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  • 20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    20 Prayer Points To Secure Your Marriage Before It Begins.

    One of the things I don’t joke with as a single (with or without partner) is prayer and one of such prayer is that, God Almighty, wherever my wife is , make it difficult for her to make a future-damaging mistake.

    Believe me dear, that prayer was marvelously answered because God actually prevented her from many errors as He prevented me too from future-damaging mistakes.

    Why all these stories? The moral is; Your marriage can be protected, preserved, prevented and saved from destiny destroyers, home breakers, potential outlaws that may want to disguise as in-laws, side chicks, sickness and what-have-you before you even have a fiance or fiancee.

    You kids can be put under the shadow of the Almighty before you even know who their father or mother will be.

    You can settle your partner’s friends, work, your neighbor when married, now before you know them.

    You can declare peace, joy, and righteousness into your family now and to shock you you can prevent your partner from making life shattering mistake now like I did for mine.

    Here about 20 prayer points from my incoming ebook SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS (A PRAYER GUIDE):

    • Thank you Jesus for a glorious home, you will give me.
    • Thank you for my spouse and my in-laws. I glorify Your Name because we will be friends.
    • Over my children and every stage of their lives, hallowed be thy Name in Jesus Name.
    • Dear Heavenly Father, I ask in Your might Name that every potential partner that will be coming my way will be a godly man/woman
    • Mighty Jehovah, in the name of Jesus, go into every stage, period and season of my marriage and take preeminence control before my arrival.
    • I pronounce my marriage yours in Jesus Name.
    • I pronounce my partner Yours in Jesus Name.
    • I declared my children Yours in Jesus Name.
    • Every resource that I needed to be a responsible spouse, I received it in Jesus Name.
    • I prayed that my marriage will be a springboard for the spread of the Gospel.
    • Precious Father, strengthen and guard my marriage against the evil one, his schemes and systems in Jesus Name.
    • Everybody that will be connected to me through marriage will praised You for the union.

    Pre-order your own copy through the scanning of the QR code below:

    • Oh Lord, let Your visits be a constant in my family
    • I proclaim peace into my marriage.
    • My spouse’s siblings will know the Lord in Jesus Name.
    • Give me/us Your Spirit of wisdom and understanding in Jesus Name.
    • I cancel every generational debts and curse in Jesus Name.
    • I demolish every evil family pattern from my marriage in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You for You shall make my family a double harvest of answered prayers in Jesus Name.
    • Thank You that everything that has to do with my marriage has been settled in Jesus Name
    • Thank You for the salvation of spouse and kids
    • All glory, honour, adoration and blessings be unto Your Precious Name in Jesus Name.

    To preorder your own copy of SECURING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT BEGINS, click here

  • 5 Courtship Lessons from #Enoch for Christian Singles.

    5 Courtship Lessons from #Enoch for Christian Singles.

    Enoch – a Biopic of Pastor E. A. Adeboye is a film biography of Baba Adeboye, the General Overseer of The Redeemed Christian Church of God Worldwide.

    It is a must-watch for all Christians of all grades. Click below to watch

    Enoch – a biopic of Pastor E. A. Adeboye

    I have shared the general lessons from the movies here. Now, here are 5 specific lessons that will be useful for Christian courtship:

    1. Let unbelievers marry themselves.

    Young Enoch and his young wife Folu were unbelievers when they met and marry. They finally got born again after their nuptials.

    I believe it somehow helps their marriage as there won’t be any cases of one disturbing another with his or her spirituality.

    Dear you, by experience, I can substantiate to you that Marriage has its own enough stress, do not add the stress of an unbelieving partner. The joy of a Christian family is when both know and are serving God but one uninterested partner can cause problem to the family because his/her life is open to devil to fiddle with.

    2. Introduce That Single Brother to another Single Sister or vice versa.

    Continuing, I have written about potential places to meet your spouse and I listed through recommendations of friends, family, and mentors. (Read here). Enoch met his wife through his friend, Dele who is Folu’s cousin. Dele even supervised the project of locating her house 😀.

    Your pretty single beautiful sister can be introduced to your friend as a potential partner.

    Sister, you won’t marry your brother, introduce him to your Christian friend.

    You to ask your friend about that single sibling, cousin, or opposite sex friend, colleague, member, etc. Who knows if yours will end like theirs?

    3. The Simplest is Christian Courtship.

    He asked her to become her wife because to him out of the women he has met, she is priceless. That’s a proposal. A clear statement of purpose.

    She accepted after telling him that she will only answer by carrying her family along. This is acceptance. A very clear yes.

    Their parents met and they wedded.

    Dearest, anything else outside of the above is alien to the Bible.

    4. Marriage is the reason.

    When Enoch Adejare Adeboye wooed Folu, from day one he declared his intent which is marriage.

    Therefore, the first, second, and only reason for courtship among believers is Marriage. Doing a relationship for 3 years, then followed by kneeling to ask the most ridiculous question in the world, will you marry me is not of this kingdom.

    I speak more on this and lesson 3 in my book, The Tearless Courtship – a simpler guide for Christian courtship and dating. Download here

    5. Simple concise expression is enough.

    Enoch asked his lover out with a simple and concise 21-word sentence

    My brother, you don’t need 21 days of fasting and prayer plus a dream to woo a lady. Even if you do or have one, keep it with you until it’s necessary to spill it.

    Similarly, it doesn’t have to look spectacular to be godly, my dear sister. Your future partner may not come with dreams and trance and but once it comes up in the garb of Christlikeness, don’t delay your answer.

    Those are the lessons for your courtship. If you have watched the movie any other lesson? Share with us in the comment section while sharing this post. Thanks

  • Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Why won’t God punish my ex-girlfriend?

    Tell me one reason why God won’t punish my ex.
    She betrayed me. She trampled on my trust. She served me a hot breakfast. After all, I’ve done for her 😭😭😭

    What causes the issue? Our problem started with the pic below

    After wishing her a pleasurable birthday and affirming me as her love.
    Then a message inbox, followed by a painful but necessary breakfast a year after.
    Was it painful? It was ooo. So unbearable I have to doubt my value of generosity and trust in a romantic relationship (my wife kuku part-pay in the sin she didn’t commit but that’s a story for another day).
    So painful I have to converse with someone on Facebook.

    Now tell me why someone who broke the heart of His dear son won’t suffer.

    My dear if this is your reasoning about your ex, you are dead wrong because God will not punish your ex because he breaks your heart.

    God won’t make her marry wrongly because she left you.

    Why? for the following reasons:

    God won’t punish your ex because, for some of us, that split must happen so that you can have sense.

    Secondly, perhaps, your ex is indirectly working for God because God knows that your union will be a disaster for His kingdom.

    Three, God is a just God. He doesn’t think like us. He forgives sin.

    Four, where is your Christianity if you wish evil on fellow human being, sometimes a fellow Christian?

    Fifthly, my dear stop cursing, cussing, and whining about your ex, the Almighty won’t kill the person because you want him or her dead. He alone is sovereign.

    And lastly, what gain will your ex’s misfortune give you? Assuredly, it won’t give your car, a happy home, house, promotion, career progression, long life, and prosperity.

    Your ex’s misfortune won’t give any good thing of life save bitterness, evil thought, and envy to your being.

    What is the next thing to do? To prevent further breakfast, go and download A Tearless Courtship from selar.co by clicking this

    Then go and curse no more in Jesus’ name.

    Breakfast in Nigerian relationship dictionary means heartbreak.

  • How I dated ‘Satan’ for 2 years.

    She said to me, ‘since we are going to marry, let’s do it.’

    I said no. Number one we are not married. Two, it’s ungodly.

    ‘Hmmm, what about kissing, or do you want to say that one too is a sin.’

    ‘It’s not but it can lead us to where we don’t know,’ I replied.

    She brought up the subject of pornography.

    I replied watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts because it places you and your spouse in fantasy – unrealistic expectations; a world created by video directors, videographers, video editors, and actors.

    Your marital sexual life will be utterly destroyed because you can’t attain a world that doesn’t exist.

    Two, watching porn is promoting sin and encouraging sinners not to repent.

    By downloading porn materials, you are encouraging them to put out more ungodly content.

    By visiting their site, you are telling them that more sinful materials are needed.

    Watching porn is one of the surest ways to destroy the marriage before it even starts

    Liking and viewing their pages only mean one thing; more money from the motinesation of their idea which in turn you are contributing monetarily to Satan’s kingdom.

    I refused to do adverts for Satan in my life.

    God forbids I am unwilling tools for the propagation of evil and its agenda.

    Lastly, this evil will open doors for other evils like the objectification of the opposite sex, insanity, sodomy, etc.

    It may look harmless but the repercussions are far fetch.

    May the grace of God be with us.

    Disclaimer: the story at the beginning of this write-up is fictional.

  • A Gift from Iféwárá.

    A Gift from Iféwárá.

    ‘Maa kawe,’ he cried. His mantra is, ‘somebody shout Hallelujah.’

    ‘I want to go Grammar School,’ he kept telling his parents despite knowing about their abject poverty.

    He did not only go to school but he won all the prizes and awards at the completion of his secondary school which he did under signed IOU to repay all his outstanding school fees, no shoes, and borrowed suit and shoes for prize and valedictory ceremony.

    Today, he has PhD in Applied Mathematics and numerous honorary doctorate.

    He was nicknamed Ade-Maths and today is his birthday. The boy who has 5 birthdays for his 5 different girlfriends 😄😀😄.

    My sister, husband no scarce na you wan use 1 year to pray

    The father who is now a God’s General trailblazing for Christ.

    Therefore, join me in wishing Pastor E. A Adeboye, The General Overseer of The Redeemed Christian Church of God Worldwide, a happy 81st birthday

    After wishing him more strength for more Kingdom exploits, Click on this link to watch a film by Mount Zion Christian Film about him titled Enoch – A Biopic of Pastor E.A. Adeboye and learn. Here are my lessons from the film

    I watched Enoch today and I was crying 😢😥😢😥

    It was a journey of faith, lack, loyalty vision, joy, and power

    1. A visionary man will win no matter how. He will win. The boy ‘Deboye was adamant that he will go to school no matter his parents’ wretchedness. Today, the story is clear.

    2. The Baba and his wife deserve every good thing they are enjoying now. Baba was from a very poor family so tey they are celebrating the purchase of an umbrella.

    See also his passion to preach everywhere.

    Observe their prayer life and their obedience to godly instructions.

    Take notice of their loyalty to their G.O.

    3. Document your vision in the presence of loyal witnesses. If not for irrefutable documentation by Revd. Akindayomi and the witnesses at the transfer of mantle at Tulsa Oklahoma, the young Adeboye wouldn’t have been allowed to head the church.

    4. Our fathers are also naughty during their era. Ade-Maths has different birthdays for his different girlfriends 😄🥺😀

    5. And lastly, Bro Boye asked Folu out. She told her father. Her father summoned the young man and they are married. My sister, husband no scarce na you wan use 1 year to pray.

    Happy birthday, Baba. Long life and prosperity.

  • How Vladimir Putin decision affect your marriage.

    How Vladimir Putin decision affect your marriage.

    Vladimir Putin’s decision to invade Ukraine led to death of thousands on both sides, destruction of properties and worse of all, economic sanctions on his country and his close pals. Abrahamovic being one of them.

    Now, that VP’s decision affected Roman Abrahamovic by force selling his darling club, pride of London, the only club in London with 2 UCL trophies Chelsea FC to Todd Boelhy which eventually led to Thomas Tuchel sack and hiring of Graham Potter.

    The rest is now history but one thing is sure; without Putin’s invasion of Ukraine, current Chelsea problem won’t be happening.

    Now, how does this concern you? One set of people you should avoid like a plague are those that believe their decision only affect them.

    As in they believe that what they do or doesn’t do doesn’t affect others. As in set of, I own nobody anything.

    Run away from them.

    Because your present and past decisions affect even your unborn generations, your neighbors, church members, colleagues, etc.

    You are not just choosing a spouse for yourself. You are choosing a coparent, a grandparent for your kids and an ancestor for your progeny.

    Will they blessed you for giving them such a mother, father or grandparent or curse you?

    You are not just relocating, you are determining another environment for your kids. It affects them too.

    You are moving away from those who probably can’t bear not having you around.



    You decision affects a wide array of people. People you don’t even know.

    Now, how do you make a good choice? Acknowledge God in all ways and lean not on your own understanding.

    If you can do that, God will be with you.

  • Building a healthy relationship with your father-in-law.

    Let’s start with this fact; my wife is a good daughter-in-law to my father and I am to his father to.

    Now to the business at hand, we have written, talked, podcasted and blogged so much about mothers-daughters-in-law relationships but hardly have we beam our searchlight on fathers-in-law, either father-son-in-law relationship or father-daughter-in-law’s.

    Also for a fact, before this relationship got neglected, 99% of it are cool and freeze.

    The father don’t care and either the SIL or DIL don’t give a damn.

    Now, let’s see some avenues to build quality relationship with your FIL.

    1. Take care of his child.

    The joy of every parent is to see and know that his/her child is going well in all areas of life. Fathers inclusive.

    So make sure his pikin is well taken care of.

    2. Don’t neglect him

    Fathers got neglected alot. Even good fathers.

    Don’t let your FIL be neglected.

    Call him constantly.

    Visit him regularly.

    Celebrate him often.

    Men are emotional too.

    3. Buy him gift

    Men love gifts. Men love gifts. Men loves gift.

    Thank God, today’s Valentine.

    Click here to see

    4. Don’t disrespect your father-in-law.

    If you really desired a good relationship, don’t disrespect your Mother-in-law, his wife.

    She is his bone of the his bone. The flesh of his flesh. So don’t do something ridiculous to her

    Don’t disrespect him too.

    May God gives us deep understanding.

  • How to handle marital proposal (pt 3) – How Men See the Value of Women They love

    Dear sister,

    If you are sure who the brother is, before his arrival, please no law stops you from giving your Yes on the spot or within some hours.

    He will think I am cheap? No! Whether you give your answer immediately or you delay for 3 years doesn’t increase or decrease your value in his eyes.

    Because a man gets his value about women based on

    – the value you placed on yourself. How you called yourself is not people will called you.

    – his value of women from his environment.

    Meaning, If you place a value upon yourself by not performing wifely duties in courtship like cohabitation, sex, etc

    he will place a value on you and if he won’t value you, then goodbye to bad riddance.

    Value attracts value.

    Furthermore, the types of women he has met will determine how he values you.

    If his mother, sisters, neighborhood women, ex-girlfriend, and female colleagues have been covtefeve (remember Trump, right 😄😄), don’t expect him to have value for you. Remember, you have no business with such an individual.

    Lastly, before you start your courtship, Get my ebook The Tearless Courtship to know

    – What is Courtship?

    – 50 Questions to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend.

    – 50 enjoyable activities for Christian daters

    – 7 dos and donts of Courtship.

    How? Click Here .

    May God gives you insight.

  • How to marriage proposal (pt 2)

    Lemme tell you two of stories to buttress that fact not all sisters we beholden are wicked. Some are god-fearing and wise.

    The first story goes thus; there was this lady I met during my national service year in far away Jigawa. A spec and I believe she will be a compliment.

    I asked her out and she said her answer on the spot which is no.

    I asked her, ‘are you not going to pray about it.’

    She said she is not going to pray any prayer because she can never be interested.

    No time is wasted on both side. We are friends throughout our service year till date.

    The second story, I am very confident about this one, after my delivery, she asked for 3 months to pray and maybe developed feelings.

    Surprisingly, on the 90th day, without cajoling or being disrespectful, she gave her answer too.

    She has given her verdict, I am the one that will determine whether I still want to stay around or check the next door. Funnily enough, I checked the next door.

    No hard feelings on both side. Till today, we are cool. I even chatted her up today.

    Summarily, what I’m insinuating is that as much as possible, dear sister, give an answer to the marriage proposal on time and give it in a clear manner.

  • How to handle Marriage proposal.

    What my eyes beholden in the hand of some wickedness sisters, I can’t tell it all.

    I asked you out. You neither said no nor yes but you want me to help you paint your room, pack your load, run market errands, and do and submit an assignment for you and you will still be vexed if I don’t call you per day.

    Your boyfriend is flexing while me, still applying to the office will be suffering. God forbids

    Dupe (not real name) Shey if I want to be an errand boy, I can’t say ni.

    You and your kind are very wicked and the Almighty will open the eye of the brother you are playing with their hearts in Jesus’ name.

    Summarily, go and give the required answer to all the proposals on your table, then sin no more and God will be with you.

  • My favorite Sport to watch and play.

    My favorite Sport to watch and play.

    What could be that sport that I like so much to watch and play? Hmmmmmm!

    If you are my regular follower, you should know that I love watching football and I am a Chelsea FC fan with pride. Apart from Chelsea games, I enjoyed watching football matches generally.

    Chelsea lifting the UCL trophy in 2021 for the second time

    I love playing the game too though I am very poor at it.

    The second sport I like to watch is athletics – field and track events then followed by wrestling.

    Fun fact:
    About 1.3 billion people watched the last #QatarFiFa2022 Finals between France and Argentina.
    No other sports command that viewership.

    FIFA official stats

    I also engaged in some low level exercises. See attached pictures below

    Exercising at school

    I have told you my favorite sports, now what is yours?

  • What I enjoy doing most in my leisure time.

    All work and no play make Jack, a boring person.

    I am a full-time teacher and I try as much as possible to be a better and greater teacher every day but besides my job, I took time to relax.

    Bible fact:
    Rest is a biblical Command. God rested on the 7th day after 6 days of creative works and commanded us in the ten commandments to do likewise.

    When I am less busy not planning my lessons, I engage in the following activities:

    • Blogging.
    • Video making and Youtubing
    • Update my Facebook page with enriching Christian Courtship articles.
    • Watching football. For your information, I am a Chelsea FC fan. Blue is colour. Football is game. Cheer us on thru the sun and rain, cos’ Chelsea, Chelsea is our club.
    • Writing.
    • Create contents, either word, graphics or videos
    • Reading. I read my Bible. But beside that I just finished WORTH DYING FOR and now on LOST SYMBOLS by Dan Brown. After that I will read January is Not for Planning by Mute Efe.
    • Disturb my wife 😄😄😄, eat and sleep.

    Moreover I discovered that by doing most of these hobbies, I felt happy, fulfilled and better.

    Lastly, what to do enjoy most during your leisure time?

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