This article was my contribution to Causes of delays to marriage by Christ’s mind tech

I quite agreed with all what the contributors have said but I will like to add to the cause of marital delays among singles in Nigeria;

1. Finances: most of those that are ready and willing to marry do not have the financial capacity to do so especially the guys owning to the poor state of our economy. This delayed me for 2 years till I took the bull by the horn this year with an understanding wife.
2. Assumption: some brothers/sisters may assume that I will get whom to marry after my undergraduate, after NYSC, after I clock 28, etc, not knowing most times it may not be so because most times by the time the general society is also assuming that they have a partner.
   Hardly, will someone believed that a graduate lady of 28 is singular single whereas they exist.
3. Confusion: about what is the WILL OF GOD and PURPOSES.
   Most youths are confused about what is the will of God even though they truly want to marry a will of God. They thought will of God (direction of God, His laws and command, His antecedents and precedents) is only about marriage not knowing that ‘God would surely direct you the same way He would direct you on matters of your life and destiny like during business decisions.’ Now if you abandon Him for a long period, do you think He will answer you when you want to use Him to butter your bread? Even if He speaks, can you recognize His Divine voice? Do you even know His dos and donts concerning Marriage as started in the Bible?
   Most will just get whatever they wanted and go MIA for God and return when things go south, to go AWOOL when the problem is solved. Do you know some ladies believe God’s will must be a pitiable, ugly poor brother? So when a handsome, rich and educated somebody propose to them, they may reject it. As per purpose, purpose discovery will help someone to know first, who not to marry before who to marry. This will delete the trial and error method of choosing which invariably reduce waiting time. The only solution to this is knowing and doing the will of God and discovering and fulfilling purpose is having a closed and consistent relationship with Yahweh.
4. Spiritual: this can be from God or Satan.
   It is God, not satan that shut the womb of Hannah. Why He did that in the first instance, we can not fathom but we do know that at the appropriate and glorious time, God give Hannah, a glorious son who is a national prophet and a kingmaker. For those who are in God’s waiting room, rest and relax, God is probably working on you, your spouse, both of you or some circumstances that will benefit both of you.
   Spiritual delay can also be caused by Satan using His lies. For those who perceive that they are under Satan siege concerning their Marriage, prayer is the only solution.
5. Limiting choice: If what you meant by marrying within the organization is marrying within the denomination, I don’t believe that. Christians everywhere belong to one organization – The Church.
   Many brothers and sisters have limits where (physicalities) they can find Christian spouse to church and choir within their church, denomination, town, profession, etc., only. This can cause a delay if God in his infinite mercy will not allow your permissive will.
   Let it be known a Christian spouse can be found in your DM, comment section of your timeline or others’ timelines, in the neighbourhood, matchmaker’s cubicle, pew, office, seminars, etc., within or without your church, town, profession and denomination. God knows the best spouse for you and where best to meet him/her.
6. Culture: Nigeria for instance, an average Hausa guy or lady, irrespective of religion, is not planning to marry late. Starting from 18 upwards, they are preparing for marriage (not talking about forced/child Marriages here) whereas an average Igbo guy usually tends to marry late because he knows the amount of bride price he has to pay on his wife. Most Yorubas will go for the mid-20s for ladies and early 30s for guys.