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  • 2021 Blogmas Ideas.

    Hello, brothers and sisters.

    Christmas is here and we gotta commemorate it in big way decently

    To make our 2021 Christmas awesome, I will be doing Blogmas (Blogging + Christmas) for 20 fantastic days starting from today.

    Topics under discussion include:

    • Why is Christmas called Yuletide?
    • Christians and Christmas
    • Christmas or Xmas?
    • 10 Christmas traditions.
    • 5 Christmas hymns.
    • My Christmas story.
    • 25 Gifts ideas for your Mum for Christmas.
    • 25 Gifts ideas for your Dad for Christmas.
    • 25 Gifts Ideas for Your Girlfriend for Christmas.
    • 25 Gifts Ideas for Your Boyfriend for Christmas.
    • My wishlist
    • Christmas in the Old Testament.
    • Christmas in the New Testament.
    • My Christmas Playlist.
    • 5 Nigerian Dishes for Christmas.
    • 10 Super fun activities for Christmas.
    • What of if there is no Christmas?
    • Climatic change
    • 10 Christmas prayer.
    • 2022, here I come!

    Remember to come here for the next 20 days.

    I love you.

    Merry Christmas.

    20DaysBlogMas.

    MiracleExtraordinaire.

    MerryChristmas

  • How to find a godly man to marry.

    How to find a godly man to marry.

    You know that as a Christian lady that you can marry a non-believer.

    You may have meet a non-believer who is cute and caring

    You may have noticed a non-Christian guy who is gorgeous and romantic

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    He may even be rich and be everything you need in a man for a husband.

    Still, for Christian ladies (and guys) unbelievers is never an option for marriage.

    Despite, that you can’t marry all supposssed self-confessed Christian dudes because no all Israel is from truly is Isreal. To now identify a real Christian guy fitted for marriage, check out for this qualities :

    1. He believes in the Lordship and Saviorship.

    Christian is an individual who approve Jesus Christ as his/her Lord and reckon He was the only  the one who saves.

    Believing Jesus is acknowledging His Godship. If he doesn’t believe Jesus is God and God is Jesus. He is probably a pseudo-Christian.

    Receiving Jesus Christ Lordship is also accepting His humanity, i.e. Jesus was 100% human while he was on this planet Earth to execute the work of salvation and He was 100% God before coming and after accomplishing the work of redemption.

    He is subjected to Bible.

    Bible is the map, light, guide, treasure and compass for believers.

    It is our book of dos and don’ts.

    It is from it that we know the Father’s will, laws, desires and commands for every area of life.

    We believe in all parts of the Bible i.e. from Genesis to Revelation for instruction, doctrine and correction unto righteousness and that not even an iota of the Holy writ was written by human inspiration but God moves men to write for Him.

    I assure you, many of your life problems have been solved if youu will only but read your Bible.

    And what joy is to hear your husband said, ‘What did the Bible said on this.’

    He is under authority.

    God did not design rudderless and disorderly world.

    Everything He created was subjected to an higher authority to make sure it is working as He intended it to be.

    The solar system is under the authority of the sun for their rotations and revolutions and anyone of them who thinks the ‘sun’s problem’ is too much for it, will cease to be a planet or cease to be part of solar system.

    A Christian has someone who can call him to order.

    Likewise, Yahweh designed that each and every Christian is under the authority of a more spiritually matured Christian for discipleship, supervision and mentoring.

    A Christian has a pastor shepherding over his spiritual life.

    He has someone he prays with or who prays for him.

    He has someone who can advise him and correct him where necessary.

    A man not subjected to any constituted authority and who thinks he can live his life in isolation is a dangerous man to marry. Such man can wreak havoc.

    He has a church.

    I don’t need to go to church to worship God, I have my Bible is a clear indication person hasn’t read his Bible.

    Christians go to church for fellowship, spiritual growth and strengthening because it was commanded by God that we must not forsake the gathering of the saints.

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    Dear ma, if he doesn’t have a particular church he identified with, take to you heels.

    If he is not one of us, he doesn’t have right to marry one of us.

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  • HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    HOW TO STAY SEXUALLY PURE IN A SEXUALLY CRAZY WORLD.

    It is becoming ever-increasingly difficult nowadays to live a sexually pure life in this sexually crazed and saturated world. A world that has sexualized everything from music to a common 100 naira soap.

    Even the church of God is not spared. Nowadays, we now use barely clad ladies as ushers to welcome visitors.

    Watch out for this book to celebrate the world sexual purity day.

    We are being bombarded daily with sexual scenes and near-sexual scenes on our streets, social media, television, workplaces and pathetically in fellowships but the word of God still stands that we must be pure in our sexual lives before and after marriage.

    First, we should know that to stay pure in this generation is possible. It is possible to marry as a virgin if you are determined to be. It is possible to remain untouched – no kissing, smoothing, no masturbation and no foreplay before the wedding if you will rely on the grace of God to hold you. Why? Because God will never lack those who are willing and ready to sacrificially serve Him in all generations.

    He can’t lack Josephs who are willing to say, ‘ how can I do this thing and sin against God,’ and are ready to abandon their ‘clothes’ to flee.

    He can’t lack the Joshuas who have determined to serve God even if He and his family are the only and affirmatively He won’t lack the 7000 men who have never kissed or bowed down to Baal in every generation.

    Do you care to join the leagues of Josephs, Joshuas and the 7000 men, are you?

    Now, how can you tread this path joyfully? One, TRUST GOD and His judgments, laws and guidelines that they are for your benefit. God did not hate you when He bade you that you should flee fornication. It was because He loves you.

    You got to trust the Almighty because He as Omniscient knows far more than you know. He knows that illegal sex can reduce someone life to a mere loaf of bread. He knows that sex can be weaponised to harm. Therefore, trust that God has you completely in His heart. Oh! What a loving father!

    Secondly, TRUST THE PROCESS that you won’t regret ever staying sexually pure in this corrupt world. The journey, the decision and the determination will eventually pay you.

    The world may look otherwise but you won’t regret opting out of the friendship that is pressurizing you for premarital sex.

    Trusting the process also signifies that you are the wise one even though the worldly system may regard you as a fool and the odd one out but remember what is highly esteemed by man is an abomination in the sight of the Lord.

    The injunction will save you from avoidable heartbreaks, unwanted pregnancy, unmet expectations, shame, a litany of exes and many avoidable damages to your body, spirit and soul.

    You can’t regret standing for and with God.

    Thirdly, DON’T TRUST YOURSELF because the power of your arm will fail because by flesh shall no man prevail, the opportunities to sin will always be present and it was your Spirit that got born again, your body, its hormones and your soul do not follow suit.

    Don’t trust yourself that you can sleep in the same room with the opposite sex and nothing will happen.

    Don’t trust yourself that just because you speak in tongues, you can watch porn and nothing will happen.

    Don’t really on your strength that because you are the winner of best choir member of the year, you can’t fall into the sin of immoralities.

    Don’t trust that immoralities won’t hurt you because God has been using you. Remember David, Solomon and Samson.

    If Judas Iscariot can fall away after performing many miracles, preached to many and received directly from Jesus, then who are you?

    Lastly, remember that this battle against immoralities is a battle again imagination, thoughts and actions as preached by unsaved celebrities, wokist, cancel culturists, Bible twisters and haters that raised themselves against the knowledge of God and we all know our weapons are not carnal.

  • FREE ONLINE EBOOK CREATION SEMINAR.

    FREE ONLINE EBOOK CREATION SEMINAR.

    Do you want to write an ebook?

    Are you confused about how to start?

    Have you written one and don’t know how to publish?

    Do you know you have a book in you?

    Do you also know writing and Publishing can fetch you money?

    If you answer to all these questions is Yes then this FREE EBOOK CREATION SEMINAR is for you because you will be taught how to write one and pratice it.

    Course outline include:

    • What is Ebook
    • Publishing and marketing on Amazon and selar.co
    • Ebook formatting
    • Monetization

    Date: November 13, 2021.

    Time: 8pm.

    Venue: WhatsApp

    By joining this class you will get 2 free ebooks from me.

    Follow the link to join the class https://selar.co/ns7w

  • Causes of Marital delays in Nigeria.

    This article was my contribution to Causes of delays to marriage by Christ’s mind tech

    I quite agreed with all what the contributors have said but I will like to add to the cause of marital delays among singles in Nigeria;

    1. Finances: most of those that are ready and willing to marry do not have the financial capacity to do so especially the guys owning to the poor state of our economy. This delayed me for 2 years till I took the bull by the horn this year with an understanding wife.
    2. Assumption: some brothers/sisters may assume that I will get whom to marry after my undergraduate, after NYSC, after I clock 28, etc, not knowing most times it may not be so because most times by the time the general society is also assuming that they have a partner.
      Hardly, will someone believed that a graduate lady of 28 is singular single whereas they exist.
    3. Confusion: about what is the WILL OF GOD and PURPOSES.
      Most youths are confused about what is the will of God even though they truly want to marry a will of God. They thought will of God (direction of God, His laws and command, His antecedents and precedents) is only about marriage not knowing that ‘God would surely direct you the same way He would direct you on matters of your life and destiny like during business decisions.’ Now if you abandon Him for a long period, do you think He will answer you when you want to use Him to butter your bread? Even if He speaks, can you recognize His Divine voice? Do you even know His dos and donts concerning Marriage as started in the Bible?
      Most will just get whatever they wanted and go MIA for God and return when things go south, to go AWOOL when the problem is solved. Do you know some ladies believe God’s will must be a pitiable, ugly poor brother? So when a handsome, rich and educated somebody propose to them, they may reject it. As per purpose, purpose discovery will help someone to know first, who not to marry before who to marry. This will delete the trial and error method of choosing which invariably reduce waiting time. The only solution to this is knowing and doing the will of God and discovering and fulfilling purpose is having a closed and consistent relationship with Yahweh.
    4. Spiritual: this can be from God or Satan.
      It is God, not satan that shut the womb of Hannah. Why He did that in the first instance, we can not fathom but we do know that at the appropriate and glorious time, God give Hannah, a glorious son who is a national prophet and a kingmaker. For those who are in God’s waiting room, rest and relax, God is probably working on you, your spouse, both of you or some circumstances that will benefit both of you.
      Spiritual delay can also be caused by Satan using His lies. For those who perceive that they are under Satan siege concerning their Marriage, prayer is the only solution.
    5. Limiting choice: If what you meant by marrying within the organization is marrying within the denomination, I don’t believe that. Christians everywhere belong to one organization – The Church.
      Many brothers and sisters have limits where (physicalities) they can find Christian spouse to church and choir within their church, denomination, town, profession, etc., only. This can cause a delay if God in his infinite mercy will not allow your permissive will.
      Let it be known a Christian spouse can be found in your DM, comment section of your timeline or others’ timelines, in the neighbourhood, matchmaker’s cubicle, pew, office, seminars, etc., within or without your church, town, profession and denomination. God knows the best spouse for you and where best to meet him/her.
    6. Culture: Nigeria for instance, an average Hausa guy or lady, irrespective of religion, is not planning to marry late. Starting from 18 upwards, they are preparing for marriage (not talking about forced/child Marriages here) whereas an average Igbo guy usually tends to marry late because he knows the amount of bride price he has to pay on his wife. Most Yorubas will go for the mid-20s for ladies and early 30s for guys.
  • 25 Quotes about Marriage.

    25 Quotes about Marriage.

    1. Marriage is extremely sweet.


    2. Marriage will change EVERYTHING about you.

    Blue is the colour.


    3. You are only similar [ similararity] to your partner by a nanosecond and different [differences] from him/her by a distance from the earth to the sun.


    5. For you to enjoy your Marriage, create a uniqueness albeit a godly one about it. Your partner is 100% different from your favourite celeb.


    6. Whatever you bring to the table of marriage, will be MAGNIFY.

    12. Sex is the least cause of friction in a marriage. Dear, Marriage is more than sex.


    7. You need the knowledge of understanding of marital differences than the knowledge of love.

    Lovey Dovey


    8. Embrace the difference between your spouse and you. Therein is lies your happiness.


    9. I think one of the greatest disservices, people of God has done to the unmarried is to tell them that physical likeness doesn’t matter for a happy marriage. My dear, if it is breasts, height, skin colour, bum bum, etc you like in your intended spouse, ask God for it but doesn’t ever over-desire physical over spiritual. Period.


    10. I discovered that the operating system in my wife and I is the same, but the apps on individual systems differ.


    11. The things that cause fights in the house are mostly inanimate objects like toothpaste, chairs, clothes, shoes, hairpins, etc.


    12. Sex is the least cause of friction in a marriage. Dear, Marriage is more than sex.


    13. If your manner of eating, sleeping, travelling, worship, enjoyment and ways of life generally is the same as at that of when you are single when you marry, I doubt if you marry properly.


    14. The concept of ‘two becoming one’ in marriage is so real that at a particular time, you started to reason and smell like your partner. Provided, you allow God.


    15. My dear unmarried brothers and sisters, please enjoy your singleness to the fullest. I am grateful to God that I thoroughly enjoyed mine.


    16. A good man may not be the right man. A good husband may not make a good husband.

    17. I don’t know how you enter your marriage but I can boldly tell you that love is not blind.

    18. Darling sister, saying yes to the man on the day he asked you out cannot make you cheap. One of the reasons I love my wife is that she didn’t waste my time.

    19. Never marry anybody who is not under authority.

    20. Talking about marriage is different from doing marriage. The former is theory while the latter should be practical.

    21. Your watchword in marriage should be devil, sin, diseases will not entered into this family through me.

    22. Marriage is not bondage. Ring is not a cell.

    23. Wedding is for a day, marriage is for every day.

    24. In your choice of matrimonial partner, don’t be selfish in choosing for your gratification alone but ask yourself, will this one be worthy of being a co-parent with me?

    25. Although marriage is of this earth but it is 100 percent spiritually run or did you think it’s natural to start living with someone you don’t know from Adam?

    Marriage is very sweet.

    Add yours.


    Thanks.

  • My Teachers, Happy Teachers’ day.

    My Teachers, Happy Teachers’ day.

    One of the profound definitions of teacher that I found relatable is that ‘ a teacher is someone who knows more and tries to impart those who know less.’

    Teaching is a noble profession and teacher in whatsoever ways they exist – schoolteacher, lecturer, trainer, pastor, boss, parents deserves commendation and celebration.

    Because they led me to where I am today by giving what they know up for me.

    If they didn’t teach me, I wouldn’t have known anything.

    Therefore, happy teachers’ day to all teachers worldwide

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  • STOP KILLING YOUR KIDS!

    I’m angry. Very livid about the attitude of some of us.

    You are a killer! Yes I say you are a killer and God is going to judge your for using your child to fulfill your own failed dreams. Are you her? Is she you? Are you talented and gifted the same way?

    I am angry about one bad behavior by modern parents of rushing their children through school into emergency adulthood by enrolling them very early (probably by age 1) and helping them to skip classes along the ways chiefly because such kid is performing brilliantly in his/her academics.

    Many people have suggested the causes; Nigerian government unstable education policies, private schools owners, parents, society, etc., but the chiefest culprit are parents especially mothers because they want to do BRAGGING in church and their age grade groups that their kids finished University at 18 not knowing the damages they are inflicting on those kids.

    One thing parents should know is that that your kid skipped and he/she is still performing well in school doesn’t mean he/she is emotionally and morally okay.

    And rushing your kids through life is stealing their childhood away from them. Live and let your child live peaceably!

    Furthermore, that it’s not showing physically doesn’t mean damages are not being done to those rushed kids. It will show sonner or latter, morally and emotionally. What is the essence of having academically sound but emotionally and morally bankrupt individuals?

    Thirdly, there is no single advantage in rushing your child through pre-tertiary schools. I left my mates at primary 4 then to go J.S.1 skipping primary 5 to do so. Despite that, I am not richer, more educated or famous than those I left behind then. Infact one of them is my ward councillor now.

  • 5 LESSONS FROM CR7’S UNITED RETURN.

    5 LESSONS FROM CR7’S UNITED RETURN.

    Good morning, Masters.
    Cristiano Ronaldo’s return to Manchester United is no news again but like always, there are lessons to learn here and there:

    1. Success always attract success.
    Why Manchester United and not Watford?
    Why the Red devils and not the hammers?
    The choice of Manchester United is because successful people will always go for and with successful people.

    If you wanna go far in life
    If you wanna be a master in all,
    Then move with those that are succeeding like you.
    Their mindsets, mentalities and manners will help you.

    2. Reputations over money.
    Manchester City FC was preparing contract for CR7 but it will be scandalous for Ronaldo to play for MCFC after all he has done for Manchester United.

    If it money, he will earn more money in City than in United.
    If it fame, trophies or accolades he had all that in abundance.
    But his reputation and goatiness is at risk playing for Pep’s side.

    Fellow Master, I am urging you in all your dealings, guard above all your reputation, names and identity diligently.
    Part of guiding your reputation is to know your mates here on Facebook even though you attracts likes that those other than you. Facebook is not a leveller.
    That is also protecting your identity is behaving civicly here too. All these ‘Wu Wu not take it’ e-holiganlisms won’t take you anywhere.

    3. Not to late.
    CR7 broke a record yesterday.
    He also set a record yesterday
    All at 36. Only few players perform well at over 30.
    There is no early or late date for marriage, education, property acquisition, etc. God make everything beautiful in his own time.

    4. Start early.
    CR7 as well as Messi is near retiring but do you know that both of them start playing since there pre-tennagers day.
    Not late date in God’s agenda but make sure you start early too.
    Messi started at 13.
    Ronaldo started at 18.
    They start earlier untill they became world renowned.
    Write your book now.
    Start that business, podcast, blog, etc now.
    Make your mistake now.

    5. Yours can be better.
    Messi stole the headlines some weeks ago.
    Ronaldo upset all those transfer records of Messi in less than a day.
    Your wedding can be more glamorous than your mates’.
    You can be more successful than you thought.
    Your life can be better than than of your parents.
    It can.
    It should.
    It must.
    And it will.

  • 5 Mistakes You Should Never Make Before Marriage.

    5 Mistakes You Should Never Make Before Marriage.

    I made mistake number 3 and partly made 4.

    The famous Bible writer said, ‘ The one who watches the wind will not sow and the one who looks at the cloud will not reap.’

    The Preacher called King Solomon David also said

    There is time for everything under the sun.

    A time to be given birth to and a time to die.

    A time to love and a time to hate.

    A time to have someone who calls you daily to tell you sweet nonsense and a time when nobody even ‘flash’ you.

    There is a time, a moment and a place for everything in life.

    But most of us make some silly mistakes while we are waiting for our dream man or woman and these 5 seemily harmless mistakes can cause sleepless nights in marriage.

    Here are the five mistakes you should never make before you marry:

    1. Waiting for a romantic relationship before having a profitable relationships.

    Immediately, most of us heard the word, relationship, what came to our minds, is having a boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancee or fiance but let it be known to all that romantic relationship is just one kind of relationships for us to have and that there are many types of responsible and godly relationships that should precede romatic relationship because building and fortifying those relationships will help us to have a good and happy romantic relationship. There are

    a. Parents-Child relationship.

    b. God-man relationship. He hates God and anything that has to with God and you think God-centered Marriage will be achievable with him?

    c. Friendship

    d. Sibling-sibling relationship

    e. Fellowship and Discipleship

    f. Employee-Employer  relationship

    g. Mentoring, etc

    Not having all these types of relationships before romantic relationship is setting oneself up for self-destruct.

    A person who doesn’t fear God, disregard his/her parents, always have one issue to settle with his/her sibling(s), sees opposite sex as plaything and is not under any authority is a walking weapon of mass destruction in romantic relationship.

    Dear readers, make sure you build all the mentioned relationships before thinking of having boy/girlfriend and date, court person with such solid foundations.

    2. Not Praying About Marriage Because You think you are not ready now.

    One of the biggest mistakes you could ever make maritally is preparing for battle at the battlefield, you are surely bound to be defeated. Same thing with delaying prayers about marriage – both its purposes and the partner because you think you are small in term of age or have a long way to go in other areas of human endeavors before thinking Marriage.

    Nooooo! Start praying now even if it is ten years to come.

    Pray for yourfuture spouse now.

    Pray for your future kids now. Pray about their births, schooling, Marriage, etc. now.

    Pray! Pray! My dear, pray oooooo! Don’t wait till when hormones are acting funny and pressures are mounting on you to settle down.

    Prayers are deposit and they work assuredly because God still answers prayers and the prayers of the righteous work.

    Pray for why, who, where and how of your Marriage.

    Pray about your in-laws.

    Pray about anything and for anything. Just make sure you start praying about your Marriage now even if it 15 years to come.

    3. Being Romantically involved with too many opposite sex.

    I made this mistake but God saved me.

    In as much as it right to build right qualitative platonic relationships here and there with opposite sex but being Romantically linked with too many opposite sex may lead to confusion when it is time to marry.

    Too many exes is damaging and show irresponsibility.

    To many opposite sex friend is not okay. That’s my exact mistake. They thought I was dating one of them whereas I don’t even have a girl.

    Consistent chatting and calling, visitation, etc to opposite sex who is not your potential spouse can create illusions.

    Make friends. But be careful to strike a balance.

    4. Suspending life purposes because you are waiting for Me/Miss Right.

    Simply put, putting your life, purpose, dreams, aspirations, yearning on hold because you want to marry or devoting all your time, resources, energies, vibes, prayers to finding a marital partner.

    Dear brothers and sisters, you don’t have to suspend life purpose because you are waiting for marriage, infact your partner should meet you in purpose fulfilling purpose.

    You don’t have to devote all your time and energy to partner ultimate search , infact the right one should meet you doing other profitable and godly things with your time, talent, resources, etc.

    Marriage is just a part of our lives that have impact on all parts of our lives. So don’t dare to suspend you because you want to marry.

    Run that blog now. Start that business now. Write that book now. Organise that webinar now. Just do something worthwhile now.

    5. Doing ‘Marriage’ before Marriage.

    Apart from the fact that doing Marriage before marriage will hamper your chance of happy Christian family, it will lead you to hell.

    Cohabitation, premarital sex, one night stand, prostitution, sleep overs and doing many wifely or husbandly duties often ungodly duties at ungodly hours, while single will seriously affect your chances of happy home.

  • Call for Donations.

    Call for Donations.

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    My name is Alade Joel Adetunji.

    An Agricultural Sciences instructor

    A writer.

    A blogger.

    A Christian

    A huge lover of God and His creatures.

    A conceivable philanthropist.

    My fiancee (soon to be my wife on the 4th of September, 2021) and I birthdays is on 7th September and we wish to donate to an orphanage as a celebration of God’s goodness to us and fulfilment of one of our family values.

    The suggested orphanage is Kersey Children Home Ogbomosho, Oyo state Nigeria.

    We are planning on opening a GoFundMe.com Account for donations from you, our friends – readers, followers, visitors, both home and abroad.

    Our target is US$73 (£52, N30,000) and we will be grateful if you can help us with a donation of $2.

    Concerned? Worried? Confused?

    Have any questions?

    Want to substantiate?

    Whatapp at +2348135446603

    DM on Facebook at Alade Joel Adetunji Aladeinternational

    May you be richly enriched as you help us to fulfil our dream.

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