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  • Dear Future Wife.

    Dear Future Wife.
    From My Inner Heart,
    Dear Future wife, with sound health and plenty love, I am writing this to you. Hope you are fine too? If so, Gloryyyy!
    The purpose of writing this letter are many but firstly many people will in my name, saying I am Joel, don’t listen to them o o o o. What is keeping me wanting is that as a Jesus Brother with many rooms in my Father’s house, I am preparing a room of improvement, prosperities, godliness and advancement for us.
    Furthermore, I also want in wife is support, fidelity and godliness and I will wish to tell you that to me borrow me is different from gift me so if you say, ‘ dear o o o please borrow me 1k. I will pay in 2030,’ I am expecting my money then but if you say,’LOML, gift me N1m,’ I will gladly do with with expecting it back. That is called having integrity.
    Another thing is that we are not doing big wedding because God created marriage which we are going to do bigly and happily while men created wedding which we are going to do prudently i.e debt-free.
    Moreover, my babe I am using this medium to assure you that marrying me will be an achievement and that be assured of peace of mind, vision support and hand of helps in all areas.
    Finally, Super Mother, God has been flashing me, maybe He wants to call and less I forget, our kids visited me last night asking, ‘dad, why, why now,’ but I asked them to calm down.
    Yours sincerely

    Future Best Husband.

  • A Letter from Apostles Peter and Paul for Single Guys.

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    Apostle Peter in his letter to all people concerning marriage said, ‘wives, in the same way, SUBMIT to yourself to your OWN HUSBANDS…’ (2 Peter 3:1) while Apostle Paul emphasized the same the same thing in Ephesians 5:22 that, ‘ Wives, be SUBMISSIVE to YOUR HUSBANDS…’
    We also know submit is gotten from the word SUBMISSON.
    Now divide the word into two, we have SUB which means A PART OF and MISSION which connotes PURPOSE, CALLING OR VISION, so therefore contrary to slavery definition of submission we all knew, Submission in the biblical sense means making your wife a part of your mission, calling and purpose in life.
    In Genesis, Adam was given work of naming the animals, working and watching the garden which is his mission statement of which Eve will be part of.
    Now, what is your own purpose? Why do you think God created you? If you got none or don’t know, what will you future wife be a part of?
    Will She be a part of infidelity that is your mission now, in the future?

    Will She be on Team Irresponsible with your goons whose only purpose in life seems to partying and womanizing?
    Do you think a godly sister will be a cheerleader on your gambling mission that is making you broke every weekend?
    Do you want to her to be a part of lies?
    She want to submit but dear, you got no clear mission, what will she now be part of?
    Should She submit herself to having sex under the influence of hard drug, will she?
    A Christian woman cannot be secretary to Team Laziness.
    Do you ever see her as part of your mission and vision?
    The same Mission given to Adam pre-fall has been given to us keep and dress our marriage as men of valour, sons of Most High.
    The mission is
    1. To keep and dress marital bed undefiled.
    2. To work the soil and take care of ‘garden’ of our wives and children in love, contentment and godliness.
    3. To work in other to provide for the family.
    4. To keep and dress family altar daily in order to rename the day for our uses from its evils.
    5. To Love Her, Her Dream and Her Aspiration and her children if she got any till death do you part and

    Submission in the biblical sense means making your wife a part of your mission, calling and purpose in life

    6. Ultimately TO SERVE YAHWEH TOGETHER.
    If you embark on those missions and make her part of vision, you won’t have to force a godly lady to do, she will gladly do.
    Remember, if Bible said she should submit unconditionally, what will she submits to and to whom?
    You will do well if you make submission easy for her.
    Shalom.

  • 25 Fantastic Gifts for Her That Cost Less than 3k.

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    A man gift open door for him.
    Courtship involves gifting – both male and female. So therefore if you have been in relationship with her for the past six months and she can’t pinpoint to anything from you as gift, you are stingy and stinginess kills and it’s not Christ-like.

    These are list of things you can give your fiancee as two Christian daters and not excluding your sister, besties and or mother that cost less than 3k. Some even cost N0.
    1. Credit Alerts (Nigerian ladies love this!).
    2. Bags
    3. Shoes
    4. Hairdo Payment
    5. Clothing materials for sewing.
    6. T-Shirt/Gown
    7. Data Recharge
    8. Refilling of Gas cylinder
    9. Jewelries like earrings, pendant, neck chains, etc.
    10. Cream/ Body lotions
    11. Life-Enriching Books
    12. Bible
    13. Undies (at advanced stage).
    14. Sanitary Pads.
    15. Perfume/Deodrant/Body Spray.
    16. Online Course Payment.
    17. Credit Recharge.
    18. Photo Frame
    19. Skirts/ Trousers
    20. Body Spray.
    21. Transport Fares to her workplace.
    22. Cash Gift
    23. Prayer and Validation.
    24. Faithfulness.
    25. Love.
    And many more. But lemme give a hack; Men appreciate gifts QUALITATIVELY while Women, QUANTITATIVELY so even if you are capable of doing all those at once, pleaseeeee don’t do it at once and two, don’t buy flower for Nigerian Ladies. They will tell you, they ain’t goats.

    Guys, what other things can we get for them?

    Ladies, which other things can we buy for you?
    For 29 Exceptionally Gifts For Your Boyfriend, Click here.

  • 29 Exceptionally Gifts You Can Buy For Your Boyfriend That Cost Less Than 3k.

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    Bible says a (wo)man gift makes way for (her).  Don’t ask me where o o o o.
    To start with and on behalf of The Boyfriends, Fiances and Husbands Association (BHHA) Nigeria chapter, is using this medium to tell you, we guys are not allergic to gifts from you and that we are expecting gifts from your our sisters, mothers and girlfriend.
    Now these are list of 29 fantastic gifts that cost less than N3000 that you can buy for us during our birthdays, fathers’ day, boyfriends’ day and any day:
    1. Jersey for next season.

    2. Pairs of Boxers/Singlets.

    3. Haircut payment.

    4. Data recharge.

    5. Viewing centre subscription (imagine deposting 1k at his football house for next season. Where I lived, that is 14 matches).

    5. Books.

    6. Bible.

    7. 5L of petrol if he got car/bike

    8. Pay-per-view TV Basic Bonquet Subs.

    9. Bags.

    10. Wallets.

    11. Doormat.

    12. Bedspread (okrika).

    13. Belt.

    14. Pay-by-me Dates to fast food outlets, cinemas, beaches, vacation, etc.

    15. T-Shirts.

    16. Customised towel.

    17. Bathroom/ Palm Slippers.

    18. Pay for any online seminar that can benefit him.

    19. Shaving Stick/Blades/Powder.

    20. Shoe Polish/brush.

    21. Perfume/deodorant/body Spray.

    22. Credit Recharges.

    23. Credit Alerts.

    24. Refilling of gas cylinder.

    25. Foodstuffs

    26. Clothing materials.

    27. Peace of mind.

    28. Prayer and

    29. Love
    You can buy any of these for us occasionally and regularly. Some of those things even cost less than 1k and some N0.

    Guys, what other things can they get for us?
    Ladies, which other things can you buy for us?

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  • A Note to Ladies From Abishag.

    A Note to Ladies From Abishag.

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    Dear 21st century Sister,  to be candid there are hundreds of men out there that you could said yes to but you choose not. Why? Why Jide and not Dayo? Afterall both of them are choir members.

    When Abishag was asked in Songs of Solomon 5:9, ‘What makes the one (Solomon) you love better than another (what make him special or different from other men), most beautiful of women?What makes him better than another, that you would give us this charge (hype, praise)?

    Note: words in parentheses are mine.

    Ms. Abishag didn’t choose Solomon because of his wealth,  connections, handsomeness, oratory talents and any physical attributes

    Obviously, Solomon is not the the only king, most handsome, most powerful or most wise then (she knew Solomon before his kingship). Why then the hype and the adulation since her LOML is just another guy out there but she answered thus:

    • My love is fit and strong,
      notable among ten thousand that is that he is an honorable man. His MOG is Man of God and not Man of Gold or Man of Girls. He is fitted for ministry works and not strong for beating you.
    • His head is purest gold means he has Godly sense.
    •  His eyes are like doves
      beside streams of water,
      washed in milk: All metaphors signify purity. He doesn’t watch porn and be claiming he is preparing in advance. He doesn’t watch BBN overnight and login to social media to form holiness. He doesn’t look for breasts and boobs in church gathering. His gazes are pure like Job’s.
    • His cheeks are like beds of spice,
      towers of perfume. His lips are lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh… His mouth is sweetness means everything that comes out of her bae lips is graced words, motivating speech and godly posts. No profanities, exaggeration and lies were found in him or his social media handles. That is why he won’t verbally abused her.
    •  His arms are rods of gold
      set with topaz means Solomon uses his hand only for godly purposes. He regarded everything God has committed to his hands as precious, you inclusive. 
    • His legs are alabaster pillars
      set on pedestals of pure gold.
      His presence is like Lebanon,
      as majestic as the cedars that is his legs is always swift to go goodly places and his appearances always herald aroma of Christ. He isn’t someone who will join a church and 3 months after, he has impregnated 3 sisters because his steps are ordered in God’s word and his appearances bring joy.

    Ms. Abishag didn’t choose Solomon because of his wealth,  connections, handsomeness, oratory talents and any physical attributes but on his honorable lifestyle, purity, graceful speech and Holy-Spirit controlled life and I believe you will applied the same principle in choosing husband.

    Bible version used is Holman Christian Standard Bible.

  • BBNaija is Evil! And So What?

    BBNaija is Evil! And So What?

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    Big Brother Naija, a reality TV show has attracted a lot of criticisms from Christians  due to it promotion of nudity, pornography, premarital sex among other unchristian practices, prompting some Christians to call for a counter-programs.

    Well, those brethren have a solid point but having a counter program is not the solution because BBN is not the problem, sin is.

    Furthermore, we are not in competition with the world; we are Light and they, darkness and Light doesn’t compete with darkness. Once Light arrives, darkness must vanishes. Competiting with them is fighting a spiritual war with carnal weapons so therefore we, Christians must carry our torchs to every area of human endeavours; be it science or media world.

    In addition to that, there are a lot of Christian programs, channels (DoveTV, New Frontier TV, DunamisTV, GodTV, etc), movies, music, websites (e.g Living word media by Pastor Chris Onayinka) blogs (e.g My Witness,), shows, social media handles, products (e.g Churchsource) and services out there. But how many of us watch those channels, shows and movies? How many of visit and comment on Christian blogs and websites?

    Let’s start watching, promoting and trending our  movies, actors, music and artistes, creative brothers and sisters and their works, visit and comment on Christian blogs and websites and promote our contents then I believe sponsorship will come.

    Lastly, Church should start sponsoring Christian contents too. Imagine what exploded impacts Mount Zion, EVOM, Calvary Drama Ministry, etc will have with sponsorers like Winners, RCCG, Nigerian Baptist Convention, etc as Christ Embassy is doing to Christian musicians.

  • Ethnicity Tag

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    In accordance to Sarah’s My Witness, I’m doing this ethnicity tag to let you guys know about me. I’ll be using her questions and you can check out her own version here.

    1. Which ethnicity do you belong to? I am a Yoruba, from Oyo State, Southwest of Nigeria.
    2. Which food best represents your ethnicity? There are lot but Iyan (pounded yam) and Egusi (melon stew) Amala (yam flour pasta) and Ewedu (Jute leaf soup) or Gbegiri (bean soup) best represent the Yoruba culture.
    3. Which ethnic language are your perfect in? I am fluent in my native tongue, Yoruba and English language which is the lingual franca of the country.
    4. Do you have an ethic name? Yes, infact I have two, Oluwagbemiga which means ‘The Lord lifts me up’ and Adetunji which means ‘Crown resurrects’.
    5. Which clothes best represent your ethnicity? The flowing wide-sleeved robe called ‘Agbada’, Buba and Sokoto and Dansiki for men which Buba and Iro (wrapper), blouses and skirts for our women.
    6. Which drink represents your ethnicity? ‘Emu’ Palm Wine, it’s a drink tapped from the sap of palm trees. It is alcoholic so i’m not a fan. Also Èko (maize pap) is a popular food among us.
    7. When was the last time you visited your homeland? Well, I still live in my hometown, Ogbomoso.
    8. Which is your favorite place in your homeland? A lot which include places like Old Oyo National Park, Oyo state, Erin ijesa waterfall in Osun state, The Oke Ogun gorge in Oyo state, Atlantic beach in Lagos state, Idanre Hill in Ondo state, Esiele meseum in Kwara state, First skyscraper and TV station in Africa at Oyo state, First university in Nigeria. University of Ibadan in Oyo state, first degree awarding education institution in Africa The Nigeria Baptist Theological Seminary, Ogbomoso, etc
    9. What are three things you love about your country? Hospitality, love of education and tolerance (it is among Yorubas that we have large percentage of interreligious marriages in Nigeria).
    10. Which household item best represents the culture of your country? Pepper. We like pepper and can add it to anything eatable 😀😀😀
    11. Which festival is a specific one for your ethnic culture? In ancient times, the Yorubas are idol worshipper of sango (god of thunder), Ogun (god of iron), esu (Satan), egungun (masquerade) and they have festivals for all these gods but nowadays most of us are Christians and Muslims.
    12. What is the traditional way of greeting someone in your culture? Typically, when greeting an elderly person, the boys prostrate (lie flat on the ground) while the girls kneel down (stand on both knees) and we use plural pronoun when talking about elderly ones.
    13. Which three ancient tradition are still part of your culture? Ceremony especially wedding, naming and burial ceremonies, respect for elders (we don’t joke with this) and love of our foods.
    14. What color or shade represents your culture? Black and Red traditionally.
    15. What religion is prevalent for people of the same ethnicity? The Yorubas practised two main religions; Christianity and Islam and the adherents are almost on 50:50 ratio but we still have ample number of Traditionalists among us.
      I hope you have all learnt a little something about my culture

  • My Parents’ marriage should inspire you.

    Caveat: My parents’ marriage is not a perfect one, if perfect marriage exists.

    My parents will be celebrating their 37th wedding anniversary comes 15th of July and this writeup is about 7 great lessons from their marriage which has inspired me and which should inspire you to desire a responsible marital relationship.

    My parents – Mr and Mrs. Alade.
    1. Marriage is still honorable : God declared marriage to be honorable and that loneliness is not good. Mr. and Mrs. Sam Abby Alade’ marriage modelled that biblical saying as duo cannot do without one another and none will take a step without another person’ s consent. This should inspire us and gear us to know that social media, its influencers, celebrities and or anyone’s experiences have not eroded the sacredness, honour and blessedness of marriage.
    2. Furthermore, there is a wide gap between big wedding and happy marriage as my parents had what was called a parlour wedding then ( just payment of bride price and blessing by parents). It was indeed a small wedding that produced a big marriage. God created marriage, human beings created wedding but it needs not be flamboyant, expensive or debt-achieved before we can have a big marriage. My parents did theirs simply and live bigly. Doesn’t that mean if you have the means for big wedding, you shouldn’t do it? Or does expensive wedding automatically means bad marriage? Not at all, the glamorousness of a wedding doesn’t determine longevity and ‘happyability’ of a marriage (in fact a family friend who shared the same wedding date, month and year with them had a big wedding and theirs also is working till date) but the lesson is that we should prepare for marriage than for wedding.
    3. In addition, happy marriage and godly marriage is not the same thing because you can be happily married like Ahab and Jezebel and not be godly married like them. My parents’ marriage is a godly one and because it is godly, happiness is guaranteed because a house inhabitated by Jesus is a happy home and two, a godly home produces a godly offsprings.
    4. Fourthly, what worked for A might not work for B. All those marriage teachings on couples wearing the same clothes, sleeping in the same room and bed, having joint account, sharing house chores has never worked in my family (maybe in the future but for now, not working). Are all these wrong? No, they are not bad in fact they are highly encouraged but it won’t work for all of us. So everyone of us has got to decide what will work for them as there is not copy and paste marriage because each marriage comes with its unique differences, challenges and uniqueness. My parents don’t sleep in the same room, don’t have joint account and don’t wear same clothes though they have few together, shared housechores and it is working for them for the past 37 years. Design your own happiness.
    5. Sequel to number 4, for a great marriage to occur, like my parents’ only things matter and are needed; LOVE AND SUBMISSION. My dad loves my mum and my mum is a submitted woman. Anything you don’t anybody to hear, don’t tell my dad because he will tell his wife. Contrary to popular opinion, love is unconditional and submission is never slavery.
    6. Divorce is not the solution to every marital problem is the fifth lesson to insipe us. My parents faced a lot of challenges that many secular marriage and relationship experts will have advised calling it quit. The challenges they faced ranges from financial, spiritual, health, in laws problems not excluding abuse of power but they didn’t quit nor give up on one another. They held on prayerfully for their marriage though God’s intervention and godly extended family’ persuasion and today the rest is a good testimony. There are still challenges in the marriage though.
    7. In conclusion, there are still happily married couples on this planet Earth. Forget about society what is saying, happy couples still exist, godly marriage is still possible and happy marriages still abound just that some of those couples are not on Facebook like my parents, don’t have their stories on FP of newspapers and don’t ever talk. Apart from my parents, I knew many of them. You too, can be happily married. Stay blessed and 37 cheers to my parents.
    My sister. A farmer, inspirational speaker and an author

  • THERE IS A SPACE FOR YOU.

    n Genesis 7:2, God told Noah to, ‘take with you seven of every kind of clean animal, a male and its mate, and two of every kind of unclean animal, a male and its mate.’
    Inside Noah’s ark, there is a space for ferocious lion, gentle lamb, aggresive tiger, large hippopotamus, small mosquitoes, might elephant, tinniest microbes, smart babbons, dullard ostrick, stubborn goat, beautiful peacock, dirty pig and all kind of animals with their behaviours both the preys and the predators.
    Today, we have a better ark which is JESUS ARK (as He is both the owner and the builder of this better ark). Inside this ark, there is a space for adulterous Mary, lying Joseph, beautiful Joke, Ugly Dayo, murderous Jonah, betrayal Peter, persecutor Paul, selfish James and John, rich Matthew, poor Samaritan, Dr. Luke, illiterate James and all kinds of people have found solace in JESUS’ ARK of eternal salvation.
    Another interesting thing about Noah’s ark is that once an animal steps inside the ark, it loses its known behaviors and take on the attitude of peaceful co-existence. Lion and lamb are living together for 40 days and no problem.
    Same way, inside JESUS’ ARK, once you step you must lose your former attitude and take on the attitude of Jesus.
    Inside JESUS’ ARK, there is no Jew, no Gentile, no master, no slave, no rich, no poor, no class as we are brethren. Once you step into this ark, all your sin must be done with and you will be forgiven. The ark can only contain those that have been washed by the blood of JESUS. No matter, you past life, there is still space for you in the ark.
    Just as Noah make call then, Jesus is making His call saying, ‘repent for the kingdom of God is at hand.’
    The entry ticket then is to heed the warning, the ticket now is to heed Jesus’ call to accept Him as your LORD and SAVIOR.
    Won’t you rather ‘ark’ with JESUS? Won’t you rather accept JESUS as your lord and savior now so that you can be save eternally (becausw those of Noah’s were only save temporarily).
    If you want to enter the ark, say this word of prayer, ‘Lord JESUS, thank you for dieing on the cross for me, I confess my sin and ask for your forgiveness, I accept you as my Lord and Savior henceforth. Thank you for saving me, my loving Jesus (Amen).
    If you genuinely do this, take a step in the ark by joining a bible-believing Church in your locality.
    Welcome to the ark, Jesus, the ark owner loves you.

  • Black lives matter.

    Since the beginning of March, our covid19-battered world has been greeted with protests and hash tags have trended on the social media, all over the world over the killing of US black man, George Floyd. Most people on the political divides have commented on the killing but most have not talked from God’s view.

    Source: Internet

    The problem that world is facing is not caused by racism rather it is caused by sin. Sin is at the Root of every human problems and it leads to death, murder, arson and all ‘ism’ that is why Bible said in Roman 6:23 that the ‘wages of sin is death’.

    Did black lives matter? Yes, it matters. Why do it matter? No because they are black but because they are God’s creation and two, all lives, all people of all races and religions matter to God.

    All lives matter because God said in Ezekiel 18:23 ‘Do I take any pleasure in the death of the wicked? declares the Sovereign LORD. Rather, am I not pleased when they turn from their ways and live?’ Furthermore, He also declared in 2 Peter 3:9 that ‘The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance’.

    So therefore, your live matter to your Creator.

    Your neighbors’ lives matter to Him not matter the his\her skin colour.

    Black lives matter no just in US but everywhere.

    All lives matter to God.

    Shalom

  • NEXT LEVEL.

    Prophet Ezekiel had a drastic encounter from God about moving on to next stage/level of our walk with God in Ezekiel 47

    Verse 1b said the water is coming from the south side of the temple south of the altar that’s the water is coming from God. The water could signifies many things – rhema, revelation, God’s dealing, instruction, inner voice, inspiration, talents and gifts, prophecy, words of wisdom, etc and they all come from God the creator of all things.
    Brother, stop appropriating what is not yours?
    Sister, stop claiming what you are not the owner.
    Stop all these ‘my messages, my rhema, my song, my rev, our message.’ It is never yours? it belongs to God to the giver of all good gifts .
    The ‘water’ was created by God and flow from HIM. Halleluyah!
    In our walk with God and our work for God we should never get to a point where we think we have arrived.
    In our walk with God, the present level is not the best and final level there is always a next level to spiritual growth and better level to occupy; not because you have a point to score or a medal to get but because you want to deepen the relationship with Father, to know Christ and the power of His ressurection.
    In our spiritual growth, there are
    trickling level (vs 2)
    ankle level (vs 3)
    kneel level (vs 4) and
    waist level (4b) and
    swimming level (vs 5)
    If you can talk to GOD, remember there is MOSES who speak with you face to face
    If you can write, remember there is a level of PAUL the apostel
    If you are obedient, remember there is Abraham level on obedience
    If you think you have left something for GOD, remember there is Apostels’ level of leaving all for Christ.
    There are next level to your walk with CHRIST.
    If you are prophet there are level of Ezekiel prophethood
    If you have the gift of healing, remember there is a level of Peter and Paul level of healing with shadows and handkerchief
    There is a level of Elijah prophethood who doesn’t need to declare 7 days fasting and prayer to shut the heaven for 3 and half years.
    Third lesson, from verse 2-5 is that Ezekiel went on a walk with God from trickling stage to swimming stage so therefore it is not our work for God but our walk with GOD that determine your next level.
    Prophet Ezekiel wasn’t given an axe to dig for the water rather he was to follow the Angel for a third of mile to go to another level- trickling to ankle to kneel to waist to swimming and even in swimming level there is depths, lengths,breadths and widths to the knowledge of CHRIST.
    Your work for GOD is ushering, prophecy, and various positions in church and positions doesn’t determine your level in Christ as you may not even be in Christ to occupy those positions. Your walk with God is a life of obedience, daily bible study and prayer, surrender, holiness, sacrifice and godliness…It is your walk with God and not your work for GOD therefore;
    how far are you ready to WALK with the LORD in obedience?
    how far are you ready to go with the LORD in bible study?
    how far are you ready to go with GOD im prayer even though your prayers seem unanswered?
    how far are you willing to walk with GOD in brotherly fellowship?
    Lastly, verse 8 says that when the water flows to the dead sea it gets healed. HCSB version says that there was living in the water
    Dead sea did not have any living things but once this water touches it there is a living in it… Hallelujah…So therefore because of the LIVING WATER in us WHO IS JESUS CHRIST in whom we move, live and have our beings, our lives must be a life-giving ones.
    They have been collecting bribe in your office, the living water in you must put a stop to it when you start working there.
    People die younger in your family, you must put a stop to it
    People have been using there gifts and talents to populate hell,you must use yours to depopulate hell.
    The depressed must not leave you still felling depressed, he or she must get healing when he or she meets you.
    The sinner must not continue sinning after meeting you or you meeting him/her.
    The barren situation must receive a fruitful situation when you are involve.
    The assembly you just join must not remain cool after joining, there must be freshness.
    Every stale situations must receive freshness when you are around because our case is different… halleluyah.
    If you don’t have JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOR you are not on any level at all talkless of next level so you need to accept JESUS CHRIST as LORD and SAVIOR now. Tommorrow maybe too late.

  • 5 Things You Must Do Before Proposing to a Woman – Olubunmi Mabel

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    So you’ve been in a relationship with a woman of your dreams and you can’t wait to drop down on one knee to pop the question, “Will you marry me?”

    While this is a good and romantic thing to do, you wanna be sure that you get the best result out of your plan, and that’s why you must know or do some things before you propose to your woman.

    Read below the 5 things you must do before proposing to a woman:

    Be sure you wanna be with her

    I know you’re thinking if it’s possible for a man to propose to a woman without being sure if he wants to be with her.

    It’s very possible.

    Some men will propose to a woman and still be checking out other women.

    If you are not sure she’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then don’t propose to her. Be clear what you want and be sure she’s the one you really want.

    Don’t propose to her and start doubting if you’ve made the right decision.

    Be sure she’s ready

    Are sure she’s ready to be married, and most importantly to you?

    If she has projects or education to complete, she might be not be ready to be married.

    Have the marriage talk with her

    If you are in a serious relationship that you wish it leads to marriage, then you should somehow have the marriage talk with your woman.

    This will help you to :

    -know her mind

    -know if you’re on the same page
    -know if she’s ready for marriage
    -know if she wants to marry you
    -know her thoughts on marriage
    You shouldn’t just dump marriage on her without having a talk with her about it. Some women love surprises anyway. But it’s better to be sure to prevent any unpleasant surprises, so that the joke won’t be on you.

    Know the kind of proposal she’d love

    You should know your woman enough to know the kind of proposal she’d love.

    Not everyone loves to be the cynosure of all eyes, with her man on one knee before her being cheered on by a bunch of strangers or even friends.

    Not everyone loves a public proposal. She might find a private proposal, the one between the both of you, more romantic.

    Shyness may make a woman run away from the venue or become too tongue-tied to respond to your question. Save both of you from avoidable embarrassment.

    Remember that the proposal is primarily for her or both of you, not for the world.

    There is no award for the most ‘public’ proposal yet.

    Public? Yes. Not every public proposal is romantic.

    Hahaha.

    Prepare your mind for any eventuality

    While the four points above will secure you from unpleasant surprises, you should still prepare your mind for any answer because humans can be unpredictable.

    Do what you have to do, and let the woman make her decision. If she requests time to think about it, don’t nurse any bitterness against her. Give her the time she seeks.

    I believe that a lady who loves you will want to marry you.

    Written by Olubunmi Mabel and and gotten from her website http://www.olubunmimabel.com please visit to enjoy other great articles from her.

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