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  • 2022 Blogmas Ideas – The Love of Christ.

    2022 Blogmas Ideas – The Love of Christ.

    Welcome to Another Episode of BLOGMAS. This 2022 edition is tagged The LOVE OF CHRIST.

    2022 Official banner via Youversion Bible app

    I started Blogmas, which is an abbreviation of the words, Blog and Christmas, last year themed Miracle So Extraordinary to remind us of the essence of Christmas to the believers and the implications of Christ’s birth to the world and also create an avenue to merry and feast among ourselves.

    For this year’s Blogmas, as I had said, the theme is LOVE OF CHRIST and I will be writing on the following topics for the next 25 days today being the first day of 25 in no particular order:

    1. Christmas and Marriage.

    2. How to use this Christmas to strengthen your relationship.

    3. Twenty Memorable Quotes of The Year.

    4. 7 Christmas themed Q & A.

    5. 15 Decent places to find a spouse during Christmas.

    6. 2022 Christmas Playlists.

    8. The Dangers of Not Celebrating Christmas.

    9. 20 Christmas Gifts for your pastor.

    10. 5 Christmas films to check out

    11. Let’s reasons together

    12. 20 prayer points from Pastor E. A. Adeboye.

    13. 2 Christmas Natural Drinks.

    14. New Book Alert!!!

    15. Pray for Nigeria 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬

    16. The love of Christ

    Thank you for joining me on day 1. I love you. See you every day by 4am Nigerian time for the next 24 days.

  • How to know and do God’s will.

    How to know and do God’s will.

    This is the 4th article on our treatise of God’s will. In part One, I defined God’s will as God’s command, instructions, likes, dislikes, guidelines and don’ts and dos.

    Then in the second part, we discussed types of God’s will, e.g., sovereign will of God, commanded will of God, expected will of God, etc., while the third part highlighted God’s will as it concerns your relationships – be it marital or filial ones.

    Now, this thing called God’s will, how do I know it and how I do I do it?

    The only way to know His will is by reading His word – the Bible. Everything God has to say concerning anything to human beings, He has said and documented it in Bible.

    Therefore, everything you wish to know about God himself, his works, what he likes or hates, how to do relationship with parents, siblings, unbelievers, believers, masters, slaves, employers and employees, etc., you got no choice than to read your Bible.

    I have treasured Your word in my heart so that I may not sin against You.
    Psalms 119:11 HCSB

    Don’t just read, meditate the word

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    Furthermore, be the doer of what you have read. You will not be justified for reading and meditating but be justified by doing what you read.

    But be doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. Because if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man looking at his own face in a mirror. For he looks at himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was.
    James 1:22‭-‬24 HCSB

    What can help you do the word? Join a Bible believing Church, having a Bible believing and doing friends, read Christian books and sermons.

    Additionally, if you think you can do God’s will by wishing or liking to do them, dear, you will fail. By the power of the flesh, no one will prevail. Because your body called Mr flesh that you are carrying just what to disobey God. He is anti-God. He wants to do what God forbids him to do but prayer can help you to put it under subjugation to you.

    Prayers make release of grace, power and enablement to do God’s will.

    Prayer will be made doing it easy for you and by praying you are simply acknowledging your deficiency for God’s sufficiency. In fact, ‘thy will be done on earth as it’s in heaven,’ is a prayer line taught by Jesus Himself.

    Lastly, the greatest of Divine will is that you make it home to his feet at the end of the world. He wants you to receive the gift of salvation as bought for you by Jesus. The basis of starting to do God’s will starts with confessing Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior and ends with staying in Him till the end of the ages.

    Let’s pray: Oh Lord, everlasting Rock of ages, let Your will be done in my life in Jesus name.

  • What is God’s will for your relationships.

    What is God’s will for your relationships.

    We have been discussing God’s will since two Sunday ago. We defined God’s will as God’s law, mind, intentions, command and delight and  doing God’s will means doing what pleases God.

    In the second part, I discussed types of God’s will and said you can’t disobey nor obey God’s sovereignty will, the ones you can disobey are commanded wills and others but not without consequences.

    Now, let’s talk about God’s intent and delight about your relationships. Be it friendships, marriage, courtship or whatsoever nomenclature you give it.

    Firstly, God’s will is that you should enjoy your relationship. He doesn’t want you to endure it.

    Dear friend, I pray that you may prosper in every way and be in good health physically just as you are spiritually.
    3 John 1:2 HCSB

    Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth.
    Proverbs 5:18 HCSB

    Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life, which has been given to you under the sun, all your fleeting days. For that is your portion in life and in your struggle under the sun.
    Ecclesiastes 9:9 HCSB

    For more read Proverb 18:24, 17:17, 27:10

    As he want you prosper physically. He wants you prosper relationally.

    Secondly, God’s pleasure is that most of whom you relate to are Christians. Most especially in marriage.

    not staying away from our worship meetings, as some habitually do, but encouraging each other, and all the more as you see the day drawing near.
    Hebrews 10:25 HCSB

    Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?
    2 Corinthians 6:14 HCSB

    Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
    1 Corinthians 15:33 HCSB

    Furthermore, He hates abusive relationships.

    “If he hates and divorces his wife, ” says the Lord God of Israel, “he covers his garment with injustice,” says the Lord of Hosts. Therefore, watch yourselves carefully, and do not act treacherously.
    Malachi 2:16 HCSB

    In addition, God’s delight is that your relationships is a holy ones.

    How happy is the man who does not follow the advice of the wicked or take the path of sinners or join a group of mockers!
    Psalms 1:1 HCSB

    Conclusively, this is not an exhaustive list but these pretty much cover all. I will like your voice in comment as to how to know and do God’s will.

  • Types of God’s will.

    Types of God’s will.

    I started this series with the definition of God’s will and what it means to do it. Click here to read it.

    Now, today’s series is about types of God’s will and how we can key into it for both our spiritual and physical edification. Shall we proceed?

    1. Sovereign Will of God.

    This is God’s plan that is predestined or decreed in His eternal wisdom. This consists of what the Almighty has decided in His mind to do by His omnipotent power. No creature, whether man or angel can disobey, delay, or thwart this plan. Consciously or unconsciously, we are all playing a part in this plan.

    For example, everything about Jesus Christ and the salvation of mankind was decreed before the creation of the earth and everyone – Mary, Joseph, Apostles, Judas, Romans, Herod, Pontus Pilate, etc involved in the play was playing his/her part.

    What if Judas refused to betray Jesus? Seriously, if it’s not him, one of the 12 will. Why? It has been written.

    Other examples are God’s choice and selection of the nation of Israel (Romans 11:1-2) and most of what was written in the books of Daniel and Revelations fall in this category.

    To shock you, the ongoing Russian-Ukraine war, America’s moral decline, the COVID-19 pandemic, breathtaking scientific breakthroughs, etc., are all fulfilling a part in the sovereign will of God concerning the end time.

    We can also put the natural laws like gravity, Earth’s rotation, and revolution, and the galaxies into this category for they all work according to the dictate of Almighty God.

    Lastly about this,  sometimes, God reveals some parts of his sovereign will to us. However, frequently, it remains a secret. God reveals to us only what he wants us to know.

    2. Commanded Will of God.

    This is also known as the moral will of God. This includes His laws and commandments like the ten commandments (Exodus 20) and many such divine guidelines where Yahweh told us how He wants us to act or not to act.

    You can choose to obey or disobey this but there are consequences for any of the actions. (Deuteronomy 28, Isaiah 1:19-20).

    3. The preferential  will of God.

    This is knowing the mind of God on something that is not explicitly stated as a sin. That is wanting to discern what ultimately pleases Him and of His utmost delight.

    It means being on God’s perfect side or choosing Yahweh’s stand and as His children, our desire should be to do that which pleases God

    For instance, God doesn’t want sinners to perish. It is His utmost delight that all come to repentance. Therefore, doing God’s will towards the sinner will be not to cancel such an individual as someone beyond the grace of God.

    God loves the poor and wants them taken care of. Doing God’s will towards the poor will be taking care of them.

    This is also called God’s will of disposition. For more on this, read the following verses; Romans 12:1; Colossians 1:10; 2 Corinthians 5:9; Ephesians 5:10, Matthew 18:14; 1 Timothy 2:3-4; 2 Peter 3:9; Ezekiel 18:32; 33:11.

    4. The directive will of God.

    This refers to the Holy Spirit’s personal and direct guidance in our lives through a dream, vision, prophecy, pastoral utterances, word of wisdom, or other means.

    God may want you to do a particular job, married a specific person or not, go somewhere or not, etc and it does not violate any of the “wills” above or Scripture (in fact its validity must be subjected to scripture to prove whether it is the will of God or not).

    For example, if you have a dream where you married a second wife as a married man, that is not God’s will because it negates His plan for marriage as explicitly stated in the Holy Bible. The “Macedonian call” (Acts 16:6-10), the guidance of Philip (Acts 8:26), and of Peter and Ananias (Acts 10:1-23) are examples.

    5. The discerned will of God.

    This is the type of will, we get by application of two or more Bible passages, especially on issues not specifically touched in the Bible.

    The decision of who to marry, what city to live, what career to pursue, how many children to have, which school to attend, what kind of car to get, what kind of food, shoes, and clothes, and how much money to give to charity and more are not written in the Bible. We use Biblical principles to discern God’s will on it.

    The first example is there is nowhere in the Bible where the name of your spouse is written down as in Mr. A of No 2, Oregon street TX USA must marry Miss. B from No 26, African way, Nigeria but if we applied various biblical instructions about Christian marriages and spouse selection, we can deduce whether they can marry themselves.

    5. Expected will of God.

    These are sets of laws of what God expects us as Christians to do for our benefit and safety.

    God expects us to pray, fast, pay our tithes and offerings, be faithful to one spouse, be diligent and be hardworking plus many other good things

    Conclusively let’s pray; Teach me to do your will, for you are my God” ( Psalm 143:10 ).

  • What is God’s will and How to know and do it.

    What is God’s will and How to know and do it.

    “May Your will be done.”

    “Marry God’s will for your life to enjoy marriage.”

    “I want to do Your Will, oh Lord!”

    All these and many more are cliques and quotes in Christianity that have even made the phrase, God’s will, almost lost its import. Some have even micro-defined it to mean the right marriage.

    …but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven.
    Matthew 7:21 HCSB

    Apart from the fact that God’s will is more than marrying rightly but having a good marriage is not a sign that you did God’s will. What will tell us whether you know His wills and do them is; do you marry a Christian and now even in marriage, whose wills, laws and pleasures are ruling your family? Unless both questions are in affirmation, you haven’t done God’s will.

    Now, what is God’s will and what does it mean to do God’s will? Simply, God’s will is God’s words, laws, pleasures and commands and to do them is to do what pleases God.

    “I appeal to you, therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:1–2.

    I repeat, to do God’s will is to do what pleases God.

    Teach me to do your will, for you are my God” ( Psalm 143:10 ).

    It’s to do what makes God happy.

    It’s doing what God is doing. What He has done or will do.

    It is liking what He likes and disliking what He dislikes.

    Doing what he commanded is doing God’s will.

    It also means to believe in and trust in Him completely.

    Lastly, God’s ultimate will is the advancement of his kingdom (Dan 2:44), his glorification (1 Cor 10:31), and the salvation and sanctification of his children through his son, Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:9).

  • Request for Collabo.

    Hi, Maria Micheal of www.whispersofthehesrt.com.

    My name is Alade Joel Adetunji. A relationship, courtship and dating blogger, an amazon certified author, farmer cum teacher and a proudly Nigerian,

    Presently, I am an author of three eBooks namely The Tearless Courtship, Pathways to Sexual Purity and A-Z of Content Creation. All available for free on Selar.com and on Amazon for $1.

    If it pleases you, I want us to collabo on either a book, a YouTube video interview, a blog post or any worthwhile project that build, help and strengthen relationships, marriages and Courtships.

    I can be contacted via joelalade2018@gmail.com

    Thanks.

  • Why do females gaining weight after marriage?

    Why do females gaining weight after marriage?

    Bros, let’s talk.

    Especially ‘ don’t add ooo, don’t gain weight oooo, your shape must be like this forever ooo’ gang.

    The fact is that it is not even a matter of maybe she will add weight or change shape in marriage, it is a matter she will add weight (and you too will gain weight) in marriage especially during your honeymoon stage of union usually the first 2 – 5 years.

    What do cause it?

    Gene is one thing. A lady from fatty family will definitely add on flesh, all other factors remaining the same.

    For example, one of her parents is fat, one of her grandparents is thick and you know about two or three fat family members, even though she is petite now, she will get in line now or later.

    But her mom and siblings are not chubby? Bro, do you know them in riches? Or their SAPA versions are deceiving you?

    Queen Elizabeth II through the years.

    Another thing is Nutrition. A well-fed woman (and man) will look beautiful and gain flesh. I am not talking about agbado in the morning, cassava in the evening kind of food.

    For your information, sperm is proteinous and it makes women gain flesh. Ask Yoruba, what is ‘àgunsanra‘ 😀😀😀


    Another thing is biological changes. My guy, your wife will get pregnant, which will protrude her stomach. That stomach will never come back to its original shape till death do you part.

    Your baby, she is carrying will add to her kilograms. Those kilograms may not go for life.

    Her breast will nurse babies. Continuous Breastfeeding will sag them. God didn’t design breasts to stand forever. Accept that fact.

    She will age (just like you).

    You can prevent pouring your seed into her thereby preventing addition by pregnancy but how are gonna do that of age?



    Another factor is the environment. Any human being in a happy and wholesome environment/home plus all other factors already highlighted will gain weight.

    Lastly, I wish to tell you that men add weight too in marriage.

  • THE TRADITIONAL NAMES FOR WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES.

    THE TRADITIONAL NAMES FOR WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES.

    There are traditional names for wedding anniversaries, from 1st to 80th. This list is based on symbolic gifts that can be given for each anniversary. The tradition is used partly to congratulate the couple for the good fortune that had prolonged their lives together, and partly in recognition of the fact they must have enjoyed a fairly harmonious relationship.

    The standard names as used in the United Kingdom are as given below. Please note that this can vary depending on where you are in the world:

    1st Anniversary – Paper
    2nd Anniversary – Cotton
    3rd Anniversary – Leather
    4th Anniversary – Fruit or Flowers
    5th Anniversary – Wooden
    6th Anniversary – Sugar or Candy
    7th Anniversary – Copper
    8th Anniversary – Bronze or Pottery
    9th Anniversary – Willow Pattern or Pottery
    10th Anniversary – Tin
    11th Anniversary – Steel
    12th Anniversary – Silk & Fine Linen
    13th Anniversary – Lace
    14th Anniversary – Ivory
    15th Anniversary – Crystal
    20th Anniversary – China

    21st anniversary: Nickel
    22st anniversary: Copper
    23rd anniversary: Silver plate
    24th anniversary: Opal
    25th Anniversary – Silver
    30th Anniversary – Pearl
    35th Anniversary – Coral or Jade
    40th Anniversary – Ruby
    45th Anniversary – Sapphire
    50th Anniversary – Golden
    55th Anniversary – Emerald
    60th Anniversary – Diamond
    65th Anniversary – Blue Sapphire
    70th Anniversary – Platinum
    75th Anniversary – Diamond
    80th Anniversary – Oak

    90th anniversary: Stone
    95th anniversary: Onyx
    100th anniversary: Bone

    Which year are you celebrating?

  • How Queen Elizabeth II encouraged slavery, Biafran war and underdevelopment in Nigeria.

    How Queen Elizabeth II encouraged slavery, Biafran war and underdevelopment in Nigeria.

    As the world marks the passing away of Queen Elizabeth II of England after reigning for 70 years aged 96 and welcome his son, King Charles III, I will like to remind your how Britain and the Queen encouraged the slavery of Africans. How they kidnapped them and transported them to their plantations and how they moved from house to house burning and raping and enslaving.

    Need I remind you that I will also tell you how the British started slavery, underdeveloped Nigeria and ignited civil war in the country.

    If you are interested in reading all these and more, you will be tired of waiting because I won’t tell you lies.

    The truth is when the Whites arrived on our soil, they didn’t go hinterland to capture slaves rather it was our forefathers who went around capturing their brothers, sisters, sons, daughters and relatives and selling them to the white merchants.

    For what? For mirrors, salts, combs and many worthless items.

    So, let’s blame our forefathers before blaming somebody’s forefathers for atrocities and acts of betrayals committed against kindred.

    Let’s cancel our forefathers and foremothers for being greedy and callous and let call them out for conniving with outside enemies against kiths and kins.

    Two, slavery in Africa did not start with the arrival of the oyinbos, Africans have been enslaving one another, long before their arrival.

    Does it means since they didn’t start it, they are absolve of all crimes? No but let’s deal with ourselves first before dealing with one. Yoruba will say, ‘e jékí álé eléyóró, kátó fàbò fún adíe,‘ meaning let’s deal with lice first before we come and address the bird.

    Furthermore, some Nigerians are accusing the dead Queen of causing the Biafran war and underdevelopment in the country. For Pete sake! The Nigerian civil war called Biafran war was precipitated by January 15 bloody coup.

    Did English benefited from it? Yes, through weapons selling. Not just only Britain, but also France, USA and many big economics. Who should we now blame? Must we blamed anybody? If you must blamed then we should blame our greedy leaders for senseless war(s) and let me tell you that the longest war in the world was Kiriji war which lasted for 16 years among the Yoruba people of South western Nigeria. Was the imperial family and her government also responsible for that?

    Moreover, about underdevelopment, why do you like to play victim’s card? For crying out loud, Nigeria is not the only country that was colonised. USA, Israel, India, South Africa, Singapore, UAE and many other developed countries are former British colonies. Therefore the story don’t gel at all.

    What should now do? Let’s deal with the log in our eyes before asking about the speck in neighbor’s eyes and let’s roll over our sleeves for true Nigerian project.

    Fortitude to the family to bear the loss.

    God saves the King.

    God blesses Nigeria.

    Late Queen Elizabeth II of England
  • 6 Consequences of marrying an Unbeliever.

    6 Consequences of marrying an Unbeliever.

    I can bet it with any of us that, most of that grow up in the church have heard about this biblical command of not being unequal yoke with an unbeliever as far as marriage is concerned even though I believe this verse applies to more than marriage stuff but how many of us realize the import of that golden verse? Maybe we should read it in Amplified Bible

    “Do not be unequally bound together with unbelievers [do not make mismatched alliances with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)

    Perhaps the best example in the Bible for us is King Solomon the son of David who because of his unholy alliances and love for many women and unbelievers fall into the sin of idolatry

    King Solomon loved many foreign women in addition to Pharaoh’s daughter: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women from the nations that the Lord had told the Israelites about, “Do not intermarry with them, and they must not intermarry with you, because they will turn you away from Me to their gods.” Solomon was deeply attached to these women and loved them. He had 700 wives who were princesses and 300 concubines, and they turned his heart away from the Lord. When Solomon was old, his wives seduced him to follow other gods. He was not completely devoted to Yahweh his God, as his father David had been. Solomon followed Ashtoreth, the goddess of the Sidonians, and Milcom, the detestable idol of the Ammonites. Solomon did what was evil in the Lord’s sight, and unlike his father David, he did not completely follow Yahweh.
    1 Kings 11:1-‬6 HCSB

    No matter how lion and cow love themselves, they can’t be equally yoked neither can light and the darkness has anything in common.

    Now, here are some consequences of the unequal yoke with an unbeliever in marriage:

    Since it’s a willful disobedience, you open your life to Satan intrusion.

    Since he is your father-in-law, you can’t bar him from seeing his kid. You can’t bar him from seeing his slave and you can disallow him from checking on his property. Remember, he comes but ‘to kill, steal and destroy.’

    Solomon didn’t have any problem until his unholy marital alliances turned him against the Lord.

    Then the Lord said to Solomon, “Since you have done this and did not keep My covenant and My statutes, which I commanded you, I will tear the kingdom away from you and give it to your servant. So the Lord raised up Hadad the Edomite as an enemy against Solomon. He was of the royal family in Edom. Now Solomon’s servant, Jeroboam son of Nebat, was an Ephraimite from Zeredah. His widowed mother’s name was Zeruah. Jeroboam rebelled against Solomon,
    1 Kings 11:11‭, ‬14‭, ‬26 HCSB

    High probability that you will abandon the faith.

    There is an adage that says, ‘ show me your friend and I will show you who you are.’ Therefore, if someone can second guess who you thru mere friendship, how much more marriage?

    Solomon was a good king until he married unregenerated souls as wives and they turned him against his Lord. Now the builder of the house of the Lord is building houses for demons. The man who sacrifices to God and fire came down of its own accord is now sacrificing to idols.

    Know this; marrying an unbeliever is buying a first class ticket to hell.

    Your spiritual life will struggle and suffer.

    Brethren, there is a joy marrying someone who you doesn’t need to be explaining fundamental principles of Christian faith to.

    There is a joy in marrying someone who doesn’t see Bible study, prayer meetings, communion, holiness, etc as whacky.

    There is a joy in having a partner who knows what quiet time means and allows you to observe it and also observe his or hers. There is joy in family devotions. There is pure joy in family worshipping together.

    Now, tell me how you are gonna build your most holy faith if someone you are supposed to build within the first instance is not interested in what you are building.

    Since all that Solomon’s wives knew were idols from their papas, what else do you think the whole house Convo will be about?

    They will not understand your Worldview and how you make decision.

    In this kingdom, Bible is our only manual for every detail of our beings.

    All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
    2 Timothy 3:16‭-‬17 HCSB

    Can you share with me how someone who hasn’t read Bible his/her entire life and is a casual reader knows what God said about parenting, work, marriage, power, enemy, relationships, etc.?

    Confusion.

    As to which and whose festival should we celebrate? Which parenting styles should you adopt? Whose God should we follow? And so on.

    I pity my neighbours’ kids who have to pray in Muslim and Christian ways and must attend Christian and Muslim programs.

    They can harm you.

    Since they don’t know God, they don’t have his holy fear. Not just physically but emotionally, financially, maritally and psychologically.

    They can cheat on you and see no bad it in.

    They can mismanage family money and feel not removed.

    They can talk you down and talk you out of your dream.

    They can verbally abuse you.

    They can do all lots of things.

    Why? A godless person is a dangerous person

    Conclusively, I made this post so that you will not fall into the trap and if you are planning to enter one, please go and cut the relationship.

    Thank you for reading. Love

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