I called you 3 times daily during working hours,’ he interrupted.😡😡😡

    ‘Daddy, please ask him when last did he said I love you to me.’ 😢😢

    ‘When last did he write a poem for me (like he used to do during our dating period).’😢😢

    ‘He has even stopped calling me romantic names since I gave birth to Junior,’ she fired back. 🙄😰🙄

    ‘But but…’ he retorted.🙄🙄

    And pastor bust into laughter 🤣🤣

    ‘Sir, I have my own to say oooi.’

    ‘Since the birth of our first kid, iya Junior has used him to replace me.’

    ‘Sex is non existent owning it up to some ministerial burden.’

    ‘Food is anyhow (and she knew I don’t eat outside) and he doesn’t even attend to my family properly,’ he accused.

    (Meanwhile, during this back and forth, pastor was listening with rapt attention).

    ‘Hmmm!’ pastor heaved a relief sigh and and said, ‘my brother and sister, I appreciate you for honouring me as your shepherd. First, you have minor issue but big misunderstanding about love and submission.

    ‘My brother, it is a known fact that you truly love your wife but Love means different stuff to different women. E.g., if you are observant you could have noticed that the finest and the largest part of our house was the kitchen. I purposely designed it so because my wife loves cooking and that most times, we don’t wear asoebi because she is non-PDA’

    ‘So my brother, love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’

    ‘As for you, my sister, I know you are a submissive wife and you too know, for a fact, that your husband loves you but be it known unto you today that a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected. I repeated, 8/10 mens are jealous, want sex, food and his family cater for and it is only through those avenue that he felt that you loved him.’

    I hope you understand me, brother and sister.

    Both nodded in affirmation, called their lawyer to back off, prayed together in pastor’s office and live happily after.

    1. …love your wife as she wants not as you want, not as your mentor/pastor taught or as you read in books.’

    2. a man measures submission by making him the the first person in his life. He hated replacement for he is a jealous being like his God. Two, he need sex, good food and his family respected.

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