Lemme tell you two of stories to buttress that fact not all sisters we beholden are wicked. Some are god-fearing and wise.
The first story goes thus; there was this lady I met during my national service year in far away Jigawa. A spec and I believe she will be a compliment.
I asked her out and she said her answer on the spot which is no.
I asked her, ‘are you not going to pray about it.’
She said she is not going to pray any prayer because she can never be interested.
No time is wasted on both side. We are friends throughout our service year till date.
The second story, I am very confident about this one, after my delivery, she asked for 3 months to pray and maybe developed feelings.
Surprisingly, on the 90th day, without cajoling or being disrespectful, she gave her answer too.
She has given her verdict, I am the one that will determine whether I still want to stay around or check the next door. Funnily enough, I checked the next door.
No hard feelings on both side. Till today, we are cool. I even chatted her up today.
Summarily, what I’m insinuating is that as much as possible, dear sister, give an answer to the marriage proposal on time and give it in a clear manner.
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How to marriage proposal (pt 2)
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How to handle Marriage proposal.
What my eyes beholden in the hand of some wickedness sisters, I can’t tell it all.
I asked you out. You neither said no nor yes but you want me to help you paint your room, pack your load, run market errands, and do and submit an assignment for you and you will still be vexed if I don’t call you per day.
Your boyfriend is flexing while me, still applying to the office will be suffering. God forbids
Dupe (not real name) Shey if I want to be an errand boy, I can’t say ni.
You and your kind are very wicked and the Almighty will open the eye of the brother you are playing with their hearts in Jesus’ name.
Summarily, go and give the required answer to all the proposals on your table, then sin no more and God will be with you.Share this:
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My favorite Sport to watch and play.
What could be that sport that I like so much to watch and play? Hmmmmmm!
If you are my regular follower, you should know that I love watching football and I am a Chelsea FC fan with pride. Apart from Chelsea games, I enjoyed watching football matches generally.
Chelsea lifting the UCL trophy in 2021 for the second time I love playing the game too though I am very poor at it.
The second sport I like to watch is athletics – field and track events then followed by wrestling.
Fun fact:
FIFA official stats
About 1.3 billion people watched the last #QatarFiFa2022 Finals between France and Argentina.
No other sports command that viewership.I also engaged in some low level exercises. See attached pictures below
Exercising at school 
I have told you my favorite sports, now what is yours?
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What I enjoy doing most in my leisure time.
All work and no play make Jack, a boring person.
I am a full-time teacher and I try as much as possible to be a better and greater teacher every day but besides my job, I took time to relax.
Bible fact:
Rest is a biblical Command. God rested on the 7th day after 6 days of creative works and commanded us in the ten commandments to do likewise.When I am less busy not planning my lessons, I engage in the following activities:
- Blogging.
- Video making and Youtubing
- Update my Facebook page with enriching Christian Courtship articles.
- Watching football. For your information, I am a Chelsea FC fan. Blue is colour. Football is game. Cheer us on thru the sun and rain, cos’ Chelsea, Chelsea is our club.
- Writing.
- Create contents, either word, graphics or videos
- Reading. I read my Bible. But beside that I just finished WORTH DYING FOR and now on LOST SYMBOLS by Dan Brown. After that I will read January is Not for Planning by Mute Efe.
- Disturb my wife 😄😄😄, eat and sleep.
Moreover I discovered that by doing most of these hobbies, I felt happy, fulfilled and better.
Lastly, what to do enjoy most during your leisure time?
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The Blessings of Father-in-law.
I don’t have Father-in-law but I have capable father figure-in-law.
Over the years, I have noticed that 99% of father-son-in-law are very cool and deep freeze.
It is more like the Father-in-law saying, ‘stay on your lane of being my daughter’s husband and I will stay on my lane of being my daughter’s father’ and the son-in-law replying, ‘no problem.’ 🤷🤷🤷.
It is Hi! Hello! Kind of communication. Nothing more. Nothing less.
But where there is correct Father-in-law (and if you are lucky to have one), there are a lot of blessings that can be gotten from it. Jethro and Moses is our examples.
Let start with the first blessing; the blessing of establishment of deep worship of YHWN will be established.
Now Jethro, the priest of Midian and father-in-law of Moses, heard of everything God had done for Moses and for his people Israel, and how the Lord had brought Israel out of Egypt…Moses told his father-in-law about everything the Lord had done to Pharaoh and the Egyptians for Israel’s sake and about all the hardships they had met along the way and how the Lord had saved them. Jethro was delighted to hear about all the good things the Lord had done for Israel in rescuing them from the hand of the Egyptians. He said, “Praise be to the Lord, who rescued you from the hand of the Egyptians and of Pharaoh, and who rescued the people from the hand of the Egyptians. Now I know that the Lord is greater than all other gods, for he did this to those who had treated Israel arrogantly.” Then Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, brought a burnt offering and other sacrifices to God, and Aaron came with all the elders of Israel to eat a meal with Moses’ father-in-law in the presence of God. (Exodus 18: 1ff).
We can see from all the bolded part of the passage that Moses and Jethro’ father/son-in-law relationship bring testimony of the awesomeness of Yahweh, confirmation of the power of God and worship of God.
Ours can also produce such where both FIL and SIL are Jehovah worshipers.
In addition, the second blessing is blessing of restoration.
Moses has been separated from his wife and two young sons en route to answering God’s call in Exodus 4 but here in chapter 18, God is using his FIL to restore his family
Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, together with Moses’ sons and wife, came to him in the wilderness, where he was camped near the mountain of God. Jethro had sent word to him, “I, your father-in-law Jethro, am coming to you with your wife and her two sons.” (vs 5).
Furthermore, the blessing of FIL is honour and respect, both ways.
7 So Moses went out to meet his father-in-law and bowed down and kissed him. They greeted each other and then went into the tent.Now, tell me who wouldn’t thrive in an atmosphere of mutual respect?
The fourth blessing is the blessing of divine guidance.
Moses wouldn’t have lived to 120 years, had he not listened to the advice of his FIL.
He would have died from over-burdenness, frustration, heart attack, weariness and what-have-you but his wife’s father advised him thus:
When his father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, “What is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?”
Moses answered him, “Because the people come to me to seek God’s will. Whenever they have a dispute, it is brought to me, and I decide between the parties and inform them of God’s decrees and instructions.”
Moses’ father-in-law replied, “What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Listen now to me and I will give you some advice, and may God be with you. You must be the people’s representative before God and bring their disputes to him. Teach them his decrees and instructions, and show them the way they are to live and how they are to behave. But select capable men from all the people—men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain—and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. Have them serve as judges for the people at all times, but have them bring every difficult case to you; the simple cases they can decide themselves. That will make your load lighter, because they will share it with you. If you do this and God so commands, you will be able to stand the strain, and all these people will go home satisfied.”Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said.
Your FIL is probably older than you and he come with loads of experiences which can be of benefit to you.
These are the benefits of a Christian father-in-law. If you have one, cherish him while he is still with you.
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How my wife gave me, poisoned apple?
The other time, my wife bought and brought an apple in.
She took her bite and offered me the remaining apple.
You know what, I don’t even bother knowing the source of the fruit, I just ate and my eyes were ‘opened’ straight to Adam eating the forbidden fruit as offered by his wife, Eve. Both of us didn’t question the source.
You will say I trusted her. Yes, I do.
But my point exactly is that if you haven’t found yourself in a particular situation, you may not understand what those that have been or passing through the situations are feeling.
Take for example, you can have all the laws, the 7 dos, and donts, and principles, wu wu not take it in courtship (as it should be) but to prepare your mind, 80% of those plans though good but may be unworkable in your marriage.
Why? Because marriage is more than two people calling themselves husband and wife. It involves in-laws, finances, ageing, childbirth, death, relocation, etc, and most times, life is unscripted.
Should you not have plans and principles? For a fact, having one is better than not having any but always pray for the grace to triumph in all situations.
May the grace of God teaches us how to navigate different stages of our life in Jesus’ name.Share this:
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The Meaning of My Name.
My first name is Joel.
According to Wikipedia, Joel is a male given name derived from יוֹאֵל Standard Hebrew, Yoʾel, meaning “Yahu is god“, “YHWH is God“, or the modern translation “Yahweh is God”. Joel as a given name appears in the Hebrew Bible.
Significantly, I love this name because God has proved beyond reasonable doubt that He is indeed Yahweh.Share this:
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How to make him/her misses you.
He breaks you heart?
She served you breakfast (in Nigerian heartbreak jargon)
Don’t let him/her go Scot free when you can actually make him/her to pay.
Watch how.
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What Submission is Not. (3)
In the last post, I addressed the husbands that submission may be anything but it’s not
– for everybody. The only woman that is commanded to submit to you is your wife. Not even your daughter.
– superiority contest. None of you are superior or inferior to one another. Bible called you one, co-heirs and remnant of life.
What will you tell the Lord if you join in sinning all in the name of ‘wife, submit to your husband,’ when Jesus completed it by saying, ‘as unto me?’
– personal lordship and saviourship. You are not the Lord and Saviour of your wife. Jesus is. You didn’t die for her sin. Jesus was.
Now, in this post, I’m telling you, dear husbands, SUBMISSION IS NOT ABSOLUTE and to wives, DO NOT SUBMIT SHEEPISHLY.
Husband, your wife is only permitted to the extent you are submit to
God.
His laws
Godly authorities
And the Church of God.
Because Submission to all those things will make a good husband worthy of being submitted to.
Therefore, if you gamble, abusive, touchy, sinning, cheating and fornicating, she is not allowed to submit to sin. Why? Because Submission entails supporting you and her Lord and Saviour, the Head of the church forbids joining the crowd to do evil and supporting evil.
She is to submit to you as unto the Lord and we know her Lord won’t do evil to her or to anyone.
Dear wife, if he is nudging you to sinning all in the name of Submission, Bible allows you no to submit in that situation. One, you will be personally responsible for every sin you committed.
What will you tell the Lord if you join in sinning all in the name of ‘wife, submit to your husband,’ when Jesus completed it by saying, ‘as unto me?’
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What is faith?
I learned something spectacular today at the Men Missionary Union meeting.
Lmaaooo 😀😄😀! I have sworn before that I will never attend one till I am 50 (a story for another day sha).
Back to my story, the theme for the year was taking over territories while today’s topic was faith.
We defined faith as trusting God to do what is right. Not what we wanted or asked but trusting Him that He will do what is right for us at His right time for His right purpose.
It struck a chord in me. Trusting God to do what is right.
Dear friend, I can’t tell you the Almighty will grant everything you asked him but I can assure you, He will do the right thing for you.
He will bring the right man.
He will make the right job materialize for you.
He will provide the right opportunity for your assignment and assistance.
May the grace of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit abides with us now and forever more. Amen.Share this:
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What Submission Is Not.(2)
This article target men, married and would-be about the most bastardized word in marriage, submission.
You must have had countless definitions of submission, good and bad ones but among those definitions, submission is not any of these from the biblical worldview.SUBMISSION IS NOT GENERAL.
The only person that is commanded to submit to you is your wife and your wife only. Even your kids are so commanded to submit to you but obey you.
My wife can’t submit to you.
Your brother’s wife is not expected to submit to you.
Your mentee’s partner is off-limits.
The only woman in the world enjoined to submit is your wife. All other women owe you respect, as you also own them in reciprocal.
And don’t force, cajole, ask, or campaign for it. If you do, it became coercion, slavery, and manipulation.
SUBMISSION IS NOT SUPERIORITY.
Bible abundantly made it clear that husband and wife are neither superior nor inferior to themselves. God called them one, co-heirs and remnants of life.
Therefore, husbands and future ones, the scripture commanding submission to you doesn’t say you are better than her. You are not.
The purpose of submission in the family is to institute leadership and orderliness.President Muhammad Buhari is the president of Nigeria but that doesn’t make him a superman and a citizen, less human.
God called them one, co-heirs and remnants of life.
SUBMISSION IS NOT LORDSHIP AND ‘SAVOURSHIP.’Wives are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord Jesus Christ and marriage is a mirror of the relationship between Christ and the Church.
Who is Christ to the church? Jesus is head, Lord, and Saviour of the Church because it’s he who dies for the Church but fortunately since husbands don’t die for their wives, they are not Lord and Saviour.
You are not Lord and Saviour of your wife. Jesus is provided she is born again.
You didn’t die for her sin. Jesus was the one who did that.
Since you are not her Lord and Saviour, if she thinks that you are doing something that her Lord and Saviour hate hoping that she will join you, she’s bound not to submit to you in that situation or circumstance.
Do you know why? Her Lord and Saviour forbid her from following the crowd to do evil and it’s only her that will stand to give account not you.
Lastly, dear husband loves your wife as Christ loves the Church.
May God gives us a deeper understanding.Share this:
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