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  • Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Tell me one reason why God won’t punish my ex.
    She betrayed me. She trampled on my trust. She served me a hot breakfast. After all, I’ve done for her 😭😭😭

    What causes the issue? Our problem started with the pic below

    After wishing her a pleasurable birthday and affirming me as her love.
    Then a message inbox, followed by a painful but necessary breakfast a year after.
    Was it painful? It was ooo. So unbearable I have to doubt my value of generosity and trust in a romantic relationship (my wife kuku part-pay in the sin she didn’t commit but that’s a story for another day).
    So painful I have to converse with someone on Facebook.

    Now tell me why someone who broke the heart of His dear son won’t suffer.

    My dear if this is your reasoning about your ex, you are dead wrong because God will not punish your ex because he breaks your heart.

    God won’t make her marry wrongly because she left you.

    Why? for the following reasons:

    God won’t punish your ex because, for some of us, that split must happen so that you can have sense.

    Secondly, perhaps, your ex is indirectly working for God because God knows that your union will be a disaster for His kingdom.

    Three, God is a just God. He doesn’t think like us. He forgives sin.

    Four, where is your Christianity if you wish evil on fellow human being, sometimes a fellow Christian?

    Fifthly, my dear stop cursing, cussing, and whining about your ex, the Almighty won’t kill the person because you want him or her dead. He alone is sovereign.

    And lastly, what gain will your ex’s misfortune give you? Assuredly, it won’t give your car, a happy home, house, promotion, career progression, long life, and prosperity.

    Your ex’s misfortune won’t give any good thing of life save bitterness, evil thought, and envy to your being.

    What is the next thing to do? To prevent further breakfast, go and download A Tearless Courtship from selar.co by clicking this

    Then go and curse no more in Jesus’ name.

    Breakfast in Nigerian relationship dictionary means heartbreak.

  • How I dated ‘Satan’ for 2 years.

    She said to me, ‘since we are going to marry, let’s do it.’

    I said no. Number one we are not married. Two, it’s ungodly.

    ‘Hmmm, what about kissing, or do you want to say that one too is a sin.’

    ‘It’s not but it can lead us to where we don’t know,’ I replied.

    She brought up the subject of pornography.

    I replied watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts because it places you and your spouse in fantasy – unrealistic expectations; a world created by video directors, videographers, video editors, and actors.

    Your marital sexual life will be utterly destroyed because you can’t attain a world that doesn’t exist.

    Two, watching porn is promoting sin and encouraging sinners not to repent.

    By downloading porn materials, you are encouraging them to put out more ungodly content.

    By visiting their site, you are telling them that more sinful materials are needed.

    Watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts

    Liking and viewing their pages only mean one thing; more money from the motinesation of their idea which in turn you are contributing monetarily to Satan’s kingdom.

    I refused to do adverts for Satan in my life.

    God forbids I am unwilling tools for the propagation of evil and its agenda.

    Lastly, this evil will open doors for other evils like the objectification of the opposite sex, insanity, sodomy, etc.

    It may look harmless but the repercussions are far fetch.

    May the grace of God be with us.

    Disclaimer: the story at the beginning of this write-up is fictional.

  • A Gift from Iféwárá.

    A Gift from Iféwárá.

    ‘Maa kawe,’ he cried. His mantra is, ‘somebody shout Hallelujah.’

    ‘I want to go Grammar School,’ he kept telling his parents despite knowing about their abject poverty.

    He did not only go to school but he won all the prizes and awards at the completion of his secondary school which he did under signed IOU to repay all his outstanding school fees, no shoes, and borrowed suit and shoes for prize and valedictory ceremony.

    Today, he has PhD in Applied Mathematics and numerous honorary doctorate.

    He was nicknamed Ade-Maths and today is his birthday. The boy who has 5 birthdays for his 5 different girlfriends 😄😀😄.

    My sister, husband no scarce na you wan use 1 year to pray

    The father who is now a God’s General trailblazing for Christ.

    Therefore, join me in wishing Pastor E. A Adeboye, The General Overseer of The Redeemed Christian Church of God Worldwide, a happy 81st birthday

    After wishing him more strength for more Kingdom exploits, Click on this link to watch a film by Mount Zion Christian Film about him titled Enoch – A Biopic of Pastor E.A. Adeboye and learn. Here are my lessons from the film

    I watched Enoch today and I was crying 😢😥😢😥

    It was a journey of faith, lack, loyalty vision, joy, and power

    1. A visionary man will win no matter how. He will win. The boy ‘Deboye was adamant that he will go to school no matter his parents’ wretchedness. Today, the story is clear.

    2. The Baba and his wife deserve every good thing they are enjoying now. Baba was from a very poor family so tey they are celebrating the purchase of an umbrella.

    See also his passion to preach everywhere.

    Observe their prayer life and their obedience to godly instructions.

    Take notice of their loyalty to their G.O.

    3. Document your vision in the presence of loyal witnesses. If not for irrefutable documentation by Revd. Akindayomi and the witnesses at the transfer of mantle at Tulsa Oklahoma, the young Adeboye wouldn’t have been allowed to head the church.

    4. Our fathers are also naughty during their era. Ade-Maths has different birthdays for his different girlfriends 😄🥺😀

    5. And lastly, Bro Boye asked Folu out. She told her father. Her father summoned the young man and they are married. My sister, husband no scarce na you wan use 1 year to pray.

    Happy birthday, Baba. Long life and prosperity.

  • How Vladimir Putin decision affect your marriage.

    How Vladimir Putin decision affect your marriage.

    Vladimir Putin’s decision to invade Ukraine led to death of thousands on both sides, destruction of properties and worse of all, economic sanctions on his country and his close pals. Abrahamovic being one of them.

    Now, that VP’s decision affected Roman Abrahamovic by force selling his darling club, pride of London, the only club in London with 2 UCL trophies Chelsea FC to Todd Boelhy which eventually led to Thomas Tuchel sack and hiring of Graham Potter.

    The rest is now history but one thing is sure; without Putin’s invasion of Ukraine, current Chelsea problem won’t be happening.

    Now, how does this concern you? One set of people you should avoid like a plague are those that believe their decision only affect them.

    As in they believe that what they do or doesn’t do doesn’t affect others. As in set of, I own nobody anything.

    Run away from them.

    Because your present and past decisions affect even your unborn generations, your neighbors, church members, colleagues, etc.

    You are not just choosing a spouse for yourself. You are choosing a coparent, a grandparent for your kids and an ancestor for your progeny.

    Will they blessed you for giving them such a mother, father or grandparent or curse you?

    You are not just relocating, you are determining another environment for your kids. It affects them too.

    You are moving away from those who probably can’t bear not having you around.



    You decision affects a wide array of people. People you don’t even know.

    Now, how do you make a good choice? Acknowledge God in all ways and lean not on your own understanding.

    If you can do that, God will be with you.

  • Building a healthy relationship with your father-in-law.

    Let’s start with this fact; my wife is a good daughter-in-law to my father and I am to his father to.

    Now to the business at hand, we have written, talked, podcasted and blogged so much about mothers-daughters-in-law relationships but hardly have we beam our searchlight on fathers-in-law, either father-son-in-law relationship or father-daughter-in-law’s.

    Also for a fact, before this relationship got neglected, 99% of it are cool and freeze.

    The father don’t care and either the SIL or DIL don’t give a damn.

    Now, let’s see some avenues to build quality relationship with your FIL.

    1. Take care of his child.

    The joy of every parent is to see and know that his/her child is going well in all areas of life. Fathers inclusive.

    So make sure his pikin is well taken care of.

    2. Don’t neglect him

    Fathers got neglected alot. Even good fathers.

    Don’t let your FIL be neglected.

    Call him constantly.

    Visit him regularly.

    Celebrate him often.

    Men are emotional too.

    3. Buy him gift

    Men love gifts. Men love gifts. Men loves gift.

    Thank God, today’s Valentine.

    Click here to see

    4. Don’t disrespect your father-in-law.

    If you really desired a good relationship, don’t disrespect your Mother-in-law, his wife.

    She is his bone of the his bone. The flesh of his flesh. So don’t do something ridiculous to her

    Don’t disrespect him too.

    May God gives us deep understanding.

  • How to handle marital proposal (pt 3) – How Men See the Value of Women They love

    Dear sister,

    If you are sure who the brother is, before his arrival, please no law stops you from giving your Yes on the spot or within some hours.

    He will think I am cheap? No! Whether you give your answer immediately or you delay for 3 years doesn’t increase or decrease your value in his eyes.

    Because a man gets his value about women based on

    – the value you placed on yourself. How you called yourself is not people will called you.

    – his value of women from his environment.

    Meaning, If you place a value upon yourself by not performing wifely duties in courtship like cohabitation, sex, etc

    he will place a value on you and if he won’t value you, then goodbye to bad riddance.

    Value attracts value.

    Furthermore, the types of women he has met will determine how he values you.

    If his mother, sisters, neighborhood women, ex-girlfriend, and female colleagues have been covtefeve (remember Trump, right 😄😄), don’t expect him to have value for you. Remember, you have no business with such an individual.

    Lastly, before you start your courtship, Get my ebook The Tearless Courtship to know

    – What is Courtship?

    – 50 Questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend.

    – 50 enjoyable activities for Christian daters

    – 7 dos and donts of Courtship.

    How? Click Here .

    May God gives you insight.

  • How to marriage proposal (pt 2)

    Lemme tell you two of stories to buttress that fact not all sisters we beholden are wicked. Some are god-fearing and wise.

    The first story goes thus; there was this lady I met during my national service year in far away Jigawa. A spec and I believe she will be a compliment.

    I asked her out and she said her answer on the spot which is no.

    I asked her, ‘are you not going to pray about it.’

    She said she is not going to pray any prayer because she can never be interested.

    No time is wasted on both side. We are friends throughout our service year till date.

    The second story, I am very confident about this one, after my delivery, she asked for 3 months to pray and maybe developed feelings.

    Surprisingly, on the 90th day, without cajoling or being disrespectful, she gave her answer too.

    She has given her verdict, I am the one that will determine whether I still want to stay around or check the next door. Funnily enough, I checked the next door.

    No hard feelings on both side. Till today, we are cool. I even chatted her up today.

    Summarily, what I’m insinuating is that as much as possible, dear sister, give an answer to the marriage proposal on time and give it in a clear manner.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal.

    What my eyes beholden in the hand of some wickedness sisters, I can’t tell it all.

    I asked you out. You neither said no nor yes but you want me to help you paint your room, pack your load, run market errands, and do and submit an assignment for you and you will still be vexed if I don’t call you per day.

    Your boyfriend is flexing while me, still applying to the office will be suffering. God forbids

    Dupe (not real name) Shey if I want to be an errand boy, I can’t say ni.

    You and your kind are very wicked and the Almighty will open the eye of the brother you are playing with their hearts in Jesus’ name.

    Summarily, go and give the required answer to all the proposals on your table, then sin no more and God will be with you.

  • My favorite Sport to watch and play.

    My favorite Sport to watch and play.

    What could be that sport that I like so much to watch and play? Hmmmmmm!

    If you are my regular follower, you should know that I love watching football and I am a Chelsea FC fan with pride. Apart from Chelsea games, I enjoyed watching football matches generally.

    Chelsea lifting the UCL trophy in 2021 for the second time

    I love playing the game too though I am very poor at it.

    The second sport I like to watch is athletics – field and track events then followed by wrestling.

    Fun fact:
    About 1.3 billion people watched the last #QatarFiFa2022 Finals between France and Argentina.
    No other sports command that viewership.

    FIFA official stats

    I also engaged in some low level exercises. See attached pictures below

    Exercising at school

    I have told you my favorite sports, now what is yours?

  • What I enjoy doing most in my leisure time.

    All work and no play make Jack, a boring person.

    I am a full-time teacher and I try as much as possible to be a better and greater teacher every day but besides my job, I took time to relax.

    Bible fact:
    Rest is a biblical Command. God rested on the 7th day after 6 days of creative works and commanded us in the ten commandments to do likewise.

    When I am less busy not planning my lessons, I engage in the following activities:

    • Blogging.
    • Video making and Youtubing
    • Update my Facebook page with enriching Christian Courtship articles.
    • Watching football. For your information, I am a Chelsea FC fan. Blue is colour. Football is game. Cheer us on thru the sun and rain, cos’ Chelsea, Chelsea is our club.
    • Writing.
    • Create contents, either word, graphics or videos
    • Reading. I read my Bible. But beside that I just finished WORTH DYING FOR and now on LOST SYMBOLS by Dan Brown. After that I will read January is Not for Planning by Mute Efe.
    • Disturb my wife 😄😄😄, eat and sleep.

    Moreover I discovered that by doing most of these hobbies, I felt happy, fulfilled and better.

    Lastly, what to do enjoy most during your leisure time?

  • The Blessings of Father-in-law.

    I don’t have Father-in-law but I have capable father figure-in-law.

    Over the years, I have noticed that 99% of father-son-in-law are very cool and deep freeze.

    It is more like the Father-in-law saying, ‘stay on your lane of being my daughter’s husband and I will stay on my lane of being my daughter’s father’ and the son-in-law replying, ‘no problem.’ 🤷🤷🤷.

    It is Hi! Hello! Kind of communication. Nothing more. Nothing less.

    But where there is correct Father-in-law (and if you are lucky to have one), there are a lot of blessings that can be gotten from it. Jethro and Moses is our examples.

    Let start with the first blessing; the blessing of establishment of deep worship of YHWN will be established.

    Now Jethro, the priest of Midian and father-in-law of Moses, heard of everything God had done for Moses and for his people Israel, and how the Lord had brought Israel out of Egypt…Moses told his father-in-law about everything the Lord had done to Pharaoh and the Egyptians for Israel’s sake and about all the hardships they had met along the way and how the Lord had saved them. Jethro was delighted to hear about all the good things the Lord had done for Israel in rescuing them from the hand of the Egyptians. He said, “Praise be to the Lord, who rescued you from the hand of the Egyptians and of Pharaoh, and who rescued the people from the hand of the Egyptians. Now I know that the Lord is greater than all other gods, for he did this to those who had treated Israel arrogantly.” Then Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, brought a burnt offering and other sacrifices to God, and Aaron came with all the elders of Israel to eat a meal with Moses’ father-in-law in the presence of God. (Exodus 18: 1ff).

    We can see from all the bolded part of the passage that Moses and Jethro’ father/son-in-law relationship bring testimony of the awesomeness of Yahweh, confirmation of the power of God and worship of God.

    Ours can also produce such where both FIL and SIL are Jehovah worshipers.

    In addition, the second blessing is blessing of restoration.

    Moses has been separated from his wife and two young sons en route to answering God’s call in Exodus 4 but here in chapter 18, God is using his FIL to restore his family

    Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, together with Moses’ sons and wife, came to him in the wilderness, where he was camped near the mountain of God. Jethro had sent word to him, “I, your father-in-law Jethro, am coming to you with your wife and her two sons.” (vs 5).

    Furthermore, the blessing of FIL is honour and respect, both ways.


    7 So Moses went out to meet his father-in-law and bowed down and kissed him. They greeted each other and then went into the tent.

    Now, tell me who wouldn’t thrive in an atmosphere of mutual respect?

    The fourth blessing is the blessing of divine guidance.

    Moses wouldn’t have lived to 120 years, had he not listened to the advice of his FIL.

    He would have died from over-burdenness, frustration, heart attack, weariness and what-have-you but his wife’s father advised him thus:

     When his father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, “What is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?”

    Moses answered him, “Because the people come to me to seek God’s will. Whenever they have a dispute, it is brought to me, and I decide between the parties and inform them of God’s decrees and instructions.”

    Moses’ father-in-law replied, “What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Listen now to me and I will give you some advice, and may God be with you. You must be the people’s representative before God and bring their disputes to him. Teach them his decrees and instructions, and show them the way they are to live and how they are to behave. But select capable men from all the people—men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain—and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens. Have them serve as judges for the people at all times, but have them bring every difficult case to you; the simple cases they can decide themselves. That will make your load lighter, because they will share it with you. If you do this and God so commands, you will be able to stand the strain, and all these people will go home satisfied.”Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said.

    Your FIL is probably older than you and he come with loads of experiences which can be of benefit to you.

    These are the benefits of a Christian father-in-law. If you have one, cherish him while he is still with you.

  • How my wife gave me, poisoned apple?

    How my wife gave me, poisoned apple?

    The other time, my wife bought and brought an apple in.

    She took her bite and offered me the remaining apple.

    You know what, I don’t even bother knowing the source of the fruit, I just ate and my eyes were ‘opened’ straight to Adam eating the forbidden fruit as offered by his wife, Eve. Both of us didn’t question the source.

    You will say I trusted her. Yes, I do.

    But my point exactly is that if you haven’t found yourself in a particular situation, you may not understand what those that have been or passing through the situations are feeling.

    Take for example, you can have all the laws, the 7 dos, and donts, and principles, wu wu not take it in courtship (as it should be) but to prepare your mind, 80% of those plans though good but may be unworkable in your marriage.

    Why? Because marriage is more than two people calling themselves husband and wife. It involves in-laws, finances, ageing, childbirth, death, relocation, etc, and most times, life is unscripted.

    Should you not have plans and principles? For a fact, having one is better than not having any but always pray for the grace to triumph in all situations.

    May the grace of God teaches us how to navigate different stages of our life in Jesus’ name.

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